Can you believe that I have had Rio for a year now? I can't. The year went by so fast. And I would have to say it was the toughest, most challenging year with a horse... ever. And we still aren't there yet.
| Lovely girl. |
Rio has had a really difficult time trusting completely, which has made this whole gentling process quite the challenge. I would have to say she is "gentled", to a certain extent. Oh sure, I can walk up to her and pet her. Heck, I can even brush her. But not without her getting scared by a quick movement and her fleeing from me. She doesn't do that all the time, but at least a couple times per session she will exit from the human presence. I have tried desensitizing her to ropes to get her ready for halter breaking and that did not go well. She swore that rope was going to eat her for dinner. I would take the halter and lead rope and rub it all over her body including her face. She eventually relaxed a little, just a little when I rubbed it on her face. I did get as far as putting her nose in the nose band of the halter, but there was no way I would be able to get the halter all the way on. She can't handle it. I took my handy stick/string and flung that string all over her body, legs, head. I had the best results by doing this then I did with a rope, halter or lead rope. But I still could not get her to accept that a rope, halter or lead rope was a good thing. I increased the pressure on her when round penning with very minimal results. Almost every training method that works with other horses, does not work with Rio. I know not all training methods work for all horses, so I have had to become quite creative with what I do, or don't do.
| Shoulder scratch! |
Of course I started to doubt my abilities as a horse trainer. I mean, how can one horse have such a difficult time accepting human companionship? I feed her, water her, love on her. What more does she want? Well, for one, she is a wild horse. I never expected it to be easy. Even though my first wild one was about as easy as it gets, but she was just a wee little thing. That certainly helps. For another, not ALL wild horses can be domesticated. They just can't. So it's not necessarily me and my abilities. I just ended up adopting a wild horse that can't "get there" and may never "get there". I don't want it to never "get there". But right now, Rio says she can't do it.... not yet. I really hope she changes her mind.
| Forehead sniff. |
She can't trust completely. She is very reactive. She can't let go of the wild. So where do I go from here? I contacted Tracey, from Mustang Diaries to see if she could come down and give me her opinion. Maybe she has more ideas that could help. Or maybe I am just stuck with a wild horse that will never become domesticated. Tracey has been busy and out of town a lot, so not sure when or if she will be able to come give me her advice before the really ugly weather hits.
| Love. |
So for now, I go back to square one. I just brought a wild horse home and want her to get used to my presence, what do I do? I sit. I take my chair, book and a pocket full of carrots and sit with her.... within seconds she approaches. She sniffs my leg. She sniffs my hand. I give her a carrot. She sniffs my head. She inches closer. She is so close her leg is touching the chair. I pet her nose. I give her a carrot. She nudges my arm. I pet higher up on her face, behind her ears. I kiss her nose. I give her a carrot. She moves behind me. I can't see what she is doing. I feel warm breath down the back of my neck. My hair moves. I feel her whiskers tickling my neck. She rubs her nose on my head. She moves back to the front of me. I give her a carrot. I kiss her halfway up her face... for the first time.
| Kisses. |
She wants to be with me. She does trust me. Just not enough to give me her all. Yet. She has so much potential. I see it. I will not give up. I have fallen for this wild horse like no other, even though I can't halter her and do the things I do with my other horses. Just sitting in that chair and having complete trust in this wild horse approaching me and her trying so hard to give me what I want. But that wild heart of hers can't trust fully.
| Rio is now legally mine. |
So I continue this emotional roller coaster of a journey with my wild horse..... I love her, I really, really love her.