Before you fall in love with your spouse, you must fall in love with the Lord!
Thank you for giving us the chance to express ourselves. For some of us I know this is a very passionate subject. Immodesty is anything that brings unnecessary or too much attention to one's self. Please, a thousand times please, before you leave wherever you get dressed; lean over in front of a mirror. Any cleavage is too much.
In the past whenever a young lady has erred away from the side of caution concerning her language and topic of speech, we as young men have mentioned things (later when we are back in the dorms, motel room, etc.) like "I was surprised she said that" or "well, that was interesting..." It doesn't look good for the young lady.
I don't want to touch another brothers future wife or even share personal things with her. And I don't want my future wife to have been touched by one of my brothers. Think of it. You may be hugging or kissing your best friends spouse. When I get out of a relationship I want to be able to look back and know that what I did was pleasing to God. Immodesty reflects a sensual attitude, whereas attractiveness reflects a sense of self worth and dignity. It's really difficult to keep your mind on the Lord during service when there is a sister who is sitting close to you and is dressed in a way that the standards are being pushedeven if you aren't necessarily interested in her.
Modesty
Why is it even important?
I really appreciate those who display themselves with proper clothing, long hair, little or no makeup, and Christian conversation. I haven't discovered the right one yet because of immodesty (mostly in dress, but also behavior) that has swept the Body of Christ amongst young ladies. It is discouraging because you think that "there is no one for me", but I know that there is one for me. I don't have to rush things or eagerly look for her, God will give her to me; and when He does, I will know. Dedication in worship, prayer, and reading the Bible are other characteristics that I consider to be attractive; and are very important qualifications.
Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbor as thyself. Luke 10:27
Be happy when you feel a conviction!
Sisters of the body of Christ! It's ok to be different!!! It's ok to be set apart!!
Youth Meeting Mt. Carmel, IL December 2012
Results taken from the survey at
Dress like you were going to dinner with Jesus.
www.whatguysthink.wordpress.com
How then can young ladies help young men to maintain their integrity before God?
Thoughts from the guys
SEEKto love and please Jesus, your Heavenly Prince, with
all your heart and in everything you do and pursue a personal relationship with Him. BUILDyour life upon the principles of the Word of God.
I believe a young lady can look beautiful, modest, and holy at the same time. I find it more attractivewhen a young lady looks as though she loves the Lord more than herself! We need some time to get our lives in order, so that we can provide for a familymaybe we like a girl but aren't pursuing as fast as they think we should be. That's because we don't want to mess something up.
What does God say to young men regarding young ladies? JOB 31:1
I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?
CULTIVATEa pure heart toward your brothers in Christ. UNDERSTANDthat young men are affected greatly by
what they SEE and struggle daily to keep their thoughts pure.
CAREenough to do a heart check and a mirror check
before walking out the door.
PROVERBS 7
My son, keep my wordsand, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heartLet not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths. For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her. Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.
CHOOSEattractive, yet modest clothing and behavior. DOyour {future} husband good and not evil ALL the days
of YOUR life.
Please don't TRY to attract a guy. Instead, BE the kind of woman that a godly man would want as a wife and you WILL be attractive to the right man!
Modesty doesn't make you holy, but because your God is making you holy, you display modesty. Guys talk about girls standards. We are afraid we are losing what God has convicted us to look for in women. I know the young men have disappointed you in some ways, too. Pray for us to be strong, steadfast, meek, and godly as well. Every man wants to feel secure in the woman he marries and modesty adds so much to that security.
PROVERBS 31
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubiesThe heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
