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“If you enhance yourself into a very beautiful state, everyone will want to hold a relationship with you.” – SadhguruHuman beings constantly make and break relationships. Unfortunately, relationships can make and break human beings too. Why are relationships such a circus for most of us? What is this primal urge within us that demands a bond – physical, mental, or emotional – with another? And how do we keep this bond from turning into bondage? These are the fundamental questions that Bond or Bondage looks at as Sadhguru shares with us the keys to forming lasting and joyful relationships, whether they are with husband or wife, family and friends, at work, or with the very existence itself.Sadhguru is a yogi and profound mystic of our times. An absolute clarity of perception places him in a unique space in not only matters spiritual but in business, environmental and international affairs, and opens a new door on all that he touches.
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Published January 4, 2018
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Sadhguru
128 books3,309 followersSadhguru is a yogi, mystic and visionary. Named one of India's 50 most influential people, Sadhguru's work has touched the lives of millions worldwide through his transformational programs. Sadhguru has a unique ability to make the ancient yogic sciences relevant to contemporary minds. His approach does not ascribe to any belief system but offers methods for self-transformation that are both proven and powerful.
An internationally renowned speaker and author of the New York Times Bestseller Inner Engineering, A Yogi's Guide to Joy, Sadhguru has been an influential voice at major global forums including the United Nations and the World Economic Forum, addressing issues as diverse as socioeconomic development, leadership and spirituality. He has also been invited to speak at leading educational institutions, including Oxford, London Business School, IMD, Stanford, Harvard, Yale, Wharton and MIT. In February 2017, Sadhguru was the recipient of the Padma Vibhushan Award by the Government of India, the highest annual civilian award, accorded for exceptional and distinguished service.
Dedicated to the physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing of humanity and gifted with utter clarity of perception, Sadhguru possesses a perspective on life that never fails to intrigue, challenge and surprise all those he encounters. Sadhguru established Isha Foundation, a non-profit, volunteer-run organization operating in more than 300 centers and supported by over 11 million volunteers worldwide. Through powerful yoga programs for inner transformation and inspiring social outreach initiatives, Isha Foundation has created a massive movement dedicated to addressing all aspects of human wellbeing.
Sadhguru has also initiated several projects for social revitalization, education and the environment through which millions of people have been given the means to overcome poverty, improve their quality of life and achieve community-based, sustainable development.
In the fall of 2017, Sadhguru initiated Rally For Rivers, a nationwide campaign aiming to implement sustainable and long-term policy changes to revitalize India's severely depleted rivers, which found great support among India's people and leadership. With over 162 Million individuals pledging their support, Rally for Rivers is the largest ecological movement in the world to date. In the fall of 2019, Sadhguru launched Cauvery Calling, a uniquely modelled project that focuses on enhancing farmer wealth while simultaneously impacting river flow and riverine ecosystems. It will enable farmers in the Cauvery basin spanning Karnataka and Tamil Nadu, to plant 2.42 billion trees.
In the United States, Isha Foundation is headquartered at the Isha Institute of Inner-sciences in the Cumberland Plateau of Tennessee, Isha Institute is established as infrastructure for raising human consciousness and offers a variety of programs that provide methods for anyone to explore and experience the yogic science in its full depth.
About Sadhguru: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_co...
Visit - https://sadhguru.org/karma
An internationally renowned speaker and author of the New York Times Bestseller Inner Engineering, A Yogi's Guide to Joy, Sadhguru has been an influential voice at major global forums including the United Nations and the World Economic Forum, addressing issues as diverse as socioeconomic development, leadership and spirituality. He has also been invited to speak at leading educational institutions, including Oxford, London Business School, IMD, Stanford, Harvard, Yale, Wharton and MIT. In February 2017, Sadhguru was the recipient of the Padma Vibhushan Award by the Government of India, the highest annual civilian award, accorded for exceptional and distinguished service.
Dedicated to the physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing of humanity and gifted with utter clarity of perception, Sadhguru possesses a perspective on life that never fails to intrigue, challenge and surprise all those he encounters. Sadhguru established Isha Foundation, a non-profit, volunteer-run organization operating in more than 300 centers and supported by over 11 million volunteers worldwide. Through powerful yoga programs for inner transformation and inspiring social outreach initiatives, Isha Foundation has created a massive movement dedicated to addressing all aspects of human wellbeing.
Sadhguru has also initiated several projects for social revitalization, education and the environment through which millions of people have been given the means to overcome poverty, improve their quality of life and achieve community-based, sustainable development.
In the fall of 2017, Sadhguru initiated Rally For Rivers, a nationwide campaign aiming to implement sustainable and long-term policy changes to revitalize India's severely depleted rivers, which found great support among India's people and leadership. With over 162 Million individuals pledging their support, Rally for Rivers is the largest ecological movement in the world to date. In the fall of 2019, Sadhguru launched Cauvery Calling, a uniquely modelled project that focuses on enhancing farmer wealth while simultaneously impacting river flow and riverine ecosystems. It will enable farmers in the Cauvery basin spanning Karnataka and Tamil Nadu, to plant 2.42 billion trees.
In the United States, Isha Foundation is headquartered at the Isha Institute of Inner-sciences in the Cumberland Plateau of Tennessee, Isha Institute is established as infrastructure for raising human consciousness and offers a variety of programs that provide methods for anyone to explore and experience the yogic science in its full depth.
About Sadhguru: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_co...
Visit - https://sadhguru.org/karma
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March 20, 2021
4th book of 2021 (173 Books read overall)
Quote from the Book I Liked - 'A true friend is someone who has the courage to tell you what shit you are and still be loving and nice to you.' (Page no. 39)
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'Compassionate human beings with larger humanity are not considered leaders; there are considered philosophers in this world. They are dismissed off as visionaries.' (Page no. 54)
Rating - 3.5 Stars
*Important take from the book* - 'Be a little courageous in your friendships. Be ready to lose them, it is okay. At least if you care, you must do what is good for the other, not for yourself.' (Page no. 42)
Plot Summary - Human beings constantly make and break relationships. Unfortunately, relationships can make and break human beings too. Why are relationships such a circus for most of us? What is this primal urge within us that demands a bond – physical, mental, or emotional – with another? And how do we keep this bond from turning into bondage? These are the fundamental questions that Relationships: Bond or Bondage looks at as Sadhguru shares with us the keys to forming lasting and joyful relationships, whether they are with husband or wife, family and friends, at work, or with the very existence itself.
My Review - Keeping the review short, the book (like 'Emotions' by Sadhguru) is a questionnaire format like a book, where questions from several events held by Isha Foundation have been incorporated whose answers were given by Sadhguru himself. With the theme of Relationships, this book not only talks about the relationship with one's partner but takes a wider approach by talking about almost every relationship. May it be that of being as a Parent, Love, Friendship or most importantly with one's own self. The book is full of wisdom and day to day journey of everyone's life. This book is important and good for one time read. It clear and literary us all of some common but important things which we must incorporate in each of our relationships.
Conclusion - Not just about romantic relationships, this book is about the relationship with one's own self.
Full Review on Blog.
Link to Blog - The Tales of Fugitive Biker
Quote from the Book I Liked - 'A true friend is someone who has the courage to tell you what shit you are and still be loving and nice to you.' (Page no. 39)
&
'Compassionate human beings with larger humanity are not considered leaders; there are considered philosophers in this world. They are dismissed off as visionaries.' (Page no. 54)
Rating - 3.5 Stars
*Important take from the book* - 'Be a little courageous in your friendships. Be ready to lose them, it is okay. At least if you care, you must do what is good for the other, not for yourself.' (Page no. 42)
Plot Summary - Human beings constantly make and break relationships. Unfortunately, relationships can make and break human beings too. Why are relationships such a circus for most of us? What is this primal urge within us that demands a bond – physical, mental, or emotional – with another? And how do we keep this bond from turning into bondage? These are the fundamental questions that Relationships: Bond or Bondage looks at as Sadhguru shares with us the keys to forming lasting and joyful relationships, whether they are with husband or wife, family and friends, at work, or with the very existence itself.
My Review - Keeping the review short, the book (like 'Emotions' by Sadhguru) is a questionnaire format like a book, where questions from several events held by Isha Foundation have been incorporated whose answers were given by Sadhguru himself. With the theme of Relationships, this book not only talks about the relationship with one's partner but takes a wider approach by talking about almost every relationship. May it be that of being as a Parent, Love, Friendship or most importantly with one's own self. The book is full of wisdom and day to day journey of everyone's life. This book is important and good for one time read. It clear and literary us all of some common but important things which we must incorporate in each of our relationships.
Conclusion - Not just about romantic relationships, this book is about the relationship with one's own self.
Full Review on Blog.
Link to Blog - The Tales of Fugitive Biker
October 3, 2020
This is the third book that I have read by Sadhguru. I usually prefer to watch his talks as which would give you more of direct experience. His language and the way he articulates it is so wonderful. It's clean, clear, convincing and subtle. I might not agree with many of his teachings, but I would like to believe this as my ignorance.
Before reading this book, Relationships, I read 'Emotions'. It was also giving insights. In this book 'Relationships,' his observations and ideas are presented. I was not attempted to present his ideas here before, because each and every sentence has to be quoted then. Anyway, here is some:
- People are trying to create relationships based on too much fantasy
- The only reason marriages has become miserable is because two people have lost their ability to laugh at themselves and joke about each other
- Love is not something that you do. Love is the very way you are
- Love is your quality
- When a child enters your house, it is not time to become a teacher; it is time to learn
- Good parenting is not about teaching the child what to do and what not to do; it is about creating an atmosphere
- The process of loving should always be a liberating process.
- A leader need not necessarily be the leader of a nation or a large group of people. If you are running a family, you are a leader
- We have not produced the right kind of leaders, bullies are considered as leaders. Compassionate human beings with a larger vision for humanity are not considered leaders; they are considered philosophers in this world. They are dismissed off as visionaries
- A guru is not someone who holds a torch and shows something to you. He is the torch. He burns
Before reading this book, Relationships, I read 'Emotions'. It was also giving insights. In this book 'Relationships,' his observations and ideas are presented. I was not attempted to present his ideas here before, because each and every sentence has to be quoted then. Anyway, here is some:
- People are trying to create relationships based on too much fantasy
- The only reason marriages has become miserable is because two people have lost their ability to laugh at themselves and joke about each other
- Love is not something that you do. Love is the very way you are
- Love is your quality
- When a child enters your house, it is not time to become a teacher; it is time to learn
- Good parenting is not about teaching the child what to do and what not to do; it is about creating an atmosphere
- The process of loving should always be a liberating process.
- A leader need not necessarily be the leader of a nation or a large group of people. If you are running a family, you are a leader
- We have not produced the right kind of leaders, bullies are considered as leaders. Compassionate human beings with a larger vision for humanity are not considered leaders; they are considered philosophers in this world. They are dismissed off as visionaries
- A guru is not someone who holds a torch and shows something to you. He is the torch. He burns
April 5, 2018
"If you become a source of joy by yourself and your relationships are about sharing your joy, not squeezing joy out of somebody, then you would have wonderful relationships with anybody. Is there anybody in the world who would have any problem with you if you are going there to share your joy with them? No. You are trying to extract joy from them, that is where the problem is. Relationships have become a problem because we are not using it to enhance our lives. We are trying to fill the gaps in our lives with relationships."....... if you are a no relationship person than no problem don't have any but if you do immerse yourself totally in it cause the only way out is In !! 😎😎
February 6, 2019
Covered all the aspects of relationship whether it's Physical, Mental, Emotional,Energy . Understanding of relating yourself with others and cosmos is really helpful ..
July 24, 2020
The closer the relationship is, the more effort you should make to understand them. Someone becomes closer and dearer to you only as you understand them better. If they understand you, they enjoy the closeness of the relationship. If you understand them better, you enjoy the closeness.
It is not that the other person is totally bereft of understanding. With your understanding you can create situations where the other person would be able to understand you better. If you are expecting the other to understand and comply with you all the time while you don’t understand the limitations, the possibilities, the needs and the capabilities of that person, then conflict is all that will happen. It is bound to happen. Unfortunately, the closest relationships in the world have more conflict going on than between enemies.
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It is not that the other person is totally bereft of understanding. With your understanding you can create situations where the other person would be able to understand you better. If you are expecting the other to understand and comply with you all the time while you don’t understand the limitations, the possibilities, the needs and the capabilities of that person, then conflict is all that will happen. It is bound to happen. Unfortunately, the closest relationships in the world have more conflict going on than between enemies.
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March 23, 2019
Simple and thoughtful
The book is well written and best for day to day life struggles we have with our relationships. I wish there is more scientific explanation along with spiritual experience explaining, coz I feel guruji is of new age and for new age, and for the new age they relay more on evidence than of faith. But overall it's great book one should be reading not just to correct or improve a relationship but to understand the kind of person we are when we are in relationship.
The book is well written and best for day to day life struggles we have with our relationships. I wish there is more scientific explanation along with spiritual experience explaining, coz I feel guruji is of new age and for new age, and for the new age they relay more on evidence than of faith. But overall it's great book one should be reading not just to correct or improve a relationship but to understand the kind of person we are when we are in relationship.
November 7, 2021
This is the 2nd book ' relationship, bond or bondage' that I read from this 2in1 mini books of sadgauru, which coupled with 1st book of emotion which I read and reviewed previous to this.
The author briefly answers the questions on various relationships. His crux message was never to try to 'manage' people but include or the relationships dont last. The relations which last beyond this physical or mental body, as energy body or etharic or bliss body last lifetime. This 2nd part of this 2in1 book didn't engage me much. I can give it 2 or 2.5 stars.
The author briefly answers the questions on various relationships. His crux message was never to try to 'manage' people but include or the relationships dont last. The relations which last beyond this physical or mental body, as energy body or etharic or bliss body last lifetime. This 2nd part of this 2in1 book didn't engage me much. I can give it 2 or 2.5 stars.
June 19, 2020
I got my answer... Relationships created on the basis of the fear of being alone are the first thing where we go wrong. Emotional or physical fullfilment isn't everything. And a lot more.
July 16, 2018
Although the book has scattered essays, is not as structured as I'd have liked it to be and sometimes has presumptions that seem unscientific, I still found some valuable anecdotes:
"Those people who logically examine their relationships can never stay in any relationship. If you logically look, “Is it really worthwhile?” then nothing will stand the test of your logic."
"Love is just your ability to respond to someone. The moment I say “love,” you think of someone. Love is not about someone. Love is about you. You can walk on the street lovingly, you can work in your office lovingly. Love is not something that you do. Love is the very way you are. It is your quality. If you make this your quality, then relationships will happen according to different types of needs that you have."
“Man and woman” are two compulsions. Two compulsions can never live together. The more identified you are with your sexuality, the more compulsive you will become. When you are compulsive, naturally you will step over many people. Once you start stepping on each other, there will be trouble. If you do not identify yourself too much with your womanhood or manhood and if you just walk as a piece of life, you will see that it is such a minor part of your life. You do not have to structure your life around it."
"The reason why you go into love is because it is supposed to bring you blissfulness. Love is not the goal; blissfulness is the goal. People are mad about falling in love with someone, though they have been wounded and bruised any number of times, because when they thought they were in love, there was a little bit of blissfulness in them. Love is just a currency for blissfulness."
"It is in this context that the traditions always held the relationship between a Guru and a shishya, or disciple as of the highest order. Not because they love each other more than you loved your child or your husband, but because these three aspects – body, mind and emotion – which are essentially individualistic, have been kept aside. Now it fits. If a relationship is formed on the level of your energy, it does not matter which part of the world you are in, I can still have you shaking, I can still have a certain intimacy which is not possible even if you live with someone for fifty years."
"Those people who logically examine their relationships can never stay in any relationship. If you logically look, “Is it really worthwhile?” then nothing will stand the test of your logic."
"Love is just your ability to respond to someone. The moment I say “love,” you think of someone. Love is not about someone. Love is about you. You can walk on the street lovingly, you can work in your office lovingly. Love is not something that you do. Love is the very way you are. It is your quality. If you make this your quality, then relationships will happen according to different types of needs that you have."
“Man and woman” are two compulsions. Two compulsions can never live together. The more identified you are with your sexuality, the more compulsive you will become. When you are compulsive, naturally you will step over many people. Once you start stepping on each other, there will be trouble. If you do not identify yourself too much with your womanhood or manhood and if you just walk as a piece of life, you will see that it is such a minor part of your life. You do not have to structure your life around it."
"The reason why you go into love is because it is supposed to bring you blissfulness. Love is not the goal; blissfulness is the goal. People are mad about falling in love with someone, though they have been wounded and bruised any number of times, because when they thought they were in love, there was a little bit of blissfulness in them. Love is just a currency for blissfulness."
"It is in this context that the traditions always held the relationship between a Guru and a shishya, or disciple as of the highest order. Not because they love each other more than you loved your child or your husband, but because these three aspects – body, mind and emotion – which are essentially individualistic, have been kept aside. Now it fits. If a relationship is formed on the level of your energy, it does not matter which part of the world you are in, I can still have you shaking, I can still have a certain intimacy which is not possible even if you live with someone for fifty years."
September 10, 2021
We all yearn for relationships even if they can break us apart sometimes. They can be hell and they can be heaven. " Relationships! We can't live with them, we can't live without them"
In this beautiful book Sadhguru explains to us the real meaning of relationships wherever they are with husbands and wives, family, friends, colleagues at work and with the very existence itself. Sadhguru shares with us the magic key to forming lasting and joyful bonds.
"There is a dimension of relationship which is not of the body, which is not of physicality which is not of companionship or emotional proximity, but of basic life energy, "
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Relationships Bond or Bondage/ Sadhguru
96 pages
Quotes:
" When the child is born, allow the child to look around, spend time with nature and with himself. Create an atmosphere of love and support and do not try to impose your morals, ideas, religion or whatever in any way. Allow him to grow, allow his intelligence to grow and help him look at life on his own terms, as a human being - not identified with the family, or your wealth or whatever else. Helping him look at life as a human being is very essential for his wellbeing and the wellbeing of the world. " p 36
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" How much you are worth need not be seen in terms of how much you are paid. How much you are worth should be assessed in terms of what responsibilities are given to you. The privilege is that you have been allowed to create something. Money is a means for survival, yes, and to that extent it is necessary. "p 44
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" This is all I am, a speck of nothing in nothing."
Who the hell you are, what you think of yourself, your greatness - these do not mean anything. Even if you disappear tomorrow morning, the whole word will be fine. This is so for you, this is so for me, this is so for everyone. The more people do not understand this, the more idiotic their lives will be. The more they come to terms with it, the more intelligently they will live. " p 84
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In this beautiful book Sadhguru explains to us the real meaning of relationships wherever they are with husbands and wives, family, friends, colleagues at work and with the very existence itself. Sadhguru shares with us the magic key to forming lasting and joyful bonds.
"There is a dimension of relationship which is not of the body, which is not of physicality which is not of companionship or emotional proximity, but of basic life energy, "
----
Relationships Bond or Bondage/ Sadhguru
96 pages
Quotes:
" When the child is born, allow the child to look around, spend time with nature and with himself. Create an atmosphere of love and support and do not try to impose your morals, ideas, religion or whatever in any way. Allow him to grow, allow his intelligence to grow and help him look at life on his own terms, as a human being - not identified with the family, or your wealth or whatever else. Helping him look at life as a human being is very essential for his wellbeing and the wellbeing of the world. " p 36
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" How much you are worth need not be seen in terms of how much you are paid. How much you are worth should be assessed in terms of what responsibilities are given to you. The privilege is that you have been allowed to create something. Money is a means for survival, yes, and to that extent it is necessary. "p 44
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" This is all I am, a speck of nothing in nothing."
Who the hell you are, what you think of yourself, your greatness - these do not mean anything. Even if you disappear tomorrow morning, the whole word will be fine. This is so for you, this is so for me, this is so for everyone. The more people do not understand this, the more idiotic their lives will be. The more they come to terms with it, the more intelligently they will live. " p 84
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August 19, 2018
Nice book
It's a very good book about relationships. Every person has to read it, to know where are we going wrong with relationships. He has explained very clearly how relationships can be ruined, when we expect from others. He has explained there is a different life and more beautiful life when we don't expect anything in relationship.
It's a very good book about relationships. Every person has to read it, to know where are we going wrong with relationships. He has explained very clearly how relationships can be ruined, when we expect from others. He has explained there is a different life and more beautiful life when we don't expect anything in relationship.
October 10, 2018
Start and end is good, in between lost the track of relationship.
If u look for conventional relationship and how to solve problems with it, this is not the book u r looking for. This book attacks the foundation of concept of relationship that so far we use in social terms.
Oneliner- its not a social book ,its spiritual book
If u look for conventional relationship and how to solve problems with it, this is not the book u r looking for. This book attacks the foundation of concept of relationship that so far we use in social terms.
Oneliner- its not a social book ,its spiritual book
January 24, 2020
Very convincing dialogue
The style of the writing in the book is Q and A type. It made it much easier to get the content. Most aspects and various perspectives of relationships were dealt with profound knowledge. Anyone thinking to either understand or improve one's own relationships will definitely find the book greatly helpful.
The style of the writing in the book is Q and A type. It made it much easier to get the content. Most aspects and various perspectives of relationships were dealt with profound knowledge. Anyone thinking to either understand or improve one's own relationships will definitely find the book greatly helpful.
May 11, 2018
Absolute Delight
I read this because it is about relationship with people and the cosmos. I was curious about relationships, as I never really understood what it meant, that is why I read this.
I would recommend this to people who like spiritual reading.
I read this because it is about relationship with people and the cosmos. I was curious about relationships, as I never really understood what it meant, that is why I read this.
I would recommend this to people who like spiritual reading.
September 8, 2018
Answer to 'what really relationships mean?'
Nice read. Somewhat spiritually-technical and somewhat too simple to understand. But whatever you understand will have a little bit if not profound impact on your day to day life for sure.
Nice read. Somewhat spiritually-technical and somewhat too simple to understand. But whatever you understand will have a little bit if not profound impact on your day to day life for sure.
October 20, 2018
Connection between human & nature, mind & body..well explained
It's good read. The natural cycle is well explained and how it has effect over humans. Many types of relationships are mentioned.
It's good read. The natural cycle is well explained and how it has effect over humans. Many types of relationships are mentioned.
March 4, 2020
A very different approach. Spiritual people will love it. The aspects were really deep , it's not a relationship advice book. It's a book about realising your inner self , transcending body consciousness and understanding energy behind relationship. Happy reading !
May 14, 2023
“ people are trying to create relationships based on too much fantasy. It is not rooted in reality. A fantasy can be a good state today but can be a bad trip tomorrow”
Relationships with human as well as nature and things and object around us explained nicely.
Relationships with human as well as nature and things and object around us explained nicely.
June 11, 2018
Good thoughts
Good thoughts about relationships. Most of us are too much attached to relationships and it makes our life difficult. Freedom from such attachment make us free
Good thoughts about relationships. Most of us are too much attached to relationships and it makes our life difficult. Freedom from such attachment make us free
June 16, 2018
Knowledge is always good
March 13, 2019
Overall, whole book is very informative but I couldn't understand context in between lines from where it was actually originated
July 29, 2019
An insight into The circus of relationships
Sadhguru's take on everything simplifies all the complex notions in ur head. This book is for u ur relationships r a struggle
Sadhguru's take on everything simplifies all the complex notions in ur head. This book is for u ur relationships r a struggle
August 1, 2019
This book perfectly echoes my thoughts. A wonderful read for everyone by one of the most logical thought and spiritual Guru - Sadhguru
October 21, 2019
Satguru speaks so simply and with such clarity, it is amazing. This is a wonderful read to remove all the complications we have piled on our relationships.
December 4, 2021
Insightfull
Touches on various dimensions of relationship. Every relationship and its aspects have beem lucidly explained. Recommended for sure for deep insight.
Touches on various dimensions of relationship. Every relationship and its aspects have beem lucidly explained. Recommended for sure for deep insight.
February 4, 2022
I'm always a fan of Sadhguru's way of putting things. It's not flowery and it's not poetic, but it hits hard and it makes sense.
August 16, 2024
Such a gorgeous book. I fell into a deep timeless space reading this. Grateful grateful grateful.
August 15, 2020
Again very spiritual to the core and a very good read... Finished off very quickly....
April 25, 2018
Good to read.
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