Why would a person, in support of a community garden, think that the benefits to the community come close to being more important than affordable housing. Shelter vs. The benefits of mental well-being of working the soil. A nonstarter for me. Next, an engaged couple so divergent on family & location vs job opportunities should not have left this insurmountable divergence till 2 days before the wedding to disengage. Or are they simply stupid? If being with friends & family/location is more important than being with an ambitious partner, than a few dates should point out the incompatibility of the relationship. Again, stupid?? The bridesmaid & groomsman did not concentrate on the issues separating the couple, but on rekindling the couple's spark. Not smart!! Concentrate on the dealbreakers early and new relationships can be nipped in the bud.