The cycle of abuse and victimhood never changes. It goes from sick disturbed person to disturb person and if people who have abuse in their lives have children they pass on the illness to them just like any hereditary disease. Either you become the monster or you become a victim to someone else. Sick ill people attract sick and ill people. People with healthy emotions, personal boundaries, grounded morals and values do not let sickos into their lives and sickos are not attracted to them because having a healthy mentality and emotions is like a force field against these kind of people. If you've grown up with an abusive or controlling or psychopathic caregiver it is part of your everyday life and you will not see signals and red flags from other disturbed people or other victims. If you ever find yourself in a situation from a man like this, He does not love you He does not care about you He is completely utterly using you and you have any shred of self-esteem and self-worth left reach out to every person possible for support, find government programs, involve yourself with the police and get yourself away.. your life may depend on it. It's also disgusting how the Justice system fails these people. Cops who don't want to listen or do their job. Victims who fear for their life and don't want to expose themselves further to the psychopath and then the law is just like oh well.. Let him go. So he can murder, torture and dismember more women. Please officers need to have a mandated psychology course and a firm understanding of behavior and abuse.