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“My ability to perform lifesaving surgery, my community, my family and all my other aspirations — seem to count for little when I answer ‘no’ to having kids.”
"What’s going on in Amelia’s mind? Will this have some kind of damaging effect on her? Is she in danger?"
"As American novelist Anne Lamott famously said, 'If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.'"
"The emailer said her young kids complained about a scary-looking ghost that appeared in the back bedroom."
"I went and talked to the only person I felt might really understand my need to not mother: my mother."
"A decade ago, I would’ve booked the surgery on the spot. Back then, it was always the plan."
"She took my hand in hers, and the next thing she said shocked me as much as it thrilled me."
"My husband is not on board. 'Who put this idea into her head?' he asked."
"I’m furious my doctors didn’t take my concerns seriously. And my kids’ brains are affected for life."
"At first, my parents chalked up our neighbors' peering eyes and hushed whispers to curiosity. But we soon learned there was something else going on."
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