I used to think that ruthless, powerful and even, dare-I-say-it, 'controlling' people were in a league of their own. A rarefied league of great achievers, these power-collectors mesmirized me with their ability to get what they wanted. Until, that is, I got to know lots of them. Lots and lots and lots. It is not real power. Beneath a deep need for power and 'getting things their way', there is horrible insecurity and terrific fear plaguing many of these folks. Men and women who are blinded…