AMANI COUNSELLING CENTRE AND TRAINING INSTITUTEDIPLOMA IN
COUNSELLING PSYCHOLOGY-
Assignment (evening Class 2024)
Marriage and family theories
UNIT ADC517
Submission date 30jan 2025
The following is an extract session using the Experiential Methods ( Human Validation)process model by
Virginia Satir
After an initial, information gathering session the Musyoka family was discussing ten year old Tommy’s
misbehavior. For several minutes Mrs. Musyoka and Tommy‘s younger sister took turn cataloging all the
‘terrible things’ Tommy did around the house.
As the discussion continued, the therapist noticed how uninvolved Mr. Musyoka . seemed to be.
Although he dutifully nodded agreement to his wife’s complaints, he seemed more depressed than
concerned. When asked what was on his mind, he said very little, and the therapist got the impression
that in fact, very little was on his mind at least consciously. The therapist didn’t know the reason for his
lack of involvement but she did know that it annoyed her, and she decided to say so.
THERAPIST (To Mr. Musyoka .)”You know what, you piss me off”.
MR. Musyoka . “What”? (He was shocked, people he knew just didn’t speak that way.)
THERAPIST ..”I said, you piss me off.. ah . Here your wife is concerned and upset about Tommy, and you
just sit there like a lump on a log. You’re about as much a part of this family as that lamp in the corner.
MR. Musyoka “You have no right to talk to me that way (getting angrier by the minute). I work very
hard for this family. Who do you think puts bread on the table? I get up six days a week and drive a
delivery truck all over town. All day long, I have to listen to customers bitching about this and that. Then
I come home and what do I get? More bitching. “Tommy did this, Tommy did that.” I’m sick of it.”
THERAPIST “aaaah Say that again, louder.”
MR. Musyoka “I’m sick of it! I’m sick of it!!””
This interchange dramatically transformed the atmosphere in the session. Suddenly, the reason for Mr.
Musyokas .’s disinterest became clear. He was furious at his wife for constantly complaining about
Tommy. She In turn, was displacing much of her feeling for her husband onto Tommy, as a result of
MrMusyoka’s emotional unavailability. In subsequent sessions as Mr. and Mrs. Musyoka Spent more
time talking about their relationship, less and less was heard about Tommy’s Misbehavior.
Task 1
1. One of the major view of Virginia Satir’s experiential methods or [STST] is in family
communication, She believes that the relationship between self-esteem and communities is
circular, low self-esteem begets protective in-congruent communication which elicits similarly
protective communication from others, which in turn engender low self-esteem and so on.
From the above Mr. Musyoka’s family Discuss how family dysfunction develops, how would
you help in such family dysfunction, focus on technique such as family sculpturing, family art
therapy and role playing