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No one is perfect, and no married couple can claim to even come close. This movie deals exactly with that - two people fall in love, believe they've met 'the one' and get married. After that they need to deal with life and with each other - his character, her medical condition for example. Each of us deals with problems/issues in his life in a different way. Most of us aren't completely good or bad, we simply try to cope with items life/fate/God lands on us. The same goes with the 2 main characters of the movie. It was extremely hard for me to identify with any one of them due to their character and reactions to the other and everything around, but it was extremely easy to imagine how those things are possible - and who of my friends belong to each type. The movie is realistic, sincere and shines a bright light on what lies beneath almost every marriage. Nothing is static, and the main characters evolve and change while having to cope - with life and each other. I found the movie captivating - definitely it could happen to any of us, and I'm waiting to see it again on Blu-Ray/DVD.

Like the book, this movie doesn't allow you to easily identify or sympathise with the main character. You have to admire the book as well as the film for bringing on a main character that you want to kick the sh1t out of every now and again, and still getting the sales that it does.

What the book does, and this carries over nicely to the film, is raise a couple what-if questions that many (read: most of us) would feel uncomfortable to answer. Mainly for that reason, the book got some irate reviews in the Netherlands. Since the movie is fairly true to the book's theme, it is inevitable that the same would happen again.

Barry Atsma does a stellar job in creating a character that most of us would want to kick the crap out for most of the movie. And Carice van Houten is... well, what can I say? If anyone could've done justice to the Carmen character from the book, it's her.

Do see this movie if you're ready to have your prejudices about love (we all have them) challenged. You might end up puzzled, which is a good thing, because it will force you to think.

If rethinking your values is not your Cup Of Tea, then I'd not recommend it.

The movie is about a a-whole who cheats on his wife whom then falls ill.

The movie is semi-autobiographical and the events are based on the writer's own experience. He cheated on his wife, then she died off cancer. He then proceded to write a book about it and rake in the cash.

That makes him a grade-A scumbag in my book. But it gets even worse because later the author had the gall to release a follow-up book on how bad he misses her and how difficult things are without her.

He did not care for her when he was creatief on her so why would he care now? Bastard.

This movie is a waste of talent, time, film, everything. Do NOT watch it.

Not worth watching. The typical (commercial) dutch cinema will guarantee a story that will give you the 'deja vu' experience of a lifetime, because of the selling-point of these movies they need to make a success movie... To bad that they just keep looking in what was a success in the Hollywood box office...

And they never seem to actually do it...

The story is of-course a rip-off of many many Hollywood movies. To bad that there is not enough money left in the dutch cinema to make something less cheesy. Let alone forbid the fact that they will not cop to the pressure of "this needs to be a success"

So bad man... good wife... lots a bullshit around it to fill the rest o the movie. True love... uhh yeah something like that...

Anyways a lot of resemblance for woman that have a bad choice in men in real life so they can become just as mad as when they are watching a bad soap opera...

Which is exactly what this movie is. A ninety minute soap opera. Better go and watch something fun and romantic from the Hollywood section.

For starters, i did not read the book. So i'm not going to make a comparison.

The movie has a heavy story to tell, as movies about cancer always have. But this one is different. The main character cant coop with the cancer his wife has, and fills his emptiness with the love of another woman. Not that he had such clean hands before, and his wife is aware of that. For some reason he just can't have enough of one woman. The movie will tell you how that develops trough time in the harsh time that is awaiting them.

Directing and script.

I found Reinout Oerlemans did a pretty good job on the directing, but there are a few critical points.I thought the directing got a bit in a loop, using to much of the same angles and effects which can be a bit boring for the viewer. The same thing happens with the script, you come to a point were everything is clear, and it should enter a new chapter in the story. But it seems the director needed to be sure he got the message to the viewer. And that for me is the weakest part of the movie, it spreads the whole thing a bit to long.

Acting

The acting is great, Carice does a great, great job (as always). Showing allot of different emotions and giving so much character to here role. Also Barry Atsma does a great job on acting as well, i was not familiar with him but I'm anxious to see more movies with his screenplay. All the supporting roles where fine and well picked. I did not notice my self the be annoyed with any role or what so ever.

A must see film, a directing debute for Reinault Oerlemans who did a great job, but could use a bit more finesse and diversity.

Tissues advised.