Knowing how to Rizz up a girl is crucial to your success with women.
Anyone can talk to girls and at least get their attention. What's difficult is building her interest in you.
You can rizz up a girl through playfully flirting, avoiding small talk, and just enoying the conversation with her.
Skip the fluff and pickup lines that don't get you anywhere.
How to Rizz Up a Girl
What is Rizz?
Rizz refers to your "game" with women.
It's about your ability for women to find you attractive and interesting.
The term originated from Tiktok and is playing on the middle of part of charisma.
Basics of Rizz
- Experience: You can't expect to act like some player if you lack the necessary skills to back it up.
- Confidence: This comes from success, which comes from experience.
- Good looks: The more attractive you are, the easier it will be. Fortunately, most men have the means to make significant appearance improvements with some quick changes. Developing a great physique helps too.
Rizzing Her Up
- Avoid small talk and boring conversation. It's fine at first when introducing yourself, but try to not rely on it..
- Know that Rizzing is not just flirting. It's far from it. Be flirty, but with it more as a vibe. You're teasing, and she's being playful with it.
- Don't be cocky or arrogant. You don't want it to seem like you're some hot shit. Be real, genuine, but still a guy she knows could turn her on.
- Don't feel the need to compliment. It's okay to do but it's not necessary. A compliment itself isn't going to change her opinion of you. At best, it's a means of flirting (like saying her skirt or whatever looks great on her).
- Adjust how you act depending on her personality. Approach a shy, introverted girl differently than one who just wants to aprty and have fun.
- Adapt to different environments or situations. Your approach to talking to a girl at some party should differ from someone you just met at school.
- Don't try to be someone you're not. Women can read through any facade.
When you're talking to her, the absolute best things to say will be what's natural and in the moment.
You should be engaged and listening to what she's saying.
You can begin by talking about whatever's relevant.
This means if it's a girl in class, start by asking her about an assignment or homework. Test the waters, flirt, joke, then see if she's receptive. Continue talking if she is, but gauge if she's just being polite.
Getting good Rizz is more of an advanced thing, and it's something you'll just develop over time. If you're a 20-year-old virgin, refining your game shouldn't be a focus.
Just looking decent and talking to enough women will be enough.
Have fun with it
It's genuinely fun. When I started having the guts to approach women, I found just talking to them was a big win.
Being as inexperienced as I was, having that validation that attractive women found me interesting/attractive was huge.
My motivation shot through the roof, crucially pushing my experience level.
Over time it becomes more fun and something for your amusement.
You enter in a flow state where you forget nervousness around women ever existed for you.
There's zero dependence on the outcome.
Don't engage in harmful PUA tactics
The misleading PUA (pickup artist) community enforces a belief that any woman can be won if you do or say the right things. This is outright wrong and pushes many men down a descructive path.
When you Rizz up a girl, she needs to already:
- Find you attractive.
- Be single.
- Be available (interested in meeting someone for a fling or relationship).
- Like you enough from the image/vibe you give off.
You essentially need to have already checked off enough boxes.
Some of these boxes are in your control, and some aren't. After that, it's just a matter of connecting enough where you both hit it off.
A "failure" doesn't mean you did anything wrong.
How to Rizz a Girl Up Over Text?
You can rizz girl up through text by focusing on building a connection with her while being fun and flirty.
You should match her interest and engagement by being casual with your tone and interactions.
Again, try avoiding small talk while being willing to dig into deeper topics with her.
If the girl you like seems more interested in hooking up, you should be more direct with it instead. This means being more flirty and pushing towards setting up a date quickly.
You can flirt by just being playful and able to tease her. Once you get to know her better, you can give some compliments too. It's about her knowing that you don't want to be just friends.
Move towards meeting up
Whether the woman you like is girlfriend or hookup material, you should always be moving towards meeting up.
Building her interest in you solely through text is difficult.
Don't be wasting time messaging her forever.
It's proven that you build more trust in person through a phone.
Even just an hour together could tell you more about each other than days of texting.
It's even worse when you're friendzoned without knowing it. Suggesting to hang out helps filter those who aren't actually interested in you
What is Unspoken Rizz?
Unspoken rizz is just a dude who's operating at an elite level.
He doesn't have to speak a word for you to know that he gets laid.
He's attractive, has a high social status, confidence and swagger.
You've likely met guys with unspoken rizz. They get a lot of action, and everyone knows it.
They can even attract those who only want to hook up and have fun.
Having game is still important, though.
In my early 20s, I had high unspoken rizz. Unfortunately, it was largely artificial. A lot of the attention I got dropped once I opened my mouth...
A big part of my problem was being afraid of "screwing it up." I was so afraid of rejection that I didn't even bother hitting on women.
Do you need "unspoken rizz"?
I have a friend with literally zero "unspoken rizz," yet he slays at an insane level.
He's basic looking, a bit overweight, and has a receding hairline (sorry Steve).
Despite this, he hooks up with more women than anyone I've ever known. He makes it look effortless too.
He's the 0.0001% where experience can overcome looks.
He's confident and can pick up if anyone's down to have fun.
This isn't really something to learn from, though. Even Steve would do better if he worked on his appearance. He just happens to not need to.
Your image is a huge factor in your success with women.
While it's possible you could be like my buddy Steve, it's not realistic.
Unspoken rizz is not essential, but still something you should strive for.
W Rizz
It may be a new term (and one I'm probably too old to use) but the principles of it have been around forever.
It's an incredibly useful skill- but one that will require practice.
Your confidence and success with your game will develop gradually. However, it may feel like a 'eureka' moment when you learn how to successfully rizz a girl up.
It was this way for me. It was like I suddenly realized I could choose to be fearless and composed.
I was no longer fixated on "what to say next." Instead, I'm at ease, focusing on flirting and enjoying the chat.
Key takeaways: how to rizz a girl up
- Improve appearance through style and physique.
- Build confidence through experience.
- Avoid small talk or conversational fluff.
- Be yourself and not act like others.
- Adjust interaction by the environment you're in.
- Adjust interaction by the type of girl.
- Limit your ego to come across as genuine.
- Casually flirt while lightly teasing or being playful.
- Stick to honest conversations over canned openers.
References
Sadikaj, G., & Moskowitz, D. S. (2018). I hear but I don’t see you: Interacting over phone reduces the accuracy of perceiving affiliation in the other. Computers in Human Behavior, 89, 140-147. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chb.2018.08.004
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