my family

this is a re post of a video I did for equality Ohio. It was done to help educate the general public on LGBT issues. Hope you enjoy it



my kids look so little in this video!

this is how we roll

so this is how we spend a quiet night at home all of us on the couch with a netfix movie going on both computers. tonights feature Mrs doubtfire. on Sunday we watched Clash of the titans. hope you all are having a relaxing evening.


Oh and K went to run for cross country practice and fell down a hill so I spent the evening in the ER she has a sprained knee and ankle and is on crutches for a week. she is also quite pissy because they told her no running, oh well such is life.

the children

So I have written about my kids before. I have 3 children that I love more than life. The first 2 are from my previous marriage to a man. I got married when I was young to a boy that I grew up with. He was a decent man, and I'm sure it was hard for him when I finally got the nerve to come out. Anywho that is not the point of this post. My oldest two children go back and forth between our house and their fathers on the weekends. As of late they hate it. they don't want to go but they don't want to hurt their father. i have always told them that if they don't want to go they just have to call and tell him that they aren't coming and I will take it from there. they never call and go to his house each weekend and suffer. Every other week they only spend 1 night. It's these weekends that are the hardest. We usually go for breakfast on the Sundays they are with us, the last couple weeks we have spent breakfast going over all that is wrong at their fathers. I guess I should say that at their fathers they don't have rooms or beds or any kind of privacy. They also never get any alone time with their father. He has sense remarried and has a step son (who they say is mean as a snake) and a new baby with the new wife. They have signed the kids up for a bowling league and this is not something the kids like but must participate in EVERY WEEKEND. Anyway this past Saturday we were running about 5 mins behind to pick them up. the wife's phone rang it was K making sure we didn't forget them, it was 5 mins she was frantic didn't want to stay please get here. it was crazy. We get there they bolt for the car and off we go. Now E was very quiet i kept asking what was wrong with him he said nothing, then out of the blue he says can I cuss. Ummm sure buddy whats up.(he's9) He breaks out with my dads a pussy. ummm ok well that's not really a cuss word but it's not a nice word i said, then he says ok my dads a Fu#$8ng a$$hole. I about chocked on my soda. I was speechless. I said what brought that on and my daughter says and my stepmother is a F&^%ing B(*&^. Wow guys I said whats going on. K says she just hates going and never wants to go back. I tell them we will talk about it later but that they know how much they are loved at home and we will always be there for them. Here is my problem what do I do it's obviously not good for them to keep going there. But how and when do I talk to there father. Do I take him back to court, do I just quit sending them and let him take me back to court. Do I stick with the original plan and make them tell him first, I am so stressed over this i hate to send them, I hate how they are when they come back. It hurts me to think I am making them do something that hurts them. I never once would have dreamed that they would feel this way about their father . Help i need advice.

wheeewwww

So Christmas has come and gone sort of we are sitting here watching emit otters jug band Christmas. I was shocked to hear that the wife had never seen it, so we had to watch it. The kids are all laying on the floor with the dogs in front of the fire place, it's just a fun lazy night. We had a wonderful morning with all the grandparents and breakfast was good, at least they tell me it was. I did have to take a quick trip to urgent care, I have a bladder-urinary tract infection that got worse thru out the day that made me cuss so the wife took me to get some meds and pain pills. So now I am sitting here enjoying the drug induced haze and the warmth of my family. I hope you all have had a wonderful special day.

Happy Holidays!

So this is the crazy time of the year for me with work and all but the crazyness is finally over. My stores all have their pictures in and i only have to work for 2 hours tomorrow! I am off for the next 2 days! Since I moved into my home almost 10 years ago I have always had Christmas morning breakfast at my house. So this year we will be hosting my parents, The wifes parents,my bff T, and my ex inlaws. With our 3 kids that makes a total of 12. It is one tradition that I will always treasure. It is so nice to have all the people that my children care the most for around them for this holiday. It is so much fun to have them all here telling stories and playing with the kids. I hope that you all have a happy holiday what ever that holiday may be.

lazy days

So this week I have been on vacation. It has been wonderful to not be a slave to the alarm clock. We have done lots of fun things with the kids and taken lots of naps. We took the kids to the drive-in to see space chimps and the new mummy movie. both are worth watching and we had a good night for the movie, not to cold and babyS passed out early:). we also took the kids and went to the zoo. It was nice because it threatened to rain and not many people braved the day, so it wasn't crowded at all. we did the entire zoo in about 6 hours and saw everything the kids wanted to see. the week did start off kind of crazy baby S got a little to into the wiggles and busted his eye open on the entertainment stand so the wife and I got to spend 3 hours in the er getting his eye glued back together. He is fine just looks like he was beaten up pretty good. All in all it has been a great week and I am not looking forward to going back to work next week.

My little man... and his coach

I have written about all the kids before and I love them each for their own unique ways, but my middle child is such an old soul. E is the one that wears his heart on his sleeve, he feels so much more than I think I do sometimes. He has a heart the size of the moon and he is sooo loving. He is also 8 and he thinks he is big enough to be his own boss, and on some things we have let him be. He asked to play baseball this year, and we signed him up before we asked his father. he loves it, the games the practice the teammates. He is having a ball. Well we had a game tonight and he is the lead off batter he got a hit tonight and made it to base. The next little kid hit a pop up and was out. now my little boy who has never played before ran when he heard the coach tell him to. Long story short everyone was yelling for him to come back to the base and he didn't make it before they tagged him out. He ran to the dugout and burst into tears. He was so afraid that the kids would be mad at him. Now I should say my sons coach is a few years younger than I am and I sort of remember him from school. This is a very nice man with the patience of a saint. the little boy who hit the pop up was his son. As I was walking over to comfort my son this little boy put his arms around my son and told him that it was fine he got out too and E had a great hit. I almost lost it standing right there. I turned to look and the wife and she had tears in her eyes also. She couldn't hear what was said but she saw the hug. I was so impressed by this. I wish more men could set examples like this
obviously this boy has seen compassion and love at home from his father and stepmother. I should also add that one of the assistant coaches is the ex husband of the coaches wife. These people are great and I am soo glad that we took a chance and signed E up for baseball. He has grown so much this spring. he is a great great kid. We did lose the game tonight but my son learned a great lesson, and I think that is what matters most.
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daughter/wife

so I have been sitting on two very large things that have happened this week because I wanted to make sure that I had time to put what was in my head on screen with some care.

1st the wife came home from work the other night and told me that she had an experience at work. Now the wife works for a major reatail chain overnights, most of the people that she works with are younG and some are fairly culturaly stupid. Anywhoo, the other night one of her co-workers was having an issue with a cell phone and told it to stop being "gay", right in front of the wife.Now on any given day I can pass for straight if I want, but the wife no chance.(I am sooo jealouse). the big deal here is that My wife went on the offensive she let this young girl have it for a good 5-10 mins . She let her knwo that saying things like that is not acceptable at work or in life for taht matter, she went as far as to tell her that those kinds of remarks can even get people killed. the little girl apologized to the wife and told her it would not happen again. Now the surprising part about this is my wife is a very soft spoken don't rock the boat type of girl. she told me that she came down so hard on this girl because she is still young and moldable, she thinks she can be saved. I was just so shocked that she said anything. I guess that she finally found her breaking point. I am so so proud of her. Oh and the little girl is still apologizing days later.

2nd My wonderful beautiful 14 yr old daughter K came home and told the wife that she has a crush, no big deal right but it's on a GIRL. I was floored. She also waited till she was driving to work to tell me a good 4 hours after I got home from work!!! I know that this is going to sound weird comming from me but I am afraid for her. We live in a small town that is very redneck, I feel safe here but I worry for her, I wonder if this girl is just messing with her , I worry she will get hurt, because we all know that a woman can hurt you sooo bad. I worry that her father will blame me for this, as well as everyone else. I am also excited for her I love knowing that she is open to the idea of loving a person for who they are and what they can bring to a relationship. I am proud of her worried but proud.. thanks for letting me rant
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My mom.

Tomorrow is my mothers birthday, she will be 61. As i sit here wondering what i am going to get for her i am struck by just how much she does for me still today. She and my stepfather are the ones that take care of baby S for us. I know that he is a handful for them sometimes but they can not stand the thought of someone else watching him. They also take E one night a week so he gets special grandma time. She is an amazing person. I am adopted so we have a very different kind of close special bond. I think this comes from knowing that i was a gift to her and i try and treat that with respect. Now this is not saying that i didn't give her trouble as a child or as a teen or as an adult. I mean i came out at 30. She has always stood by me no matter what, i know that is a mothers job, but when i look back at my life i think there are times that i might have walked away on me. She loves and respects my wife and treats my non biological son just as she does my bio kids. she is a truly amazing woman. I know that i will never be able to emulate her patience or her always calm attitude, i have a bit of a temper and am the most impatient person i know, but i know that my love of all people comes from her. she taught me from a very young age that all people count for something. (even if they smell like last weeks trash) I just hope that when i grow up i am able to teach my children just some of the lessons that this wonderful woman has taught me. I love you Mom.
Happy Birthday!