Name: Ma. Melvie A.

Suarez Subject:
Guid 2N

Course and Year: BSA – 1

The human body experiences a wide range of emotions, including

sadness, happiness, fear, and rage. When handled constructively, anger is a
normal state of emotion. When you are attempting to achieve something in
life, rage can occasionally help you realize your goal if you control it on time
because it is the most deadly emotion of all if it becomes out of control.

It is a universal truth that you cannot avoid angry feelings from your
life since every emotion is very significant in your life and plays a very vital
function in individual lives in various ways. Anger can sometimes be used to
demonstrate to others that they are upset because they care about or love
you. Similarly, if anger hits rage, it might cause a fight and destroy
everything in the future.

I'm going to tell you about a problem that happens often every day
that drives me angry. It's the time when I'm meant to be doing my activity,
but my internet connection is terrible. I'm upset and angry because I have so
many pending things to complete yet my internet connection is inconsistent.
And in order to deal with the rage I'm experiencing, I chose to sleep early
and then wake up early in the morning when the internet connection is
steady and powerful. In response to an offense, I have a poor attitude, don't
talk to people, and always have a sad/angry expression on my face. When
my sister does not answer her module and instead watches Tiktok and
refuses to listen to my counsel; and when I want to conduct my activity but
am stopped by an inconsistent internet connection. In the first event, I
managed my anger by talking calmly to my sister, whereas in the second
event, I longer my patience and accepted the situation, and I planned to do
my activities early in the morning when the internet connection is faster. The
first situation was easier to resolve than the second because by talking
calmly to my sister, she immediately listened and obeyed me rather than
shouting at her or saying hurtful things to her if I was enraged. I'm also in a
situation where I've been angry for a long time. It is where my long-time best
friend was accused for an unknown reason, and we are still not okay, but we
talk casually. I believe that I became angered for the right reason when she
accused, belittled, and disparaged me behind my back. It's been 4 years and
counting, and we still haven't resolved it because she won't listen to me.
Instead of making things work between us, she just makes things worse, to
the point where we had to involve someone in our fight. And this situation
causes changes in my behavior that I have noticed while having anger issues
in this particular cause, as I now have trust issues with someone who wants
to befriend me, I am no longer the innocent girl I was before, and I am not as
jolly and happy person. I believe the response to the situation is correct and
valid because being betrayed and hurt by someone you've been friends with
and treated as a sister does bad things to you, making you afraid to be
friends with anyone again, leaving a void in our internal selves. The positive
ways I can work to resolve the anger are to think positively, not hold any
grudges against her, and to live my life to the fullest. People come and go in
our lives because they only teach us a lesson.

Anger is a normal reaction to certain threats. As a result, because it

allows us to defend ourselves, aggression is sometimes the appropriate
response to anger. As a result, a certain amount of rage is required.
Furthermore, anger can be useful in communicating our feelings to others.
We cannot, however, become enraged with everyone and everything we
encounter. As a result, we must learn how to express our rage in a
constructive manner. There are three ways to express anger: expression,
suppression, and calming. Expression entails expressing your feelings in a
confident, but not aggressive, manner. This is the best way to deal with your
rage. However, you must be respectful of others and avoid being overly
demanding or pushy, as this will almost certainly result in aggression in
return.

Anger can be suppressed and redirected as well. Essentially, you want

to shift your attention away from the source of your rage and toward
something else that can be approached constructively. However, you must
exercise caution when suppressing angry feelings. Repressing anger in the
absence of a constructive outlet can be hazardous and harmful, both
physically and mentally. Conflict experts, on the other hand, discourage the
old idea that you should simply "vent" or "let it all out," claiming that doing
so is actually counterproductive, "an exercise in rehearsing the very
attributions that arouse anger in the first place."

High blood pressure can be caused by anger. If we don't control it in

time, it can create a space in our lives for vengeance and rage. Stress and
depression are the primary causes of anger, and they can also lead you to
smoke cigarettes, consume large amounts of alcohol, and end up eating a
lot, leading to the problem of being overweight, which can lead you back to
depression. As a result, the cycle of stress, depression, and rage continues.
And by getting professional help is the best way to manage your anger.
Because anger is not a disease, you do not need to seek professional
assistance. It will only help you control your rage. It's always a good idea to
take anger management classes. Anger management can cause issues and
problems in your personal life, professional life, and even in school for
children.

Unfortunately, with a change in lifestyle and behavior, even children

are experiencing anger issues. But anger is typically caused by failures in
school or life, being misunderstood by others all the time, people taking you
for granted at every turn, pressure, and so on. As a result of this reaction,
you may lose control of yourself and end up saying anything in anger to
others. Anger is under control when it is not causing problems for others, but
when it begins to cause problems for others and hurts them, it becomes a
problem for you and your loved ones, as well as the people around you at
work or school. Every child is vying for admission to a good school, taking
extra classes, and participating in extracurricular activities, which is causing
stress and depression in every child. Children suffer from depression
because their parents force them to compete. The irony is that depression
causes them to become enraged in every situation. They stop listening to
their parents and even their teachers, and as a result, they end up in anger
management classes. I'd like to emphasize that seeking professional
assistance is not a bad thing; it will help you overcome the situation you're
in. Also, the hows of resolving anger are to reduce both your emotional
feelings and the physiological arousal caused by anger.

You can't get rid of, avoid, or change the things or people that irritate
you, but you can learn to control your reactions. And knowing that it is
heathy to feel an anger because it is best viewed tool for reading and
responding to upsetting social situations. According to research, feeling
angry increases optimism, creativity, and effective performance—and
research also suggests that expressing anger can lead to more successful
negotiations, whether in life or at work. Anger is more than just an
aggressive reaction. It frequently provides us with information that allows us
to engage with the world around us more effectively (as well as ourselves). If
we view anger as something that enlightens us, we can tailor our response to
improve our position. To that end, here is a list of advantages that anger can
provide when the appropriate level of the emotion is reached: it can promote
survival, anger’s discharge is calming, provides a sense of control, energizes
us, motivates us to solve problems, makes us aware of injustice, drives us
towards our goal in life, injects optimism, increases cooperation, improves
negotiating positions, covers painful feelings, pushes us to reach a deeper
self, lead to self-improvement and enhance our emotional intelligence.
 Despite its unfavorable reputation, the concept of constructive anger
is gaining empirical support from researchers and has the potential to be
beneficial in our lives. Anger is a necessary component of our fight-or-flight
response. It was once a necessity for survival, and it still has some positive
value today. Anger-fueled motivation and action can propel us forward
toward our objectives. It motivates us to right the wrongs we see in the
world.

5 Ways to avoid responding to a situation in an angry manner:

 Consider whether your anger and frustration is justified.

 Maintain Your Calm (at Least on the Outside)
 Character Assaults Should Be Avoided
 Understand When to Disengage
 Keep yourself safe.

5 Ways to cope up with anger:

 Consider your position before speaking.

 Once you've calmed down, express your anger and frustration.
 Take a break.
 Don't contain a grudge.
 To relieve tension, use humor.