Figured I made a thread to share our romantic experiences – or lack of thereof, – opinions, wishes and advice. That is part of the whole LGBT experience besides the sex and gender.
I reached mid 20s with barely any experience, autism made sure of that. Kissed a drunk lesbian once, I don't even think I looked that cute for a guy in his 20s, so I was honored more than anything. Broke up a friendship with a trans girl after some hasty choices, but she was crazy anyways. Now focusing on friends, making and deepening them.
Wish I had a man I understood and was understood by, someone light-hearted and whimsical to have fun with on the short time I have here on Earth. Femboy-ish ig, not masculine, but takes care of himself, with a touch of femininity to him. Impartial on sex, willing to do it, might be fun even.
One thing I like is the idea of relations as temporary, serial monogamy if you will. I'm all for loyalty while in a relation, but that doesn't necessarily mean it must be forever and ever. People change, why shouldn't their relations? Admittedly I do see the romance in a lifelong relation, sticking with someone and changing together with them. Besides looking for a new partner every x amount of years sounds exhausting.
118 posts and 8 image replies omitted.>>3144Women are more discriminatory about looks than men are. Have you seen romantic media made or preferred by women? The male candidates are always hunks. The average looking guys are dismissed as shallow horndogs.
Also, women want men to be their butlers and secondary fathers.
Just like how men want women to be secondary mothers
>>3201I think it’s more because young men aren’t romantically valued as much. Or that cishet age gap relationships with the male being the junior isn’t given as much glamorization when it’s the female being the junior.
>>8059This. Idk why people think men having any platonic shared space is consolidated homosexual but they never do it with women as much.
>>3753“Wanting is not the same as having” as an old proverb says. The truth is, people only want romance due to the thrill of the hunt.
> "it's the woman who wants the relationship but it's the man who just wants the sex, "
this is a cope by sub8 male to claim that women want *something* from them.
in reality wanting a relationship implies wanting sex, so sex is actually easier to get than a relationship. I (male) have similarly had an ONS hoping it would grow to be something more, but nope, I almost felt used given said sex had to be preceded by an absurd amount of time talking to her.
By 20 I got desparate enough to try sex with guys. Found a guy who was kinda feminine and good looking, I'd say that was the best sex I've had.
I'm very kinky and actually seek kink much more than sex, and unfortunately I couldn't find a guy who'd share my interests.
At 22 I was able to get laid with a girl for the first time. That's when I learnt to my surprise that girls are also sexual and kinky, that girl was probably kinkier than me, horny af, not only were she willing to try any kink I brought up but got me to try hers. It felt just so good - I mean not just experiencing sex, but like, doing so properly, with a real girl, like one expects to, for the first time ever I felt normal and valid.
That was a few months of sexting and one sexual encounter, which I'm sure she enjoyed too - but shortly after a better option appeared on the horizon and I was dumped.
About a year later I almost got laid with a lesbian-looking milf but she ghosted me, then showed up again and I ghosted her for some unknown reason.
Another year later I got laid with another milf, good looking but kinda too old for my taste, she was almost 50. We hooked up for a few years until I had to leave the country, and for those few years I could say I had a sex life even, lol.
Since then I only met up with a twink who blew me, that's it, with women I can't get so much as a date, comptetition is just too high and my looks deteriorate. I'm sad and lonely, sometimes I remember and realize just how lonely I am and get horrified at my life and how it passes by.
Ironically that one ONS girl was perhaps the only one that didn't feel like an NPC and I desired her by my side more than just for sex, she had a personality. The others idk, just normies, I mean they aren't bad people but I never really felt a connection.
>>9578You’re a prison-gay?
You’re unwilling to have sex with masculine-looking guys?
>>9596Yep. Actually I think a huge portion of, if not most "gays" are like that. When I made a crossdresser profile on grindr I got like x20+ the messages, some even offered money, and some guys with much better looks texted me. And that was with me only remotely resembling a woman, nowhere close to passable.
> You’re unwilling to have sex with masculine-looking guys?I haven't fallen that low yet. Actually I'd prefer no sex with guys at all, if I had girls available.