Finding your Voice
Why we Do What We Do?
EMOTIONS are the Invisible Driving Forces of our Lives!
What makes the difference in the quality of people’s lives?
What makes a difference in their performance, in their choices, in their contribution?
There are 2 Master Lessons in Life:
1 - The Science of Achievement – Developing the skills and achieving the task goals.
2 - The Art of Fulfillment – Learning Who you are and How to Become centered in your Purpose.
The real question is…
Why is that some people some people who have been given all the opportunities in life spend their life in
despair, or in and out of rehabs? While some people who have gone through terrible ordeal and Pain, end
up contributing the most towards others and the world?
What is it that Shapes us?!?
*** We live in a “therapy culture” … So, in spite of living in a culture where Therapy is often focused on analyzing
the past; Your Biography is not Destiny!!!
*** It’s the Decisions You make that shapes Your Future, not Your Circumstances.
When we ask people why they didn’t achieve their goals, what are the common reasons?
They Claim to not having which Resources? Could they instead have been Resourceful?
1- _______________________ 1- ___________________________
2- _______________________ 2- ___________________________
3- _______________________ 3- ___________________________
4- _______________________ 4- ___________________________
5- _______________________ 5- ___________________________
*** So, the Answer is: If you can Get into the Right EMOTION You can do what you get to Anything!!!
*** Decision Shapes your Destiny!!!
The 2 primary Patterns that Shapes us
1)In the Moment:
- Our state: Physical/Emotional – They can influence one another equally.
2) Long Term:
- Our Model of the World: This Shapes your Meanings, Emotions, Actions (Your Blueprint Filters).
* What is your Model of the World made of…? There are 3 Forces at Play here:
Force 1: Your Target for Life Motive
Your Driving Force (Your version of the 6 Human Needs)
Force 2: Your Target for Life Meaning
Your Guiding Force (7 Categories of Belief)
Force 3: Your Quality of Life Actions
Your Fuel of Choice The Quality of our lives lies
in the Quality of our Emotions
Force 1: Your Target for Life Motive
Your Driving Force (Your version of the 6 Human Needs)
Certainty
Uncertainty/Variety
Significance
Love/Connection
Growth &
Contribution
Force 2: Your Target for Life Meaning
Your Guiding Force (7 Categories of Belief)
*** A Firemen and a Dictator, are both Driven by the same Needs (Significance, Certainty, Uncertainty)
However, they have very different Beliefs.
One says: I will save Lives, even if I have to die for it!
The other Says: I will change things even if I have to Kill for it!
7 Categories of Beliefs
1 – Global Beliefs
2 – Beliefs about your Identity
3 – Your Values
4 – Your Rules
5 – Your Vehicle to Achieving your goals
6 – Your Situational Specific Beliefs
7 – Your Metaprograms
Force 3: Your Quality of Life Actions
Your Fuel of Choice The Quality of our lives lies
in the Quality of our Emotions
*There are over 6,000 words for human emotions in the English language, most people only use 12*
3 Keys to Higher Emotions
1 – Tell yourself the Truth
2 – See it as it is, not worse than what it is
3 – Get a Vision for what you want to Change
3 Decisions of Destiny
*These are the 3 major Decisions that we are making at every moment of our lives*
1- What am I going to Focus on?
a) Focus + Feeling = Meaning
b) Past/Present/future
c) Self/Others
2- What does it Mean?
a) Is this the End or the Beginning?
b) Is God Punishing me or Rewarding Me?
c) Is this n my Favor or Against me, or it’s just a luck of a draw?
3- What are You going to Do?
a) Are you going to Give Up?
b) Are you going to Freeze?
c) Are you going to Move Forward?
*** Where Focus Goes, Energy Flows!
