Narrated by 'Aisha
I did not feel jealous of any of the
wives of the Prophet as much as I did of Khadija (although) she died before he
married me, for I often heard him mentioning her, and Allah had told him to
give her the good tidings that she would have a palace of Qasab (pipes of
precious stones and pearls in Paradise), and whenever he slaughtered a sheep,
he would send her women-friends a good share of it. (Sahih Bukhari, Volume 5,
Book 58, Number 164)
There is so much to read and learn online these days. But every so often, one comes across an article that just has to be shared. The following piece by Yasmina Blackburn is an example. It is reproduced it here in case you missed it:
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7
Remarkable Things About Khadija, Wife of the Prophet of Islam
By Yasmina Blackburn
Writer, Consultant, Activist, Mom
By Yasmina Blackburn
Writer, Consultant, Activist, Mom
I often get into debates with
people about women in Islam. How we dress. How we don't dress. What we think or
don't think or should-be-thinking. I get into debates about feminism. What it
is and what it isn't. I think I've spawned permanent foes because I don't care
to apply the label, feminist, to describe myself. (I'm not one for labels,
sorry. But if it's even required of me, "Muslim woman" suits me just
fine.) But if we could agree for a moment that there exists a pure definition
of the word feminist to mean: awesomely fierce to the millionth degree, then
I'd like to introduce you to Islam's first feminist.
Her name is Khadijah bint
Khuwaylid. She was the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be
upon him.) And she is one of the people that I think about when I face or
debate issues surrounding women today. Khadija's existence precedes mine by
more than 1,400 years; and, if I can at the very least, continuously strive to
emulate her character, I will consider myself a success in life.
7 things you might not know
about the awesomely fierce, Khadija (may God be pleased with her):
1. She was a successful
and esteemed business woman.
I would give anything to do an
on-the-job, ride-along with Khadija. Gladly swipe my car for a camel- my laptop
for a government-issued glass weight to measure goods in trade. What could I
learn in one day of shadowing this highly-respected business leader, trading
furniture, pottery and silks? Khadija was born to a father who was a successful
merchant in their Quraysh tribe of Mecca. She inherited her father's skills in
a time in history where society was male-dominated and dangerous. Upon her
father's death, she took over the business and traded goods through the primary
commerce centers at that time, from Mecca to Syria and to Yemen, hiring the
most trustworthy men of character to brave the dangerous trade routes. Her
business was larger than all of the Quraysh trades combined and the most
acclaimed with a reputation of fair-dealing and high-quality goods. She had a
keen eye and was highly intuitive, earning the monikers, Ameerat-Quraysh
("Princess of Quraysh") and al-Tahira ("The Pure One") due
to her stellar reputation. Khadija knew what she was doing business-wise, never
compromising her modesty or integrity to succeed in the male-dominated trades-
hiring only those that could meet these standards. Glass ceiling? Hah! 1,400
years ago, yes, Khadija shattered it.
2. She turned down many
marriage proposals.
Being the most successful woman
around, rich in worldly attainment as well as character, it seems Khadija faced
a consistent campaign of men seeking her hand in marriage. She was married
twice before her wedlock to the Prophet; both of these marriages produced
children and both left her widowed. Her keen sense of character left her picky;
and, she was less than eager to suffer another painful loss of a husband. She
resigned herself to being a widowed woman taking care of herself and her
family. Until ...
3. She asked the Prophet
to marry her.
Love comes when you aren't
looking, or so I have heard. (And experienced.) Khadija learned of the stellar
character of Muhammad as well as his experience managing caravans on the trade
routes accompanying his uncle, Abu Talib. She hired him into her conglomerate.
Marriages at this time were typically necessary for survival and not always
about love as we know it in today's world. Khadija didn't need a husband to
take care of her financially. And Muhammad did not have the means to seek a
wife. She fell in love with him, and through a friend, asked him to marry her.
(He said yes.)
4. She was 15 years
older than Muhammad.
If Khadija's story hasn't broken
stereotypes about Islam yet, it might intrigue you to know that she was 40
years old when she married Muhammad. He was 25.
5. She was an ideal
wife; theirs was a true love story.
"Your wives are a garment
for you, and you are a garment for them." (Qur'an 2:187)
Taking multiple wives was a
common practice, yet Khadija and Muhammad's marriage was monogamous until her
death 25 years later. Muhammad's prophethood began during his marriage to
Khadija, when he received the first of God's revelations through the Angel
Gabriel that left him frightened, strained and feeling alone when no one
believed in him. Khadija comforted her husband and encouraged him during the
most difficult days of his life. She bore him 6 children. He loved no one more
than Khadija during his lifetime.
6. She was the first
Muslim.
Khadija, the mother of Islam,
was the first person on earth to accept Muhammad as the final prophet of God
and accept the revelations that culminated into the Holy Qur'an. She was
greeted with "Salam" (peace) by God himself as well as the Angel
Gabriel. She bequeathed her worldly goods and put herself in the face of danger
to stand by the Prophet Muhammad as Islam became established in the land.
7. She spent her worldly
riches on the poor.
In Islam, whether rich or poor,
one's financial condition is a test. Khadija gave her earnings to the poor and
to the orphans, to the widows and the sick. She helped poor girls get married
and provided their dowry.
Khadija was one of history's
most remarkable women. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) once said that the four greatest
women of mankind were: Khadija bint Khuwaylid, Fatima bint Muhammad (his
youngest daughter,) Mary bint Emran (the Virgin Mary) and Asiya bint Muzahim
(the wife of Pharaoh). Khadija continues to inspire people to this day who
revere her for taking great care of the Prophet of Islam and for showing the
world, through her behavior, what a pious, modest and courageous woman can
accomplish. The example she left for mankind remains timeless.