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Stephanie Rigg on Instagram: "So much of being a better partner starts with being more present with yourself. It means recognising when you’re feeling reactive, defensive, or overwhelmed — and learning to slow down instead of spiralling or shutting off. It means listening without rushing in to fix or defend. It means pausing before blaming, and asking: what’s really going on for me right now? It’s easy to get caught in the loop of wanting our partner to change, without turning inward to notice how our own patterns are playing out. But true change — the kind that *actually* transforms your relationships — starts with awareness, ownership, and compassion. And that takes a lot of courage! If you’re navigating relationships with an anxious attachment style, this inner work can feel especial
Self Love Healer on Instagram: "Physical touch, beyond romance, offers profound health benefits. Holding hands or hugging releases oxytocin, reduces cortisol, and activates the vagus nerve, leading to lower heart rate and blood pressure. Regular non-sexual touch strengthens the immune system, alleviates pain, and enhances overall well-being. Humans are inherently wired for touch. Incorporate platonic hugs, handholding with friends, massages, and other ways to meet this fundamental emotional need into your routine. The healing power of touch should extend beyond romantic partners."
Healthy Couples Communication & Conflict Resolution on Instagram: "If you’re working on communicating better in your relationship, I’ve got something for you. Comment GUIDE for a link to my best resource - The Couples Communication Handbook❤️ Ps. If your account is set to private, you might not receive the link. Please check your message requests folder, and if you still haven’t received it, you can find the link in my bio. . . . . . #conflictresolution #healthycommunication #healthyrelationship"
2.7K views · 9 comments | 💥Research alert 👇🏼🤓 The research on social support uniformly states that people want “indirect” support from their partners. Indirect support looks like caring, validation, & emotional confirmation rather than direct support which would be advice or problem solving. So often a person will appeal to their partner for emotional support, & the partner responds with a solution. This might look something like: Partner A: ugh, I’m so mad!! Sally bailed on lunch again! This is like the third time she’s ditched me! Partner B (direct support/fixing): Why do you keep inviting her? She obviously isn’t a good friend, just hang out with someone else. How does this land for Partner A? The first partner views that as a non-response. In other words, as though they didn’
Positive Motivation | Growth | Mindset on Instagram: "Read Caption and Save for later 👇🏼 HOW TO SET BOUNDARIES WITH YOUR WORDS LIKE AN ALPHA FEMALE 1. Don’t say “I don’t mind,” say “That doesn’t work for me.” 2. Don’t say “Is it okay if I say no?” say “I’m not available for that.” 3. Don’t say “Sorry, I just have a lot going on,” say “I can’t commit to that right now.” 4. Don’t say “I guess I can make it work,” say “I need to prioritize my time.” 5. Don’t say “I don’t want to cause problems,” say “I have to stand by my decision.” 6. Don’t say “Maybe I can try,” say “I won’t be able to do that.” 7. Don’t say “I don’t want to be mean,” say “My boundaries are important.” 8. Don’t say “I’ll do it this time, but...” say “I won’t be able to do that going forward.” Drop a ❤️ if you’re ready
Dr. Carolyn | Anxiety & Burnout Psychologist on Instagram: "Had an argument and want to make things right? Reaching out after a disagreement can be one of the most powerful ways to rebuild trust and connection. It’s not about ignoring your own feelings—it’s about creating space for both of you to process, understand, and move forward together. Taking that first step with a calm and open approach can set the tone for healthier communication in the future. Need more tips on handling tough conversations? Follow @carolynrubensteinphd 💙 #drcarolyn #carolynrubenstein #carolynrubensteinphd #hfa #acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy #internalfamilysystems #psychologytoday #selfloveadvocate #alwaystired #sickday #wellnessretreats #personalgrowthanddevelopment #socialawareness"
Kiara Hartwell Opara┊IFS Trauma Therapist on Instagram: "Emotional safety is the foundation of every strong relationship. ⁠ ⁠ When we feel heard, understood, and valued, we are more inclined to be our authentic self.⁠ ⁠ What makes you feel emotionally safe in your relationships? Drop your thoughts below!⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ ⁠ #emotionalsafety #emotionalintimacy⁠ #relationshipgoals⁠ #relationshiptips⁠ #relationshiptalk⁠ #blackintimacy⁠ #blackmentalhealth⁠ #traumainformed⁠ #innerchildhealing⁠ #traumatherapist⁠ #relationshiptherapy⁠ #relationshipadvice⁠ #innerhealing⁠ #therapistsofinstagram⁠ #emotionalregulation #counselorsfollowcounselors⁠ #mentalhealthblog⁠ #truetoyourself⁠ #findingyourself⁠ #lovelanguage⁠ #kjhartwell #blacktherapy⁠ #moderntherapist⁠ #millennialtherapist⁠ #emotionalawareness⁠ ⁠"
Business | Mindset & Healthy Lifestyle on Instagram: "Cuddling triggers the release of oxytocin, a hormone often called the “cuddle hormone,” which can calm you, ease stress, and potentially even aid in wound healing and pain relief. Some research suggests oxytocin may have analgesic effects, potentially reducing pain sensitivity. ✅ FOLLOW @timeinvestors for more"
Nedra Glover Tawwab, Therapist on Instagram: "Sometimes it’s hard to find the right words. However, it’s okay to speak without knowing the perfect thing to say. Engaging in more uncomfortable conversations is beneficial for long-term growth. #nedranuggets"
Julie Menanno on Instagram: "#emotionalhealth #emotionfocusedtherapy #drsuejohnson #relationshipquotes #healingtrauma"
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Regina | Holistic Homemaking + Christian Living + Family Life on Instagram: "After a long day, it’s easy to disconnect from your spouse. But intimacy is built in the small moments. A kind word, a shared laugh, or a simple touch can reignite your bond. 🥰 Want to strengthen your family with intentional love? Comment "FAMILY" for a bundle of resources! 💕 #MarriageMatters"
Gary Morland on Instagram: "I’m always me. The person I am in my marriage counts as me. I never stop being me. If I’m at my worst with her, she didn’t make me be or do that. It still counts. Yes we want to bring out the best in each other, not the worst. But whatever comes out of me is still on me. I’m me whether or not I’m married. The real me just happens to show up in my marriage. If the worst version of me shows up, it’s not my spouse’s fault, she’s only revealing the real me. I can’t say “Oh that’s not really me.” I’m always me. These days, I see bad behavior on my part as a chance to see some of the kind of person I’m acting like. I don’t want to be that person. Disagreements and frustrations are now often like a barometer that shows me what kind of person I really am at