THE WOUNDED HEALER
Talmud Story
         The Messiah is sitting among the poor binding his wounds one at a time, waiting for the
moment when he will be needed. He is called to be the wounded healer, the one who must look
after his own wounds but at the same time be prepared to heal the wounds of others.
         We are called to be a wounded minister or healer to use our brokenness or painful
experiences for the freedom and healing of others.
What are our wounds?
         Alienation, separation, isolation, and loneliness – one of the most painful human wounds.
The awareness of loneliness might be a gift we must protect and guard because our loneliness
reveals to us an inner emptiness that can be destructive when misunderstood, but filled with
purpose, promise for him who can tolerate its sweet pain.
         Painful awareness of loneliness is an invitation to transcend our limitations and look the
boundaries of our existence – don’t avoid this painful confrontation with our basic human
loneliness.
         The wound of loneliness in the like of minister hurts all the more, since he/she not only
shares in the human condition of isolation but we are also called to speak to ultimate concern of
life; birth and death, union and separation, love and hate.
         The deep understanding of our pain makes it possible for us to convert our weakness into
strength and to offer our own experience as a source of healing to those who are often lost in the
darkness of their own misunderstood suffering.
How does healing take place?
         Many words such as care and compassion, understanding and forgiveness, fellowship and
community have been used for the healing task of the Christian minister. But the word
hospitality is important because it gives us more insights in the nature of response to human
condition of loneliness. Hospitality is the true virtue which allows us to break through the
narrowness of our own fears and to open our house to the stranger.
         Hospitality is the ability to pay attention to the guest. This is very difficult since we are
preoccupied with our own needs, worries, and tensions which prevent us from taking distance
from ourselves in order to pay attention to others.
         By withdrawing into ourselves not out of self-pity but out of humility, we create the
space for another to be himself and to come to us in his own terms.
Withdrawal – act of concentration
         When we are not afraid to enter in to our own center and to concentrate on the stirring of
our own soul, we come to know that being alive means being loved.
Why is this healing ministry?
         It is healing because it takes away the false illusion that loneliness can be given by one to
another. It is healing because it does not take away the loneliness and the pain of another; but
invites him to recognize his loneliness on a level where it can be shared.