PRESENT BY
RAFFATH MS
MOSINA MS (AMEER)
SHABANA MS
CATHERINE MS
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ASSIGNMENT
Select a topic LACK OF DISCIPLINE
From child’s point of view, write minimum 5 reasons (causes),
presenting problems (effect), and solution.
Write in detail how you will explain to the child in light of
Hadith, Quran, Seerah, (At least 3).
Write in detail how you will convey this to parents in a positive
manner so they can continue Tarbiyath.
How will you deal with negative talks among teachers, children,
and parents about the child if rumours spread?
S.NO CAUSES/ EFFECT SOLUTIONS
REASONS
1 Lack of Clear Decreased Set SMART Goals:
Goals: Without Productivity: Ensure your goals
specific, attainable Lack of discipline are Specific,
goals, it’s easy to often results in Measurable,
lose focus and unfinished tasks Achievable,
direction. and missed Relevant, and
deadlines. Time-bound.
2 Establish Routines: Increased Establish
Create a daily Stress: Routines: Create a
schedule that Procrastination daily schedule that
incorporates time and incorporates time
for work, disorganization for work,
relaxation, and self- can create a relaxation, and
care. cycle of anxiety self-care.
and stress. Limit Distractions:
Identify and
reduce sources of
distraction in your
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environment (e.g.,
turning off
notifications).
3 Limit Distractions: Poor Time Break Tasks
Identify and reduce Management: Down: Divide larger
sources of Inefficient use tasks into smaller,
distraction in your of time can lead manageable steps
environment (e.g., to frustration to reduce
turning off and burnout overwhelm.
notifications) Build a Support
System: Share
your goals with
friends or family
for accountability
and
encouragement.
4 Break Tasks Down: Negative Self- Practice
Divide larger tasks Image: Repeated Mindfulness:
into smaller, failures to Techniques such as
manageable steps to maintain meditation can help
reduce overwhelm. discipline can improve focus and
lead to feelings reduce anxiety.
of inadequacy.
5 Build a Support Strained Reflect and
System: Share your Relationships: Adjust: Regularly
goals with friends Inconsistency can assess your
or family for affect progress and make
accountability and commitments to adjustments to
encouragement. others, leading to your strategies as
trust issues. needed.
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Quran
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Surah 2 Al-Baqarah, Ayat 45-46
ُ َ﴾ الَّذ ِۡينَ ي2:45﴿ َص ٰلوةِ ؕ َواِنَّ َها لَ َكبِ ۡي َرة ٌ ا ََِّّل َعلَى ۡال ٰخ ِش ِع ۡين
ظنُّ ۡونَ اَنَّ ُه ۡم ُّم ٰلقُ ۡوا َّ ص ۡب ِر َوال
َّ استَ ِع ۡينُ ۡوا بِال
ۡ َو
﴾2:46﴿ ََربِ ِه ۡم َواَنَّ ُه ۡم اِلَ ۡي ِه ٰر ِجعُ ۡون
(2:45) And resort to patience and Prayer for help.60 Truly
Prayer is burdensome for all except the devout, (2:46) who
realize that ultimately they will have to meet their Lord and
that to Him they are destined to return.61
Notes explanation about the above Ayat
60. That is, if they feel difficulty in keeping to righteousness,
the remedy lies in resorting to Prayer and patience. From these
two attributes they will derive the strength needed to follow
their chosen course.
The literal meaning of 'SABR' is to exercise restraint, to keep
oneself tied down. It denotes the will-power, the firm resolve
and the control over animal desires which enables man to
advance along the path of his choice - the path that satisfies
his heart and conscience - in utter disregard of the
temptations within, and of all obstacles and oposition without.
The purpose of this directive is to urge man to develop this
quality and to reinforce it from the outside by means of Prayer.
61. This means that Prayer is an insufferable encumbrance and
affliction for the man who tends not to want to obey, God and
to believe in the After-life. For the man who, of his own
violation, has to stand before God after death, it is failure to
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perform the Prayer, rather than its performance, that
becomes intolerable.
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HADITH
Hadith on Discipline: Use your words and deeds
only for good
Aswad ibn Asram reported:
I said, “O Messenger of Allah, instruct me.” The Messenger of Allah,
peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Can you control your
tongue?” I said, “But what do I control if I cannot control my
tongue?” The Prophet said, “Can you control your hands?” I said,
“But what do I control if I cannot control my hands?” The Prophet
said, “Do not say anything on your tongue except what is right,
and do not stretch out your hand except to do good.”
Source: Shu’ab al-Imān 2867
Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani
ْعن
َ َ َ ْ
د و سَ أ ن
ْ ب ْ
م
ََ صر َ لأَْ ت قَا ُْ يَا قُل
َْ سو
ل َْ ل أَوصني
ُ ّللا َر َْ قَا
ُْ سو
ل ر
ُ َ َْ
ّللا ىَ صلَ ُ ْ َ
ّللا ه
ْ ي َ عل
َ
سلَ َْمَ سانَ َك تَم ِلك َهل َو َ ت ِل ُْ قُل
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ساني أَملكْ لَمْ إذَا أَمل ُْ
ك فَ َما ل َ
ت يَد ََك تَم ِلك فَ َهل قَا َْ
ل فَ َما قُل ُْ
ي أَملكْ لَمْ إذَا أَمل ُْ
ك ل يَدَ َْفَال قَا َْ
سا ِن َك تَقل َوال َمعروفًا ِإال ِب ِل َ
َخير ِإلَى ِإال يَد ََك تَبسط
4628 للبيهقي اإليمان شعب
2867 حكم خالصة األلباني المحدث
صحيح في صحيح المحدث
الترغيب
Seerah
The biography of a person, including their birth, life events,
manners, characteristics, and death.
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Surah Al-A'raf Ayat 199
ُْخذ ْض ب ۡٱلعُ ۡرفْ َو ۡأ ُم ۡرْ ۡٱل َع ۡف َو
ْ ۡ ن َوأ َ ۡعر َ ۡٱل َٰ َجهل
ْ ينْ َع
Khuzil 'afwa wa mur bil'urfi wa A'rid 'anil jaahileen
Take what is given freely, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the ignorant.
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SELF-DISCIPLINE IN ISLAM
The ways in which a MUSLIM CAN DISCIPLINE HIMSELF are as
follows:
1. Worshipping Allah, keeping in contact with Him and submitting
to Him. That is done by paying attention to doing obligatory
acts of worship well, and cleansing your heart of any
attachment to anything other than Allah.
2. Reading Quran a great deal, pondering its meanings and
seeking to understand it.
3. Reading useful religious books that describe the ways of
treating and cleansing the heart, such as Mukhtasar Minhaj
al-Qasidin, Tahdhib Madarij al-Salikin and so on; reading the
biographies of the salaf (pious predecessors) and learning
about their attitude and behaviour, such as Sifat al-Safwah
by Ibn al-Jawzi and Ayna nahnu min Akhlaq al-Salaf by Baha
al-Din ‘Aqeel and Nasir al-Jalil.
4. Attending educational programs such as classes and lectures.
5. Making good use of your time and using it to do things that
will be of benefit in both worldly and spiritual terms.
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6. Not indulging too much in permissible things and not paying
too much attention to them.
7. Keeping company with righteous people and looking for
righteous companions, who can help you to do good . Those
who live alone will miss out on a lot of the characteristics of
a good brother such as preferring others to oneself and
being patient.
8. Trying to act on what you learn and put it into practice.
9. Checking closely on yourself.
10. Having confidence in yourself – whilst relying on Allah –
because the one who has no confidence cannot act.
11. Despising yourself for not doing enough for the sake of
Allah. This does not contradict the things mentioned above.
Man has to strive hard whilst still thinking that his efforts
are not enough.
12. Practising withdrawal or isolation as prescribed in
shari’ah (Islamic law). You should not mix with people all the
time, rather you must have some time which you spend alone,
in worship as prescribed in Islam.
We ask Allah to help us and
you to discipline ourselves and
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submit to that which Allah loves and is pleased with.
May Allah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad
and
upon his family and Companions.
And Allah knows best!
Ameen Ya Rabbil Alameen.
3.Write in detail how you will convey this to parents in a positive
manner so they can continue Tarbiyath in lack of discipline.
Conveying concerns about a child's lack of discipline to parents in a
positive manner is crucial for fostering collaboration and support. Here’s a
detailed approach to effectively communicate this:
1. Prepare for the Conversation
Gather Information: Collect specific examples of the child’s behavior and
areas where discipline is lacking, ensuring you have a balanced perspective
that highlights strengths as well.
Set Objectives: Define the purpose of the conversation, focusing on
support and collaboration rather than criticism.
2. Choose the Right Setting
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Private Meeting: Arrange a face-to-face meeting or a phone call in a
private setting to ensure confidentiality and comfort.
Positive Environment: Create a welcoming atmosphere, whether in-person
or virtually, to help parents feel at ease.
3. Start with Positives
Acknowledge Strengths: Begin the conversation by acknowledging the
child’s positive attributes and accomplishments. For example, “I want to
start by saying how impressed I am with [Child’s Name]’s creativity in
class.”
Express Appreciation: Thank the parents for their involvement and
support in their child’s education.
4. Discuss Concerns with Empathy
Be Direct but Gentle: Introduce the topic of discipline calmly. Use “I”
statements to express observations without placing blame, such as, “I’ve
noticed that [Child’s Name] has been struggling with [specific behavior],
and I wanted to discuss it with you.”
Use Specific Examples: Provide clear instances of the behavior you’re
concerned about, avoiding vague generalizations.
5. Encourage Collaboration
Invite Input: Ask parents for their perspective. For example, “Have you
noticed this at home? How do you think we can work together to support
[Child’s Name]?”
Promote Partnership: Emphasize that you are all on the same team
working toward the child’s success. “Together, we can create a supportive
environment that helps [Child’s Name] thrive.”
6. Introduce Tarbiyath Concepts
Explain Tarbiyath: Share the principles of Tarbiyath (character
education) and how they can benefit the child. Discuss the importance of
discipline in building character, responsibility, and resilience.
Share Resources: Offer books, workshops, or resources on positive
discipline techniques that parents can use at home.
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7. Set Collaborative Goals
Develop an Action Plan: Work together to establish specific, achievable
goals for the child. For instance, “Let’s set a goal for [Child’s Name] to
complete homework on time each week. How can we monitor this
together?”
Outline Steps: Discuss how both parents and teachers can reinforce
positive behavior and discipline strategies consistently.
8. Offer Ongoing Support
Regular Check-Ins: Suggest follow-up meetings to assess progress and
make adjustments as necessary. “I’d love to check in with you in a few
weeks to see how things are going.”
Be Available: Make it clear that you are available for any questions or
support parents may need along the way.
9. Conclude Positively
End on an Encouraging Note: Reiterate your confidence in the child’s
ability to improve and your commitment to supporting their growth. “I
truly believe that with our combined efforts, [Child’s Name] can make
great strides.”
10. Follow Up in Writing
Send a Summary: After the conversation, send a follow-up email
summarizing the discussion, key points, and action plans. This reinforces
commitment and provides a reference for parents.
4.How will you deal with negative talks among teachers, children,
and parents about the child if rumours spread? lack of discipline.
Dressing negative talk or rumors about a child related to a lack of
discipline among teachers, children, and parents requires a careful and
constructive approach. Here’s a step-by-step guide to effectively manage the
situation:
1. Identify and Understand the Situation
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Gather Facts: Collect specific information about the rumors. Speak with
teachers and other staff to understand the context and identify how
widespread the negativity is.
Listen to Concerns: Hold informal conversations with involved parties to
gauge feelings and gather insights.
2. Engage in Open Communication
Organize a Meeting: Arrange a meeting with key stakeholders, such as
teachers and parents, to address concerns directly.
Promote Transparency: Encourage an open discussion where everyone can
share their perspectives without fear of judgment.
3. Focus on the Child’s Well-Being
Support the Child: Reassure the child that they are valued and supported.
It’s important they feel safe and know that adults are working to help
them.
Validate Feelings: Acknowledge that negative talk can be hurtful and
confusing for the child.
4. Address the Rumors Directly
Clarify Misunderstandings: If the rumors are based on misinformation,
provide factual information to correct any misunderstandings.
Highlight Positive Qualities: Emphasize the child’s strengths and
achievements to counteract the negative narrative.
5. Promote a Positive Environment
Create Awareness: Conduct workshops or sessions with parents and
teachers on the impact of negative talk and the importance of fostering a
supportive community.
Encourage Empathy: Foster discussions about the importance of
understanding and supporting each other, especially children who are
struggling.
6. Implement Proactive Strategies
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Set Clear Expectations: Develop guidelines for respectful communication
within the school community, emphasizing the importance of constructive
feedback.
Encourage Positive Reinforcement: Promote a culture that recognizes and
rewards positive behaviour and effort, both in students and among staff.
7. Involve the Child Constructively
Empower the Child: Encourage the child to express their feelings and
experiences. This helps them feel heard and valued.
Involve Them in Solutions: Discuss with the child how they would like to
address the situation and what support they might need.
8. Follow Up and Monitor
Regular Check-Ins: Continue to monitor the situation and hold periodic
meetings to discuss progress and any lingering issues.
Adjust Strategies as Needed: Be flexible in your approach, adapting
strategies based on feedback from the child and parents.
9. Lead by Example
Model Positive Behaviour: Teachers and staff should exemplify respectful
communication and conflict resolution to set a standard for students and
parents.
10. Provide Ongoing Support
Resources for Parents: Offer resources or workshops that equip parents
with tools to support their child’s discipline and behaviour at home.
Access to Counselling: If necessary, suggest counselling or mentoring for
the child to help them cope with the situation.
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