I'll See You in My Dreams

Most of the other reviews of this film which I read were negative. There is no way to tell the age of those reviewers, but my age is 68. I like this movie, which was touching but not maudlin. It's true to life to me. My wife is still living, and I don't have a big enough retirement savings account to buy a boat and a Cadillac. But we are fortunate enough to have our only child in the same city, and our only grandson (and very likely the only one there will ever be) there also, so we are already ahead of Bill and Carol. But you have to be in old age to appreciate this story. If one of us dies, what will the other do? Would we consider remarriage? How would you find somebody, if you wanted to? If one of our beloved pets dies, what will we do? Do we want to start with another one, even an older one which might die before we do? Do we go to a retirement facility or keep the too-large house? Old age is generally not exciting, even if you have enough money to eat and buy medicine, and it's little things where you find happiness (even if it is TV or golf). This was intentionally a low-key story, which didn't answer any of the questions it raised. We only know tiny tidbits about Carol, but nobody else. Where did Bill come from, other than Dallas? What does Carol's daughter do, and where does she live, and why haven't they seen each other more often? You can draw you own conclusions or just accept this little snippet of Carol's life and move on, as she will, but to what we don't know. It's life, where we come into contact with people but know nothing about them. And nobody knows what will happen tomorrow. If you are lucky enough to have a tomorrow.

I've noticed some of you commenting on the fact that Hazel the dog is referred to as a male. Guess what? Hazel is a boy dog. It is quite evident, early on, that Hazel is a male. Hence why the vet refers to him using male pronouns. Why he is he called Hazel is anyone's guess. Nice to see Max Gail as one of the speed daters. This genre is not typically my favourite, but I had to go simply to see Blythe and Sam pairing up. For me, I doubt it will eave a lasting impression, however it was an entertaining and heartfelt story of seniors - and we need to see our generation represented more accurately and passionately in film. I've always loved Blythe Danner, she is an actor that conveys much physical and emotional depth. I hope to see her in more and more roles.

Carol Peterson, played by Blythe Danner, is a widow in her 60s or early 70s living in Southern California with no one but her dog for close company. Her daughter has moved away; her husband has been gone for 20 years; and she spends most of her time watching TV, playing golf and bridge, and drinking wine. Over a short period, her life livens up considerably and she meets new people, does new things, and moves towards unwrapping the cocoon of age that's been winding about her. That's the plot.

This movie isn't as much about plot as it is examining life in our time. When did you stop looking ahead? When did you start spending too much time reviewing your life? When do you stop forming relationships? How do you continue with your life while enduring the blows life hands you? These are questions we must all deal with at some time or another. I think this movie handles these questions more honestly that most Hollywood films.

The movie is very well acted by terrific talent in the form of Danner, June Squibb, Rhea Perlman, Mary Kay Place, Sam Elliott, and Martin Starr. You should recognize most or all of these names if you watch movies and TV. It's a very, very accomplished cast. Although this movie isn't strictly a comedy, Danner, Squibb, Perlman, and Place all get in their comedy licks like they've been doing it all their lives, which they have.

Worth seeing. Opening soon.

We saw this movie through the San Jose Camera Cinema Club.

Reading the synopsis for this movie I thought I'd be in for an hour of sentimental slush about senior citizens like myself, but it isn't like that at all. Sure, it's about the kind of problems we old folk can encounter, and therefore how it will register with other sections of the population I can't tell. Some won't have any patience with it because it doesn't affect them. Yet. A pity, as they're the ones who'd benefit most from seeing it.

It's an intelligent, well-written, tactfully directed, thoughtful and touching movie. It is luxuriously cast with a bunch of top-level character actors who fill the screen with their warmth. It's invidious to single anyone out but I'm going to mention Martin Starr, an actor I don't remember encountering before in spite of his many credits. His scenes with Blythe Danner are particularly good. Danner herself, the movie's linchpin, is vulnerable without being self-pitying or cloying in any way. A fine performance in a fine film.

Good, simple, often funny movie concerned with the serious subject of just what is left of value in a life that is much closer to the end than to the beginning, and what we might do with that remaining value. Blythe Danner, June Squibb, Rhea Perlman, Mary Kay Place, Sam Elliott, and Martin Starr are the leads, with Danner the star as Carol, a widow living out her very comfortable but ordinary L.A. days at home, except for her bridge and golf games with her 3 funny buddies at the local retirement center. Then, first came a personal loss, then came an odd but valued friendship with her young pool cleaner, then a loss that truly moved her to change the way she saw and lived life.

The director kept things light and not too serious about the issues with aging until that loss that changed things forever for Carol, temporarily at first, but permanently later, as she then became more accepting of doing things with more meaning and friendly human relationships in her remaining years. Sad in spots, funny in most, but always meaningful, with sound advice for all of us as we age.

What I took away from this story was that we all need to spend serious time reviewing our lives when we get to Carol's age, and question if we are using our limited time wisely and in our own best interests, and then make the right changes. We owe that to ourselves, and to our friends and loved ones. Just like Carol. In that way, the story was like a good friend.