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To Our Loves

Original title: À nos amours
  • 1983
  • R
  • 1h 39m
IMDb RATING
7.1/10
7.7K
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Sandrine Bonnaire in To Our Loves (1983)
An erratic young woman's family desperately tries to prevent her increasingly erotic ways.
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An erratic young woman's family desperately tries to prevent her increasingly erotic ways.An erratic young woman's family desperately tries to prevent her increasingly erotic ways.An erratic young woman's family desperately tries to prevent her increasingly erotic ways.

  • Director
    • Maurice Pialat
  • Writers
    • Arlette Langmann
    • Maurice Pialat
  • Stars
    • Sandrine Bonnaire
    • Maurice Pialat
    • Christophe Odent
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  • IMDb RATING
    7.1/10
    7.7K
    YOUR RATING
    • Director
      • Maurice Pialat
    • Writers
      • Arlette Langmann
      • Maurice Pialat
    • Stars
      • Sandrine Bonnaire
      • Maurice Pialat
      • Christophe Odent
    • 28User reviews
    • 48Critic reviews
  • See production info at IMDbPro
    • Awards
      • 4 wins & 3 nominations total

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    Sandrine Bonnaire
    Sandrine Bonnaire
    • Suzanne
    Maurice Pialat
    Maurice Pialat
    • Le père
    Christophe Odent
    Christophe Odent
    • Michel
    Dominique Besnehard
    Dominique Besnehard
    • Robert
    Cyril Collard
    Cyril Collard
    • Jean-Pierre
    Jacques Fieschi
    Jacques Fieschi
    • Le beau-frère
    Valérie Schlumberger
    • Marie-France
    Evelyne Ker
    Evelyne Ker
    • La mère
    Pierre Novion
    • Adrien
    Tsilka Theodorou
    • Fanny
    Cyr Boitard
    Cyr Boitard
    • Luc
    Anne-Marie Nivelle
    • Mère Jean-Pierre
    Anne-Sophie Maillé
    Anne-Sophie Maillé
    • Anne
    Pierre-Loup Rajot
    • Bernard
    Jean-Paul Camail
    • Angelo
    Maïté Maillé
    • Martine
    Isabelle Prade
    • Solange
    Caroline Cibot
    • Charline
    • Director
      • Maurice Pialat
    • Writers
      • Arlette Langmann
      • Maurice Pialat
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    User reviews28

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    Cristi_Ciopron

    Bitter,even poignant realism

    Being so restrained, blunt and straightforward, Pialat's film is also enormously touching. The concreteness of the world he creates here is tangible. Psychological realism true in each detail, and as ensemble. The brutal restraint is somehow disconcerting—being given the bad habits inflicted by the standard psychology of most other films. Pialat's project was a naturalist one, hence the impression of a thing just begun, just started, still in progress. (It would be, anyway, absurd and stupid to try reducing Pialat's implicit aesthetics to some theoretical statements and criticism's clichés.) What is obvious is that Pialat achieved his aim—finding the fourth dimension of this coming of age story. For me,Pialat might not be worthy of love; he is certainly worthy of respect. In his movies—not only in this one, but in several others as well—one finds not only probity—but also genuine power, inspiration, the strength of a secret master, Pialat. Good and serious director, keen psychologist, avid of femme's perfume and scent, intelligent and uncompromising.

    In psychology, Pialat rightly perceived the distances and the gaps and ,as it were, the laws of the perspective. In this movie, Pialat uses this sensational and hidden knowledge to tell the tribulations of a gamine.

    The amazing lead actress is worth seeing; with her, the film took one more chance at the ineffable.

    Any movie is made with elements,but it lives out of the rapports and the ideas.On the cinematographic elements' level,Pialat's movie is austere.There is no bit of stylization,but each element has a 4th. dimension:the rapports' level.This dimension is widened by the music.Purcell's suitable music gives the action a strange coherence.The movie is made out of relations,rapports,reflections.Far from being some kind of a flat realism,Pialat's movie lives entirely out of this wealth of thought.

    Most important,this strengthener,firm,intelligent,bitter,even poignant realism is not fake.

    A courageous decision is the refusal of all stylization.(The "cruel movie",the ferocious movie relies on stylization.)True realism means ideas,reflection,a lively mind.Far from being mechanical and passive,it is fertile and elastic.

    This movie is also a medicament.

    I find it disappointing that only 3 comments were written here for "À nos amours ".Also,the weighted average vote of 7.5 / 10 is unfair.

    Miss Bonnaire is a standout.Her cinema presence in "A Nos ..." surrounds the viewer.
    Glenn-31

    This character study about a troubled, confused teenager follows her life into adulthood where she continues to have trouble with her relationships, as well as with her own identity.

    "The only time I'm happy is when I'm with a guy," says Suzanne, (Sandrine Bonnaire) a promiscuous and directionless teenager. Suzanne's parents are splitting up; her brother beats her as a disciplinary gesture in her father's absence; and her mother has control over nothing. Suzanne hangs out with her friends; sleeps with anyone she is attracted to (except the boy that loves her); and returns home for knock down, drag out fights with her older brother and mother. The last 30 minutes of the film skips quickly into Suzanne's life after marriage and jumps yet again to her life after divorce. The only person Suzanne loves is her father; perhaps because he is the only person who understands and unconditionally loves her. Fine direction from Maurice Pialat who also plays Suzanne's father. Excellent acting from most of the cast saves a somewhat meandering and overwrought script.
    7derek-duerden

    Domestic Violence!

    I saw this film when it came out in the 80s (probably in the fondly-remembered Chelsea Cinema on the Kings Road...) and remember quite enjoying it - but little else as to why. Thus, when it popped up on MUBI I thought I'd give it a revisit...

    Again, I quite enjoyed it, but the most shocking element this time was the amount of physical fighting among the family - Suzanne, her brother, her mother - after the sudden departure of the father. Clearly the mother was struggling to cope but the brother's violence just came across as unnecessarily over-the-top - presumably he doesn't know any other way to try and assert his "authority"?

    Meanwhile, Suzanne gets on with her romantic adventures with a roster of partners in a fairly engaging way.

    Worth a look.
    9sleestaker

    Notable, yet overlooked piece of French cinema

    For many, the lack of a defined storyline is maddening, often resulting in a less than satisfying experience. Almost stream-of-consciousness in its approach, Maurice Pialat's À Nos Amours does not appear to have much story structure, but the story is most definitely there and is related with a subtlety not often found in modern film.

    Bonnaire's portrayal of Susanne is brilliant (as others have said), and her almost wistful sadness permeates the performance. In one scene, her father (played by Pialat) says, "You never smile anymore," indicating the transformation of Susanne from innocence to experience. The men in her life are shown only for the time she is with them. There is neither introduction upon their arrival nor explanation as to their departure. Pialat uses this method to show Susanne's lack of emotional investment in these temporary romances.

    The only men who do return are her father, her brother, and Luc, her one real love. It is when she is with these men that she shows her true self, rather than the detached uncaring girl who sleeps around in an effort to replace them. The dialogue drives this film. There is little music, save the inspired use of Klaus Nomi's "The Cold Song". The sad wailing of Nomi's pseudo-operatic vocal against the opening credits of Susanne in the pulpit of a boat is a wonderful moment.

    Long out of print, this film is now available on DVD. It is deserving of a look by the discerning cinephile who may have missed it 25 years ago.
    10bob998

    Greatest French film of last thirty years

    Let me get it off my chest now: I'm very disappointed in the lack of notice given Pialat's films. Why am I only the fifth person to review À nos amours, and not the 500th? This is the sixth feature by Pialat, and it is a masterpiece. The travails of Suzanne and her family have universal implications; if you think only of her relations with her brother Robert--violent at times, yet often tender and half-incestuous--that's enough material for a film in itself. Some people are bothered by the promiscuous nature of Suzanne's love life, how she just doesn't behave like a regular teenage girl should. I have met a girl like her.

    About two-thirds of the way through, we are confronted with a scene of astonishing virtuosity: the party at the family home, into which erupts the absent father, played by Pialat himself. The script the actors had been given gave no notice of this plot turn; it is fascinating to watch eight actors dealing with this incredible event--no one blows the scene, no matter how dumbfounded they must have been. For about ten minutes, we get pure acting, or reacting, however you want to put it. This is the kind of film event that makes movies worthwhile.

    Bonnaire is tremendous, it's one of the greatest debuts in film history. Pialat as the father is great, all the more remarkable in that he had never acted before. The dimple scene is wonderful. Dominique Besnehard has to bring off an unsympathetic role as the brother, and he performs very well.

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    • Trivia
      In the original script, the father was due to die and was not scheduled to return at the time of the dinner scene. Maurice Pialat walked into the scene and left the actors to improvise in a situation they hadn't planned for.
    • Goofs
      In the sequence with the American, Suzanne's outfit changes from a one-shoulder black dress with white stripes trimming just the top of the bodice, to a one-shoulder black&white striped top with a black skirt, and back again.
    • Quotes

      Le père: You think you're in love, but you just want to be loved.

    • Connections
      Featured in Sebastian (2024)
    • Soundtracks
      The Cold Song
      Henry Purcell (as Percell)

      interprété par Klaus Nomi

      disques RCA

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    • Release date
      • November 16, 1983 (France)
    • Country of origin
      • France
    • Official sites
      • Gaumont (France)
      • Unifrance
    • Languages
      • French
      • English
    • Also known as
      • Auf das, was wir lieben
    • Filming locations
      • Cité Bergère, Paris 9, Paris, France(Suzanne and Jean-Pierre looking for a hotel)
    • Production companies
      • Les Films du Livradois
      • Gaumont
      • France 3
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    • Gross worldwide
      • $2,575
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    • Runtime
      • 1h 39m(99 min)
    • Color
      • Color
    • Sound mix
      • Mono
    • Aspect ratio
      • 1.66 : 1

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