An Update on Our Family

While watching the first episode all I could think was "this has to be satire". There's no way these people are actually this cringe, right? The bizarre woman who sorta narrates even tries to use the Kardashians as some measure of "normal". Then the influencer with the Big Dumb Hat showed up and it officially jumped the shark.

This is just a bunch of self-described "influencers" with no talent and no substance at all. Based on the show description there's eventually going to be a story about an adopted kid, but the entire first episode has nothing to do with that. If you want to watch a documentary on the downfall of society, this is the one.

The door I've parents of this young lad got him because they thought he was content for their YouTube channel. They picked an autistic child from China to bring home thinking he would fit right in. They were wrong.

Parents, please listen. Respect your kid's anonymity. Don't post them online. Let them have a happy childhood without fear of cameras catching every moment.

These parents are really gross. Stop entertaining these types of people. They will make you feel like a bad parent just by watching them being so dedicated. They are not dedicated. When those cameras go off those kids are suffering. Do. It support this kind of stuff.

As Episode 1 of "An Update on Our Family" (2025 release; 3 episodes ranging from 43 to 50 min) opens, we are introduced to Myka and James Stauffer, who painstakingly vlog on the YouTube family channel, going back to 2013. After 3 kids of their own, the couple decides to adopt a special needs boy from China. At this point we are 10 minutes into Episode 1.

Couple of comments: this is the work of director Rachel Mason, who just recently directed the outstanding (if tragic) documentary "Last Take: Rust and the Story of Halyna". Here Mason examines the phenom that is family vlogging, and as it turns out (wait for it!), things are not quite as they seem. This is not the first documentary looking at this issue. But as it turns out, all of it is just an appetizer for what plays out in Episode 3, when the Stauffers adopt a young boy from China. I won't say more about it so as not to spoil. I must admit I have never heard of this story before, nor am I all that familiar with the multiple family vlogs that apparently exist out there, all hoping to get enough subscribers that YouTube and sponsors will pay them handsomely, but raising the obvious ethical question of what these parents are thinking about making so much of their children's lives available to the public at large without the children's conscious consent. Apart from the interesting ethical issues raised by the documentary, in retrospect all of this could've been handled in far less that the almost 2 1/2 hrs. Running time of the 3 episodes.

"An Update on Our Family" started streaming on Max not too long ago, and I stumbled on it the other night, I watched all 3 episodes in a single setting. This mini-series is currently rated 100% Certified Fresh on Rotten Tomatoes, which is far too generous in my opinion. If you are curious about the phenom that is family vlogging on YouTube or about adoptions of special needs kids from overseas, I'd readily suggest you check this out, and draw your own conclusion.

When the director was interviewed on TDS, I was excited because I thought there was going to be a brutal balance between the freak show jobless ass-hats and more rational objective people. It's obnoxious, not infuriating due to truth bombs. The editing is awful and I truly wanted to punch my TV while watching this. I had to pull out my phone to answer work emails and schedule a doctor appointment to unburden my growing anxiety and anger. I don't think this director intended this, but she has no distance from the subject matter. There is no story, but rather YouTube vomit clickbait style rabbit holes. You have failed to uncover this and have instead become what you claim to loathe.

The documentary uses many editing cliches that have been overdone by the big streamers for about 10 years now. The ticker showing a video's view count rising rapidly. The breaking of the 4th wall when people are being interviewed. It's extremely boring. The first episode take roughly 50 minutes to say: 1) Vloggers are a thing. 2) People really like this particular family vlogger. 3) They might have enjoyed the attention from vlogging too much. That's it. You just saw the first episode. It is a sad reminder that many YouTubers these days can craft better documentaries than Netflix and HBO, with .1% of the resources.