THE FIRST LOVE
Presented by: MARIA DE LOS ANGELES JARAMILLO MARTINEZ
LAURA ALEJANDRA OBANDO
CATALINA TORRES ERAZO
LILIANA URRTUTIA BARRAGAN
INSTITUCION EDUCATIVA SAGRADO CORAZON DE JESUS, SALESIANAS
ENGLISH
CAUCA
POPAYAN
2019
THE FIRST LOVE
Presented by: MARIA DE LOS ANGELES JARAMILLO MARTINEZ
LAURA ALEJANDRA OBANDO CUELLAR
CATALINA TORRES ERAZO
LILIANA URRUTIA BARRAGAN
Presented to: ELIANA CHAGUENDO
(English area teacher)
INSTITUCION EDUCATIVA SAGRADO CORAZON DE JESUS, SALESIANAS
ENGLISH
CAUCA
POPAYAN
2019
First love is more an ideal emotion than a specific feeling, the mind makes
impossible dreams, ideals difficult to materialize, because it is not yet prepared to
face the other person and their different probabilities and only manages to cling to
an idea without reasoning , providing the beloved with attributes that have nothing
to do with him (both physical and psychological that go far beyond reality).
Some people manage to make sure that first love is not forgotten, but is this real?
Yes, although love is always something special, when it comes to the first courtship
it becomes a unique experience, impossible to forget. For better or worse, this
relationship awakened new feelings in you.
This new relationship, no matter how real, good or bad it was, was accompanied
by feelings of awe, intrigue and emotion for the unknown.
The first time you experience the word love, it opens a world of sensations
accompanied by romance and fear, a new sensation and that's why you never
forget it.
It doesn't look like anything you've felt before. Therefore, you end up keeping this
new discovery permanently in your memory. This is why the first love is
UNFORGETTABLE.
But, not always the first love is the first couple you have, not for everyone the first
love arrives on a silver tray and with some chocolates next to it, other people felt
that their first love could be their pet, which has been with them in the best and
worst (really worst) moments, others may feel that their first and only love is their
parents, or on the contrary, their children, since the love of a mother says that she
has no limits, but the problem is knowing identify when it is your true love, since
when that person supposedly loves you, and in reality you only occupy a
secondary place; that love is concentrated in an idealized image that usually
remains hidden behind the veil of the vain illusions of early youth.
The first love is painful when it does not come to materialize, because it is needed
but also rejected, it is desired but also feared, and when it disappears it gives rise
to a sweet and bitter memory at the same time, and the feeling of not having
behaved The height of the circumstances.
It can cause loss of self-esteem, feeling of inadequacy and the feeling of failure for
having suffered an irreparable loss, which can condition future relationships or
simply have been an experience that will open the way to give way to other more
real experiences, when it has been achieved greater mastery of emotional control.
Loving with the body and the soul requires being responsible, so that for that, it is
best to wait for the right moment, when a person is fully aware and can answer for
their own actions.
Therefore, we have found some tips that will help you choose true love:
1. Open your heart and be surprised
If you are reading this article, it means you are looking for love in your life, doesn't
it? So you must show openness. But being truly open means that even when you
expect to find the special person for you, you must be receptive to love, wherever it
comes from. Your ideal partner may appear in the way you least expected and may
be very different from what you had imagined. So the only way to find that special
person is to be open to all kinds of people.
2. Avoid exclusivity, unless you have committed
Maybe you've been dating someone and the time they spend together is amazing.
Should you stop dating other people? The answer is no". Unless you've already
committed to someone, keep your options open. It's not about playing with people,
but not about making someone the center of your universe. This attitude will also
prevent you from becoming dependent on someone in particular.
3. Soften your body language
The next time you have an appointment with someone, take a few minutes to
analyze what your body does. Possibly your nervousness shows that you have
tight shoulders or clenched fists ... Women become so aware of these signs of
nervousness that we stop projecting that image of femininity that men find so
seductive. So start by relaxing your hands and shoulders, in addition to
straightening your back, which will allow you to experience greater confidence in
yourself.
4. Don't blow your imagination
What were you thinking the last time you had an appointment with someone? If you
are like most women, ideas like these probably came to your mind: “Will you like
me?” “What would a relationship with him be like?” “Will you ask me to go out
again?” Focus on the future and start To ask yourself “what will happen if…” not
only prevents you from enjoying the present moment and discovering who the man
you are dating is, but it also makes you fill your head with ideas and not let your
heart connect.
5. Share your feelings without making them responsible for them
For some reason the man you are dating is late again, he brings the subject of his
ex back into the conversation or forgot to call you as he had promised ... These are
scenarios that will undoubtedly propel you to escape fleeing a relationship. And
although most women think that talking about these issues can cause the man to
move away, the key is to express your feelings clearly, without blaming him and
inviting him to be part of the solution. One way to address these problems could be
the following: “I really feel uncomfortable when you talk about other women and I
don't want there to be tension between us. What do you think about it?"
6. Stop pretending that you are someone who you really are not
How often do you hide your true self when you go out with someone? Maybe you
think that if you show yourself as you are, you will scare it and it will run away, or
that if you dare to express disagreements or a different point of view from yours,
you will spoil the relationship. Nothing further from reality! Obviously, it's not about
showing all your flaws on the first date, but you don't have to pretend to be a
perfect person either. Stop censoring yourself and let that person know you to love
you for who you really are.
7. Change the channel to “receive”
You might think that to show a man that you are a “great match” you must strive to
cook him, do things for him, push the relationship so that he advances… The truth
is that men fall in love and get more involved when they are the ones who can give
, and not vice versa. A good prospect will want to please you, make you happy, do
things for you; so let me do it!
8. Always put yourself first
It is natural for women to give priority to others, but if you want to inspire a man,
putting their needs before yours can be completely counterproductive. Although
every relationship is based on giving and receiving, you must pay attention to your
needs first. When a man sees that you treat yourself with respect and care, he will
perceive a woman who values himself and has good self-esteem, qualities that will
appeal to him and motivate him to make you happy.
9. Don't disqualify it so fast
Is he too short, fat, too young or too serious? There are hundreds of women who at
the beginning could not support any characteristic of their partner and now they
cannot imagine their life without him. When a man appears in your life, regardless
of how long the relationship lasts, consider it as an opportunity. Unless there is
some feature you can't really deal with, give yourself the chance to date him at
least three times. It may not be the ideal partner you dreamed of, but being close to
it you can get to know it better and maybe even end up falling in love with its other
qualities.
