Deconstructing Karen

We as white women must continue to learn how we still benefit from and uphold a systemically racist system. This movie, similar to Rao and Jackson's book, filled me with many different emotions. It was hard, and it should be hard.

While this movie may ruffle some feathers, I think we need that to happen. I and other white women must contend with the fact that, whether we're aware of it or not, we still uphold racism. We must learn how to deconstruct the racist views, ideas, and beliefs within ourselves before we can begin to do the same within our communities.

A must-watch for all white people, but especially white women, who want to continue their learning.

I was so excited to watch this movie as I am always looking for ways to be less racist, less prejudiced, learn about other cultures and become a better human being. However, I found that the movie didn't so much provide an opportunity for open conversations as it gave a platform for scolding white women for being racist. Yes, white women have a lot to learn, but this movie could have encouraged them to ask more questions and become more aware of their privilege, not simply scolded them for living in the only realities they've ever known. Change happens when people can truly see each other - it doesn't happen by simply telling a whole group of individuals that they are bad.

This is just more of the same. I get the concept, but the execution was flawed in pretty much every way possible.

Start with the premise that the way to win anyone over to your viewpoint is to be a, well, insert your favorite four letter word here for a woman acting poorly.

One of the fastest ways to determine the worth of a human being, to me, is to witness their interactions with others. And, of course, in this example, that shows just what you are truly dealing with here.

It's funny how so often, people trying to accuse others of something really simply end up showing how THEY themselves are the ones really exemplifying the very thing they're trying to denounce in others.

There are SO many better ways to spend your time than watching this...

Maybe white women are the problem. After all, way too many of them seem to be ready, willing, and able to fall for this BS obvious grifting, Is it really all about self-abasement and the virtue signal? Jesus Christ. Rao and her friend come off as repellent bullies. While whining and moaning about their oppression (come on. They live better than the majority of middle America. Oh how oppressed they are. *sarcasm*) they are purposely haranguing the women in their dinners who disagree or question.

My biggest question is why would women pay to go through this humiliation ritual. They're already mostly democrats. Isn't that humiliation enough?

Seriously though, Rao is asking that white women spit on their ancestors. Hell should freeze over first. Regardless of from whence one comes, one should never, ever spit on their ancestors. Maybe they should stop thinking of themselves as "white" and start thinking of themselves as of "English," "German," "Scottish," "Czech," etc. Descent.

Or, maybe they should get a man to moderate this because women obviously can't handle this on their own. They all came across as a bunch of ...well I can't say that word in a review here. But rhymes with witch.

I will say this, I love to see how much grifting this race baiting nonsense has birthed. BLM, etc. You can't blame people for taking advantage of stupid. That's the real lesson here.

I checked out some reviews prior to watching this film and due to the ratings, my expectations were fairly low. However, after watching the film, in my opinion, a lot of the negative reviews are fairly similar to the responses of the women at the beginning of the dinner. Defensive, poor me, victim mentality. I do agree that Saira and Regina come off as direct and blunt, but in my opinion that is a key point to the film that adds a sense of urgency and seriousness to the dinner that may otherwise have been missed. Part of deconstructing Karen is to eliminate the need to be "nice" and sugar coat statements and hard truths. Which I believe Regina and Saira accomplish successfully. Another point these two are trying to make is that they do not owe it to white women to "be nice" while people of color have not been treated "nicely" for hundreds of years. To say Saira is a bully for being upfront and direct while communicating with the women at the dinner table (not to mention continuously repeating herself for those choosing not to hear her), sure is an interesting take. Unfortunately I think some of the dinner attendees in this film, along with many of the 1/10 star raters, are proof that this country has a long way to go when it comes to listening and ending white privilege and fragility. If this film has upset you to the point you go out of your way to leave a review telling others not to watch. If all you can think about is how badly this film personally offended you. If you find yourself subconsciously defending the white women at the dinner table. If you have no take-aways other than the blame you have placed on Saira and Regina for somehow making things worse. It may be a great idea for you you to challenge yourself, change your mindset, and watch this film again.