And Never Let Her Go

I saw the movie "And Never Let Her Go" ..I think that the comments about had she avoided an affair with a married man she would not have been murdered. Yeah real garbage comment. The movie just showed the very worst of something that should not have happened. It is not the victim's fault because her boss was psychotic and could not take rejection. Let's also not forget that oh yes He Was Guilty and His Own Brother Turned Him in!

The only reason the feds investigated her boss was because she was a federal employee. May her family find peace now that they have convicted her murderer and sentenced him to death. This is the farthest thing from male bashing and I suggest that the commentator needs to understand that this is not about his personal views. That this was a horrible thing that happened and to trivialize the movie about it as male bashing, is absurd and ignorant!

I have to say I'm a little put out by the first review I read here which sort of blames the victim.

First of all, Anne Marie Fahey wasn't cheating on her boyfriend. She met him and broke it off with Capano, who continued to harass her.

Secondly, it wouldn't matter if she HAD cheated on her boyfriend, had an affair with a married man, or threw a rock through his window -- she didn't deserve to be murdered.

Okay, that's out of the way. I know a little about the Anne Marie Fahey case from news shows; also, Capano just died last year of cardiac arrest. Capano's death sentence was commuted to life - I can't remember why -- but his life turned out to be fairly short.

Mark Harmon is Thomas Capano, the man with everything - position, money, a beautiful family, a mother who doted on him, and two brothers who depended on him. The family was dysfunctional but that's beside the point. He had a lot going for him.

When he met the shy Anne Marie Fahey, she fell into his trap immediately and believed that he and his wife didn't have much of a marriage (though the film doesn't mention it, he seems to have either been separated from her or have been in the process of separation when he met Fahey).

First it was friendship, then it was love, and then she couldn't get rid of him. When she started seeing a psychiatrist, met someone else, and fell in love, Capano wouldn't let her go. Then she disappeared.

In the meantime, he had another longstanding girlfriend, played by Rachel Ward.

It took a while to bring Capano to justice, as he was a smart attorney as well as arrogant, and he felt that he was above the law.

This is an excellent story, and Mark Harmon is so darn handsome and charming, you can understand why someone, be it a girlfriend, a wife, or a family member, would believe everything he says. Kathryn Morris was just right for Anne Marie (although I think she looked different physically from the real Anne Marie), playing her as shy, frail, and confused.

Unfortunately if you follow true crime shows, there are just too many of this type of case, where murder seems to be the solution of choice -- the Scott Peterson and Drew Peterson cases come to mind, as well as others. "And Never Let Her Go" is a very sad story, about a girl from a loving family who wanted to meet Mr. Right, fell for Mr. Wrong, and paid the price.

I thought this movie did a good job of telling a very sad story that was told in Ann Rule's book of the same title. The movie as well as the book, and more importantly Anne Marie Fahey's life, conveys the ever important lesson, of self acceptance and love. I was very sad when the story of Annn Marie Fahey first became public. There was something so very sad and beautiful about her. It was disturbing that all her secrets were made public in the book and movie, something I think none of us would want for ourselves. I think that it is so important then, that those of us who look at this story, take away a gratitute to the life that was lost, and learn the lesson, to let no one make us feel we deserve to be manipulated and berated as Tom Capano did to Ann Marie Fahey.

We simply can not just watch this as "entertainment" but rather as a labor of love from all who knew and loved Anne Marie. For any of us to make any kind of judgements such as "bux" did, is indeed an indication that we miss the true point of why this movie was made.

Too bad a couple of comments before me don't know the facts of this case. It is based on actual events, a highly publicized disappearance and murder case taking place in the Wilmington, DE/Philadelphia PA region from '96 through 2000. I have to admit I was highly skeptical of how Hollywood would dramatize the actual history and events and was actually quite impressed on how close they stayed to what was constantly reported on local newscasts and Philadelphia Inquirer news stories throughout the time period. Of course I immediately pointed out that the actress (who I really like in Cold Case) who played Fahey looked nothing like her (Anne Marie was actually prettier). I have to admit though that Mark Harmon really nailed the type of personality that was revealed as Capano's and the behavior that Capano exhibited throughout this period. Details of the case were right on...no deviations of dramatic effect...even down to the carpet, gun, furniture, and cooler. In conclusion, I also wanted to add that I have met Tom Carper many times at various functions (a good man, despite being a politician) and I am so glad that he pulled the strings in the Federal realm necessary to solve this heinous crime. Guys like Capano are real and it was great to see him finally put behind bars.

But it's very good. It's a notch above the average fare in this genre. You do have to remember it's just a made for television movie - or miniseries to be more exact. About three and one half hours running time.

And no, it's not going to have the continuity of a 'real' movie, not with it's continual fade outs for barrages of advertisements.

But given that the genre is severely handicapped - and that interest in features such as this is most often rather prurient, this one does very well.

Harmon is so good he's really disgusting and you really get to hate him by the end. Too bad for Mark: it's going to be hard to get glamorous movies where he can cut to the chase with Meg after things like this and the Bundy one.

Rachel Ward is simply excellent; Morris is very convincing; they're all very good and the screen writing is above average too, as is the camera work.

It's a very tragic and very gripping story and well worth the time spent to view it.