Getting Grounded Workbook
Getting Grounded Workbook
Getting
Grounded
Coping Strategies and Self-Care
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Contents
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Sensory Grounding
Grounding is a strategy that aims to connect us to the present moment and what is happening in the
here-and-now through our body and its senses.
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SIGHT
Focus on the objects around you. Notice the textures, colours, shapes, light and shadow. Notice
symmetry, patterns or angles in what you can see.
What sights soothe you? You could create a soothing space to look at using plants, decorations,
photos or art.
TOUCH
Focus on the physical surfaces or objects around you. Consider the texture and the temperature.
Do you like to fiddle and fidget? Do you prefer smooth or rough textures? Give yourself a mini
hand massage, wear something comforting or find a favourite fidget toy.
SOUND
Focus on the sounds around you. Notice the pitch, tone and volume of the different sounds.
Notice the duration of the sounds and how frequent they are.
Do you have a favourite song or instrument? What sounds do you find calming? Create your own
soothing playlist or experiment with listening to ASMR or white noise.
SMELL
Focus on any scents. Are they pleasant or unpleasant? Are they strong or not strong?
Which smells are comforting to you? If you have a favourite perfume/aftershave, lip balm or
scent, try to carry it around with you or dab an essential oil on the back of your hand.
TASTE
If you have something to eat (e.g., mints), focus on the tastes, textures and sensations.
What are your favourite foods, flavours and tastes? Do you have any comfort foods? What is
your favourite recipe?
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Mindfulness
Mindfulness means focusing on the present moment and experiencing the world in the ‘here and now’.
It is way to separate ourselves from automatic and unhelpful ways of thinking and reacting.
Features of mindfulness include:
Observing – shift your focus from thinking to simply observing thoughts, feelings and physical
sensations with a gentle curiosity.
Describing – notice the very fine details of what you are observing.
Participating fully – consider the whole of your experience without excluding anything.
Being non-judgemental – accept your experience, i.e., do not attempt to evaluate, control or avoid
the experience.
Focusing on one thing at a time – try not to follow distracting thoughts but if this does happen,
acknowledge it and then gently return to observing your experience.
Practicing mindfulness can help train our attention and allow us to take control over what we focus on,
rather than allowing our attention to be dominated by the things that distress us.
Some examples of mindfulness exercises:
Mindful Breathing
Start by breathing in and out slowly. One breath cycle should last for around 6 seconds.
Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth, letting your breath flow freely.
Let go of your thoughts. Let go of all the things you need to do and that require your
attention. Let your thoughts come and go and be at one with your breath.
Purposefully focus on your breath and how it enters and leaves your body.
Mindful Observation
Choose a random object in your immediate environment and focus on it.
Relax into watching the object for as long as your concentration allows.
Look at this object as if you are seeing it for the first time.
Visually explore the object’s every feature, e.g., its shape, colour and texture.
Allow yourself to connect with its energy and its purpose within the natural world.
Mindful Listening
Choose a piece of music that you have not heard before.
Close your eyes and put some headphones on.
Ignore any information about the music such as its genre, title or artist. Allow yourself to
get lost in the sound for the whole song.
Explore the song by listening to the different instruments, focus on the range and tones of
the voice and notice any changes in dynamics and rhythm.
Mindful Walking
Before beginning your walk, stand still for a few moments and focus on your breathing.
Notice how your entire body is feeling.
As you begin to walk, focus on the movements and sensations in your body.
Notice the way you carry your body, e.g., the feelings in your feet, legs, arms and head. Do
you slouch when you walk or is your back straight? Do you take big or small steps? Try not
to change the way you walk, but instead just notice how your body naturally moves.
Open your attention to the things around you. What can you see, hear, touch or smell?
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Body Breaks
Butterfly Hug
Experiment with:
Pretzel Pose
Sit comfortably. Stretch out your arms with the backs of your
hands facing each other. Cross your hands over so that your
palms are touching. Interlace your fingers. Flip your hands and
pull them into your chest so you end up with your elbows
tucked into your sides and your hands crossed under your chin.
Then, cross your ankles. Sit and breathe.
Seated push-up
Wall push
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Visualizing Emotions
Begin by choosing a negative feeling or emotion, then write or draw your answers to the following
questions:
If your feeling had a shape, What colour would it be? What is the texture? What
what would it be? would it feel like?
What would it sound like? If your feeling was a weather What size would it be?
condition, what would it be?
If your feeling had a place in If your feeling was an animal, If it could say something,
your body, where would it what kind of animal would it what would it say?
be? be?
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Now, think about what this might like look like when feeling happy or calm:
If happiness/feeling calm had What colour would it be? What is the texture? What
a shape, what would it be? would it feel like?
What would it sound like? If happiness/feeling calm What size would it be?
was a weather condition,
what would it be?
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Happy Place
Build your own personal sanctuary. Spend some time thinking of the different things that you need to
feel safe, relaxed and comfortable. Think creatively about what your happy place might look like. Try
not to worry about rules or logic here, this is your happy place.
Once you have imagined your own happy place, you can
choose to spend time there whenever you want.
Redecorate and mix things up as often as you need to.
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My Support Circle
Visualise your support network. Sometimes we get so caught up in our worries or thoughts that we
feel alone, which can make things seems more overwhelming. Create your own support circle to
explore the important relationships in your life and to remind yourself of who is there for you.
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Your support network might be more helpful than you realise. Whilst we often turn to those in our
network when we are finding things difficult or have a problem to solve, our supporters can also help
us celebrate our achievements, learn new things and see new possibilities for the future. Who could
you turn to, to help you in the following ways? Fill in the boxes below:
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Breathing Exercises
There are many physical signs of anxiety, but one of the most distressing can be a shortness of breath
or changes to the regularity of our breathing.
By using these breathing techniques, we can reduce our anxiety and lower our blood pressure/heart
rate. This helps us feel calmer and more focused.
Square breathing
Rainbow breathing
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Our bodies respond automatically to stressful situations and thoughts by becoming tense. The
opposite relationship also works: a good way of relaxing the mind is to deliberately relax the body. In
progressive muscle relaxation, each muscle group is tensed in turn, and the tension is then released.
This relaxes the muscles and allows you to notice the contrast between tension and relaxation.
Relaxation should be enjoyable so if any part of the exercise is too difficult skip it for the moment. If
you have any injuries, you may wish to leave out that part of the exercise.
Preparation: Lie down flat on your back, on a firm bed, a couch, or on the floor. Support your head and
neck with a pillow or cushion. Alternatively sit in a comfortable chair with your head well-supported.
Close your eyes if you are comfortable doing so.
Instructions: Focus your attention on different parts of your body in the sequence. Go through the
sequence three times.
Tense & release: Tense that body part, hold it for a few moments, then relax.
Lightly tense & release: Tense that body part with just enough tension to notice, then relax.
Release only: Just pay attention to each muscle group and decide to relax it.
Recommended sequence:
3. Right leg
(tense the leg, lifting the knee slightly)
4. Left leg
(tense the leg, lifting the knee slightly)
6. Back muscles
(pull the shoulders back slightly)
8. Face
(scrunch up the muscles in your face) You can also visit YouTube and follow along with
progressive muscle relaxation videos.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ihO02wUzgkc
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Distraction Techniques
Emotions have a powerful effect on our ability to concentrate and pay attention. They do this by
taking control of our ‘spotlight of attention’ and shining it onto the things that the emotion tells us
are important. This is a normal part of how the mind works and can be helpful if our emotions are
bringing our attention to important things at the right time. However, it can also be unhelpful. This is
most obvious when emotions are too intense, when it often feels like we can’t focus on anything other
than the thing that has made us feel anxious or overwhelmed.
Distraction is a common coping strategy that involves shining the spotlight of attention away from a
situation or emotion if it doesn’t help us. It is a useful strategy for dealing with intense emotions such
as anxiety.
Describe an everyday
Count backwards from 100 activity in great detail, e.g.,
in increments of 7 the steps involved in making
your favourite meal
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Affirmations
We all have an inner voice in our heads. We hear neutral thoughts like “I need to go to the toilet”,
positive thoughts like “I did a great job!” and negative thoughts like, “I’m not good enough”.
Thoughts that get repeated the most change the structure of our brains, e.g., by strengthening the
connection between the brain cells responsible for that thought pattern. When you pay more
attention to your negative thoughts, you strengthen those brain cells and will hear those messages
more often. However, you can re-train your brain to strengthen your positive thought patterns instead.
What are affirmations?
Affirmations are encouraging messages you speak, write or think to yourself to support yourself and
interrupt negative thought patterns.
My affirmations
I am I am I am
strong determined kind
I am I am
I have a worthy
wise
lot to be
proud of
Practice
Set aside time each day to practice affirmations. Choose a morning time and an evening time that
work for you. Also use these whenever your notice you have that negative thought.
Take action
Your brain needs proof that these positive thoughts are true. To prove your negative thoughts wrong,
you must act in a way that proves your encouragements are right!
I am beautiful
the way I am
I am a good
I deserve respect
student
from others
Actions: Actions:
- Listen in class - Set boundaries
- Ask questions with others
- Complete Actions: - Stand up to
work on time - Avoid ridiculing your body bullies
- Study hard - Avoid comparing your - Respect others
body to others
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It’s okay to have a not- I’ve dealt with harder situations, and
okay day. I know it will get better.
Write down a coping thought or positive statement for each difficult or distressing situation –
something you can tell yourself that will help you get through. Write them on a piece of card and carry
it in your pocket to help remind you.
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Problem-Solving
If you're struggling with a problem, use this technique which helps to break the problem down, put
things into perspective and solve it in a more manageable way. Problems can feel overwhelming and
it's easy to put them off. However, it's much better in the long run to solve the problem as soon as
possible rather than put it off until a later date.
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Step 6 – Do it!
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Connect these dots using only 4 straight lines. Do not lift your pencil and do not retrace over any of
your lines.
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Most people approach the exercise thinking that they need to stay within the lines of what they
perceive as a box around the nine dots.
This activity asks you to see differently than you usually do, to shift your perspective away from the
way you normally react to a situation, instead to step outside the box!
Answer:
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STOPP
STOP!
Just pause for a moment.
Say it to yourself or in your head as soon as you notice your mind
and/or your body is reacting to an anxiety trigger.
TAKE A BREATH
Notice your breathing as you breathe in and out.
Slowly breathe in through the nose, out through the mouth.
Perhaps try a breathing exercise.
OBSERVE
What thoughts are going through your mind?
What are you reacting to?
What sensations do you notice in your body?
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Strategies for when you’re feeling Strategies for when you’re feeling
angry or restless: down or alone:
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Goal Setting
Setting goals can help us outline the things we would like to change or work towards. We may set
different goals for our education, career, social life, hobbies, family life and wellbeing.
Setting goals can help us identify the things that are important to us, develop our strengths, provide
extra motivation and encouragement and can keep us feeling more stable and organised.
Working towards goals can provide us with a dopamine boost (the “feel-good” neurotransmitter).
To make goal setting effective, we can set SMART goals. These types of goals can help keep us
focused and motivated and improve our ability to reach them.
S M A R T
Set an initial goal:
Use this space to write and then refine your goal according to
SMART.
Specific
What is the exact goal that you are
trying to achieve?
Measurable
How will you be able to see that you are
making progress?
Achievable
Is this a goal that you think you can
actually reach?
Relevant
Is this something that’s important to
you right now?
Timely
When do you think you’ll be able to
reach your goal?
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To finish
a 10km
To run
8km in an
hour
To run 5km
in 40
minutes
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BACE
Our mood can be greatly affected by what we do. To maintain a healthy sense of wellbeing and ensure
that we are looking after ourselves, we need to balance what we do.
We can use the acronym BACE to help us. A routine that has activities across all BACE categories is
good for us because it releases good chemicals in our brain (the body’s natural painkillers).
Exercise = endorphins Connecting with people = oxytocin
Achievement = dopamine Physical activity = serotonin
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What do I enjoy?
Once you have brainstormed your BACE activities, it can be helpful to write them down in a weekly
planner/your phone calendar to record when you're going to do these activities, so you know exactly
how much time to devote to them and ensure you’re getting a balance. For example:
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Sleep Hygiene
Mental health problems can affect how well you sleep, and poor sleep can have a negative impact on
your mental health. To sleep well we need to get the basics right. Sleep hygiene factors involve the
things we do in the day and at bedtime to prepare ourselves for a restful night’s sleep.
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App Support
Stem4.org.uk or your app store:
CalmHarm: Support to manage or resist the urges to self-harm.
ClearFear: Support young people to manage symptoms of anxiety.
MoveMood: Support young people to manage low mood and depression.
CombinedMinds: Support family and friends to provide mental health support.
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