are the pictures You've seen in chapter, It Wl b€ good speaking ice for You to talk about these eS once again, Your teacher wll You “What are they doing?” or does this picture mean?” or ‘ther question, You can give a at answer or You can use your lation, The purpose is to allow wversations there js no “right”— Just for today, I will live through* the next 12 hours and not try to tackle all the problems of my life at one time. — Just for today, I will improve my mind. I will learn one useful thing. 1 will yead something that requires effort, thought and consideration. = Just for today, I will be agreeable." I will look my best, speak quietly, and be courteous’ and considerate." — Just for today, I will not find fault with' any friend, relative or colleague. | will not try to change or improve anyone but myself ~ Just for today, J will have a program! and follow it as closely as I can. I will save myself from two deadly enemies: haste and indecision.* = Just for today, I will do someone a good turn* and keep ita secret. If anyone finds out about it, the good deed won't count,* so I'll have to do another one to make up for’ it. spend the time tackle :make a determined effort to deal wth a dificut problem ‘pleasing tothe mind or senses; pleasant; wiling fo agree Eonsiderate toward other people ways thinking of what other people need or want eyeica biath) «program : set of planned actiities in education or traning is atate of being unable to decide what to do fh) helpful for (g8) -=COuNt : Include (sth) ina total— Just for today, I will do two things I don’t want to, just for exercise. — dust for today, I will be unafraid. In particular, I will be courageous enough to enjoy that which is beautiful. | will believe that what I give to the world, the world will give to me. What Does It Mean? (1) Iwill save myself from two deadly enemies: haste and indecision. (2) If anyone finds out about it, the good deed won't count, so I'll have to do another one to make up for it. (3) I will believe that what I give to the world, the world will give to me. Comprehension (1) How.is today going to be different from other days? (2) According to the list, why do something that is not enjoyable? (3) How can one be brave, in terms of the list? Ez 19‘What do you do to improve your mind? What do you do to improve your body? . What are your most serious problems these days? if you have solved them all, how did you do it? . What are you going to do to solve your biggest problem? What do your parents think about you? Do you think they are proud of you? Why or why not? . Do you think it’s easy to change yourself? Why or why not? What are you most afraid of in life? . What do you want to do the most, at present? Why do many people fail to keep in good shape through regular exercise? Give at least three reasons. ). People seem ready to find fault with others but not themselves. Why? pinion Sampres LL. | can’t change myself, because I don't even understand myself. My parents, friends, teachers, and others are constantly telling me things about myself that I had never even thought of before they told me! | often think they must be mistaken, but after I give the matter some thought I usually come to realize that they were not wrong after all. So, 1 can't help wondering: If everyone else knows so much about me, why don’t I realize the same things? Why are they such secrets, at least as far as Tam concerned? And, most importantly, if 1 don't know what I am, how can I ever expect to become something else? ‘wrong g thaving doubts 20 PaGos 1. How well do you know yourself? Do you think you understand yourself perfectly? Give an example. 2. Do you agree that others understand you better than you do? Why or why not? 3. Explain who/what you are, ©Zq I'm afraid of many things. I don’t want to die in a burning building, I don’t want to be in a train wreck* or get cancer. | hope we never have another war here again. These kinds of fears are very normal, don't you think? And yet, all of them are pretty unlikely, at least any time soon, So, I guess maybe I should not worry about these things hata dangerous excessively. More realistically,* then, what | place the world is! fear most is not having any friends. If 1 had to distrust* everyone around me and could not depend on other people, how’ could I ever accomplish anything? I know I'm not smart enough or strong enough to do everything on my own. Dorit worry, Sen My love will carty you. jac 1. Are you fearful that war or natural disaster* will occur soon? Why or why not? 2, Are you scared of catching a cold? Why or why not? What diseases are you afraid of? 3. Are you concerned about getting bad grades in school? Why or why not? vehicle plane, etc. that has been badly damaged or destroyed ally : na practical way "have no trust or confidence ‘events auch asa food, storm, or accident that causes great damage EEOT _— Chloe Tyrone : Chive Tyrone Chloe Tyrone : Chloe Tyrone Chloe ‘Tyrone Chloe Tyrone Chive Tyrone Chloe Tyrone Chioe Tyrone Chie Tyrone : Chloe Tyrone : Chive Tyrone : Chive Tyrone Chloe Tyrone + Did you hear about Bertha? No. What happened? ‘Well, heard that she had a big fight with Jack, and they broke up. That's terrible. They seemed like the perfect couple! + Talways knew that Bertha’s bad temper would get her into trouble, I never noticed she had a bad temper. + Why do you always contradict* me? Whoa! Settle down,+ You don’t need to get so upset: What do you mean? You call mea liar, and then you say I shouldn't get upset? But | didn’t say you were lying I just made an observation,* that's all. + Tl settle down when you apologize. (OK. I'm sorry, ‘Apology accepted. Now, where was I? You were talking about Bertha’s bad habits. she has lot of them, you know? Such as? + She's an inveterate gossip,* always running her friends down.* Yes, I noticed that And deceitfuli* She's always trying to steal somebody else’s boyfriend. No! Really? + She's too secretive. There always has to be a big mystery about everything on? {And she thinks she's hot stuff!" Always prancing’ Good-bye Jack! around with new dlothes and fancy jewelry! Get out of my life! Speaking of which, those are very nice = earrings you're wearing, Where did you get 5 them? Tim sorry, I promised I wouldn't tell who gave them to me. But they're gorgeous, 4 aren't they? They match perfectly my new si blouse and shoes, 3 Why are you dressing up so much these days? Even more than usual? t ‘Well, now that Jack is available,* I want him to notice me Why are you so interested in Jack? in my opinion, he's too wishy-washy." Welt, hello, Jack! 1. Tnwhat ways does Chloe seem oblivious* about her own shortcomings?* List as many as you can. 2, What about Tyrone? Does he seem to know his own character very well? “contradict : say that what (sb) ele has said is wrong or not true «settle down : calm down “observation ct of careful watching. =inveterate gossip : (sb) who gossips alot “Run (sb) down # say things that aro impolite, bad, or unfair about (sb) ~Geceitful trying to make (sb) believe (sth) that isnot rue shot stuff : unusually good or popular “prance : walk or move ina ively and proud way available : not wolved in a romantic relationship TWish-washy s weak and not able or not ung fo act oblivious : not aware of (ath) “shortcoming : weakness in (sb's) character 2WS Standing Up IA] These days, I often see a pregnant* woman board a bus and stand, while young men listen, to their music and pretend nat to notice her. Many times, I've watched teenagers chatter like birds with their friends and act “cool,”* while a passenger wearing leg braces stands right in front of them, Almost every day, I see men and women who are so old and weak that they can’t even stand up straight, but the young men wearing muscle shirts and tennis shoes continue to sit in their seats until they reach their destination, I guess, with all those muscles they're showing off, they must be very tired. I was taught common courtesy at a young age. I remember being told by my mother that if I didn’t offer my seat to a handicapped person o an elderly man or woman, or a woman with child or one with several small children to take care of, she'd make sure 1 wouldn't be able to sit down again for a week! Today, people have no respect for members of their own family, so how can we expect them to respect strangers? My son doesrit need this seat, [B] Do you know why so many women stand on buses ‘and subways, while the men sit and read their newspapers? I'll tell you. Those men were raised with no manners. -Last week I was seated behind a woman and her teenage son. The kid was engrossed" in his comic book. An elderly woman got on and stood near us, struggling to stay upright. She had a cane and limped! badly. The woman in front of me gave her son a sharp poke* In the ribs and said, "Get up and give that lady your seat, right now, before I let you have it upside your head.” I agree that she was not very refined* in her Speech, but she sure wos doing afine Job of insilings WE Need proper respect in her son, and I told herso when Lgot oft. a longer bus 50 | could sit down too. Thank you. jGqaoo8 1. Do you think people should give up their seats to the elderly or the very young? Why or why not? Some people argue that they have as much right to a seat on a public conveyance ‘os anyone else. There aren't enough seats to go around, so it's a matter of first come, first served, Do you agree? When was the last time you saw a pregnant woman on a bus or subway and didnot ‘offer her a seat? How did you feel? The last time you actually gave up your seat in such a situation, how did you feel? having a child developing in the body Cool : detached: not involved + pair of metal objects that (sb) wears around the leg to help him walk 0 interested or involved in (st) that one does not think about anything else "walk siowly and with eifieuly =poke : quick push wit finger or pointed abject polite; Cultured instil: teach (sb) a way of thinking or behaving »conveyance : vehiclesused fo be Hodoy.” eussenees . | : (). What's the meaning of "yesterday"? eats | wor't be Which is the most important among | GS vow =» these three things — yesterday, for long. today, or tomorrow? Why? {) Do you think time passes fast or alow? Why do you think so? The future will be here syefore we know it. 2. Gussuunue (0) If you had 24 hours of your own, without any responsibilities, how would you spend that time? (2) What if you had a whole year of your own? (8) Do you want to Know what will happen in your future? Why or Why not? -fd get more exercise. ~ Pd catch up on my cotrespondence. — Pd take the time to enjoy a delicious meal — Pd study harder. — Pd relax in a hot tub. ~ Pd like to sleep. 4Well, at least we DSR pm mccny Why cartt we be friends? DL. 1am a boy in middle school. For a long time I have been in love with Beth, but I was too shy to tell her how I felt about her. We see each other a lot, at school and other places, and she always Gk miles at me and seems to want to have a closer Melee this wasr relationship with me. So, finally, 1 got up enough Reb aude courage to tell her how I felt and asked her to be my §00d idea. girlfriend. But, stl smiling, she said, "No, 1 just want us to be friends.” Whenever we see each other nol, she treats me the same Way she always did, but I still fel the same way I can't sleep, eat, or study, and I don't even want to go to school, What's worse, every classmate Knows about how she rejected me. Is there something I can do to change her mind? Do you think she feels the same way I do, but maybe she is too afroid-of her feelings to let me Know about it? Or, should I try te forget her and get on witht my life? Should I accept her imitation to be friends, or would I be better off trying to Keep away from her altogether? What should 1 do? Be 1.am a middle school student. I love my boyfriend, who is handsome, smart, and the most popular boy in his class. He is two years older than Iam. But when we ane together, somehow we always end up arguing with each other, although usually it is not about anything serious. We are always able to make up* with each other before we ‘sty good-bye, But he's very assertivet and controling! He never wants to do things I enjoy but insists that 1 share his pleasures. If he does not get his own way, he pouts* or gets angry, and I have to try to jolly* him back into a good mood. He has never been violent with me, but sometimes 1 am afraid of B him. Even if he apologizes for his behavier, which does not happen often, he never takes it to heart;* he never tries to act differently. I Know that we are rot really suited? to one another and that we should end the relationship at once, but I am afraid I will not be able to forget him. I Know I could never find . How wonderful another boyfriend as wonderful as he is. Do you have any it was tobe words of wisdom for me? What o terrible time we hed! together! {get on with (sth) : continue doing (sth) after you have stopped doing it for a whilo| ake up : become fenaly again after boing angry. ‘Confident in Behavior or style “controlling : having a need te control other people's behavior pout : push out your ips to show that ‘you are angry or annoyed. =Jolly: try to make (sb) Rappy _ =take (sth) to heart: stan carefully to what (eb) aye ta yeu Suited : having the qualties that are ight, needed, or appropriate for (sth) EI i i |Yes, cont Yes, | cant Me, too! 1g more eyes looking There ar just my owns Just for one day! - at me than Why cartt we Well, at least we 7 Mba enjoy your misery. How wonderful it was to be together! What a terrible time we had Maybe this wasn't 26 Such a good idea.Good-bye Jack! What a danperou ue Get out of my life! place the werld is! Sic aetO es enc mercies My son doesnit need this sea! Se are the pictures You’ve seen in se lecia chapter, It will "be Yood speaking ctice for You to talk about these ares once again, Your teacher will + “What are they doing?” or © iS Dicture mean?” or Thank you. other question, You can give at} answer or You can use Your | ation, The purpose is to allow gy conversation; there is no “‘right’” a fonger bus 50 | could sit down too. more exercise. ich up on my correspondence. ake the time to enjoy a delicious meal ~ 7 Cutut | dy harder The future will be here fore we know it relax in a hot tub. before we know it, ke fo sleep.Many teens feel that their parents don’t understand them. It is as though their parents are “from a different world.” This is a normal reaction, due to the generation gap‘ between teens and their parents. Parents tend to be conservative in their child-rearing philosophy. They are under a lot of financial and social pressure to succeed, and they don't have enough time or energy to devote themselves exclusively’ to taking care of their children. They probably remember experiencing many of the same problems their kids are going through,' but they also recall how naive they were at that age. Of course, they also hope their progeny* can avoid some of the mistakes that the parents made. One of the few guides they have is remembering the way adults (especially their own parents) responded to them when they were young, so they tend to act the same way. This is how families have been raised for millennia. Kids, however, have not lived through any earlier time. They don’t have a large backlog* of experiences. Everything is relatively new to them, and full of possibilities. “Some people look at the world and ask why, but I look at it and ask why not?” is likely to be a dominating’ attitude. They are unsympathetic to their parents’ apparent* apathy. They know the world is full of hypocrisy‘ and unfairness, and they enera “ference in opinions or behaviors betwrean older and younger people @ boleving inthe Value of established and traditional practices ‘only experience ~progeny : chile period of 1,000 years reserve or accumulation ‘being the most important feature ‘not showing approval of (sth) ‘obvious Tack of feeling or interest; indifference ‘pretending to nave qualities or views that one does not really possesswngly believe that they can change it. This is how human society makes ess, though it is far slower and less complete than the young want. Nhat happens, of course, is that the young, impatient (and maybe radical)* they are, eventually grow up, get a job, and start a family; and the cycle 1s anew.‘ Before they know it, they are the hide-bound* conservatives had despised! in their youth, and the children they conceive* are the ones with the time, energy, and vision needed to try to create a new ty. @ © What Does It Mean? (1) Parents tend to be conservative in their child-rearing philosophy. (2) Some people look at the world and ask why, but [look at it and ask why not? (3) They are the hide-bound conservatives they had despised in their youth. @@ Comprehension (1) How do parents learn how to raise their children? Are there any other ways not mentioned in the text? (2) Why are the young so impatient with how members of the older generations do things? (3) Who are right, the parents or the children? Sees ee “radical very new and diferent for what i tracitional or ordinary anew : over again Shide-bound : not witing to change habits or ideas ise : dislike (sth) very much secs) |30 1. Do you think your parents understand you, and vice versa?* 2. What can we learn from our parents? 3, What can we learn better from our friends? 4, When do you feel most strongly that you are not like your parents? 5. On what issues do you strongly agree with your parents? 6. How will you raise your kids in the future? 7. What is your definition of a successful life? If itis different from your parents’, say how. More Talking Points agree or disagree with my parents on the subject of Saving money . Having a boyfriend or gitffriend . Fashions . Curfew" . Going to college and getting a diploma . Owning a car Job selection Spending time on the computer Music 10. Marriage CEN anna [pinion Samples Are we really different after all? AL. Everyone says that I am just like my father, except shorter. But I don’t see how that can be true. First of all, we don’t look alike, though I must admit that when I look at his old photos I can see a strong resemblance. So, maybe when I grow up I will look like him. I hope so, because I think he is a very handsome man. But right now, we're not the same. Second, he hates my music, my clothes, and my friends. But my grandpa tells me that he and my dad had the same fights when, vice versa : conversely “Curfew: time set by a parent at which a child has to be back home after going outry dad was growing up. Finally, we don’t act the same, in any way that I can tell. Whenever I do something, | get very tired of relatives chuckling’ at my behavior and saying something like “the nut doesn’t fall very far from the tree.” SUBEERR08 1. Do you think you strongly resemble one of your parents, neither of them, co some composite’ of them both? Explain your answer. 2. Which of your parents are you closer to, emotionally, your mother or your father? Why do you think so? 3. What does the proverb at the end of the paragraph mean? In your case, how far has the nut fallen? Z| hope that I won't ever become as serious as my parents. They never seem to have any fun in life. They can never relax and enjoy what we have, On vacation, they can’t just chill out;* they feel that they have to accomplish something, to the point where they get more tired than when they are at work, At home, there is always one more thing that needs to be done, no matter how much has already been finished. In their dealings with me, everything has to be presented in the guise* of a moral lesson. On the few times that they join in some social occasion, they can’t seem genuinely to enjoy themselves; instead, they feel compelled to eat and drink too much, as though they are compensating* too hard for all the fun they are missing on a regular basis. | know that responsibility and self-discipline are important qualities, but even things which are good and necessary can be taken to bad, unneeded lengths. jsauous 1. What advice would you give the writer of the paragraph above? 2, What advice would you give to his parents? 3, "Moderation in all things — including moderation itself" may be a sensible goal, but how does one achieve it? “chuckle : laugh quietly =composite : (sth that is made up of diferent parts “chill out : relax instead of feeling angry or nervous “guise : way of looking or seeming that isnot true or real “compelled : forced “compensate : provide (sth) good as a balance against ath) badDe] Mom: Have fun, Dear. Brandon: 1 will, Mom. Don't worry. Mom: And make sure you're home before 10:00, Brandon: That's not fair. You told me to have fun, and then you sald you want me to come home carly! Mom; Ifthere isn’t anything fun to do before ten, then I guess you should just stay home. Brandon : No way! My friends are waiting for me. Mom: And they probably all have a curfew, too. Brandon: Not I'm the only one! Except Ralph, but his curfew is at midnight. Mom: Then I think your friends have terribly permissive* parents. You're too young to be out late at night. Sometimes I think even ten is too late. Brandon: And I think my friends’ parents trust thelr judgment and maturity,* so they let them ‘make up their own minds. Mom: Itrust your maturity, too — but within the limits of your age! You aren’t an adult yet. Brandon : I'll never be an adult if you keep treating me like a chil. Mom I'm not treating.you like a child; I'm treating you like someone your ‘age. If you were a child, 1 wouldn’t let you go out on your te own at all. And when you get older, I'l let you have more freedom, But not till then! Brandon : But it's not fai Mom + Fair or not, that’s the way itis. You have to be home by ten. Are you going to waste your time arguing with me, or are you going to spend it with your friends? Brandon: I'm going! Mom: Okay. Have fun! Time is the enemy of fun, esEuGen8 1. Why does Brandon think his mother is being unfair? 2. What reasons does she give for her curfew? 3. Inyour case, what do you think a reasonable curfew would be? Or do you thi curfew at al is unreasonable? Justify* your answer. ~permissive : giving people a lt of freedom maturity: state of being fully developed in the body or the mind “justify provide a good reason forthe actions of (sb) 32 Pa¥ Weed Discuss Not Too Much Praise, Please! If you want children to grow up Into the best possible versions of themselves, it’s crucial! to replace damaging words in your vocabulary with alternatives that help build character. Some of the things parents say to kids seem harmless or even constructive on the surface,* but, experts say, they may hurt more than help. For example, for years, we've been told that boosting* a child’s self-esteem is important to his or her success in life. But child experts are now learning that too much praise can backfire.* Praiseaholic tykes* who expect complimentst at every turn may become teens who seek the same kind of approval from their friends who offer them a cigarette or an alcoholic drink. The implication of saying “You're the prettiest girl in class” is that you love her only because she is, beautiful; talking about the goal she achieved but not her overall effort indicates that you care ‘only about her accomplishments, not her overall effort. And this attitude carries over into the classroom. At Columbia University in New York, social psychologist Jaying is foultyy Carol Dek eed th ele of overpass ow doo nan aent care EY ASTER ii graders, she found that kids who were praised for “trying | enjoy doing it fond di beter on tea ad mere mare ily to take on difficult assignments than those lauded* for being “smart” “Praising attributest or abilities makes a false promise {hat success wil come to you because you have that trait,+ and it devalues* effort, so children are afraid to take on challenges,” says Dweek. “They figure they'd better quit while they're ahead.” tim going to ploy perfect ino matter how many Fiddles | have te break. SuGcsunu0Ss 1, When do your parents praise you? When do they nag you? 2, Which do you think motivates you more, compliments or complaints? 3, Do you like the challenge of learning new things, or do you prefer to improve on skills you've already acquired? 4, Have you tried to do something new recently? Tn your opinion, to what degree did ‘you master it? 5, What have you failed at? Why? “crucial : important «alternative : (st) that can be chosen instead of (sth) else “constructive : helping to develop or improving (sth) on the surface =o all outward appearances “boost :inerease backfire : have the opposite recut of what was desired or expected “tyke: email child compliment : remark that says (sth) good about (sb/sth) Including or considering everything cary over : continue fo exst in another place praised’ attribute : quay or feature =trait : pantoular qualty in (sbs) character “devalue : make (sth) seem less Important or valuable “faulty shaving a mistake, faut, or weakness; imperfect aa Xx=ED =L GUBSHERE () Have you ever thought about the Raising + farnily is responsibilities your parents have? Talk a heavy burden- about the burdens your dad and mom ee have. 2) Your parents probably sacrifice a lot of things in behalf of* your welfare. Do you appreciate it, or do you think they are just doing their duty and so you have nothing to thank them for? (8) Do you think being a good parent is easy? Why or why not? What about becoming a good Kid? Is that easy? We enjoy ovt lives al the time. Why con't you? 2. eussi is P | Wake me vp af Pm glad we spend es the football () Score your parents’ current. this time together. lifestyle, (2) What are the things you would want to coach* your parents about in order for them to have a better life? (8) Do you think your lifestyle is closely related to that of your A family that pedals parents, or are they basically Tegether stays together, separate with little to do with each other? in behalf of : or the beneft of “coach : give 68) Instructions on what to do in a particular situation 4 PE)\ bit: Wdiars our Advice? cee eAL T have met my soul mate.* She is a real loving sweetheart, my first and ony love. We have many things in common. We're very happy when we're together, and I wish we were able to spend even more time in each other's company. I'm definitely going to marry her when I'm grown up. But the problem is my parents. ee sdy I should forget her; now is the time to focus on studying. They insist that it's not real love, just an adolescent crush.* Real love will come later, they say, after I finish school and get a good job. At that point, they say, I will find an even better wife. I Know how I feel, even though I respect my parents’ Judgment on most things. Should 1 follow their advice; or should 1 follow my heart? ee I'm just an average student, with okay grades, not spectacular* ones. But Tm happy, because I am very outgoing and have many friends. These days, 1 volunteer to help handicapped people. 1 feed them and bathe them, and they look very happy that someone is taking care of them. And taking care of them: makes me happy, too. I think I want to be a nurse when I become an adult. But my parents say that it's a very tiring job, and it doesn't pay very well ether: So I should prepare for my ‘real future, whatever that is. I don't understand their point, since I'm happy with my decision and think it would be a very fulfiling life for someone like me. Do you think 1 should try to convince my parents they are wrong, or should I listen to them, or do something else? a “Soul mate : (6) you havea close relationship with because you share the same emotions and interests “crush : feeling of romantic love “spectacular: very impressivemore like vs? *L Why atertt you sh Are we really Let me be a kid, different after all? likke you used fo be. ‘Yous foo younsl fd like you young! to meet my girifriend. 2 *, put here are the art need to supplies you Nee want fe paint my doit OUR WAY! con oe She's not good enough for you 36