Love dynamics

The moment you have feelings waking up for someone, love starts
flowing in you.
When this happens, there is a whole set of new emotions appearing
in you.
These emotions are related with a new link or connection you
establish with a man.
The moment you are in love, you exchange invisible energies with
that person.
Love is an exchange.
It is a connection.
This exchange creates pleasure and delight in your being.
It wakes up your senses and enhances your life experience.
You might have new sensations and fantasies waking up in you.
You might have dreams, desires, wishes and life visions popping in
your mind.
This is magical!
What you want is the power to protect this experience.
Love can be fragile and vulnerable.
Your goal is to empower your love life so that this sense fragility or
vulnerability is shifted through the right care and nurturing.
You want the link with the person you love to become strong and
indestructible.
You want this force to unite you within a fresh mind set and
empowering spirit.
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Love is the core

There is lots of confusion in the dating world.
We hear words like playing games, getting hurt, break up,
insecurity, etc.
The reason you might feel trapped in such dynamics of pain and
games is simply because your love power is not strong enough.
The moment love is very strong and becomes your leading force in
the dating world, you realize that it is very easy to relate to
someone you want to connect with.
Love is the core of all that.
This is what creates the first level of attraction and desire.
This is why it is the first force you want to strengthen in your dating
world.
Put it this way: if you want to play games and be manipulative, this
is what men will feel.
Men like women have a form of "sixth sense" and intuitive abilities.
Somehow, men know what you are up to.
They will feel your emotions and intentions, and respond
accordingly.
If you get in touch with a man and want to play games, it is fine as
long as love is still the core of what you share with him.
If you want to strengthen the link with him and establish a
connection, you want to bring in extra love, find ways of nurturing
and making the flame grow.
It is like adding water to a stream.
The truth is that there are ways of stimulating love between you
and someone else.
There are ways to invite more love in your life.
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The moment you know how to stimulate and wake up this inner
force, you realize that you head for greater pleasure and
satisfaction.
Imagine being in a club with some friends. Imagine that nothing is
really happening. It’s simply not there. Imagine how you would feel
if you could actually influence your mind set right now.
Imagine that you have inner sources of love and power you are not
using you right now.
The goal is simple: wake up your full love resources.
You can be superconductive to love.
You can actually stimulate it and invite it your life.
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How to wake up your love

This is powerful!
This is the core of your love life.
You can wake up love through action, mind sets, attitudes and by
simply going with the flow of it rather than resisting it.
When you love, you open up.
When you open up, you tend to become more vulnerable.
This is the number one reason you might resist the flow of love.
This is why you want to master the exact moment you open up.
You want to understand the dynamics of love.
Love is like electricity.
It is transforming.
It shifts your emotional base.
It establishes connections in places where there were none.
Love establishes complicity.
It is a flow of refreshing energy which nurtures your being.
It is truly like fresh water.
It is life force.
The more of it you have, the happier you are.
The goal is simple: if you feel you don’t have enough love in your
life, you want to invite more of it!
You want more! You want it to flow between you and others.
What is love? It is a connection.
When you love someone, you establish a link, You create a bridge of
energy between you and that person.
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This is why it is such a transformative experience. It is the essence
of life exchange.
Life force flows.
The more it flows in and through you, the happier you feel.
Before you even start dating, you want to create a reserve of it. You
want to know where and how to tap into it.
There are two essential ways you can relate to someone:
The first one is competition.
The second is complicity.
When you meet someone for the first time, you can smile or shut
down.
These two expressions say two different things: on one hand, you
have an open door; on the other hand you have a closed one.
The reason why you want to open up is because you want to
exchange with that person.
In fact, you want to create a bridge.
You want to link.
If you shut down, you keep your energy for yourself.
You give nothing.
There is little exchange of love.
At least no external expression of it.
If you shut down, you say something like:
“I am afraid of relating to you”
“I don’t want to”
“I have something else in mind”
“I am not interested by what you have to offer”
“I don’t need this
“I compete with you”
etc.
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If you open up, you say:
“I am interested in you”
“I want to establish a link with you”
“I want to open up”
“I have something to offer”
“I like what I see”
“I want to establish complicity”
etc.
As you can see, any connection between you and someone else can
take different roads.
Depending on your mind set, you will choose to smile or not to
smile.
Sometimes, you really can’t choose. You feel that whatever happens
is fine.
Other times, you feel like you are just on the edge between a smile
and a grimace.
If you want to develop your flirting skills, you need to play with
those mind sets.
Flirting is about deciding to go for smiles more often.
A smile is an invitation. It is already taking the path of love.
Deciding to go for a smile is a choice!
The more love you have in you, the more naturally it happens.
When you have lots of love, there is no choice involved.
Your smile simply happens.
It is the natural state of your being.
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Part 3 – Stay
emotionally free
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What is emotional freedom?

The expression emotional freedom is self explanatory, right?
Right now, what is your level of emotional freedom?
Do you have it or not?
Do you have any hang ups from the past?
Is there anything in the way of you feeling 100% happy?
Emotional freedom is a gift.
Right now, it can be your target for the rest of your life.
The moment you decide to achieve it, you can consciously invite it
in your life.
Emotional freedom is about creating space in you.
It is about getting rid of what you no longer need: past relationships,
negative experiences, toxic friends, etc.
Gaining emotional freedom is a key life skill.
Strangely enough, this might be the first time you hear this
expression!
Your mind is your territory.
Your thoughts and emotions are yours.
When you feel emotionally free, you feel like you are in charge. You
are in power of what goes on in your mind.
This is what you want right now.
You don't want old experiences and people having unwanted
influence over your emotions.
The key to feel emotionally free is to have the power to protect your
inner space.
Your mind is energy.
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Sometimes, someone can gain access to your mind.
Somehow, you open your inner door and let them steal your
attention.
This is the moment trouble arises.
You don't want this to happen.
You want to stay emotionally free.
This is why you want extra power to protect your territory.
This is a battle of energies.
You want emotional freedom.
No one can take this from you.
Why is that?
Because it is your birth right to be in charge of your life.
Do you realize that your time, actions, attitudes, personal space,
thoughts and emotions are all yours.
It is your birth right to have control over them.
Nobody else but you owns them.
This is why you must stay in charge.
The moment you give away that power, you lose yourself.
Don't!
It is your life!
It is your power!
This is the first step of emotional freedom: realizing that you own
your life.
Eventually, this is the only concept and idea you might ever need to
stay emotionally free.
Don't give yourself away.
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Nobody but you owns your life.
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Crushes
Crushes are great and exciting as long as you understand the
dynamics of your desire.
Feeling in love is a wonderful state of mind. Go for it and enjoy, but
stay awake!
A crush builds up a stream of fantasies. What do you do with it?
Should you act on it? Should you tell a guy you are falling for him?
You can tell him of course but without words. Free flirting is a much
better approach than this "serious" conversation you'll have on a
cafe's terrace.
A crush is an opportunity to have fun. It is not an opportunity to
suffer or be rejected.
Within your emotional landscape, you can decide where you want to
go. Imagine yourself at sea. As Khalil Gibran was saying in his book
"The Prophet", the wind is your passion and the helm is your reason.
You enjoy the wind but stay awake at all times. If you sail without
helm and direction, you'll end up turning in circles driven by passion
alone.
What is your direction? What is reason in all that? It is a plan, a life
vision. It is your personal foundation, your work, the place you live
in. All these elements in your life give you a base. They give you
power and stop you from turning in circles.
You can get hurt in the dating scene. It will happen if you abandon
yourself and lose your direction. Stay awake!
Having a crush is a powerful emotion.
Use it!
It brings pleasure and delight in your life.
Wake up the stream of romance and play with it.
Never be the slave of it.
Stay master of it.
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The obsessive trap

Love can become obsessive.
Passion has two sides to it.
One side is a thrilling experience. It brings joy, pleasure and
excitement.
Another side is painful and draining. It can consume your being and
destroy your life.
The term passion comes from the ancient Greek "patir" which
means suffering.
This means that etymologically, suffering an passion are one and
same thing.
Of course, the modern expression of passion takes another meaning.
When you talk about a passionate lover, you mean someone who is
fully engaged into their dream and desire. It is a positive expression
in that case.
When your love is obsessive, you suffer. You don't want to suffer.
You want to be emotionally free.
Why can your love become obsessive? It becomes obsessive when
you don't reach your goals.
If you love a man who does not love you back and you keep on
pursuing him, two things can happen: You either break through or
you burn yourself.
The art of dating has a lot to do with playing with your desire.
You need to learn when to insist and when to give up. Sometimes, it
is a lost battle. If for instance, you keep pursuing someone who is
way out of you league, and does not respond no matter what, you'll
alienate yourself if you try to force destiny.
It's not just about you. It is about him as well. This man has the
power of self determination. This is a birth right. It is a human right.
His will power has as much "weight" as yours. However, he was
given the right to decide for himself. This is why, sometimes, you
can't break through no matter how hard you try.
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The goal is to work with the forces of human nature rather than
against them.
You need to be awake and know when it is time to give up.
How do you give up? You disinvest. You let go. You get back your
full emotional freedom. You get back your full power.
You need to stay master of your desire, not its slave.
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What if you fall for a guy who

does not love you back?
If you felt challenged in the past with your love life, I know exactly
how you feel.
One of the main tests is this one:
Loving someone who does not love you back to the same extent.
You can feel emotionally challenged when he is in your mind taking
too much space.
His presence in your mind can literally overpower you.
It can make you feel vulnerable and powerless.
If you want to win this "emotional test" you need two things:
Extra power and effective strategies.
This is a battle for power:
Who is in charge of your life?
Who has the greatest influence over what happens in your life?
If a guy’s attitude, thoughts or feelings rules the way you think and
the way you feel, then you lose control over your life.
It is simple: even when you are in love, you still want to be the one
in charge of your life.
Why is that?
Because life is so much more enjoyable when you are the one who
is in the control seat.
You are in control of your life, not his.
He is in charge of his life. You are in charge of yours.
Don’t give up you power the moment you feel love for a man.
When you give some love, you don’t have to give up your life.
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Stay the center of your existence!
From that inner place of emotional security, you share life and
energy with someone who responds to it to the same extent.
It is an exchange!
When you fall in love or have a crush, a battle starts.
This battle happens in your mind.
It is a battle for control.
It is a conflict between two energy realities.
On one side, there is you.
On the other side there is him.
When you lose the battle and start feeling love ache in any way, he
literally takes over your life.
You don’t want this to happen!
You want to stay in control of your life.
In other terms, you need to stay in the control seat and kick him
out of it the moment he tries to overpower you.
It is a battle.
It is a battle for your own life and emotional autonomy.
You want to be in love and stay in charge of your life!
It is very simple.
Don't "abandon yourself" in your love quest.
The dating equation is always to enjoy your love life at 100%.
This won’t happen if you abandon yourself
This article is a new and refreshing mind set.
It gives you all the tools to stay in charge even when you are in love.