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STYLE
80 TREND Underwear
84 CRUSH Björn again
86 FASHION Ballet boys
F E AT U R E S
REGULARS
102 THE MIGHTY A-TOM
8 EDITOR IN CHIEF’S LETTER He has one of the most recognisable
10 THE WORD ON THE STREET bodies on the planet, but Tom Daley
146 BIG IN A WIG Chi Chi LaRue wants to be known for more than just
that — and is refusing to take his clothes
off. Oh, go on Tom, just for us...
A LIST
14 AGENDA AC T I V E
Things we like this month
20 CLIFF JOANNOU Missing George 113 FEATURE Joel Dommett
21 Q AND A Going Underground 121 { N E W } ACTIVATE Fitness news
22 BRIDGE OVER TROUBLED WATERS 122 FOCUS Fit tips from Matt Lister
A John Waters' oddity returns
26 MAWAAN RIZWAN Night-bus pests p113
27 BIG ISSUE Corbyn blows his own
Trump-et
29 LEO RICHARDSON
A cute accent
31 PAUL FLYNN Slim-line tonic
32 SONGS OF PRAISE A young drag
queen's life is put to music
38 MUSIC
40 FILM
41 BOOKS
42 CULTURE CLUB Tom of Finland
45 BIG GAY FOLLOWING Nile Rodgers
T R AV E L
,
MARCH 2017 7
A LETTER FROM
THE EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
The relationship we have with our body is one of the most
important we’ll ever have. It’s one that can bring us intense
pleasure but can also cause huge stress. And it’s one that we
can’t end with a quick, easy break-up.
That’s why we’ve decided to dedicate this entire
issue of Attitude to exploring how we feel about
our bodies. And what better way to start than by
asking you, our readers, how you feel about yours?
The results of the Attitude Body Survey (see p9) told us you think magazines are at least partly
^RjT`_Íc^hYRe^R_j`WfdYRgVdfdaVTeVUW`cR responsible for shaping your feelings about your
long time but even so, they make for eye-watering body. That’s something we take very seriously at
cVRUZ_XAVcYRad^`dedZX_ZÍTR_eW`c^VZdeYVWRTe Attitude, which is why we have our Real Bodies
that 84 per cent of you feel that as gay men, you’re strand. To show you how seriously I myself take
under particularly intense pressure to have a good it, I’ve stripped off for a Real Bodies special (see
body. p62). But I won’t say anything else about that here
There are various theories behind this. My — four pages of me talking about my body is more
colleague and Attitude’s editor-at-large Matthew than enough for anyone.
Todd suggests in his brilliant book Straight Jacket Elsewhere in this issue, we have features about
that, as many of us are made to feel unwanted or body image, body hair and the body ideal, all of
rejected as we’re growing up, we can spend much which I hope will make you think — and maybe
of our adult lives trying to prove to the world — even challenge some of your preconceptions.
and to ourselves — that we are good enough, that We also interview several people who work with
we are attractive, that we are worthy of love. their bodies, from Olympic diver Tom Daley to
:R]d`eYZ_\ZeÄddZX_ZÍTR_eeYReRdXRj^V_hVÄcV dancers from the Royal Ballet; reading about how
attracted to the same sex of body as the one we important their bodies are to them might even put
possess — and this can cause us to direct our ideas your own anxieties into perspective.
about what’s good-looking back at ourselves. Juno Dawson looks at the highly sexualised
In case anyone’s in any doubt that how we feel bodies drawn by iconic artist Tom of Finland in
RS`fe`fcS`UZVdZdRUVÍ_Z_XZddfVW`cXRj^V_ our relaunched Culture Club; please join in the
today, a staggering 59 per cent of you told us conversation in future issues. And I’m A Celebrity
you’re either unhappy or very unhappy with your star Joel Dommett talks about his relationship
body, and a whopping 84 per cent of you think with his body in our reinvigorated Active section.
it’s either important or very important to have 7c`^_`h`_2TeZgVh`_Äeac`Í]VeYV\Z_U`W
a good body. The fact that a relatively smaller "!RaV__jaVcd`_R]ecRZ_Vcdj`fÍ_UT`T\eVRdZ_X
62 per cent of you think it’s either important or gays in your local gym, but people in the public
very important that your partner has a good body eye with something interesting to say about their
shows us that we’re directing much of the pressure YVR]eYR_UÍe_VddcVXZ^V
we absorb from society inwards. Every issue of Attitude is important to us but this
It also can’t be ignored that 64 per cent of you one is even more so than usual. And it’s one that I
really care about. So please tell me what you think
when I do another live Facebook Q-and-A starting
at 1pm on 9 February. I look forward to hearing
your feedback!
8 MARCH 2017
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NOT IMPORTANT AT ALL 0.5% VERY IMPORTANT
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EITHER IN REAL UNIMPORTANT 14% 27%
LIFE OR ON 8 UNIMPORTANT
SOCIAL MEDIA? NOT IMPORTANT AT ALL 6% 9%
MARCH 2017 9
SAM COX My double chin, because people look at it
DEBBIE JOHNSTON
My whole body, as
I haven’t reached
maximum potential
with body art
DJ ROB C I’d
the
GILBERT
MCGAUGHY My
volleyball scars.
word
change my
Great body but no
height. Taller
scars, please
would be better
which body
on the
part would
you most like
to change?
WES BAGGALEY
I would make
my legs longer
street
because they’re WHERE: HORSE MEAT DISCO AT THE EAGLE, LONDON
too short
10 MARCH 2017
the word on the street
STEVEN
MCGLYNN
My toes.
They belong
to my mum!
MARK
OAKLEY
I wish I could
have my
hair back
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he most certainly is not SUNTAN! History project
anatomically correct exploring the history
of sexuality and
sexual identity in and
around Derbyshire.
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Big Bi Quiz for
LGBT History
Month BiPhoria’s
quiz night at the
LGBT Foundation in
T H E T H I N G S W E LOV E T H I S M O N T H Manchester.
National Festival
of LGBT History:
York Hub The
Marriott Room at
York Explore Library
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fascinating variety
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of LGBT History
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ON TATE MODERN
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an exhibition concentrating on Wolfgang ENGLISH PERSON
— TO BE AWARDED
Tillmans’ production across different THE TATE’S ANNUAL
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3 reasons to go to see Dancing SHADES
OF GAY!
This is
The It’s set It’s being a funny,
1 //
comedy
2 //
in a gay
3 //
staged frothy and
features a house-share in at Three frank one-
dancer, a dog, Manchester. We Minute Theatre man show, starring Gary Lamont (above).
a drag queen can relate. (3MT), a venue Best known as hairdresser Robbie Fraser
and a porn star. which has in the soap River City, he plays Aiden,
What more do championed
who’s set to shack up with boyfriend
you want? new writing in
number 69. As he starts going through
Manchester.
his phone, to delete texts, snaps, numbers
The play runs 16-19 March, Three Minute Theatre,
and apps, he’s taken on a trip down
Afflecks Arcade, Manchester.
threeminutetheatre.co.uk memory lane.
16 MARCH 2017
AGENDA
{ EVENT }
TAKE ME
SOMEWHERE
A new celebratory festival of
contemporary performance will be
hitting Glasgow this spring. Building
on the legacy of The Arches’ arts
programme, the Take Me Somewhere
festival will consist of events created
through a programme of artistic
development opportunities, combined
with inspirational work from beyond
{ T R AV E L }
Scotland. One to look out for: Nando
Messia’s Shoot the Sissy, a SYDNEY MARDI GRAS IN STYLE
disturbingly beautiful freak
show, a queer menagerie of Philippine Airlines, in conjunction
carnivalesque contortion with Premier Holidays and
R_UÎ`cZUWR_eRdj Destination New South Wales,
The festival will have introduced a great tour
take place in various package to Sydney for Gay and
venues across Glasgow Lesbian Mardi Gras, in March.
from 22 February until Following a glittering departure
12 March. from Heathrow and a smooth
transit at Manila, guests will
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party, offering all sorts of perks, is
included.
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KEN. TO BE CONTENT!
DESTROYED
Ken. To be
destroyed is an
exhibition put
on by artist and
photographer
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Following her
mother’s death, THE LONDON CABARET CLUB
she and her
siblings inherited After three years of sold out pop-up shows around the UK’s
an envelope capital, the beloved London Cabaret Club has now announced
containing letters its grand launch on Friday
22 April. Taking place in
and photographs
their new and permanent
that belonged to
residence in London’s
her uncle and aunt, Bloomsbury Square, the
Ken and Hazel. club offers a sophisticated
The envelope entertainment concept
was marked Ken. To be destroyed. It emerged soon after combining an exquisite
they married that Ken was transgender. Given this was the dining experience with
1950s, this profoundly affected both their own relationship an innovative live cabaret
and relationships with social surroundings. The exhibition show. Featuring stars from
London’s West End, original
showcases work that combines original archive material with
choreography and premium
Davidmann’s new work. Presented by the London College
production values, the show
of Communication, the exhibition runs from 17 until 26 celebrates the rich heritage
February. of British culture.
arts.ac.uk/lcc thelondoncabaretclub.com
18 MARCH 2017
ONE TO WATCH
DECLAN
MCKENNA
Winner of Glastonbury’s
Emerging Talent Competition
in 2015, Declan McKenna
won two slots playing at
the festival, aged just 16.
Now, hot off the back of his
latest single, The Kids Don’t Wanna
Come Home, a politically charged cry
against the widespread assumption
that young people are disengaged
with the world, he’s gearing up for
the release of his debut album. Some
of his previous work tackled topics
such as corruption in football (Brazil)
and teenage transgender conversion
therapy (Paracetamol), so the new
songs should live up to expectations.
Not identifying as either straight or
gay, Hertfordshire-born Declan is
a thoroughly modern man, ready
to show the world how protest
and music can make for a rather
beautiful combination.
MARCH 2017 19
OPINION
JOANNOU
Cypriot immigrants and had the Sivan owe him a huge debt.
weight of cultural expectation to work At the height of his fame, after the
through. Years later, fate would have Faith album, he bowed out of celebrity.
it I even ended up on an internship The US media never forgave him for
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third solo album. It’s little wonder I music videos, which did nothing to
related to George’s story above Bowie,
to take than all the other losses last year stop him selling records.
Prince and the other dearly departed. George was blasted for challenging
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sexuality was put under ersonal life, choosing to love to have him still here to one day
homophobia-fuelled scrutiny ing. He freely discussed enjoy new music. But in every choice
by the very same papers that se, hung out with male he made, in every scandal that broke,
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INTERVIEW
{ Q & A }
NEVER
GOING
UNDERGROUND the North West region to bring the
pieces together to form the exhibition.
ETS OUT TO Items have come from personal
LE ABOUT OUR PAST BUT collections as well as from cultural
institutions. As a result, things that
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have never been seen by members
S S COMMUNITY CURATOR KIRSTY JUKES of the public before will feature
alongside pieces of art, historical
How much of creativity have been the driving forces artefacts, photography and a couple
the Never Going behind the vision for LGBT+ equality of recognisable pieces from pop
Underground and these are what the exhibition culture. The exhibition also covers a
campaign has been draws upon. vast time period — the oldest piece on
forgotten or ignored Why is it important for LGBT+ people display being court records from 1625
by mainstream media to remember their political history? through to the present day.
and LGBT+ people? To make progress in times such as :e dVV^d e` ]RT\ eYV ac`Í]V `W dRj
The Never Going Underground these, it is very important to remember the Gay Liberation Front. Why do you
phrasing was used by the North West where we came from. Resting on the think this is?
Campaign for Lesbian and Gay Equality achievements of others and being The main difference between the
(NWCLGE) and adopted as a symbol complacent never works. And, as we NWCLGE and the Gay Liberation Front
SITTING PRETTY:
for its campaign against Section 28. A painting at the have seen from the ongoing backlash is that the former is local to the North
This was at a national march, rally and exhibition, and above against all sections of the LGBT+ West of England whereas the latter is a
left, the museum, and
festival in Manchester on 20 February a vintage equality community, we still have a way to go. global movement originating in the US.
1988. At that time it was huge, but poster, above right But if we learn our politics, we arm This means that the cultural and
for younger LGBT+ people, accessible `fcdV]gVd e` ÍXYe WfefcV `aacVddZ`_d historical impact of the latter is
resources about this and other intelligently. stronger because it has been visible to
movements are not as readily available From where have you sourced the more people. However, this exhibition
as they should be. So it’s a question exhibition? aims to support the preservation and
of re-education and we hope that this The exhibition focuses on the stories, presence of the UK’s — and in
exhibition and other events that the themes and issues of the UK’s LGBT+ particular the North West’s — role in
People’s History Museum has planned community. We’ve done extensive eYV ÍXYe W`c =83E cZXYed
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What can visitors expect to see? The exhibition runs from 25 February
Visitors will be able to see a varied until 3 September, from 10am to
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for them. Protest, representation, ourselves for the future. Resting on the Manchester. Suggested donation £5.
visibility, solidarity, a shared voice and achievements of others never works” phm.org.uk
MARCH 2017 21
22 MARCH 2017
INTERVIEW
MARCH 2017 25
OPINION
MAWAAN
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OPINION
To hell with
being able
to move
faster than
a speeding
bullet or
turn yourself
into a ball of
µDPHVLEO
RICHARDSON
would rather
be Britman
LEO IN
LA LA LAND
Brit in LA, I’ve learned, makes you difference. For all people know, you’re
a novelty. A lot of people love your posh as fuck. I was once asked if I knew
accent, but it also stops them from Prince Harry and could have got away
getting to know you in any real way. with saying yes if I’d wanted… I’m sure
You’re “the British guy” and it kind he hangs out with loads of people from
of ends there. “Say something in your Croydon.
accent,” you’ll be asked a lot. ¤You’re going to sound smart. An
:eR]d`^VR_dj`fÄcVX`Z_Xe`Í_U extension of the above, really. I got an
yourself, at some point, stuck at a party N, a U, a D and an E on my A-Levels
talking to someone while they try to and was convinced it was a sign I
WE’VE ALL ASKED OURSELVES the remember which neighbourhood they should work in porn. I’m certainly
question but if you could have any stayed in when they visited the UK. not an academic but somehow being
super power, what would it be? The They can’t because they were 15 at British makes anyone sound smarter,
strength to launch a Nissan Sunny at the time, and you really don’t care, so ham it up.
your worst enemy? Shoot webs of jizz but we’re all so f**king polite, so you ¤You’ll get discounts. If you’re
from your hands and dangle in front POWER STRANGER: go along with it. But that can happen really willing to whore yourself out,
of people’s windows while they get Leo reckons having anywhere, right? certain words, such as “please” and
a British accent in
undressed? America is a special Anyway, pretty hurts, blah, blah, blah “thank you” sound way more elegant
Or maybe you’d choose to be ability but whether but, on the whole, being a Brit in LA in a British accent. I was recently
Cheetos’ breath helps
invisible so you can hang out with is open to question
(or anywhere in the USA) is a great having brunch at a restaurant and the
Ryan Reynolds all day, without fawning experience. waiter gave me 10 per cent off my bill
all over him. So, I wanted to put together a little because he liked my accent and “I was
:ÄU]Z\Ve`SVRS]Ve`ÎjSVTRfdV:YRgV list of the “blessings,” in the hope of so nice.” This said, I’m always good to
Virgin Upper Class taste but Ryanair helping you, my British friends, when waiters because I used to be one.
money. Think how much cash you’d you visit my second home. So here ¤Last, and best of all: you are going
save if you didn’t have to pay for trains, goes. to get laid! If, like me, you grew up
planes and taxis. with a boner for Zack from Saved by the
Anyway, unfortunately, I don’t ¤Class is left behind. If you’re like Bell, then clearly you have a severe
have any of those super powers and I me, and your accent is way more Adele weakness for Americans — and the
presume you don’t either. But I do have than it is Benedict Cumberbatch, don’t feeling is often mutual. Whether you’re
another one — and it’s one that only worry — no one in the US can tell the genuinely cute and/or charming, or
works in America. just an item to be ticked off on
I have a British accent. “IF, LIKE ME, YOU GREW UP WITH A someone’s bucket list, who cares? Your
OK, it’s kind of shit compared with BONER FOR ZACK, FROM SAVED BY British milkshake will bring all the
some of the above but it’s something, boys to the yard. So get out there and
THE BELL, THEN CLEARLY YOU HAVE A
and I like to compare it to a super enjoy your second-rate super power!
power because, as all superheroes
SEVERE WEAKNESS FOR AMERICANS
know, it’s a blessing and a curse. — AND THE FEELING IS OFTEN MUTUAL. Twitter: @leo_richardson
Yes, the struggle is real. Being a SO YOU ARE GOING TO GET LAID” instagram.com/leo_richardson
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OPINION
VALENTINE’S DAY
If you’re in a
relationship, treat
him well! If you’re
single… it’s the best
night of the year to
hit a gay bar
PAUL FLYNN
UP TOM HARDY
AS BOND
Come on Babs
Broccoli: we
wanna be
shaken not Swapping all the slimming tips of the stars for mental
stirred!
gymnastics has taken a huge weight off my mind
GOLDFRAPP
New music on the
JANUARY 2017 has come and gone,
way! We’ve heard it “A SLY INNER MONOLOGUE TELLS ME I’LL DIE
and it’s gorge and I’m looking at the lonely DVD
stand in Tesco. Most of the discs
YOUNGER THAN THOSE GEORDIE LASSES
DAME ANNA are cheap and star affable, relatable WHO TRIUMPHED OVER THEIR UPBRINGING”
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Fashion royalty of persuading us all how easy it is to YR]W_R\VUTYR_XZ_Xc``^dV]ÍVd`_
earns The Queen’s lose weight — a deception I’ve never Instagram. This mental tussle then
respect. (She has
quite bought into. expands as a sly inner monologue
the other queens on
There is Scarlett from Gogglebox in tells me I’ll die younger than those
her side already)
Xj^hVRcacVR_Ua`de^fWÍ_e`a lovely Geordie lasses who betrayed
2017 OPTIMISM makeover. Next to her is Charlotte R_UecZf^aYVU`gVceYVZc^VReR_U
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on this one yet eYcVV^Z_feVSf^S]ZekÀh`cUdeYRe Finally, I totter off to buy cat food,
are likely to be misinterpreted round bleach and other domestic essentials.
these parts. ut will wait another year.
7`ceYV^`cV^Rec`_]jR I get home, on every news
aged (me, I guess) there is re is a bulletin about men
{ U P & D OW N } Kelly looking yogic, much h my exact habits falling
WHAT WE’RE ROCKING than she was. Lest this be `heYReZW5R__j5jVc
AND BLOCKING a woman thing, YouTube `ceYReÍeViTcZT\VeVc
and living advert for what _XjVgVccV]VRdVRÍe_Vdd
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aspects of being young, m `c^V_^jRXVZ]]dVcgVU
heterosexual, Joe Wicks is neurotic body industry
THE OSCARS
muscles tightened. omises to impart so many
It’s just not the same
I cannot rid myself of th al, transformational secrets
without Joan Rivers.
Amy Schumer… time feeling that but for the ch `ceTfeeZ_XeYVd]Zac`RUe`
to step up hashtags this could be 198 tiveness.
They could all be demente calming thought that
THERESA MAY ScVR\WRdeEGaZaVT]VR_Vc Pratt was so much hotter
IN VOGUE =ZkkZVEYVd`_XcV^RZ_de Parks and Recreation years,
What next, Melania same. he was carrying his extra
Trump in Good Collectively, there is a ki er, before Hollywood got its
Housekeeping?
of demonic energy to their ^Zeed`_YZ^R_UdeRceVU
determination, bound only ng him against any of his
SLUT SHAMING
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not getting any who apparatus and a soundtrac t, begins to dissipate.
wag their fingers ^``UV_YR_TZ_Xec`aZTR] e ravaged by the real
remixes. It makes me winc hat dancing, one of the two
BODY SHAMING I stay until I am itchy at m activities I genuinely enjoy,
Like slut aversion to being told to d make me look like Ed Balls
shaming but lessons, of my own accord gnam Style, only balder
worse. Stop
living room, by someone f dV]WT`_dTZ`fd:deRce
right now! Thank
reality TV show or the int mum saying: “You look
you very much!
DOWN :YRgVeYVdR^VÍgV^Z_ ds that barely disguise their
REALITY existential crisis I have eve y Northern transposition —
We have decided the one where the voice in k fat.”
we exist in a David that says, “who can be bot on the sofa, open a good
Lynch-inspired with all that?” gently snugg k and a bag of crisps, pour
dystopian parallel up against the actual boili f fortifying Pinot, and do
universe. Which fear of turning into the me thing I do at this time
might explain
kind of desperado, in his ear. January 2018 it is for
our optimism
forties, who wants to put hÍe_VddcVXZ^V¹
MARCH 2017 31
INTERVIEW
WHEN JAMIE
JAMIE CAMPBELL WAS ONLY 16 YEARS OLD
when he caused a commotion by going to his
school prom in full drag. Six years and one BBC
documentary later, his story has been adapted
into a musical, Everybody’s Talking About Jamie,
featuring original songs by The Feeling’s Dan
Gillespie Sells.
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Theatre, by John McCrea but, although the actor
has spent years developing the role, he has never
met the real-life inspiration behind it. Until now.
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ahead of opening night. We meet for an early-
morning coffee at the Ku Bar in Soho and I walk
into what feels like a slightly awkward Tinder date:
John knows Jamie probably as well as Jamie knows
himself.
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both seem a little tentative, luckily “real Jamie”
isn’t at a loss for words. “Drag back then,” he says,
32 MARCH 2017
“especially where I am from in County
Durham, was looked down on, but I just
really wanted to do it. It’s where Billy
Elliot was set, so you can imagine...”
The parallels between actual Jamie
R_UÍTeZ`_R]TYZ]UUR_TVc3Z]]jRcV_ÄeR
million miles apart — both are northern,
both working-class, both born to be
WRSf]`fd3fe3Z]]jÄdÁdVTcVeÂhRd_`e
revealed anywhere near as dramatically
as Jamie’s.
The prom was his debut outing in
drag, and he says: “What better way
to tell everyone you want to be a drag
queen than to do it at a spectacular
occasion?”
3feWc`^hYVcVUZUd`^V`_Vd`j`f_X
draw inspiration? “I loved The Adventures
of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. That was
^jÍcdeV_T`f_eVchZeYUcRX`_Í]^
but I was inspired by the old-school drag
in the clubs. That’s what it’s like up
there. You’d
go on holiday
MET “JAMIE”
and see drag
acts. It was
fabulous. I’d
done drag in
the house —
dressing up in
mum’s clothes and trying make-up, but
only a couple of people knew.”
Jamie, today wearing a divine candy
pink and denim ensemble, exudes
T`_ÍUV_TVSfe:TR_`_]jZ^RXZ_VeYV
courage it must have taken school-age
Jamie to rock up in a frock.
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myself up for a fail. I worried that I
wasn’t even going to get in, I thought I’d
get turned away. I wasn’t expecting the
reaction I got, with everyone coming up
to me and supporting me. It took me
aback,” he says.
;R^ZVcVRTYVU`fee`eYV334SVTRfdV
he felt telling his story might help
others. “I thought if I could help even
one other person, it was worth being
a martyr,” he laughs. “They came and
made the documentary and it was what
it was.”
The documentary, Jamie: Drag Queen at
16,RZcVU`_334$Z_#!""Á:hRdcVRUj
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honestly, out of thousands of messages I
received after the show, only a handful
were negative. So many people told me
I’d helped them on their journey.”
After the show aired, Jamie continued
to do drag on the club scene up north
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¤Sex Ed Attitude ¤YouTube panel: ¤Mock assessment ¤Sexpression workshop ¤Being me panel”:
panel: obviously we’re Check out Riydah centre: If your course is on consent: This is Talking about
leading with this one. K, Saskia and Lily, nearing an end and you’re important. There’s still no intersectionality, being
Come and listen to Fox and Owl starting to worry about compulsory sex education happy in yourself and
Attitude editor Cliff discussing landing a job, this is the taught in schools, so the multiple identities
Joannou (right) bullying, as well place to practise your come and check out these that make up the LGBT+
talk love, sex and as YouTube interview skills — with student-taught lessons, community.
the failings of as a support the help of top brands and learn how to say “no”.
current sex ed. network. including IBM and 02. studentpride.co.uk
MARCH 2017 37
MUSIC
AUSTRA
Future Politics
¤“All I ever
wanted was to
be a gay band,” lead vocalist
Katie Stelmanis once said. But
on third album Future Politics,
the Canadian synthpop outfit
have made a record that’s
both political and overtly
queer, sitting neatly alongside
ANOHNI’s Hopelessness. And
TOP(PING) OF it’s just as beautiful. Lead single
Utopia sparkles with hope for
the future, Gaia is a climate
THE PO change call via Kraftwerk, and
standout track We Were Alive is
a lush call to arms.
JAMES BARR GORGES ON AN ALL-YOU-CAN-EAT ED SHEERAN BUFFET 20 January. 4&
VARIOUS
HAVE YOU EVER been chatting up is a little loop pedal banger that will ARTISTS
RÁY`eU`^e`aÂ`_]je`Í_U`fe"& change your dating life, if you can get Fifty Shades
minutes into the exchange that he’s over the slightly sick-in-the-mouth Darker; OST
got a wife? line: “my bedsheets smell of you”.
It’s like being at Pizza Hut. You wait Please wash them. ¤Say what you like about the
ages for the waiter to bring you that If you’re spending Valentine’s with or movie, but the first Fifty Shades
little plate so you can face palm the without bae, you’ll love the new zone- soundtrack was hotter than a
half-price bondage sale at Ann
all-you-can-eat buffet but when you get out anthem from singer-songwriter
Summers. Beyoncé is sadly
there, there’s no meat feast! queen Dua Lipa. Be The One is a fresh
absent this time, but they’ve
Luckily man-crush-everyday Ed deep house vibe and Dua’s vocals whipped out Zayn and Taylor’s
Sheeran is back with loads of new channel an ethereal heartache not breathy duet, Live Forever,
music for us to feast on and it’s his heard since Jessie Ware’s If You’re Never Nicky Minaj and Nick Jonas’
SVde^ReVcZR]jVe9VÍ_ZdYVUhcZeZ_X Gonna Move. Dua was nominated for made-for-each-other earworm
his new album ÷ while on tour in the Brits Critics’ Choice award this year Bom Bidi Bom, plus a healthy
#!"&Castle On The Hill is a coming-of- and, after playing Glastonbury and on spanking of hot new tracks by
age throwback that helps us revert to Jimmy Fallon’s show in the States last the likes of Sia and Tove Lo.
Bound to leave a mark...
TYZ]UY``U`fcÍcde\ZddR_UeYReeZ^V year, it’s pretty clear she’s Hotter than 3&
10 February
we threw up after way too many shots. Hell and getting hotter.
Someone hold my hair. Hit-maker Jax Jones has had a killer
If you’re bored of online-dating deRcee`#!"(9Zd_Vhf_UVcXc`f_U
LAURA
banter that goes exactly like this: “hey house tune with powerhouse vocalist
HOT: Main picture, MARLING
how r u?” “got pics?”... *aubergine* Dua Lipa; top, Ed Raye has already hit number one on Semper Femina
“no, I mean face pics,” then you’ll love Sheeran; above, Shazam, blown up across Europe,
Jax Jones
Shape Of You. Ed has this incredible R_Ude`c^VUe`^`cVeYR_#&!!!! ¤Releasing
ability to speak from the soul about streams. If you’re currently living your her sixth album just a month
modern-day dating, and when it comes best single life, You Don’t Know Me is after she turns 27 shows that
e`eYVÍcdeUReVYVÄd\VVaZ_XZecVR]+ about as sassy as walking into a club Marling’s productivity knows
he’s at an all-you-can-eat. The track afcdVÍcde no bounds. Gender is the
Have you ever been hot with overriding theme on this one
(the title is Latin for “always
d`^V`_V`_eYVUR_TVÎ``cSfea]`e
PSST! a woman”). The nine tracks
twist, the lights come up and all you are gorgeous, acoustic-heavy
really want is your bed? Then check observations on womanhood
out my favourite new song, Lights Out with fiercely intelligent lyrics.
South East London’s answer to Lauryn (Too Drunk). US producer DJ Katch Opener Soothing is catchy AF,
Hill, Ray BLK (which stands for building, throws down full Major Lazer trumpets Wild Fire is pure Bob Dylan,
learning, knowing) topped the BBC while Halsey delivers the most brutal and Wild Once is folk-pop at its
Music Sound Of 2017 list. Check out her cock tease ever. And if you need a trap most exquisite.
performance of My Hood, on Jools Holland. beat to hit the gym to, check out Tyga 10 March 4&
& Kanye’s new tune, Feel Me.
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APP
ROVED 2017
Transforms from rocker, to high chair to nursery chair or rocking chair
FILMS
”I’m having the foie
gras, a dozen oysters
and the lobster
thermidor. What are
you getting?”
40 MARCH 2017
BOOKS
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MARCH 2017 41
JOIN THE CLUB
cultu club
Homoerotic artist TOM OF FINLAND wasn’t just any Tom, Dick or Harry
Although in his later years Laaksonen gay scene, and although Laaksonen’s UcRhZ_X YZd ^^V_e WITH
distanced himself from fascism men are genetically impossible, that on the masculin pes he C U LT U R E
and racism (he drew many black doesn’t stop the aesthetic from being witnessed. He didn t ate them. CLUB
characters), he also admitted: “of #goals. The muscles, hairy chests, His legacy is the Tom of Finland To have your say
course I drew them…they have the beards, leather and boots are all Foundation, which campaigns for the on next month’s
sexiest uniforms!” As Madonna pointed engrained in the way many of us see — preservation of all erotic art. And his subject, Gregg
Araki’s 2004 film
out following the release of her Sex or would like to see — ourselves. work now hangs in New York’s
Mysterious Skin,
book (many images directly inspired, Given that this month’s Attitude is Museum of Modern Art, cementing its tweet us your
I’d argue, by Laaksonen’s work), sexual our Body issue, I question how healthy place in the ongoing discussion about thoughts
fantasy cannot be censored. it is to aspire to looking like a cartoon where the ever-shifting line between @JunoDawson
A trip to XXL or Brut (I’m not allowed TRcZTRefcVSfeRd^fdT]VYRdÍc^]j porn and art lies.
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STAR MAN: Nile
performs a tribute
to David Bowie with
Lady Gaga at last
year’s Grammys
46 MARCH 2017
BGF
{ THE CREDENTIALS }
I-MADGE-INATION:
Nile with Madonna
in the Eighties. She
changed music,
he says
Date of Birth: 19
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September 1952.
to have one or two songs that people
Place of Birth:
New York City. would remember. Live performances
Best Known For: RcVÎVVeZ_XJ`fa]RjeYV^j`fYRgV
Being a founder a great time and, hopefully, everyone
member of Chic, goes home with a good memory. The
writing hits for truth is that the only people who get to
the band such share it are the people in that room. But
as Le Freak, and songs live well beyond a performance.
collaborating with
:Ä^acVeejTVceRZ_eYReWe Are Family
the likes of Bowie,
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Madonna and
Diana Ross. Yf^Z]ZejÀhZ]]SVRc`f_U]`_XRWeVc:Ä^
Least Known dead and gone. People may not know
For: He began eYRe:hc`eVZeSfeZehZ]]SVRc`f_U
his career as a Do you think today’s pop stars are as
guitarist with the colourful and interesting as they were
Sesame Street in the Seventies and Eighties?
band — he calls :eYZ_\d`jVRYHY`ÄdRSZXa`adeRc
his instrument The
hY`Zd_ÄeZ_eVcVdeZ_X03Vj`_T~ZdacVeej
Hitmaker — and
damn interesting, Bruno Mars is pretty
was a member of
the Black Panthers damn interesting... There are a lot of
— once branded people at the top of the food chain who
REX FEATURES
MARCH 2017 47
BIG ONES, SMALL ONES,
SKINNY ONES, TALL
ONES. THERE ARE ALL
SORT OF BODY SHAPES
AND SIZES AND THEY
CAN ALL BE GORGEOUS
AND DESIRABLE. JUST
REMEMBER TO KEEP
IT REAL...
WORDS: CLIFF JOANNOU
PHOTOGRAPHS: VICTOR HENSEL-COE
How did you feel being
photographed naked?
Really good. I didn’t
LE GATEAU
want to do it at first,
CHOCOLAT
but I suppose this was
a defiant response on
PERFORMER,
my part to “no fats, no
AUTEUR, DRAG ARTISTE,
femmes, no Asians”. We
OPERA SINGER
need to represent variety. The
gay community is a marginalised
minority, but we are incredibly fascistic when it comes
to our bodies. We’re awful. The other extreme is: “have
you got a big cock?” Then there’s size, which makes me
bear, then there are chasers as well. That’s what
ou’re bombarded with, for a long time you
kowtow to that kind of thinking: to be
accepted or excel, I have to sit squarely in
that expectancy. That made me deeply
unhappy. It’s part of what spread my
depression, being subliminally informed
that you’re not enough.
When did you begin to move from that
depression towards accepting yourself and
realising you deserve love?
I don’t think you ever get there, to an end point. I
think it’s a work in progress. Some days are exhausting
and some days you feel like Wonder Woman. But if you
think about how those epithets are born, if you only have
that abb’ed muscular jock, twinky image represented, then
it’s just viable that when you go on those apps you don’t want
anything other than what you’ve been fed. I think it’s part of our
responsibility to speak out and use a platform and showcase reality.
Not everyone lives to have three per cent body fat, and that’s not
derogatorily speaking about those that make that paradigm. But
there are so many more of us.
How important is your body to your work?
I started in clubs in Brighton in 2008. At the time I was much bigger
than I am now, and there was no hiding it. Most of my outfits were
skin-tight Lycra, which was a conscious decision on my part to
embrace and say: “this is what I’ve got to work with”. I think part of engaging with that
denial and depression was largely putting Gateau on the stage. I was using my body as
a tool and the things I was saying on stage fed into my life, and my courage to embrace
my body on stage enforced the idea of who I was in my life as well.
When you look at yourself in the mirror, would you say you’re not just looking at a
physical being but a much bigger picture?
Absolutely, it’s the whole thing. Some people don’t look at the whole thing, they only
look at the body. I think there’s a level of dysmorphia that I have, or people have, when
you’ve lived as a product of people’s projections. Hopefully, doing things such as this
shoot says to people that they don’t have to be perfect. You’ve got to embrace the
idea that you are enough.
50 MARCH 2017
RAY NOIR How long have you been in
music?
ARTIST A couple of years. I work
with Frankmusik, he
produced my first single.
Were you nervous about this
shoot?
I’m not too comfortable being naked.
Not around people. Is anybody happy
with their body? I’m not one of those
people who take off their clothes
and show off. I guess something like
this might help to improve my self-
esteem.
Do you compare yourself with other
guys?
I guess when you see other guys
you get conscious of how you look,
because it’s in the media or on
Facebook all the time.
You use your body in a different way
with your tattoos, as a piece of art.
When did you get your first tattoo?
When I was 16. Then it escalated and
became more and more extreme. It’s
both planned and spontaneous. A
lot of it is musical or just dark. Like
the Manson logos. Lyrics, too. For
me it’s aesthetic. I find anything
that’s extreme more attractive,
in a way. Like those tribes
with the long neck rings.
Has anyone reacted
negatively to you?
I’ve had people say they
don’t know where to look,
but no, not really. I get more
positive comments.
When people see your body, do
they have an expectation of the
person you should be?
Maybe they think I’m more crazy than
I am. I’m actually quite shy. I think
they see me as quite outrageous but
I’m not really — although I’m more
outgoing when I’m out and drinking.
“I WANTED TO LOOK A CERTAIN WAY, A MUSCLE
MARY, BIGGER TYPE. THERE ARE WORSE THINGS
TO BE ADDICTED TO. BUT YOU ALSO HAVE THE
ADDED PRESSURE WITH INSTAGRAM, THAT
CONSTANT GOAL OR DESIRE TO ASPIRE TO”
What have been you personal career
highlights?
Tours with the Pet Shop Boys
and Robbie Williams were pretty
amazing, and appearing as
Bernado in West Side Story.
As a dancer, your body is
central to what you do, having
to look good and staying
healthy. Is there a pressure to
look a certain way as a gay
man that goes against what
you do as dancer?
Yeah, 100 per cent. Because I
wanted to look a certain way as
part of the gay scene, or what
I thought the boys wanted, as
a Muscle Mary, bigger type. I
started to work towards that for
a few years, but it wasn’t until
I came out of that obsession
that I saw that. There are worse
things to be addicted to, but you
also have the added pressure with
Instagram, that constant goal or
desire to aspire to, which is not easy
to achieve.
Did trying to look a certain way
affect the roles you were cast for?
No, because I never got too big.
But I did notice certain clients were
starting to point it out, especially on
the modelling side. And then those
jobs change because you don’t fit
into the clothes, But, again, I saw
myself as too small — the whole body
dysmorphia thing. I wanted to be
bigger and bigger.
How did you move away from that
way of thinking?
It happened when I moved
away from the scene and
stopped partying as much.
I went through a real stage MYLES BROWN
of enjoying the party. Again
that’s part of growing up, DANCER AND
in your twenties. It got a bit ACTOR
hardcore at one stage. At the
end of 2015, I realised I was
aspiring to a standard that wasn’t
important to me any more When
I came out of that, I realised that’s
not what I was aspiring to at all.
What’s important is being heathy and
enjoying the gym again.
@mylesbrownskin
Last year you went from being in the
closet to taking it all off for the
Red Hot calendar!
To be honest, since coming out my
life has changed completely. My
friends say that my confidence shot
up. Obviously, Red Hot happened and
then there were other opportunities,
such as a pilot episode for a comedy
series, based in Manchester. I’d never
done acting before but somebody
offered me a part. And there were
various photoshoots that I wouldn’t
have had the confidence to do before
coming out.
Why did you say yes to this shoot?
Having been involved in Red Hot, this
tackles a lot of very similar issues,
such as how we view our bodies, and
looks at whether we have insecurities
about our sexuality or anything else.
I know it sounds cheesy, but we’re all
beautiful no matter what shape, size
or colour we are. It’s sending out a
very similar message. For me, being
involved with Red Hot changed how
I view myself.
When you look in the mirror, are you
happy with what you see?
I don’t think we’re ever 100 per cent
happy, there’s always something we
don’t like about ourselves. I guess
that’s quite normal because you’re
with yourself all the time so you
critique that. But I guess I’m a lot
happier than I was.
Your hair colour really sets you
apart, which is what Red Hot is
all about: celebrating redheads
in a way that hadn’t happened
“GROWING UP, I KNEW
before. Had you had any negative SOMETHING WAS
experiences around that? DIFFERENT. I GUESS
For me, it was more about how I
viewed myself. Growing up, I knew
I DIDN’T REALLY
something was different. I guess I FIT IN BECAUSE OF
didn’t really fit in because of those THOSE DIFFERENCES,
differences, because of my skin
and hair. You can’t really compare
BECAUSE OF MY SKIN
it with race, but there are elements AND HAIR”
that anybody who feels
different feels left out
— especially as a
teenager when
you’re trying to
be accepted
and be a part of
JONNY WRYNNE
something. No
matter what your
ARCHITECT
differences are,
they can push you
away. But now I see
these differences are
an asset, and now I like to
stand out. I guess that comes
with age and experience.
MARCH 2017 53
What does being a professional
gardener entail?
My brand is Mr Plant Geek which
is trying to explain about plants to
people who want to be gardeners at
home, or test what their green fingers
are like for the first time. In my
career, I’ve introduced about
500 brand new plants to
the UK.
Your connection
to the plants is MICHAEL PERRY, AKA
intrinsically a MR PLANT GEEK
connection to
nature. Does that GARDENING
transfer to your ENTREPRENEUR and I haven’t
body? mastered the hotel
I’m so aware of what room workout yet.
you need to do to keep Is it more important for
yourself healthy, such as good you to feel good, than to
carbs where you can get fibre. I’ve look good?
always got things like goji berries and I would say so, but it’s nice to look
almonds in my pocket. good as well. I’m aware I’m a brand
Are you comfortable being naked? but I also want to be realistic, not
Part of the charity fund-raising I’ve just to myself, because when a
done meant being naked on Loose guy looks completely perfect
Women. For quite a few years now it’s a little bit of a turn off. Also,
I’ve wanted to push myself and to actually look that way is really
not say no to anything. If I wasn’t bloody difficult and I don’t want a
comfortable naked I wouldn’t have life that’s really regimented.
this experience today and develop in
the way I’m going to. I don’t want to @mr_plantgeek
be scared of anything. mrplantgeek.com
Do you work out much?
I was doing a lot of CrossFit until the
middle of last year, but since then
my schedule has been crazy with
travelling, meetings, trade shows,
different presenting jobs on the road
“IF I WASN’T
COMFORTABLE NAKED,
I WOULDN’T HAVE THIS
EXPERIENCE TODAY
AND DEVELOP IN THE
WAY I’M GOING TO.
I DON’T WANT TO BE
SCARED OF ANYTHING”
54 MARCH 2017
What do you do for work?
Marketing and PR are predominantly
my main job. I’ve been an LGBT+ news
reporter for OUT TV in Canada, and for
Pink Sixty News. I became Mr Gay Wales
last year, then in the Czech Republic
they made me Mr Gay Universe. I also
campaign with Pride Cymru. chord wrapped around my neck and
Why did you enter Mr Gay Wales? started to choke me. Supposedly I put my
I saw it on Facebook. I was doing Pink hand there which saved my life, but it also
Sixty at the time and was finding out stopped the growth of my hand.
about a lot of what was going on in the Were you insecure about it?
world. I thought, you know what, I’m I’d say that 99.9 per cent of the time I’m
going to go for this because I’m bold and positive about the way I look. But there
brash and I wondered if they’d pick me are points in my life when I’ve hesitated
up. Having one hand means I’m not the because of my stump. A teacher actually
typical beauty pageant person. I don’t told my best friend to stop bothering with
have ripped abs but do have a great set me because my disability was going to
of boobies on me, so it was to challenge stop me getting on in life. Going into the
the stereotype. It was also entertainment industry can be harsh, as
to bring to the forefront are beauty pageants. It’s human nature to
that within the judge too soon, but my thing is to break
LGBT+ community down those barriers.
is a disabled Do you get tired of talking about the fact
PAUL DAVIES community. that you have only one hand? I mean it’s
Were you born just “life” for you, isn’t it?
MR GAY WALES with one hand? It’s normal life for me, but for other people
Yes. My umbilical that I meet, if I can educate them, then it’s
great. It’s no different to you talking about
being gay to a straight person.
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MARCH 2017 57
“I WORKED ON A BUILDING
SITE, HAD BIG PECS AND A
SKINNY WAIST. WHAT SOME
PEOPLE TRAIN ENDLESSLY
FOR, I NATURALLY HAD —
AND I HATED IT”
MARK AMES
OWNER AND
When did FOUNDER OF I liked were bigger, more portly.
you start NIGHTCLUB XXL I guess that’s the background
XXL? I had, growing up in a working-
September, class environment. Often, what you
2000. It was desire is what you want to look like.
inspired by the fact that there was When I used to go into purely bear
a lack of facilities for people either places they were very anti anybody
large or over the age of 35. The scene who didn’t fit. I regard some bears
was very fragmented. People didn’t out there in the way that I regard
really mix. Going to clubs such as some Muscle Marys with their body
Trade and DTPM, as you got older, facism. There is no wrong. My whole
felt strange. Going to Europe and attitude is, if you’re happy with your
New York, I discovered places that body, if you’re fit enough to do what
catered for older people. you want, what is the problem with
The club has continued to evolve being fat, short, big, skinny, hairy or
since then. hairless? Yes, XXL is a place for bears,
I have evolved as a promoter and and I primarily worry whether they
so have the facilities. But from will come, but I won’t tell somebody
the first week, I remember giving they can’t come in because they’re
memberships to an 18 year old muscled and hairless. What unites us
and an 80 year old. There’s less is our sexuality. That’s why I use the
choice out there now, but with our tag line, “One club fits all”. It’s about
marketing, we’ve opened things up to breaking down those barriers. There
more people. are people far more sexually exciting
How important is your physique to even though they’re big, and I know
how you view yourself? big dancers who can move better
Totally. I don’t think being fat or thin than any skinny bitch out there. My
GROOMING: NIBRAS AL-WASITI, FATIN HASADO. PHOTOGRAPHY ASSISTANT: JEFFREY WORTHINGTON
58 MARCH 2017
What do you love CHRIS KANG
about rugby?
While I enjoy the 1ST XV CENTRE,
physicality of the sport, KINGS CROSS
it’s the camaraderie and STEELERS RFC
brotherhood in rugby that I
love the most — particularly in
the gay rugby world. The Kings
Cross Steelers RFC was the first gay
rugby team when it was founded more
than 20 years ago. Now there are more
than 70 gay rugby clubs worldwide.
What does “masculine” mean to you?
There was a time when how you spoke,
dressed or looked defined the sort of man
you might be. But that notion has become
so outdated now, particularly when I think
about the diverse men who play for the
Steelers. Just because you can bench
press loads of weight and walk around
saying “bro” doesn’t make you masculine
— just as it doesn’t for me by playing
rugby. Confidence to be yourself and
having a sense of responsibility, I think,
is what takes balls. That is what is most
interesting and sexy.
What judgments do others make about
you based on your physical appearance?
It can be difficult being a visible minority
in the gay community, and it used to bug
me much more when guys would use
the whole “no Asians” line because of
some sort of ridiculous preconceptions
they had. I’ve learned to keep it all in
perspective: I’m a sane, sorted guy who
lives and works in one of the best cities in
the world. I can also cook up a kick-ass jar
of home-made spicy kimchi. To be honest,
it’s their loss.
Do you feel accepted by the gay “CONFIDENCE TO
community?
I don’t think I’m the type of person who
BE YOURSELF AND
needs acceptance but I’m proud that I’ve HAVING A SENSE OF
gained the respect and friendship of so RESPONSIBILITY, I
many of my teammates on the Steelers.
There’s no better feeling than playing
THINK, IS WHAT TAKES
sports with your friends, then sharing BALLS. THAT IS WHAT
pints at the bar and celebrating IS MOST INTERESTING,
a great day afterwards. It’s a
unique sense of belonging
AND SEXY”
that I’m honoured to
have.
@scruffycanasian
www.kxsrfc.com
“I DIDN’T THINK MUCH OF
How important is your body to what
you do?
MY BODY UNTIL I SAW AN
It’s relevant. We can’t make it not IMAGE OF TOM OF FINLAND,
relevant because of what’s forced THAT’S WHAT MADE ME
down our throat on a daily basis by
the media, TV and film. Body building
CHANGE MY AESTHETIC”
was something you aspired to as
niche in the Seventies and Eighties.
Now there’s an industry for men’s
health and cosmetics. It’s important
for me to look how I want to look. I
didn’t think much of my body until
I saw an image of Tom of Finland,
that’s what made me change my
aesthetic. I had big nipples as a
kid. I remember clearly going into
the shower and one of the kids
turned around and laughed at
me. I never showered again with
anyone. until I was at university.
Now it’s something you’re
known for.
Celebrated! Whatever the
scene: straight, gay or fetish.
But it took me quite a while
before I decided “fuck it,
that’s part of me”. I used
to find it unnerving if
someone came up to
me and touched me. It’s
still quite abrupt and
rude, if I haven’t invited
you to do that. If you
do that to a woman,
it’s called assault. I’d
rather give out an
invitation first.
You mentioned Tom
of Finland.
Thankfully, I know
that’s a fantasy,
otherwise I’d be 20
stone, on steroids,
and trying to get to
that dream state
of untouchable
reach. But it’s the
ROY INC
aesthetics I love,
you can pick what
SINGER, SONGWRITER,
you like. My nipples
PERFORMER AND
were already there,
PRODUCER
but I’ve accentuated
and enhanced them.
But in that aesthetic I found
a home that didn’t point and laugh,
it was celebrated. And I had at least
an eighth of that fantasy. A lot of
gay men do that. We have to find
ourselves so we become an internal
fantasy. One of the biggest things in
life, no matter who you are, is to say
who you are and to stand by that.
royinc.co.uk
MAY 2017 10 ST ALBANS ALBAN ARENA
31 BIRMINGHAM TOWN HALL 11 BRIGHTON THEATRE ROYAL
JUNE 2017 14 NORWICH PLAYHOUSE
03 LEEDS TOWN HALL 15 NORWICH PLAYHOUSE
04 SALFORD LOWRY 16 CAMBRIDGE CORN EXCHANGE
06 JERSEY OPERA HOUSE 17 NEWCASTLE TYNE THEATRE & OPERA HOUSE
09 READING HEXAGON THEATRE 18 GLASGOW THEATRE ROYAL
DO YOU ENJOY LOOKING AT HOT
BODIES IN MAGAZINES BUT FEEL
THEY PRESSURISE YOU TO AIM FOR
THE UNATTAINABLE? TO DISTINGUISH
FANTASY FROM REALITY, OUR
EDITOR-IN-CHIEF MATT CAIN STRIPS
OFF FOR A REAL BODIES SPECIAL
— AND REVEALS WHAT MAGAZINES
CAN DO TO HIDE IMPERFECTIONS
WORDS: MATT CAIN // PHOTOGRAPHS: MARKUS BIDAUX
REAL
62
BODIES MARCH 2017
for around 30 seconds;
¤ I love my hair colour this is managed by a
because it’s rare for pacemaker, which kicks in
someone to be so whenever my heart cuts
naturally blonde
THE and it makes me
out (fortunately, the scar
POSITIVES stand out from
has faded).
In addition, I’m allergic
the crowd.
to one type of penicillin,
¤ At 6ft 3in, I’ve
grown to like my which has nearly killed me
height and the sense of twice. Even my eyesight
authority this brings. is bad and for years I had
¤ I like the musculature to wear thick glasses until
of my arms and abs the technology behind
although the older I get, laser treatment advanced
the more difficult it is enough to correct it.
to keep these looking
I used to joke with my
good.
parents that of their three
children I was the runt
of the litter. But behind
the jokes, my feelings about my body were coloured by
frustration, resentment and sometimes even anger. When I
discovered the gym in my twenties I did what many gay men
do and tried to block out some of these negative feelings by
over-exercising. As I began to see results, I was seduced by
the positive comments my body started to draw.
Although I managed not to become addicted to this new
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over into any kind of body dysmorphia, I did come close
enough to feel an empathy with people who suffer from
these issues.
After years of hating or resenting your body, I understand
how easy it is to surrender your sense of happiness to the
adrenaline rush that comes with seeing evidence that your
physical form is improving. Since turning 40, I’ve developed
a much healthier relationship with my body. I now run far
more often than I go to the gym and no longer follow fad
diets or cut out carbohydrates.
All right, I sometimes have to check myself when posing
for holiday photos, when I realise I’m spending far too long
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But, broadly speaking, I’m now happy with the way I look.
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BODIES MARCH 2017 63
show my body as it really is, and discuss the way it makes
me feel — both good and bad.
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as an able-bodied person, I’m much luckier than some —
and have a lot for to be thankful for.
Since starting work at Attitude I’ve been forced to examine
my relationship with my body once more. As I’ve told people
about my new job, I’ve been reminded how much anger is
directed at magazines for promoting a body image many
people see as unrealistic. And our body survey proves how
much readers blame magazines for causing all kinds of
problems, from anxiety and depression to body dysmorphia
and so-called bigorexia (see p9). This isn’t something I want
to do at all but, on the other hand, it’s clear from our sales
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not only on the cover of the magazine but also inside it.
This being the case, I’m committed to giving you what
you want. But I’m also going to do the responsible thing and
show you what magazines can do to create a gorgeous body.
And to prove I’m serious about this, I’m showing you how
it’s done — on my own, imperfect body.
64 MARCH 2017
OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OUR BODIES CAN CONTINUE TO AFFECT OUR SENSE OF SELF-WORTH AS WE GET OLDER AND
START TO SEE OUR BODIES DEVIATE EVEN FURTHER FROM THE YOUTHFUL IDEAL PROMOTED BY SOME MAGAZINES
MARCH 2017 65
CK
ERSTO
SHUTT
66 MARCH 2017
THE MYTHS
AROUND SEX
&DISABILI
DESEXUALISED, INFANTALISED, FETISHISED AND
OSTRACISED — WHEN SOCIETY ISN’T IGNORING
THE SEX LIVES OF DISABLED PEOPLE, IT JUST
GETS EVERYTHING WRONG. MYTHS RANGE FROM
THE IDEA THAT DISABLED PEOPLE RELY ON SEX
WORKERS, TO THEM NOT BEING ABLE TO LEAD
HEALTHY SEX LIVES AT ALL. IT’S MORE COMPLEX
FOR DISABLED GAY MEN, WHO HAVE TO CONTEND
WITH THE OVERT BODY IDEALS OF THE SCENE
AND THE HARSH NATURE OF DATING APPS
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PEOPLE ARE STILL INFANTALISED, PATRONISED, DESEXUALISED OR FETISHISED — SOMETIMES EVEN FEARED”
68 MARCH 2017
journalist Charles Donovan was left with a permanent
disability. When he walks he uses a cane, his gait is
uneven and there are visible scars on his back where he’s
had surgery. While he can’t say whether gay men are any
more or less accepting of the disabled community than
their straight counterparts, he’s certainly been exposed to
isolated incidents.
“The clearest experience of rejection I’ve had was rather
an odd situation where I was swimming in the sea,” says
Charles, recalling the time he spent on a Portuguese gay
beach last summer.
“A very attractive man swam up to me and started coming
on to me. I was very attracted back and we started kissing.
Then I started getting cold and decided to get out of the
water. I can swim, I’m not disabled when I swim, but as soon
as I’m walking it becomes very obvious.
“As we emerged from the water, he could not get away
quick enough.”
As far as ableism goes, it’s as clear-cut an incident as he’s
likely to encounter. Other experiences of rejection have
been more ambiguous and left Charles trying to work out
just how big a part his disability played. He suspects that the
negative spiral around the issue becomes a contrived coping
mechanism.
“It’s tempting to fall into a potential mind trap,” he says.
“In one fell swoop they’re the baddie because ‘they hate
disabled people’ and I don’t have to worry that it might be
to do with my facial features or my lack of sexual allure or
something else. It can all be pinned on my disability.
“It’s tempting, there’s almost a safety in it. In some ways it
might feel less hurtful than thinking ‘oh my God, they just
didn’t like me’. It could be just someone not fancying me
and that’s something we all have to come to terms with.”
Before his accident, Charles says he was a sexually
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his body, while fears around how sexual partners perceive
his disability have left him with performance anxiety. Over
time, he’s learnt to accept his body, to reject the social
stigma he’s absorbed and regain his self-esteem.
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he says. “I discovered that even at the worst point I could get
happy with my body quite quickly. I’m perfectly happy with
the way it is now, give or take a scar or two.”
MARCH 2017 69
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A THOUSAND NON-DISABLED
MEN WHETHER THEY USED A
SEX WORKER I DON’T THINK
YOU WOULD SEE MUCH, IF
ANY, DIFFERENCE”
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AS A BOY, MATT LISTER WAS MUCH
MORE HIRSUTE THAN ANY OF HIS
FRIENDS. ALTHOUGH THERE WERE
SOME ADVANTAGES, HE HATED THE
WILD GROWTH ON HIS BACK. BUT
— AFTER SOME HAIRY MOMENTS
TRYING TO GET RID OF IT — THE
ATTITUDE COLUMNIST AND CHAMPION
CANOEIST HAS LEARNT TO LOVE IT
PHOTOGRAPHS: MARKUS BIDAUX
74 MARCH 2017
“I WAS FINE WITH ALL MY HAIR MAKING ME LOOK OLDER
THAN MY FRIENDS, BUT WISHED MY HAIRY BACK WOULD GO
AWAY. I ASKED FOR LASER HAIR-REMOVAL FOR MY BIRTHDAY
— A PRESENT I NEVER GOT, THANK GOODNESS”
TAMING THE
A LITTLE BIT
OF ANCIENT
HAIRSTORY
While our early ancestors are routinely `feÍee`eYV`WÍTVeYcVVURjd
depicted as scraggly vagabonds, during in a row. But because beards were
the Ice Age wet facial hair was more of still seen as a sign of masculinity
a liability than an asset. So to combat and dignity, they just strapped
any frostbite problems, early humans STUBBBLE TROUBLE: a fake one on with string then
began pulling out their hairs using The Egyptian pharaohs topped the look off with a fresh
viewed facial hair as a
seashells as tweezers. Yep, seashells. sign of neglect
wig to protect them from the sun.
>Z_Uj`fÍ]Z_XU`h_eVVeYhRdR]d`R We’re sure that was a winning look.
popular pastime, so it’s all relative. However, in ancient Mesopotamia,
The Ancient Romans might have seen they were all about that real beard,
a lack of major body hair as some kind and those Assyrians, Sumerians, and
of terrible deformity, but the Egyptians skin. Just like twinks now, really. Some Phoenicians loved them long, thick,
were all about the “pretty boy” look. would even pluck out all of their and luxurious. Their regime would
They bathed several times a day and eyebrow hair and their eyelashes. OK, make your average drag queen blush:
maintained a strict regimen of shaving we don’t know many twinks who go they dyed their precious facial follicles
their bodies completely smooth (pubic that far. with henna, powdered them with gold-
hair included), using circular razors For the pharaohs, growing facial dust, wove them through with ribbons
and pumice stones, before massaging hair was viewed as a sign of personal and threads, and then curled them
perfumed oils and lotions into their neglect — akin to wearing the same into intricate, hanging tiers.
76 MARCH 2017
By the fourth century BC, the took off when Remington,
Egyptian art of grooming had made its a company best known
way north to Greece and Rome. Helped for inventing the same
in no small part by dashing bisexual QWERTY keyboard we
warmonger Alexander the Great, who use today, introduced
liked his troops silky-smooth: “It makes eYVÍcdeac`aVcV]VTecZT
it harder for the enemy to grab on to model in 1937. Thanks to
you during hand-to-hand combat,” FINE AND DANDY Remington, American men
he claimed. Sure, Alex, sure. Straight swooned over the dry-
razors were also now in use and ¤ Beau Brummell shave phenomenon and the
despite the danger of the odd nick or was the original company has been inventing
d]ZTVU[fXf]RcC`^R_^V_Î`T\VUe` dandy. Born in 1778, new and improved ways to
the barber shop — mainly because they he’s credited with tackle face and body hair
just loved a good gossip. introducing the ever since.
modern men’s suit to
Elsewhere in the world, shaving The 1960s really shook up
the world and, after
was heavily tied up with rituals of our grooming habits with
MODERN
inheriting a small
manhood. Ancient Hindu parents paid fortune, dedicated the introduction of both
SHAVING
a local barber anything from a couple his life to the art of home-waxing strips and
`WdYVVae`eh`Í_VdeR]]Z`_de`dYRgV being a spruced-up laser hair-removal although
their sons when they turned 16 — gentleman. He would it would take men a few
watched by the whole family, naturally. shave twice a day and more decades to embrace
And if you think you’ve got mother Grooming habits have changed over polish his shoes with either method, especially
issues, try being a member of Kenya’s the centuries, but it’s only quite champagne, but it all since the 1970s ushered
came crashing down
ancient Massai tribe. On a man’s 24th recently that the tools of the trade saw in a new era of long-hair-
when he racked up
birthday, mummy dearest would shave a dramatic improvement, loving hippies and billowing
gambling debts then
his head on the same cowhide he had taking us from tweezing fled to France, where bushes. Then came David
been circumcised on 10 years earlier. with clamshells to he died in a lunatic Bowie’s androgyny and the
Snip, snip. buzzing it all off with asylum. New Romantics, such as
bluetooth-enabled smart Boy George, who brought
shavers. In the late 1920s, femininity to the fore, as
electric razors came men began embracing
on to the scene. grooming on a level not seen since
They only really those ancient Egyptians. Elsewhere,
Arnie and Sly were dominating our
screens with shiny, bulging muscles,
and hair was out, out out.
EYVXc``^Z_XÍiReZ`_cVRTYVUZed
RENAISSANCEFOX logical conclusion with the birth of
the metrosexual in 1994, then the
¤ Michelangelo’s internet came along and people were
famous statue of seeing more smooth, ripped bodies
David caused quite a
than ever before and the battle
stir when it debuted. It
against body hair was on. The
signified both power
and vulnerability, but Bravo TV show, Queer Eye for the
HAIR TODAY, GONE
had genitals and pubic TOMORROW: from Straight Guy capitalised on the
hair on show at a time left, Boy George, trend, coining the word
Bowie and Arnie
when smooth was the “manscaping” and showing the
norm and prudishness average hetero guy what we gays
reigned. But the gay had been doing for years.
artist’s statue set the
ideal for male beauty
for centuries to come.
Sometimes it just
Kieran Tudor, Remington brand GET YOUR What is your golden rule for a great trim
rufskin.com
GROOMING: Cassie
Steward at LHA, using
Crème de la Mer and
Bumble and bumble
MODEL: Flo at Select
Model Management
FASHION ASSISTANT:
Freya Monro Morrison
Flo wears
Duke tank,
$52, Jupiter
jockstrap, £32,
both by Rufskin
MARCH 2017 79
Covered up, or
showing a bit Flo wears vest,
£30, boxer
of skin — learn shorts, £30,
both by Sunspel
to relax in the
TOTA L : £ 6 0
right way in
your underwear
PHOTOGRAPHY: RYAN SARADJOLA
FASHION: NICK BYAM
WORDS: JOSEPH KOCHARIAN
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PLEIN’S
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At the end of last year,
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New Bond Street. The
designer always puts on a
spectacular show during
fashion week (monster
trucks and fairground rides
for his models to walk by!)
and has a huge celebrity
following, so it was no
surprise that the store
was going to be a big deal
in its own right. It houses
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BJÖRN BORG
ARE READY
TO WORK
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got us in the mood to move
with their spring-summer
2017 collection. With a palette
of monochrome, and the
familiar waistband,
which has been
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functionality
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84 MARCH 2017
MOSS
BROS
GET US
PURRING
For this season, Moss
Bros are showing off
a softer side to their
tailoring. What more
could you possibly
want than male
models wearing great
suits — with no tops — and holding cats?
The high-street tailoring brand always have
an impressive scope of suits to help you to get
smart for spring and summer. It’s tricky to know
what to train your eye on: the clothes, the men
or the cats.
mossbros.co.uk
ba l l et
Marcelino wears
windbreaker
jacket with
Crazy Cleopatra
print, €1,590,
sweatshirt with
Crazy Cleopatra
print (worn around
the waist), €790,
Crazy Cleopatra-
printed Bermuda
shorts, from €650,
short leggings with
Crazy Cleopatra
print, €750, all
by Givenchy by
Riccardo Tisci
Watching ballet dancers
perform, there’s
no doubting their
gracefulness, elegance
and beauty. But they are
athletes too and each
of them puts their body
on the line in every
performance. Three
of the Royal Ballet’s
ballerinos tell us how
they keep in shape, what
their bodies mean to
them and how that can
affect relationships
PHOTOGRAPHY: JENNY BOUGH
FASHION & WORDS: JOSEPH KOCHARIAN
Marcelino and
Valentino,
all clothing
dancers’ own
Valentino wears
coat, £1,280,
leggings, £490,
both by Versace
MARCH 2017 89
Calvin wears
poncho, £250,
by Y-3
90 MARCH 2017
Marcelino
wears blazer and
trousers, both by
Moschino, POA
Valentino wears
vest, £280, by
Wooyoungmi at
Farfetch, trousers,
£149, by Tiger Of
Sweden
MARCH 2017 93
Marcelino
wears tights,
dancer’s own
Calvin wears jacket,
£150, trousers,
£100, top, £50, all
by Topman Design
HAIR AND
GROOMING: Cat
Wyman using
Bumble and bumble
and Mac Cosmetics
FASHION
ASSISTANTS: Nick
Byam, Umar Sarwar
and Cory Labrosse
Valentino wears
bib shorts,
£157, by Café
du Cycliste at
Matches Fashion
VA L E N T I N O Z U C C H E T T I First Soloist
What’s your favourite role of all the We do such an amazing job and it’s basically spend 90 per cent of your
ones you’ve danced? so exciting and the prospect of going time in pain.
My favourite roles are usually the ones on stage keeps us going. Often we How do you feel about ballet being a
that require interpretation, so it can rehearse and perform while quite means of self-expression? How does
be Lescaut in Manon, or Mercutio in exhausted physically. People wouldn’t j`fcS`UjÍeZ_e`eYRe0
Romeo and Juliet, roles that require usually push themselves to do that, Ballet is an international language; it’s
acting as well as dancing. but because we are so driven by the art of movement. So your body is
In terms of your body, you have class aVcW`c^Z_X R_U hYRe hV U` hV Í_U obviously going to be an expressive
every morning, rehearsal and then the energy. And it’s funny, the more tool. It’s a bit like speaking; when
you have to perform on stage most you do, the more you can do. you’re young you feel raw emotions but
evenings. How do you keep your body Have you always been active? you don’t know the words to express
in peak condition? Yes! Nowadays they would call it eYV^HYV_j`fU`Í_UeYVh`cUdeYRe
I am rigorous and a bit extreme 2595 LReeV_eZ`_UVÍTZe YjaVcRTeZgZej connect to the feeling then you express
because we normally start at 10.30am. disorder], but back in the Nineties they them. It’s a little bit the same with
But I treat ballet class as working on obviously wouldn’t have checked for ballet. It’s literally like talking — but
muscles and placing myself for the day, it. When I was a kid I was doing karate, with your body.
rather than warming up. So I do a one- basketball, swimming, ballet; I was When you date people, do they get
hour warm up beforehand. That means doing something every day. insecure about their body?
I have a whole routine in the morning We’re looking at the body. How does Yeah. This is going to sound really bad
to prepare my body before class, then it feel when the main tool of your but [laughs] when you date a non-
class is a way to get my body placed. trade is your body?
"it's such a dancer, not an athlete in any way, it
The key to keeping your body in peak You have to treat your body as a short career. could be a date or a long-term
condition is to have the right balance temple. Often an injury can slow down It's tough, cV]ReZ`_dYZaeYVjRcVUVÍ_ZeV]jX`Z_X
of nutrition, rest and training and performances, cause you to pull out and you e`WVV]dV]WT`_dTZ`fd3fe`_eYVÎZa
that’s what I do.
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or miss that one performance when
a very important person is there
basically side, with me training six hours a day
and them only doing it three times a
up? e` hReTY 3VZ_X Z_[fcVU Zd UZWÍTf]e
spend 90% week, they’re going to want to do
I’m blessed because I’m a very psychologically, and dancers have of your time more. And maybe they’re going to
energetic person. I always have been. such a short career. It’s tough, and you in pain" teach me how to relax!
MARCH 2017 97
How do you keep your body in peak drinking a cocktail because I’m more "I am aware of fascination with ballet dancers’
condition?
If you’d asked me two years ago, I’d
body aware.
And is it true that you’re always in
that this bodies, isn’t there?
I’m very fortunate in my current
have said, “Oh, I eat everything and pain as a dancer? is a very relationship as he has a great body,
things come naturally.” But as I age, It’s rare that someone asks me, “Are important so he actually helps me be on it
my body isn’t responding as much, so you OK about your body?” and I can instrument with mine as well. But, yes, it’s true,
I have to be more careful: eat the right reply: “Yeah, really OK.” There’s always for my life. there is a certain obsession with how
things, sleep the right amount.
So what food do you miss?
some niggle: a tendon, or toe, or the
back, but we are so used to it. You have
So every time ballet dancers look because there’s a
certain type of muscle and leanness
I’m a big fan of patisserie and to ignore it and keep going and it goes I go partying, about us, and that’s what I’ve always
boulangerie, all the nice cakes! I’m a away sometimes. I know I have encountered when I’m in relationships.
bit like Marie Antoinette! Can you remember the last time you to be careful What does your boyfriend do?
How do you feel about your body weren’t in pain? not to be He’s a lawyer.
being the main tool for your job?
It’s a responsibility. I have to make
Yes. It was last summer and I was at
home and I sat down and thought, “I
on slippery A lawyer? He just has a bod?
He just has a really natural body, and
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sometimes people might look at photos of you on your own get more
your body and it might make them likes than photos of the two of you
feel bad about their own? together?
Well, I train six hours a day, six I think photos of us together get
days a week. It’s not as if it’s more likes. Although the picture
something that happens just from of me wearing the Shawn Mendes
going to the gym for 20 minutes or Christmas jumper, the Treat You
an hour a day. My life’s about getting jumper, got quite a lot of likes. And
to the point where I’m in the physical Lance was like: “Whatever!” [Laughs].
shape that I can do all my diving the It strikes me that your relationship
best that I can. So, I do feel bad and with your body must be particularly
I wouldn’t want to make anyone feel intense because it forms part of
that way. But I know that if anyone else your identity and it’s your means of
trained for six hours a day, six days a RTYZVgZ_XWf]Í]^V_eRdRac`WVddZ`_R]
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because if I get injured I can’t dive
and if I can’t dive that’s my career. So
I have to make sure I look after myself
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AND THEN, YEAH, TAPERED IN AT THE WAIST” my physical health, making sure I’m
training right, stretching right. I have
to have massages regularly. You have to
do that as a sports person.
To what extent do you think the book, doing the best thing for How did your feelings about your
magazines are to blame for promoting you, not worrying so much about body change following the Rio
an unattainable body ideal? what everyone else is doing, or what Olympics last year? Would it be fair to
That’s been more of an issue with everyone else is thinking, but doing dRjeYZdhRdeYVÍcdeeZ^Vj`fcS`Uj
female models, for girls seeing that and what you need to do for you; to make really let you down?
feeling bad about themselves. I don’t you feel the best that you can. Well, no, because I was in the best
think it’s been talked about very much When you post pictures of yourself on shape of my life at the Olympics, in
for men. Instagram, do you ever look at how terms of physical and mental health.
Which is why we’re doing it! many likes you’re getting? That shows in the fact that I got an
Yeah, exactly! Because I think men do Very rarely, to be truthful. The only Olympic record and won the prelim.
have the same insecurities, do think time that I ever do look at likes is And then the next day was rough [he
the same thing and do worry about when I post a photo of myself with TR^V]RdeR_UUZU_Äe^R\VeYVÍ_R]N
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than straight men, I imagine. about social media. He asks: “How for the adrenaline high that came
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that’s pretty unobtainable. photo, you get 20 times the amount of get you back up there. I felt good in
You’re very active on social media. likes that I get!” my body, I felt good knowing what I
There are so many men who like had to do. But that mind-and-body
showing off their bodies on there and connect wasn’t quite there. There was
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of all the likes. Do you have any fatigue. And that’s something to learn
perspective on this? from, this year going into the World
Yeah, it does happen a lot. It’s only Championships, to replicate as much
certain people who do it like that, of that fatigue as possible, I’m going to
some people just do it in jest. But with be doing as many events as I can.
people who do it relentlessly, it can be But whether it’s the central nervous
a bit… maybe they are just looking for system or the connection between
that nod of reassurance. your mind and body, it is still in some
It strikes me that some people on way your body letting you down
Instagram in particular become Yeah.
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couple because they are allowed to a lot of stress at a young age and that
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from that when they project your relaxing important for your body?
height. My estimated height was 6ft Yeah, but I’m in bed asleep by 9.30
2in. I’m obviously not that but divers every night.
and gymnasts have their growth So what time do you get up?
stunted by constant impact. I started 6.15am. My usual routine is: get up,
weights when I was 10 years old and lemon water, meditation, breakfast,
if you start at that age, your body just leave home at 7.45, go to the pool, get
isn’t able to grow properly. I probably there for 8.30. Then it’s training until
was never going to be six-two but if 11 when I have a lunch break until
I had not put my body through such 1.30. I’ll either grab a nap or I take my
stress… eat what I want, I feel so disgusting. I laptop to the pool each day so I can
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this really tough routine, do you ever I understand you want to show off editing. Or I’ll eat my lunch and chill
think: “When I retire I can let it all go your body less in publicity shots now. out for a few hours. Then I go back
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There are days when I think that but at seen as just a body? Do you want training, followed by either a massage
the same time, whenever I have time people to see there’s more to you or I’ll do a yoga or spin class. Then I go
off — I have three weeks off a year — than that? home, cook dinner and relax.
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walk around the house in my trunks! because you’ve got so many other
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go to a photoshoot and actually wear still be happy?
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But do you think being so well-known because I want to be an Olympic
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to see the city laid out: the perfect THE SUN SHINES BRIGHTLY the day
backdrop if you want to pose for before we’re due to leave Calafell. With
Instagram pictures (#blessed). gay mecca Sitges just 20 minutes away
As Spain’s third city, Valencia is by train, and us being self-respecting,
often overlooked by tourists who are curious gay men, we have to check it
drawn to the grandeur of Madrid or out. Although not peak season, the
the glamour of Barcelona. But it’s a town and beaches are still populated
progressive cosmopolis of its own, as by a healthy quota of tourists who
we discover when dining in the city’s certainly look gay, though the overall
newest hangout, Marina Beach Club. a Sunday after all. Although we’re not demographic is very mixed.
Recommended by the concierge at the type of couple to ever hold hands, After meandering through the
our hotel, it was, apparently, the place in liberal Valencia we feel comfortable narrow streets to the promenade
to be in the summer of 2016 with wherever we go. and round to the next bay, we lay our ›
tanned, taut bods lounging around the
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the sound of deep house by night. from the city centre in the late 1950s,
We go for dinner at the restaurant the old riverbed became a snaking
terrace, then join the throng of hard- 11km-long park, with attractions all
core revellers for a couple of drinks along, the most impressive of which is
before it all gets too much. Our luck the City of Arts and Sciences.
doesn’t hold when trying to track Designed by Valencian architect
down any of the city’s gay bars the next Santiago Calatrava, the site somewhat
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closed down or just aren’t open — it is skeletal buildings including an opera
house, science museum and Europe’s
largest aquarium.
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Turia Gardens, is by bike. We hire a
couple from the hotel and spend a
few hours zipping along the dedicated
cycle lanes, chaining our rides up at
one point to take a rowing boat on to
the water around the Hemisfèric 3D
cinema. If you do the same, be sure
to pack a towel or blanket and lunch:
there are plenty of shady spots to stop
and watch the many runners go by.
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towels on Platja de las Balmins, one takes about an hour and, though not residents. Although the weather’s still
of the town’s gay — and clothing- as airy as the train from Valencia, the overcast, we make time for a couple
optional — beaches. It’s also one of the scenery is hypnotising. The train hugs of hours on Platja de la Mar Bella, the
prettiest and most sheltered, with a the coastline for most of the journey, beach closest to our hotel, in a last-
good stretch of sand, shallow waters offering views of the shimmering blue ditch effort to catch a bit of colour.
and a café. While I’m always keen for a sea and brief glimpses into deserted @_`fcÍ_R]_ZXYe, plans to get our
swim, Dean isn’t much of a water baby. little coves. gay on in the Eixample district are
I go alone, swimming out then turning We’ve booked two nights at the Meliá dashed by a huge thunderstorm which
back to face the shore, luxuriating in Barcelona Sky, a tower of glass, a few ÎRdYVd]ZXYe_Z_XRTc`ddeYVd\jRdhV
the view of a town loved by so many Metro stops north- watch from the vantage
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destination: bustling, bohemian, sculpture in the past 18 rightly famous for its
beautiful Barcelona. The journey months, Dean’s so keen LGBT+ nightlife, which
to see some art that he offers something to
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other people treated me because of it. nothing. I’ve had periods of restricting
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conscious of my appearance, comparing my appearance or sexuality. I also had With the eating problems, comes
myself with others, being more selective with trouble meeting new people. anxiety and mood swings. I’ve been
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became obsessed with staying skinny. away my packed lunches. triggers them — meaning that I can try
to stop it if I feel an episode coming on.
AS I GOT OLDER, I did whatever I could My triggers include things such as a
to get out of eating with others. If supermarket or restaurant not having
When I was 13 I was bullied at school friends were going for lunch, I’d insist what I was expecting to get, having
because of my mannerisms and I was full from earlier. I’d say whatever to eat in front of new people or being
behaviour, which led other students to I could to get out of it. If I couldn’t, pushed into trying something new.
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popular and good at sport. I hated counting, starving myself, as well as put on a little bit of weight, or stopped
being in the changing rooms because bingeing and purging. I would wander looking young, I’d be unattractive. I’ve
it was an obvious place for others to around Tesco on my lunch break, noticed an unfortunately high amount
comment about my body, with no analysing each sandwich’s nutritional of body-shaming going on, whether it
teacher around. be online or in a club.
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get changed with others, then being bodies like mine were too skinny,
allowed to not attend PE lessons at all. that I should go to the gym and tone
My self-esteem was driven to a low. I up. One even labelled me “skinny-
developed a lot of resentment towards fat” — whatever the hell that means!
who I was and what I looked like. I We’re a community that has fought for
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UNDERWEAR
won’t care what you look like without a surprise, then maybe you need to
your top on. There, I’ve got that off my re-evaluate how you think. If how
chest. Now on to the important stuff… you look genuinely does concern you
Some people love being naked. though, then ask whether you can
Others (me included) panic at the realistically do something about it.
thought of taking our clothes off in While I’m an advocate for people
front of others because it makes us feel loving and accepting themselves for
self-conscious and vulnerable. who they are, no matter what their
So I know exactly where you are look/shape/size, I also think we need
coming from. But we all have to realise to strive to be healthy. I’m not talking
that sometimes we can be our own about plastic surgery or crazy diets.
worst critics. Step back and ask yourself Many of us could do with being
why you think your body isn’t as good. healthier and taking better care of
Are you being too harsh? We all look at ourselves, and I include myself.
ourselves and make a judgment of how This would not only make us look a
“good” we look. However, our bit better, it would make us feel better
own opinion can be wildly too, which is far more important.
inaccurate because it’s There’s nothing wrong with striving
based on non-visual to look better but we have to be
factors. I bet if we realistic and we have to be careful not
WAY N E D H E S I ,
asked 10 different to take it too far. Society is getting
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and give an opinion, especially in the gay community. In
you’d get 10 different doing so, we forget what is really
answers. So, try to look important: how we feel and make each
at yourself objectively to other feel, and the unnecessary anxiety
determine if what you’re it can cause.
seeing is real. I realise Luckily, not everyone is like that.
that is easier said than Your new partner may not be the
done. Some people least bit concerned about your body.
Í_UeYReRd\Z_XR Perhaps have a chat with him to
good friend for an explain your worries. He might surprise
honest viewpoint you and that could be a great thing for
can be helpful, but your relationship.
beware: you may But if he doesn’t make you feel right,
not like the answer. then it’s time to move on. Trust me,
If, however, j`fÄ]]Í_Ud`^V`_VhY`RaacVTZReVd
what they say is you for all the right reasons.
Dear Pete,
DEAR DR RANJ
Excessive sweating, or hyperhidrosis, is surprisingly common
and can be debilitating — especially in social situations.
I sweat horribly and not The common areas are the armpits, back, hands and feet.
just when I’m working Fortunately, there are a number of things you can do to
out. Even if I’m just help. First, try to wear clothes that help your skin “breathe,”
watching telly or sitting such as those made of cotton. Second, try over-the-counter
down having a coffee products such as anti-perspirants, which are towards the
with friends, it’s pretty milder end of the spectrum. If they aren’t good enough, go
much uncontrollable. I’ve for the more specific aluminium chloride-based treatments
tried to not let it affect such as Odaban and Driclor. If things are really bad, then see
me but to be truthful, it’s your GP: you could have an underlying medical cause (e.g.
really starting to get me thyroid problems) or may benefit from referral to a specialist
down. Please help. for treatment such as iontophoresis, which involves the use of
Pete, Canterbury electrodes, Botox injections or nerve surgery.
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