The Art of Conversation
The Art of Conversation
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Long turn (Part 2)
giving opinions
EXAM FOCUS p.204
1 Work in pairs. What would be the worst thing about being stuck
somewhere without a phone or internet access?
3 Listen again and write down the expressions for giving opinions you
hear. Compare your answers with a partner. Then turn to page 161 and
check your answers.
5 Look at the exam task and underline the three things the examiner
EXAM TIP
asks the candidate to do.
Don’t focus on factual
descriptions of the pictures. Look at the pictures. They show people using their phones. I’d like you to compare
Make sure you answer the two of the pictures and say why people might be communicating in this way and
examiner’s questions. how effective this form of communication might be.
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Q W E R T Y U I O P
EXAM TIP
Read the whole of each sentence through carefully to 10 Check your answers by answering the questions
make sure it makes sense with the form of the word
you have chosen – don’t just read line by line.
A S D F G H J K L
about the missing word.
1 If it is a noun, should it be singular or plural?
2 If it is an adjective, does it need a negative prefix?
9 For questions 1–8, read the text on the 3 If it is a verb, is it singular or plural, past or present?
right. Use the word given in capitals at the
end of some of the lines to form a word that 11 How well do you think you would do in a texting
fits in the gap in the same line. competition?
2 07 You will hear three different extracts. For 4 Match phrases A–E from the recording
questions 1–6, choose the answer (A, B or C) with the correct answers to questions 2–6
which fits best according to what you hear. There in Activity 2.
are two questions for each extract. A … everyone presents a certain cultivated image of
themselves online, which isn’t always accurate.
Extract 1
B … so not worth devoting so many pages to them.
You hear two friends discussing a book about introverts.
C … it was weird – almost like being invisible.
1 How did the book make the man feel?
D I’ve had to learn to be strict with myself.
A unsure what makes him an introvert
E What gets me is people who insist on going on
B positive about his personality
and on about their perfect life.
C relieved that his behaviour is normal
Support-response
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James: I’m thinking of buying a new car.
ood conversation with (1) the/(-) friends not only brings
(2) the/(-) happiness and enjoyment, it fulfils a special Rob: Yeah? Are you looking at any particular model?
need (3) the/(-) human beings have wherever they live in Shift-response
(4) the/(-) world. What I’ll always remember about (5) a/the
James: I’m thinking about buying a new car.
night I met my wife is the wonderful conversation we had and
Rob: Yeah? I’m thinking about buying
how we connected instantly. But it can’t be a solely individual
(6) .............................. new car too.
endeavour – it has to be (6) a/the group effort. Each individual
James: Really?
has to sacrifice a little for the benefit of (7) a/the group as a
Rob: Yep, I test drove (7) .............................. Mustang
whole and, ultimately, to increase the pleasure each individual
yesterday and it was awesome.
receives. It’s like singing in (8) a/the choir where the harmony
and rhythm of a song depends on each individual to keep it We’re all guilty of using the shift response from time to time.
going. One person who keeps singing (9) a/the sour note can We sometimes can’t wait for (8) .............................. other person
ruin it for everyone. That’s why it’s so important that (10) the/(-) to finish speaking so we can jump in. We pretend to be listening
conversations are co-operative instead of competitive. intently but we are really focusing on what we are going to say once
we find (9) .............................. opening, hoping we will be asked
(10) .............................. question.
Is conversation a dying art, struck down by text, email and messaging? And do we really need
to be taught how to talk to each other? I enrolled in a class at the School of Life, an academy of
‘self-help’, to find out. The topic was How to have a conversation.
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I had arrived about twenty minutes early but the rest After an enjoyable ten minutes spent chatting to my
of the class was already there. One woman kindly classmates and discovering more about their motives for
invited me into her circle. She was finding it hard to joining the class, we were told to retake our seats. Haynes
have meaningful relationships. Technology was partly continued her PowerPoint presentation, asking us to
to blame: ‘Sometimes you feel the smart phone is like a reflect on a René Magritte painting, a comedy sketch and
third person,’ she said. Another new acquaintance agreed a book about marriage. All of these examples were meant
and described how immediate access to Google had to encourage us to stop seeing conversations as a means
blocked off avenues of conversation with her boyfriend. to an end and to avoid stereotyping the other person.
‘Before we would argue about this or that but now we 5
just look it up on Wikipedia,’ she said.
Then it was time to put some of these ideas into
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practice. In groups, we had to try out ideas for unusual
My classmates also spoke of more personal reasons for openings. A man in his early twenties, who joked that he
their attendance. An IT worker in her fifties had found had thought of this before, suggested as a chat-up line:
that her conversations with her husband ‘wandered’ and ‘Tell me something I want to know.’ A more challenging
wanted to learn ways to become a better partner. A man opener came from another group member: ‘If you were
in his late twenties said he wanted to have fewer rows coming to the end of your life, what would you have
with his girlfriend. wanted to have achieved?’
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Our discussion was interrupted by the arrival of our Despite our excellent teacher, I suspect the class was
teacher, Cathy Haynes. Haynes flicked to the first slide too abstract to be useful. Nearly three-quarters of the
in her PowerPoint presentation and we sat attentively session were spent listening to theories of conversation.
as she talked about how the nature of conversation had Genuine discussions were stopped in mid-flow, with the
changed over the past 300 years. class asked to return its attention to the presentation.
There was a touching eagerness to share ideas but
frustration grew as our time ran out. What I suspect my
classmates had hoped to find was that most basic thing:
human connection. But I doubt the class had made this
any more achievable.
Unit 2 The art of conversation 21
Is your 1
than one brother?
Paul’s brother whose girlfriend is from Argentina speaks
c e lding
good Spanish.
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voyo
ho 2 Paul’s brother, whose girlfriend is from Argentina, speaks
good Spanish.
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u bac 5 Complete the sentences with the words in the
box. In some sentences more than one option
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ike it or not, people are judged not by what is possible.
they know or do and not by the content of their
speech, but simply by the way they sound. A that when where which (x2) who
University of California study found that when it whom whose
comes to first impressions, it was visual impact
(1) which/who was the most important consideration, 1 The man .............................. was speaking loudly on his mobile
followed by vocal impact. On the telephone, phone was a journalist.
(2) whose/where appearance is irrelevant, the sound 2 I will never forget .............................. I was when I heard the news.
of your voice accounts for a full 83% of how others 3 The person with .............................. I have most in common is
judge you. my sister.
Clearly, your voice is a key communication 4 The man .............................. phone I found sent me £100!
tool. It speaks volumes about who you are and 5 The time .............................. I spent without internet access was
determines how the world hears and sees you. Many terribly hard.
professionals (3) which/who have the talent and 6 My mobile phone, .............................. I lost on the train last week,
motivation to move ahead, find common speaking had all my contacts on it.
problems block their success. Take the advertising 7 It was early in the morning .............................. I received a call
executive, for example, (4) whom/whose soft, breathy from my aunt in Australia.
voice makes her otherwise inspired presentation 8 I had to take an urgent call, .............................. was why I walked
seem weak and lifeless, or the talented IT consultant out of the restaurant.
with a strong regional accent (5) which/whose people
find difficult to understand. LANGUAGE TIP
How you use your voice can make others view you That and which can often be used interchangeably in defining
as decisive, confident, trustworthy and likeable – or relative clauses. That rather than which is usually used after
insecure, weak, unpleasant, boring, crude or even quantifiers such as everything, something, all.
dishonest. In fact, (6) when/why trying to get their Something that most people find annoying …
message across, people pay little, if any, attention to
the effect their voices have on other people. Instead,
it’s the content (7) which/who they are much more 6 Which sentences in Activity 5 contain defining (D)
concerned about. and which contain non-defining (ND) relative
clauses? In which sentence is it possible to omit
So you may never know the reason (8) when/why the relative pronoun?
you failed to land that dream job because people are
unlikely to explain that every time you speak up, you
may be letting yourself down.
Unit 2 The art of conversation 23
Write your proposal in 220–260 words in an Students at your college have to give a spoken
appropriate style. presentation as part of their final assessment and
need some help. The school director has invited you
to send a proposal outlining any problems students
Tips for writing a proposal
have with presentations and suggesting how these
1 Begin by stating the purpose of your proposal. problems could be overcome.
2 Use an impersonal, semi-formal style.
1 Begin by brainstorming ideas. Write them down in any
3 Use clear layout with headings. order and don’t worry about language at this stage.
4 Express opinions and make recommendations in the 2 Group your ideas under headings for each section of
last section of your proposal. your proposal.
5 Include a final sentence summarising your opinion. 3 Write a first draft, paying attention to the level of
6 Use bullet points but not too many. formality of the language.