A person that values honor, trust, and loyalty.

Find someone who you can connect with easily

It is very important to choose somebody with who you can easily strike a conversation. This
way, you can enjoy doing things and talking about them together without getting bored.

Potential partner with same interests Selecting someone who shares a lot of
common interests with you will work in your favour. Remember that all your interests don’t
really have to be the same, but some would do. Says clinical psychologist and relationship expert
Seema Hingorrany, “When you decide to spend your life with someone, you must look at things
that the two of you would love to do together. For example, if you are a movie buff, you would
ideally like to be with someone who enjoys movies as well. This will make your life interesting.”

Consider your partner's intellect

If you are a laid-back person and your partner is an over-achiever, that could lead to a threat in
your marriage. You must see eye to eye on how both of you are able to think and process things.

It's okay to have standards

While choosing a life partner, you need to consider your and your family’s standards. Though
it’s okay to choose someone who probably does not belong to the same strata of society as yours,
make sure that he/she’s not completely off the mark.

You should have respect for one another

You obviously cannot spend your life with someone who has no respect for you or your
dreams/goals or your personality. So, choose someone who will acknowledge you for the rest of
your life.

Is your potential trustworthy

In this day and age, it is extremely important to choose someone you can trust. You definitely
cannot lead a happy marriage if you cannot trust each other or have faith.

Spend time together

Just as important as it is to have similar interests, it is also crucial to be with someone who gives
you enough time and who you would love to spend time with.

1. They encourage your success, not inhibit it

One of the most significant signs of having found someone you can spend your life with
is that they want you to become successful and are clearly happy when you realize said
accomplishment (or any other).

Most of the people you meet in your life will be far more concerned about
themselves than you. They’ll be focused on what is in it for them and will only ever help
you or be happy for you if it coincides with their own goals and desires.

Others, still, will actually be jealous of you and will want to hold you back so that you
don’t become more successful than them. This is much more commonly seen in men
who become jealous of their female partner’s success.

However, if you’ve found someone who offers to help, encourages you to take risks and
realize your potential, and is genuinely happy when you succeed, you’ve uncovered a
true gem of a person that really cares about you.

2. They love you for who you are and don’t want to change you
Similarly, if you find someone who accepts you for who you are and– this is the
important part– doesn’t seek to change you or make you something or someone you’re
not, you’ve found something really special.

Tracy Malone, founder of Narcissist Abuse Support says:

When you feel good, feel that your partner is patient and true, treats
you the same in public as he/she does at home, then you’re on the
right path. Keep in mind that your intuition may send out warnings as
well. It may come as a gut reaction.

For example, if your partner wants to change you in any way. He/she
is not accepting you for who you are. If that happens, run. That is a
sign of a controlling person and he/she will never treat you properly.

Someone that treats you differently around their friends or family or whom consistently
expresses displeasure with aspects of your physical body, opinions, interests, or
personality doesn’t really care about you. They’re chasing an image in their mind of
what the perfect partner is.
You need to find someone who respects, appreciates, and loves who you are. They can
encourage you to make progress, in an effort to support and encourage you, but only if
it’s something you’ve already expressed interest in changing (or have your best interest
in mind). Therefore, they’re supporting you because it’s what you truly want or need and
aren’t attempting to further some unconscious agenda.

3. They express sincere care for your well-being without wanting anything in
return
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The final universal sign you should be looking for is a sincere interest in your well-being.

You should be looking for someone who, over time, comes to truly care about you
without asking for something in return. The relationship shouldn’t feel like a give-and-
take situation but them simply expressing the desire to care for you whether you return
the affection, favor, or give them something in return or not.

True love requires that the other person cares for you no matter what happens. No
matter where you live, how much money make, what you do for a living, who else is in
your life, what you believe, and what you can give in return.

Of course, you have work to do on your end. You need to consider each and every one
of these three important qualities as well and seek to express them. It takes real work
and, I promise you, isn’t an automatic thing just because you’re a good person.

#To some people out there, they spend their entire lives looking for ‘The One’. That
included me. I used to look everywhere for the perfect man and put romantic
relationships as something to be proud of or to look forward to.

If I can be honest with you, even after I dated Kalvin, I still had that kind of mindset
for the first few months into our relationship. However, after a while, I realized that
putting someone else on a pedestal is the key to a failed relationship. For the first few
months of our relationship, as I put Kalvin on the pedestal, I demanded him to be my
center of happiness. I expected him to make me happy – and if I wasn’t happy, it was
all his fault.

You see, entering a relationship with this kind of mindset sets everyone up to fail.
This was the root of all problems without us realizing it. When we expected the other
person to meet all our needs and personal happiness, we’d be unhappy most of the
time because we looked for happiness outside of us. External happiness is unreliable
and elusive; because the truth is, everyone should be responsible for her own
happiness. It is to realize that no man, relationship, job or circumstances can happen
to us that would make us more whole.

Instead, we are already whole. So the one person we are supposed to build and
maintain the relationship with is ourselves. When we look at ourselves in the mirror,
we should see someone with whom we should take vows to and that is someone that
we will spend the rest of our lives with. It is literally till death do us part. It is literally
for richer and for poorer.

Now the question is: How can we build a healthy relationship with ourselves?

It is as simple as: date ourselves – which means get to know ourselves. Get to know
what we like and what we don’t like. Get to know what can make us the happiest after
a long day. Get to know what can drive us mad and how to prevent it from happening.
Get to know what kind of food can cheer us up after a tough day. Get to know the
kind of person you are in your best and worst days.

Take ourselves to a movie. Treat ourselves something nice to eat after a long day.
Dress up for ourselves, not for him. Buy ourselves skin care products. Go exercising.
Eat healthily. Forgive ourselves after a terrible mistake. Speak kindly to ourselves in
the mirror and drop the criticizing thoughts. Push ourselves to pursue our dreams.

Understanding a new way of thinking, I changed my perspective. When I changed my

perspective and shift the emphasis towards myself, I become more emotionally self-
reliant; thus it magically made a better relationship with Kalvin and increased my
personal happiness.

#Its worthless to rely on a person to quench our emotional needs.

The truth is, No one can be trusted, even the most reliant and people with good
intentions towards you will hurt you in one way or the other.
The only difference between a person with Noble and that with malicious
thoughts, is of Intend, but eventually, you will end up hurting yourself in either
of the two cases.
Fortunately or Unfortunately, we humans are diverse in our states of mind,
mentality and perseverance.
These differences amongst our basic neural build up results in lack of
synchronization amongst ourselves and our actions. As an example, an act,
which is nothing more than a simple pun for me, might hurt you to a great
extent.

In my opinion, one must divert his focus and love on a motive, cause or a goal
rather than a person.
A distinct difference between people and passion is that passion is abstract. It
was born and developed in your own mind and will behave exactly the way you
expect it to.
The best part is that it will leave you only when you want it to, and come back
without any questions or terms when you want it back.

I know this path is hard and the most difficult to traverse

Being alone in this gigantic globe is not easy, but its even more difficult to
tolerate the atrocities offered by your companion in your day to day life.

Lastly, I wouldnt want you to refrain from living people, but the summary of this
huge explanation is that

You must find your first true love in your passion. Meanwhile, if you
find a person who truly deserves to be your companion, go with him,
but never forget what your First Love was.... !

#1.) Don't judge anyone easily.

2.) Try to experience many personalities.
3.) Don't keep this thought every time in your mind if he is the one.
4.) Observe him well in different situations.
5.) Don't hold back your emotions because sometimes you regret later.
6.) Know what you want from your partner.
7.) Be honest to him and to yourself.
8.) Yes, many guys are dog but exceptions are always there. Someone can be
dog for other woman and may be human for you. So always trust on your own
decisions.
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