GoldenInsights - "Your suffering is never caused by the person you're blaming." Blame is an easy escape, but it never leads to freedom and encases you in a prison of false perception. It’s tempting to believe that suffering is caused by someone else—that their words, their actions, or their choices are the reason for the pain. But what if the real source of suffering isn’t what they did, but the way it is perceived, processed, and held onto? The mind has a way of creating narratives. It builds stories around pain, assigning fault and attaching emotions to past wounds. But the moment blame is given away, power is also given away. Blame keeps the focus outward, waiting for someone else to change, apologize, or make things right. But what if peace doesn’t depend on their actions? What if it has always been an internal choice? No one can control how others act. People will make mistakes, they will be unfair, they will disappoint. But what happens next—the response, the emotions carried forward, the way the situation is interpreted—is entirely within personal control. And this is where true strength lies: in realizing that suffering isn’t created by the external, but by the attachment to what cannot be changed. Personal accountability is not about excusing others—it’s about reclaiming power. It’s the understanding that while pain is real, suffering is optional. It’s the choice to see difficult situations as lessons instead of burdens, to shift perspective from victimhood to growth. The world will not always be kind, but inner peace is not determined by external forces. Letting go of blame is not about denying hurt; it’s about refusing to let it define the future. When responsibility is taken for thoughts, reactions, and emotions, life no longer feels like something that happens *to* you, but something shaped *by* you. Freedom begins the moment responsibility is claimed. The choice is always there: to remain bound by blame or to step forward in strength. In the end, the only true control is over oneself, and that is where real peace is found. | Facebook
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Earthmonk - She sat at the back and they said she was shy She led from the front and they hated her pride They asked her advice and then questioned her guidance They branded her loud then were shocked by her silence When she shared no ambition, they said it was sad So she told them her dreams and they said she was mad They told her they'd listen then covered their ears And gave her a hug whilst they laughed at her fears And she listened to all of it, thinking she should Be the girl they told her to be, best as she could But one day she asked what was best for herself Instead of trying to please everyone else So she walked to the forest and stood with the trees She heard the wind whisper and dance with the leaves And she spoke to the willow, the elm and the pine And she told them what she'd been told, time after time She told them she felt she was never enough She was either too little or far, far too much Too loud or too quiet, too fierce or too weak Too wise or too foolish, too bold or too meek Then she found a small clearing, surrounded by firs And she stopped and she heard what the trees said to her And she sat there for hours not wanting to leave For the forest said nothing, it just let her breathe • Another wonderful poem that has spoken so deeply to so many of us by @beckyhemsleypoetry With love Fiona www.earthmonk.guru Artwork by Siski Kalla from the children's book of this poem. | Facebook
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Amy - “When we speak to someone, our tone of voice carries more weight than we might think. Even if our intentions are good, the way we say things can linger in someone's heart long after the words have been spoken. A harsh or careless tone can echo in their mind, replaying moments that may hurt more than we ever intended. Those moments can be jarring, leaving behind an emotional bruise that's hard to forget. It's so important to be mindful of not just what we say, but how we say it. The tone we use, the approach we take, and the words we choose can either lift someone up or tear them down. Everyone you meet is carrying something within them-struggles, fears, hopes-things we might never see. So, in every conversation, choose to be kind. Speak with empathy and warmth, because your words have the power to heal, to comfort, and to show that you care. After all, the way we make others feel is often what they remember the most.” - Author Unknown Much love y’all 🗣️ ❤️ | Facebook
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Aminata - The Truth Is We Outgrow Those Who Don’t Know How To Love Us The truth is we outgrow those who don’t appreciate us. Those who are okay with our absence. Those who allow the distance between us and them to grow. We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re replaceable. The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t genuine with us. Those who say things they don’t mean. Those who talk the talk but can’t walk the walk when we need them beside us. Those who only like a certain side of us but don’t want to accept all other sides. Those who don’t care about our wants and needs because they’re too busy focusing on their own. We outgrow those who make us feel like we’re not worth their time or effort. Those who are capable of giving so much more but choose to be stingy with us. Those who put us last on their list of priorities. We outgrow those who are lazy with us. Those who take two steps backward every time we move one step forward. The truth is we reach a point where we know who we are, what we want and what we deserve and we’re not willing to go back to selling ourselves short again. We’re not willing to repeat the same vicious cycle of handing out our hearts to those who don’t know how to catch them. The truth is we reach a point where our self-love trumps any other love. We choose ourselves even when people don’t choose us. The truth is we outgrow those who show us that they’re not invested. That they don’t want to try. We outgrow those who treat us like a pit stop until they find what they’re looking for. We outgrow those who don’t make us feel like they’re glad they found us. We outgrow those who don’t value us the way we want to be valued. The truth is we’re capable of giving someone we love the world but all we need is the reassurance that they won’t abuse it, that our hearts are secure with them, that they won’t turn into another lie or another mistake. The truth is we outgrow those who don’t know how to love us and we save our love for those who fall as hard as we do and catch us if we fall faster. We outgrow those who tell us everything we need to hear but show us nothing. We outgrow those who don’t love us because it took us years to learn how to love ourselves and we’re not ready to ruin that by being with people who make us question who we are or if we’re worthy of their love. The truth is we outgrow those who aren’t afraid of losing us because they’ll never truly understand who we are and what kind of love we’re seeking. They’ll never truly see us the way we want to be seen. 🥰🥰🥰🌹🌹🌹😊😊😊🥀🥀🥀😘😘💐💐💐 | Facebook
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