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David DeAngelo • Style • Tyler Durden
Gambler • AFC Adam • Juggler • Mehow
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Getting Lucky
by AFC AdamLondon

Ok, we are all aware of the phrase, However… I took a spare helmet. Why? This
“getting lucky”... well; Luck = was a conscious choice I made before going
Preparation Meeting Opportunity. to the club. I knew that If i didn’t bring a
spare helmet I couldn’t take a girl home. I
Well last night I made a decision would have allowed myself to fail. I realised
that made me realise just how much that that subconsciously I was weighing up the
statement shouldn’t apply to us. decision to carry it.

The phrase getting lucky implies that we A part of my mind was actually convincing
have no control over the results… or little me to leave it at home as it “would be
control at least. So the essence of game hassle to carry” Though on analysis I realised
should remove this, right? actually it was a form of AA. I was allowing
myself to fail to get an F-close. So that if I did
A good friend of mine described luck as well in a set and wasn’t sure if I could get her
preparation meeting opportunity. You can’t home, I could always say to myself. “no point
capitalise on a “break” if you aren’t ready for going to get her home, you only have one
it. helmet”

e.g. HB comes over to sit with you (giving you So I made the decision and took it with me.
proximity) yet your fear of approach stops
you from talking to her. If you were prepared I played in the club, Chinas on a wednesday
and had practiced you would be able to start is kinda one of my haunts. Bumped into
the conversation after recognising the IOI the PUA training crowd, said hi but didn’t
and get the girl… really mingle with them as I wanted to do
some lone stuff. So I moved from table to
However this runs deeper. How many of you table mingling with the groups of girls I
have been in the game for a while, yet still am on pretty good terms with. The key for
go home empty handed… are you missing me here was to build up masses of social
something… Something other than IOI’s or proof without my own table. So I was using
conversation hooks. contacts to get introduced to others.

Are you prepared to get laid? Anyway. It ended with me chatting to one
portugese girl. As we go to leave the club she
Last night I took my brand new vespa spots my second helmet.
(Which I love) to China whites nightclub.


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HB: Hey you didn’t tell me you had two HB: I thought you were taking me home.
helmets, you can ride me home. AFC AdamLondon: I am….
AFC AdamLondon: Oh man… I can’t be arsed. AFC AdamLondon: In the morning. I need my
HB: Oh come on… we’ve danced and chatted sleep first.
all night it’s the proper thing to do.
AFC AdamLondon: Oh man I really don’t In we go, we get to bed, we cuddle… we
want to. don’t sleep... We kiss… We F-Close.
HB: Come on you’re taking me home.
AFC AdamLondon: Where do you live? Now the key here is that I couldn’t have
HB: White City done it if I had allowed myself to fail by not
AFC AdamLondon: Oh no man that really is bringing the helmet. (Which ultimately got
far. Seriously I don’t want to. Another night. me the lay)
HB: Come on… Show me your bike, be a
gentleman. So beware... Be prepared. Have condoms,
AFC AdamLondon: Ok babe… fair enough I’ll plan to come home with someone, and you
take you… will increase the chances of it happening if
you do.
So now I ask you… Stop reading.. Who’s
frame is this? Am I in hers? Or is she in mine? There are a lot of community guys I know
(mwahahahahahaha) that don’t prepare, they aren’t sure where or
how they will take a girl home to F-Close her.
So we get on my bike, she negs me for poor
driving, I tell her she’s wrong and that she is Plan yours.
drunk and so thinks the road is swerving.
How will you close them? Where?
And we ride…
Are you ready for success?
To my house!

(Shocked)

HB: Where are we?

AFC AdamLondon: My house.
HB: Why?
AFC AdamLondon: I’m tired


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Social Proof
by AFC AdamLondon

Social proof is essentially a means were looked at by women with neutral

to generate Pre-selection, and expressions.
Propinquity.
So we can see from the test that women
Pre-selection was a form of generally prefere men that other women
attraction that I feel was adequately outlined are already attracted to. As certain emotions
in a psychological test covered last year can be ambiguous to see from a distance
by Benedict Jones. The theory behind Pre- or without understanding the context; a
selection has been around since the mid harmless smile will often be perceived by
1900’s and argueably before, however I feel others as a signature of attraction.
this test sums it up more than well enough
for our purposes. Therefore the more people you speak to
in a room and leave feeling good about
The Test themselves with regards to you the more
Benedict Jones Test 05.02.06 participants pre-selection you will generate. This could be
first viewed eight pairs of male faces and done by anything from going around taking
indicated which face in each pair they pictures of people, to getting everyone to
preferred and how strongly they preferred dance, to buying everyone a drink, to just
it. Following this, participants viewed a saying hi to everyone you meet.
slideshow where they saw the same pairs of
male faces, but in which a woman was shown However Social Proof is even more powerful
looking at one of the men in each pair with as it also generates Propinquity, and this is a
either a happy expression (i.e. smiling) or a form of comfort.
relatively negative (i.e. neutral) expression.
After the slide show, participants repeated Preselection = Attraction
the initial face preference test. Propinquity = Comfort

Results Attraction + Comfort = Lay

For female participants, a paired samples t-
test comparing the change in mean strength (Awesome formula eh? Who Said I was crap
of preference for target faces in the happy at maths.)
and neutral conditions showed that the
increase in preference for faces that were Propinquity is the term used to describe a
smiled at by women during the observation physical proximity, special bond, or some
phase was greater than that for faces that form of kinship between things. Psychology


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views this is one of the leading triggers in apartment building living near a stairway
interpersonal or social attraction. It roughly tend to have more friends from other floors
relates to being close to someone else in than others. Propinquity also applies to
some form or another. This could be in Social groups. These could consist of class
physical terms, i.e you live in the same area mates, friendship social circles or even work
as someone or not so physical, you both colleagues, and explains the tendency for
belong to the same association. The closer teachers to date teachers, members of the
the proximity the higher the propinquity. police force to date each other and so on.
For example those living on the same floor
in a building have a higher propinquity than In 1956 Alan C Kerckhoff conducted a study
those on different floors. on residential propinquity, around 70% of
the married couples lived within 20 blocks
In this Diagram we can see that A and B of their partner before marriage. This seems
would both be attracted to C as C lies within obvious when you think about it. Yet it is
both of A and B’s Circle. Likewise C would something people don’t really think about.
be attracted to both A and B and would
have the option of choosing either. D is the It seems strange to say that just being close
outsider of the group, and therefore holds to somebody generates attraction, yet if you
the lowest levels of attraction to any of the notice the amount of IOI’s you get if you see
other parties. a girl every morning on the same train, or
from someone who lives in the apartment
The propinquity effect is the tendency block opposite you. You will almost always
for people to form friendships or begin to say hello every day. Obviously this
romantic relationships with those whom isn’t the be all and end all, however it is the
they encounter often. In other words, start. Social proof enables us to generate this
relationships tend to be formed between regularly creating this initial spark whenever
those who have a high propinquity. It we vybe with a room showing that the room
was first theorized by psychologists Leon is our social circle and that they are part of it.
Festinger, Stanley Schachter, Kurt Lewin and
Kurt Bach in what came to be called as the It is powerful because it is a passive form of
Westgate studies conducted MIT university in game, When run correctly it enables you to
1950 get opened. My wing and best friend Jim
Stark used this to close his incredibly hot
Propinquity can be more than just physical current girlfriend who is a slim blonde model
distance. For example, residents of an type and at least 6 inches taller than Jim. She


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actually asked him on the night.

“Who are you? Why does everyone seem to

know you?”

The fact that it requires little outer game and

instead primarily relies on having fun and
possesing a sold Inner game frame to work
from, makes it something that people can
get to grips with easily without jeapodising
their own personality.

It has been the basis of my game since I

started in the community and is in my mind
the reason I have done as well as I have
so quickly. Though I am always looking to
make myself better. I have seen past tutors
and wings of mine stare at me as with only
social proof and a few simple afc lines I have
managed to close girls that blew them out
previously. Then watched them completely
alter their game to focus on Social Proof to
amazing effect.

You want the magic pill? It doesn’t exist.

Social Proof is the next best thing.


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What Women HATE Most About Single Guys

By David DeAngelo

If you listen to a group of attractive, Onward.

single women talking alone over
dinner or drinks, the topic will always Friendships and Romance
turn to MEN. For women, friendships and romantic
relationships are two separate things. They
And in most cases, it will eventually are NOT the same.
turn into a RANT session about how hard it is
to find good men to date... One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when
it happens.
Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION
about men in general... Remember that.

...And wind up with a detailed list of all the One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.
traits guys have that are ANNOYING AS HELL.
“Romantic” relationships are very different
The reality is that single women have an from “friend” relationships.
entire laundry list of traits, qualities, and
characteristics that they HATE in single guys. While most men would sleep with most of
their female “friends” if the woman “came
Did you know this? on” to them, most women would NOT sleep
with most men that they consider “just
I didn’t think so. friends”.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years But why is this?
ago, I didn’t know this either.
How do women differentiate between “just
So take heart in the idea that you’re about friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”?
to learn something that most men on this
planet will DIE not knowing. And why is it so hard to become “more than
friends” with a woman you’ve been “just
My hope is that what I’m about to share friends” with for a long time?
with you will change how you interact with
women FOREVER... and help you meet and The answer to this riddle is very interesting
date more of the kinds of women you’re to me.
interested in.


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I believe that the answer comes down to question.

understanding HOW women “know” when
they want to “be intimate” with a man... If she feels that “It’s Gettin’ Hot In Here”
and, even MORE importantly, understanding feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will
how women “know” when they DON’T want probably be that this guy is interesting and
to “be intimate” with a man... attractive, and a good “choice” to date. At
this point she’ll take ACTION on her feelings
The thing that tells a woman whether the and thoughts...
guy she’s with is “friend” material or “lover”
material is how she FEELS. It goes like this:

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings FEEL--->THINK--->ACT

and PHYSICAL feelings.
First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT... and
It is NOT logic. THEN the action.

She might USE logic to “rationalize” her Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an
decision... or she might USE logic to SOUND important question:
like she has a good reason for either “being
with” or “not being with” a particular guy. How do most guys behave around women
that they’re “romantically” interested in?
But don’t let that distract you.
And another:
Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context.
What do they do to get the woman that’s the
So let me say this another way. object of their desires to be with them?

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/ Take a few minutes to think about this. Make
or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS as a list if you have paper and pen handy.
the basis for her “decisions” and actions with
a particular guy. I’m serious. I’ll wait.

If she feels that “Ewwww Yuck!” feeling, Come back when you’re finished.
then her “logical” conclusion will probably
not be that she wants to date the guy in Now take a look at your list.


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I’ll bet that almost every single thing on your it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.
list was something “external”. First, it’s just the plain-old wrong way to go.
Telling or showing a woman that you “like
In other words, your list probably contains her” has no effect on how she feels about
things like “Take her to dinner” and “Give YOU.
her compliments” and “Buy her flowers” and
“Call her often”. In the moment it sure seems to make sense...
“If I show her how I feel, she’ll return the
These are all things that demonstrate that feelings”.
he’s INTERESTED.
Duh.
They are NOT things that trigger those
emotional and physical feelings inside of a Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do
woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY. in the moment (when your inner little girl
has a big fat crush). But it’s not... it will have
In other words, men try to use “props” to LET NO effect on her feelings for you.
A WOMAN KNOW HE’S INTERESTED...
And second, it communicates clearly that
...HOPING that when the woman sees these YOU DON’T GET IT. It tips a woman off
displays she’ll be interested in him. INSTANTLY that you’re not hip to what’s
going... and it kills your chances with her.
Almost NONE of the things men do to court
women make women FEEL ANYTHING Say what?
even remotely similar to “Attraction” and
“Arousal”. You mean that doing nice things for women,
and trying to show how you feel can actually
Of course, you know this. HURT your chances with a woman?

You’ve probably done this stuff about a Yea, it can.

bazillion times. I have, too. I know what it’s
like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular Look, if you’ve been dating a woman
woman know that I’m interested... only to exclusively for six months, and her birthday
have her NOT RESPOND in a “romantic” way. comes... it’s OK to buy her a gift and tell her
that you like spending time with her.
The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that


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You’re Already In A Relationship and you’re going to need to take a totally

But if you’ve known a woman for six DAYS different road to get where you’re going...
and you try this kind of thing, you’re going
to shoot yourself in the foot. What Attractive Women Hate
Most About Single Guys...
Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men Let’s return to where we started. There are
who DON’T GET IT. And if you DON’T get a few particular things that REALLY annoy
it, PLUS you’re trying to compensate for single, attractive women.
the fact that you don’t get it with gifts and
compliments, then you’re REALLY screwed (or One of the reasons that these things annoy
not screwed, as the case may be). women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS.

Remember what I’m about to tell you. A woman can like everything about you, but
if you do these things (or even ONE of these
Burn it into your mind. things), it can DESTROY your chances of
success with a particular woman.
Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your
computer monitor... Here are a few of the BIG things that single
women hate:
SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN
TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. 1) Giving Up Your Status In
THEY KNOW WHEN A GUY DOESN’T “GET Exchange For Her Attention
IT”... AND THEY’RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY And Approval
WHO DOESN’T “GET IT” JUST KEEPS TRYING If I had to describe the one single thing that
AND TRYING AND TRYING. both annoys women and DESTROYS a guy’s
chances, it would be this.
Keep in mind that single, attractive women
watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They shake It has taken me a long time to see this
their pretty heads and say “He doesn’t get particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE.
it... He doesn’t get it... He doesn’t get it” over
and over and over. Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval
and attention. I’m willing to let YOU be the
The point is that if you DON’T GET IT, then one who’s in control... and let YOU call the
nothing you do is going to work for you. shots... and do anything to please YOU... if
The problem is bigger than you can imagine, you’ll give me your attention and

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approval”. call me when you get home?”.

But the problem is that women DON’T WANT Or let’s say a guy and a girl are out on their
you to give up your status and “manliness”. first date, and they’re walking around in a
large department store.
Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act
weak and tentative. Most guys will follow the woman
everywhere, and not leave her side for a
Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does minute.
something to demonstrate that he’ll give
away his power in return for approval. If she wanders away, he’ll come find her
IMMEDIATELY.
THEY HATE IT!
He’ll stay physically close to her, as if he’s
I could literally write an entire book on this afraid she’ll leave without him.
one single concept.
And an even worse example is a guy who
Take a few minutes to think this one over, is so emotionally insecure that he actually
and maybe write down the ways that you ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice, fun,
make this mistake with women. interesting, etc.

More importantly, think about how you’re “Do you think I’m interesting?”
going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.
“Do you think we could ever have a
2) Being Needy, Clingy, And relationship?”
Insecure
When one person “clings” to another person “Am I your type?”
“psychologically”, the person who is being
“clinged to” RESENTS and REJECTS the needy, Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver
clingy emotional parasite... with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want
to RUN AWAY.
This is WUSS behavior at its worst.
If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just 3) Not Leading - And Even
met, and she says “Hey, I have to go”, he Worse, Trying To Get Her To
might say “Aw, well... um... OK. Um, will you Lead

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Women have WUSS-DAR. One of the things 4) Using Insecure, Approval-

that triggers a woman’s WUSS-DAR is a man Seeking, Low-Status Posture,
who FOLLOWS. Gestures, Voice Tone, And Body
Language
The REAL problem is that most women won’t There’s a term that single, attractive, in-
try to LEAD naturally. demand women use to describe men who use
weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
So you’ve got a situation where a man comments, and mannerisms...
is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t
LEADING. The term is “NICE”.

He’s looking for little cues so he knows “He’s nice... but... there’s no chemistry.”
where to go and what to do... but he isn’t
getting them. This is one of those areas that’s not easy to
talk about.
So what does he do?
Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s
He ASKS for them! almost impossible to explain.

He says “So, I was thinking of maybe taking It’s like trying to tell a fish that they’re not
you to Olive Garden for dinner... how does going to get anywhere in life
that sound?”. if they stay wet.

Everything about the way he asks says to the The fish doesn’t even KNOW it’s wet in the
woman “I’m trying to figure out what you first place.
want me to do... please help me know how
you want me to act, where you want me to But let me try.
take you, and what you want me to say”.
This is important.
This is ATTRACTION DEATH!
Go spend a day observing couples.
men who don’t lead, and even worse, try to
get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL OUT Go places where couples that have just met
OF SINGLE WOMEN. spend time together.
They HATE IT!

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Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever. NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

Now watch the GUYS. I’d say that probably 90% of all men alive
Watch how they lean towards the women. today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves with
Watch how they raise their eyebrows in women because of this problem.
exaggerated response to women’s comments.
Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc.
Watch how they slump over, let their TELEGRAPH the message that they’re a
shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly at WUSS.
whatever the women say.
They do a thousand weird little things to let
If you’re close enough, listen to how men ask a woman know that they’re uncomfortable
questions and make comments with a voice and “not being themselves”.
tone that says “I’m insecure and I’m trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it”. And you guessed it...

You’ll see it EVERYWHERE. Single women HATE IT!

In fact, you’ll see it so much that you’ll 5) Not Understanding That

probably write me back to tell me that She’s A Woman And You’re A Man
I’m the one who’s crazy, and that since it I’m about to get philosophical on your ass, so
happens so much, it must be “the right way”. be cool.

Well, it’s not. When it comes down to it, most men don’t
understand women.
If there’s one thing that triggers an attractive
single woman’s WUSS-DAR, it’s a man’s But the REAL kicker is that most men don’t
posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, understand MEN, either!
etc.
Most guys don’t know what it’s like to get in
It all happens in an INSTANT. touch with their MALE NATURE.
Combine these two issues, and you get a guy
Women read this stuff and interpret it as who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger
instantly and accurately as you read and ATTRACTION in women.
interpret the cover of Playboy.

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Women have a “nature”. A female nature. Underneath most behavior that I see most
Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s guys acting out is a “core belief” that goes
a MALE nature. like this:

Women are coy. They like to play hard to “I don’t believe that an attractive woman
get. They like to enjoy the chase. They love would want to be around me just because
anticipation. They love to “let a guy catch she enjoys my presence... so I make up for
them”... it by saying and doing certain things that I
hope she’ll enjoy... and if she enjoys those
Men are competitive. Men are dominant. other things enough, then maybe she’ll want
Men like to play rough games, win things, to spend more time with me.”
and rule their territory.
Heavy, man.
Well guess what?
Well guess what? Most attractive single
Most men don’t BEHAVE like men when women KNOW that if a guy isn’t interesting
they’re in the presence of a woman that they to be around, they she’s eventually going to
“like”. go CRAZY being around him.

And since most men don’t understand female In other words, no amount of material gifts,
human nature, they don’t demonstrate that compliments, dinners, and other “displays”
they “get it” when they’re with women that will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING
they “like”. INTERESTING.

Women like men. Men like women. There are Here’s a profound thought:
POWERFUL causes at play here.
I and several other guys I know have many
When you’re around a woman you like, don’t women who call us often... just because they
act like a GIRLY-MAN. It’s not sexy, and it’s enjoy being around us.
not attractive...
These women would be happy just to be
And single women HATE IT! in the same room with us... and enjoy our
company.
6) Not Being Interesting To Be
Around And yes, these women CALL US.

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Often. This is a BIGGIE.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other You hear me talking about it all the time,
“displays” have ZERO lasting value to a right?
woman when it comes to how she FEELS
about you... Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter
you’ll have a better context to understand
An attractive single woman wants a guy who what I’m about to tell you...
LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.
If you “get it” with women, it’s SUPER
She wants mystery... she wants to laugh... INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.
she wants a challenge... she wants sexual
tension... Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they’re
with a guy who “gets it”.
If you’re using compliments, gifts, food,
and other “displays” to get a woman’s Women know very quickly if they’re talking
attention... you need to ask yourself a tough to a guy who understands himself and
question: women... and who enjoys creating and
building sexual tension.
Is it because you don’t believe that a woman
would want to be around you just to be Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET
around you? LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”.

Because if you don’t know how to be If he doesn’t, then she stops all
INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount communication on that level.
of compensation is going to fix the problem.
If he does, then it continues.
If you’re boring, predictable, and
uninteresting, then you’re never going to ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.
have women calling YOU to hang out.
Attraction is an emotional and physical
Oh, and women HATE IT. RESPONSE... and you can’t “convince”
a woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and
7) Not Understanding NICENESS.
Attraction

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Attraction is the result of a woman meeting Right now you’re probably feeling that
a man who understands how attraction excited “Ah Ha!” feeling.
works... and who knows what to do in each
specific situation to progress to the next That’s because you understand something at
level. a different level... you’ve used your mind to
understand something complex... and you
The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with feel good about bettering yourself.
success with women in general is that the
things you need to DO to be successful are Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg.
NOT OBVIOUS.
As educational as this has been, this is only
They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases. the beginning.

In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what If you’re starting to realize how important it
you’d THINK would make sense. is to get this area of your life handled, then
I recommend you make a commitment and
You have to do things like CREATE TENSION... take your education to a WORLD CLASS level.
stop doing something that she likes... give
her time to miss you... etc. And what’s the best way to do that?

And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a Well, I’ve spent the last several years of
woman is going to KNOW IT. my life figuring out exactly what does and
doesn’t work with women.
And guess what?
I figured this stuff out for MYSELF... and
Single women HATE IT when a man doesn’t then I took what I’ve learned and put it all
understand ATTRACTION and how to together to help others learn as well.
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The 3 Cs of confidence
By Richard La Ruina AKA Gambler

If you look in a book shop, you’ll find are uncomfortable and it is impossible to
plenty of books on confidence. Lots of look unconfident if you are comfortable.
people read them, but when it comes Therefore there is 100% overlap. The
to it, how many people are actually barman, DJ, and bouncers and known to do
perceived as confident by women in a very well with women. They are the most
pick up situation? comfortable guys in the place because they
are there every night and the environment
Let’s take that perspective. We can’t phase them anymore. Let’s get
all know that women want a confident something clear – the barmen are not high
guy. That wasn’t much help to me when I status guys. The other guys in the club could
was growing up, I knew what they wanted be millionaire business men wearing $10,000
but didn’t know how to give it to them. It suits and buying bottles of Crystal. The
needed it to be broken down in a little more barmen earn very low wages, and are not
detail. That’s what I’m going to do right successful high status guys in any way. It’s
now. We are going to look at this from the purely that they look comfortable. There is
perspective of an attractive woman in a bar no other secret to it.
or night club.She’s looking around the room
and she is making a judgement of whether How to get there
the guys look confident or not. Who is she The pick up environment where you will
drawn to? Guys with good body language normally show a lack of confidence at first
could be one answer. Guys who are attractive glance is the club. People don’t often feel
could be another. A better answer is: Guys nervous when they are walking down the
who look confident. What determines if a street or shopping. However, in a club, the
guy looks confident in a night club. It’s very pressure is so much more intense, and this
easy…he looks COMFORTABLE. That is why is even more of a problem with high-end
the first C of Confidence is…. venues. What we need to do in this case is
simple de-sensitisation. Pick a club and a day
Comfort in the Environment of the week and go there. Go with friends
It is impossible to look confident if you or on your own. Your mission is not to talk
are uncomfortable and it is impossible to to anyone or do any gaming, but purely to
look unconfident if you are comfortable. become comfortable in the environment.
Therefore there is 100% overlap Learn the layout, start to see familiar faces,
you can even have some casual conversations
Examples with staff or people that are close by. The
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start treating the place like you do your beautiful girl ever be attracted to a man
own house. Sit or stand comfortably in a who isn’t confident when he is interacting
low-energy, chilled-out way or genuinely with her? How would this ever be attractive?
enjoy the music and move around without Okay, well maybe in 2% of cases where she
caring what others think or being too much thinks you are “cute”. But 2% of cases isn’t
“in your head”. Those are the only two any kind of game apart from the numbers
modes of behaviour in the club. Nothing in game. So, you need to be comfortable
between will look comfortable. If you are talking to women.
trying to look like you enjoy the music by
tapping a foot out of rhythm or nodding Example
your head because you think you should you Guys that own model agencies, work in
won’t look right When you first go out, be strip clubs, or manage a restaurant with
very observant, notice the guys that look hot waitresses get laid. One of the major
comfortable and the ones that don’t. See reasons is that they are desensitised to
things from the woman’s point of view.By interacting with beautiful women and so are
removing the pressure of the need to pick up comfortable around them. Someone who
or talk to women, you can start to enjoy the has worked for a model agency for 2 years
environment and create positive associations will not be shaking, sweating, breaking eye
with it, rather than viewing it as a high- contact, or otherwise looking nervous and
pressure place where you MUST game. Now uncomfortable if he meets another beautiful
that you have the first C of confidence, we woman. She will unconsciously or consciously
can move on to the second… know that her beauty doesn’t phase him and
this will mean he isn’t viewed as a lower life
Comfort Interacting with form like the other guys that obviously are
Beautiful Women very affected by her looks.
So, she’s seen you and judged you as
confident from a distance. As long as you How to get there
don’t make any of the eye contact mistakes Go to places with a high concentration of
(breaking eye contact downwards or very beautiful girls. Places like strip clubs,
generally being uncomfortable with it), exclusive department stores, high-end clubs,
you’ll be fine all the way up to the actual and countries like Latvia. In these situations
approach. How does she decide if you are set an achievable goal which will be to open
still a confident man when you are actually and leave. Have your opener ready and your
talking to her? The next stage is appearing escape line ready (in the strip club this isn’t
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yourself to their looks, get comfortable tests. To get to this point you have to a bit
holding eye contact, keep your composure. of work. I have a theory that someone is shy
Gain experience and realise they aren’t so because they are worried about exposing
different or difficult to talk to. What this will their weaknesses to others. They are scared
mean is that these women start seeing you of being seen as ugly, having a silly voice,
as confident in the way you interact with being poor, or whatever else. So they say less
them because you are comfortable which and do less so that they aren’t found out.
will greatly increase your chances of building Someone that is content will not be shy to
attraction and closing them. put themselves out there and won’t react as
much if you test him.
The third C…
How to get there
Comfort in Your Own Skin To get to this point, perform the following
So, you look confident from a distance (and exercise:Write down each of your weak
most guys don’t!), you seem confident when points. The things about yourself that you
you are talking to her. So what does she do? are not happy with. Next to each, write an
She tests you out. She challenges you, shit action you can take to help. It might fix
tests you, and sees how you will react. She the issue 100% or maybe just 20%, but the
might ask you why you are wearing those act of improving your situation and even
shoes, or if you are a player, or why you don’t having a plan for improving your situation
go to the gym. And the test to see if you are will immediately impact your confidence and
internally confident or comfortable in your self-esteem positively. Earlier on in my book,
own skin is how you react. This should start I talk about how I did this and I can say that
to happen once she is somewhat committed it was a massive factor in me becoming the
to the interaction and wants to find out if confident person I am today. Don’t get me
you are the man for her. This kind of testing wrong, I still have things that I’m not entirely
will continue and to measure up you will satisfied with but they are much smaller and
need to display various types of confidence fewer than they used to be.
including confidence physically escalating
and sexual confidence.

Example
A guy who consistently gets with hot girls,
and is comfortable with who he is will be
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The Juggler Way

By Juggler

A summary of the Juggler Way - a Make an SOI. At all her high points
great frame for casually creating (laughing, etc). This rewards her for trying
intimate connections. and sarging you back.

Open with anything. It can be opinion You do not arrange a meeting. You either
or a situation or introducing yourself or even instant date or both of you admit you are
bleeding on people. In dynamic situation really into each other. Then if you want to
(store and moving people) a situational get together later it is a matter of just taking
opener tends to work well. But in clubs or care of the details. The real business is in her
static situations I like to just introduce myself. agreeing that she is into you.

The key is not the opener. The opener does But really this is not a method. There are
not matter much. The key is how you handle no stages or steps. There is no transition. It
the response. The method is amplifying should not be thought of as a tool to achieve
and using responses. You want to gain a result. It is a way. It is a place you should
the skill to read and use a wider range of achieve and stay in and bring others into.
responses – that’s fun flexible and makes real The things like SOI at her high points or
connections. gaining the skill to use any of her reactions
or any of the other parts of the way are not
Using routines as openers or anywhere does tools to manipulate a result. They are ways to
not give you much opportunity to use a help her fulfill her natural human want to be
wide range of responses. The very point of a in that place.
routine is to elicit a specific ‘good’ response
- that’s boring and weak. Here is the Juggler way:
Think about what you would want an
The method is not to worry so much about interaction with a girl to be like if there was
getting deep but to get wide rapport (a no need to get sex. Let’s say that sex was
feeling like you can talk about anything). a given. You did not need to do anything
Again the key is including and amplifying a tricky or run ‘game’ to score. How would
girl’s response, no matter the response. you like that interaction to be? Myself I
want it to be fun, exciting, relaxed, playful
Talking about relationships are great. But and sharing with each other willingly. Now
keep in mind you must talk about your think about how you can make that happen.
relationship experience or this comes across Would you use tricks or be sneaky to get a
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counter productive and/or unnecessary work. place. But I will have to think, maybe there is
You would instead lead her by being fun, a way to demonstrate this.
relaxed, sharing, or whatever you want the
interaction to be like yourself and learn to
allow and encourage her to be that as well.

It is just that most people have no idea how

to allow and help someone achieve this
place. Now the big mental step. Sexuality
is not that big of a deal. Sure it has more
important implications as far as chance
of pregnancy, disease and emotional
connotations. But from a ‘who has the
power’ point of view it should be regarded
the same way as having fun or any of the
things you want an interaction to be - it
should have nothing to do with power.

What I am talking about is amazing. It can

make a very intimate real connection very
quickly - with super hot babes or anyone else
for that matter. It has been shown to me to
be very powerful in many, many contexts.
It is based on universal truths. And as you
know, I can not demonstrate the more
intimate aspects to anyone’s satisfaction
because of the LTR I am in. But don’t confuse
the message with the messenger. I usually
get out of interactions after hooking a girl
because I know the danger and power of
the way and to keep my promise to my
lovely girlfriend. That is the weakness in my
workshops but not in the way.

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In-Field Philosophy
By Mehow

Mehow’s awesome “philosophy that No amount of ‘Game’ can really compensate

applies directly to the field”. for a flawed personality.

1. Be social 3. Give and Love

This is NOT the ‘evil art of seduction’, you are When you are hanging out in a social
not going out in the field to ‘get some’ - you environment, what value do you offer to the
are going out in the field to have fun and people in that environment? Do you expect
be yourself and hang out. So don’t go out anything in return? The answer for most
thinking ‘when am I going to score?’ Women men today is Not Much, and Yes, respectively.
detect that attitude from a mile away and it’s No wonder women aren’t begging for your
an instant turn off. phone number. To be successful socially you
have to be constantly putting more energy
2. Evolve yourself out there than you receive when you begin
If you are reading this, then right now then an interaction. To do this properly you have
probably ‘being yourself’ doesn’t create the to actually not care about the outcome of
relationships you want. Social mastery is the anything you do. You have to put yourself
hardest endeavor you will ever undertake out there and actually expect nothing in
because there is nothing more discerning return. This has an extremely powerful effect
than a woman’s intuition. Any problem that on women. I will frequently just hang out
you think you have, be it real or imagined, with women that I don’t particularly find
she will detect. To be successful you will attractive because I’m making their night
have to launch an epic self-improvement and adding to the karma. Karma comes back.
program on yourself. Once you have become Love every woman for who she is.
that new you, and you have evolved socially
via practice, you will go right back to being 4. Touch
yourself - but a totally awesome, new you. Everybody wants to be touched in un-
If you are not willing to change and evolve, creepy ways. The societal code has made
you will continue to experience a lifetime of physical communication between men and
mediocre results. women difficult with a ton of alleged rules
and wacky misconceptions. Yet both men
So for whatever is bothering you, commit to and women want to be touched. Learning
fixing it yourself and never hesitate to get to communicate via touch will, when you
professional help. Not only will you become master it, completely flip your own reality.
more successful socially but you will also If you are not getting a lot of touching
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interaction with a woman, you are living life 7. Don’t try, just be
at half-speed. You are not ‘trying’ to do any of this - once
you have mastered your unique personality
5. Don’t react performance you become it. It is you. You
This is one of the most key elements of are not ‘trying’ anything, there is no game
any social interaction. If you are the truly - you simply are. But you are that amazing,
content, giving, alpha-male, then how does a totally together, fun, happy, social, powerful
woman’s reaction to you affect your reality? alpha male that every woman is internally
It just doesn’t. She will test you for it - she programmed by her evolutionary circuits to
will deliberately feel how alpha you really align with. ‘Game’ is just training wheels for
are. And you will be completely and totally your own personality evolution. Game is not
unaffected. Being unaffected creates a sense the answer, you are.
of deep inner peace that extends to other
areas of your life. Why Does Any of This Work?

6. Create a vibe and lead 8. Women respond very

people into it powerfully
Remember, you are just hanging out. You to a giving alpha male
are not trying to ‘get something’ - therefore Imagine walking into a room and seeing
you can’t chase it, ask for it, or like many nothing but unattractive women. That’s
men today, beg for or buy it. Breaking those what women see when they get constantly
rules will result in instant blowout. To get approached by supplicating, interviewing
results you have to create a compelling vibe (‘Hey, what’s your name?, ‘What do you do?),
- one that has HER chasing YOU. It’s your and braggy (‘Yea, baby, that’s my Bentley)
job to make women feel comfortable and chodes. Now imagine further if all these
attracted to you. They will not do this by unattractive women came onto you one
themselves. You have to suck others into after the other, night after night, trying to
your reality. For things to work, women have ask your name and buy you drinks and were
to be chasing you - asking for your phone constantly asking for your phone number.
number and giving you that ‘make out with This is the horror movie that most attractive
me, please’ look. Proper ‘pick-up’ is simply women today experience. The evolved alpha
creating a comfortable, romantically-charged male is here to change the script.
environment where the two of you can
explore each others personalities. 9. True alphas are scarce
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in the club with girls around them all huge favor by introducing yourself. All of the
the time. Alphas give without expecting women I date know that I see other women
anything in return, alphas are just plain and they don’t mind because they would still
‘cool’, alphas don’t buy women drinks or rather be with me than pretending to be
beg for their phone number, alphas create happy with some beta boyfriend. (I’m very
comfortable vibes, alphas create a warm open to being a monogamous boyfriend, but
happy playpen for the women to wander I would have to be literally swept off my feet
around in. Alphas don’t supplicate, but they for that to happen.)
treat women as equals and get the same in
return. Women will compete for those men, But I’m ugly.
women will work for those men. They are
emotionally wired to do so. They will leave 10. Looks don’t really matter
their boyfriends to hang out with them. Odds are, you are far hotter than me anyway.
Girls make-out with me while holding their I’m a skinny, pale, balding, thirty-something
boyfriends hand. They will dump him or hide guy. I look like a six-foot-tall fetus. But my
him or do whatever it takes to align with personality turns me into a runway model!
the alpha male if their current alignment Men make the mistake that our reality must
is sub-par. Aren’t they horrible evil sluts for be the same as a woman’s. This is just wrong.
doing so? The answer is NO. They don’t have We are attracted to swimsuit models so
a choice, women are programmed to align we think that women must be attracted to
with men just like men are programmed to looks just as much as we are. But the biggest
sleep with women. Women love the true attractor for most women is personality. Be a
alpha and want to be ‘Picked Up’. If you pull personality model and you will find fashion
this off right, then literally every woman you models calling you during lunch and asking
approach will love your presence and your what you are wearing. It is hard to focus on
energy. They feel honored to be hanging out work afterwards. In the old days when I was
with you. The direction of your interaction a card carrying chode, I used to get jealous of
is up to you and her. It will take some time super hot girls because they seemed to have
for you to cease being surprised when you unfair power. Now, I reflect on the fact that I
find women want far different things than get to be a personality model my entire life.
what you formerly thought they wanted. But what if they find out that I ‘game?’
Remember, that most women are with beta
men because that is all they can get. If you 11. Don’t game, just be
are an alpha who won’t deceive her about The skill set that is ‘game’ is actually a tool to
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the skill set is only half of the challenge. speak Venusian.

You have to merge what you learn into YOU
and create your own unique, personality- 13. Innovate
conveying performance. Mastery is being There are a lot of men out there currently
able to consistently create a performance art using tried and true ‘material’ on women.
that is unique to the woman and you. Every They do well with this. Those guys are not
time I have an interaction with a woman it is going to like the fact that a lot of this is
different and unique. It’s like I’m painting a being exposed by the media. Those guys
new painting every time. A lot of guys, when are not the ones that are coming up with
learning the skill-set, get lost in the tactics their own unique personality conveying
of things, questions like ‘what do I do when performance. Talking with those guys, it is
she does X, what do I do at time B?’ This is obvious that they are not being themselves.
like asking a master painter, ‘Do I paint blue Only use what we teach you to innovate an
first or yellow?’ (credit Lovedrop). Only the outward expression of your inner self. Most
merging of the skill set with your unique of you are actually awesome men. You just
personality will tell you that. Just PAINT, don’t have the social education to express
man! If you paint enough you will become yourself socially.
your own master painter and women will Are you ready to learn?
appreciate you for it.
Sure, but what will I get out of all this?
But what if girls find out my ‘secret
knowledge’? 14. Select
The skill-set is what you make it. With it
12. There is no secret you can select the right woman and decide
knowledge who you want to be in your interaction
As students of social interaction all we’re with her. Having the power to consistently
doing is modeling natural phenomenon, get any woman out there is a life-changing
there is nothing secret about it. All women experience. You could become to any woman
already possess the knowledge, that’s how you choose a playboy, a romancer, a friend, a
they can tell an alpha from a beta. This is boyfriend, a socialite or a husband. I love the
why commonly there is a notion that ‘Men emotional interaction and the choices I get. If
are from Mars, Women are from Venus.’ you have the basics of the art down, and you
Men think too logically when they should be are always hanging out with women that you
learning to appreciate women for who they find attractive, then you can differentiate
really are - little purple aliens :-) Learn to on things that really matter like her outlook,

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energy, and personality. Most men today say

they discern based on who she is but, in fact,
they are just rationalizing their relationship
with her based on their desire to sleep with
an attractive woman. Additionally, many men
will rationalize to extremes because they
perceive they have no choice in the long run
so they end up in sub-optimal relationships
and marriages. What will your romantic life
be like? Ironically, the answer to men not
being shallow is to teach them how to get all
the relationships they want.

I’ve noticed that when men stop being

desperate, they actually discriminate more
based on a woman’s non-physical qualities.

By Mehow (a [former] MM approach

coach, former Mystery/Savoy/
Lovedrop’s student, “an average-
looking, balding, exceptionally pale,
30-something guy with shaky hands,
and he’s really good with women and
men).

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Active Disinterest
By Tyler Durden

Active Disinterest does not mean HAVING YOU wouldn’t come up at all.. See?
Asexual. :)

I had a few thoughts this week, from Direct examples of ways to do so include
watching some guys I was working with. quickly turning and facing the hot girl
directly, moving a bit closer to her, and
Some guys (I can’t remember who) re- shooting a quick triangular gaze from hard
labelled the term Active Disinterest as eye contact down to her lips, then looking
“Tentative Interest”. I think this came from back up to her eyes and making a playful
Swinggcat, I’m not sure. To me this is all the smile and backing away from her a bit to
same thing, but for some guys this distinction turn to her friends. Watch the girls go insane
could be useful because they are learning at this. You could then shoot her a playful
only from text so it’s important for the nod like “Not gonna happen”. Then engage
terminology to be as accurate as possible. the friends a bit, even though the hot girl
Since they aren’t seeing direct examples, knows there’s something between you, and
nothing can be taken for granted I suppose. watch her work to get your attention by
trying to cut in. Then when she pulls her
A few pointers on this: typical “I can get what I want” girl jumping
in front of everyone stuff to get your
1) I always tell guys to focus on having fun validation, say “Hey! Wait your turn. How do
and being social rather than appearing to you guys roll with this girl?!”, and then give
be trying too hard to “pickup” (so as not her another VERY sexual playful look, then
to be perceived and treated as the next back off again. Even shoot her a touch on
cheesy sexually needy guy of the night). But the shoulder and raise your eyebrows, and
that said, I assume that guys are coming back off again. Often she’ll throw herself up
across like MEN here, and there is a sexual in your face at this point, and from there you
vibe between them and the girls already. can work her directly because she’s chosen
Many guys I’ve seen though will take this you. With group theory, and ignoring the
too far, which is understandable, but IMO target, that doesn’t always mean *full*
it’s a mistake. I personally will pull a lot of ignorance. It just means not making the
stripper type stuff, like coquettish “You can’t friends socially uncomfortable, so that you
have me” looks. But in doing so, the fact can benefit from the girl thinking “Wow, my
that you’re subcommunicating “you can’t friends love this guy”, which can only help
have me” *assumes* that the vibe between you. It doesn’t mean get pre-occupied and
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focused on the wrong things. Otherwise their legs). I use all three, by using common
you’ll get cases like the hot girls walking off sense.
so their UG friend can have a chance with
you, which some newbies have reported. I’ve seen some posts lately about what is
Again, much apologies to the guys to whom better, going to the target or engaging the
this is a blatantly obvious truism, but after whole group. The answer is to use your brain
some recent posts cropping up, I suppose and common sense. Do what is natural and
that it needed clarification. the path of least resistance in the particular
situation.
Point is, once the girl has chosen you, you
can get her comfortable (as posted in T/T The only rule of pickup is to be clearly cooler
recently) and sit her down and WORK. than the girl (I recall David D calling this “The
Prime Directive: Never communicate lower
For me, it is more efficient to bait the girl social value”). That being the case, take
into chasing me within 1-2 minutes, then the path of least social resistance, based on
going in and having her screening me and what you can tell will obviously work. Many
working against the current. Because I have of the rules of pickup as seen on ASF are
my bodylanguage and confidence down fully, generalities and ideas that are intended to
I am not concerned about being sexually make things run more smoothly, but always
needy with my openers, and I know that the need to be moderated by common sense.
girls will take care of this for me 90% of the
time without me having to verbally prompt My personal most common approach on
them (since my bodylanguage and vibe will guy/girl mixed sets is to engage the group,
do this for me). but the second the guy gives tacit consent to
me being there, I blow him out on the spot
2) When opening groups of guys, you can and engage the girl directly. This takes only
either work the guy and ignore the girl, work seconds. Typically I prefer for him to stay
the guy until he’s committed to not having there, because I can eclipse him so strongly
a prob with you being there and then move that him sitting there watching me only
to the girl (this should take only seconds to 1 increases my status. This is like striking out
minute), or blowing the guy out completely like a tiger or something. Like seriously, you
(this last one is easily done when you are go in and come across way cooler than the
‘alpha’, because the girls give you so much guy within seconds, and the instant that he
attention so quickly, that the guys just give obviously is lower than you he is tooled and
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see the girl is going crazy getting all wet by A - CUTTING IN

me ignoring her, I’ll keep it up. Some girls To cut in means to move closer to the girl,
are just like that, and if I see it I calibrate bywithout being jumpy or nervous or getting
playing it out. Or the dude may be just a cool too much in her face. It’s like how you
guy, in which case I’ll hang with him and I would walk up to and pick up a cat without
know he’ll hook me up (which has happened making it run off. I do so by turning my
to me many times). Either way, when Mystery face sideways and looking distracted for
posts about engaging the group, he is not about half a second, and then closing in.
advising the kind of Social Robot behaviours Or turning my bodylanguage, or doing it
that Style recently posted about. Have I on high points when she’s giggly because
mentioned common sense? : ) she’s suggestible at that point and if she’s
giggly she won’t object to escalation
3) “Cutting in”. This term is something I yell because she’s not thinking logically. Because
at my wings when I see them f*cking up and I don’t shoot into her face too abruptly, she
not cutting into the girl they want. You’ll doesn’t get uncomfortable. This is done
hear me yell “CUT IN!” with bodylanguage. Very easy. Most guys
make mistakes here because they infringe
On average, I need only engage the group on personal space too quickly, the girls lock
between 30 seconds to 3 minutes before I up. Also, because they don’t look confident,
have the girl I want chasing me. Mystery is it looks premeditated and too outcome
the same. He’s usually in the corner with his dependent, which makes the girls feel
girl in about 3-5 minutes, and making out uncomfortable like “What’s he trying to
with her in about 6-15. I differ slightly in that pull?” instead of “This fun alpha guy does
I prefer to extract the girl from the club and whatever the f*ck he wants and I don’t
makeout at the next venue, which I do within question it because he’s congruent.”
about 20 minutes, although admittedly I’ll do
fast makeouts on workshop just to show off Typically, I will have the girl engaged with my
even though I don’t always think its the best palms up and her hands on mine, so I can do
path at that time. IOI tests regularly to see where she’s at. The
second she’s ready to be pulled, I examine
This is where many guys go wrong with the the social situation and make it happen or
active disinterest. I want the girl close to me bridge and then venue change, continue to
ASAP (within 6 inches of my face). The few solidify the bridge, or move to the next set.
ways I do this would include: Oftentimes I am perched on a bar stool with
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them. This is the IDEAL PUA position, and is move your bodylanguage sideways and
very important. If you read Herbals latest LR engage her in a conversation, so you can
in Field Reports, you’ll see him talking about work easily here.
Mystery in this position, which is something I
adopted from him and I’ve found very lethal. Notice here that regardless of how it goes
It’s also great on so many levels, because you down, I’m face to face with the girl within
can also put her hands on your knees, and seconds to a few minutes (usually seconds
lean back to see if she keeps them there, etc., to one minute). This is not a case where
etc. I’m forced to engage the set for long. It’s
simple social common sense to work social
B - Use a routine gatherings and to take the path of least
Another quick way is to run the trust resistance. You need not do so, its just
test routine or something (like show her often easier and more consistent if you
something on herself), to make her have do. Yes, girls are picked up without group
to come up to you in order for you to theory or any knowledge of ASF, so the
demonstrate whatever it is you’re doing. aforementioned remarks are obvious truisms.
Again, quick and easy. The point is ease and consistency.

C - Bait The same goes for not facing the girls when
The other way is something that you don’t you roll in. I’ve seen guys who have read old
do, but that just happens. That’s that posts of mine where I’ve suggested to enter
oftentimes the girl will see her friends liking the set initially sideways. This is the path of
you, and because of this she’ll practically least resistance, and there is definitely no
start molesting you. This is very common. The harm done in doing so, but oftentimes it
other night Twentysix is working a group, can help to make it open more smoothly.
and the hottest girl attacks him and pulls That said, it is important not to forget the
him home and f*cks him within 45 minutes. part from that same post about “The second
Surprisingly not uncommon, although the she earns it, turn and face her”. Her giving
latter case is an obvious case of fool’s mate, you her attention (Style calls this the “Hook
even though the 2 dash 6 is still happily Point”) will usually happen within 1-15
dating her now. seconds, and at that point you should be
engaging them completely, and running your
D - Split the set with my wing game on them. If it takes longer, wait. But
Here you just have a wing come in and chat that’s an error at that point, and you’re in
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that opened awkwardly).

SUMMARY
Get the girl engaged ASAP. Active Disinterest
does not mean that you are A-Sexual. Use
active disinterest and engage the group
when common sense tells you that it is the
path of least resistance. If her interest level
is at a point where you need not do so, then
don’t. Mystery himself has done this as long
as I’ve known him, and guys need not be
concerned about losing sets by doing so. If
you detect that the friends WILL interfere,
you can also re-engage them easily if you
feel that that is the best move.

Anyway, hopefully this had some useful

distinctions to some of you guys. To me
this seems very obvious, but after browsing
some recent posts and seeing some guys
in the field who had no previous real life
interactions with PUAs, I felt that it was
something may have been in need of
clarification.

I also recommend that guys go out and

experiment with both extremely direct
sexual approaches, and group theory / AD
approaches. This is the only way to gain
calibration skills -> experimentation.

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AMOG Tactics
By Tyler Durden

PUA: Dude, that shirt rocks.. Tommy failed to. The only answer he would have
Hilfiger... awesome... man, back in would be to say back to you “hey now,
highschool I used to have the one with you’re cool.. I didn’t mean to step on your
like all these cool stripes on it... it was toes man.. You’re a smart guy, keep talking
awesome... to her and I’ll watch and learn man!”..
Of course to that, you could reply, “You just
100% AMOG Destroyer met me and you already say I’m smart and
The easy way to handle any alpha is to cool? hahah”
be polite to him, but act disinterested by
his rap/accomplishments using tonality/ More AMOG Destroyers
body language (without coming off as AMOG: How do you guys know eachother?
patronizing/sarcastic) while simultaneously PUA: Her? I fucked her.
being charming to others around you. This (Girl will go “aaaaaaaaah... hahahahah, I did
will drop his perceived value and cause him NOT!!! But she’ll hit you and be giggling and
to qualify himself to try and raise it back up. start crawling all over you...).
He can’t fight you or do shit like that, and he
can’t move to insults, because you’ve been AMOG: Hey, this is a nice girl.
polite and in doing so he would be making PUA: Her.. she’s a slut..
himself look VERY BAD. The only tactic vs (Again, girl will start going “nooooo!” while
this is to walk away. If you reward him just giggling her ass off and crawling on you.. this
enough to encourage further qualifying but is very deflating to the guy trying to cut in)
not enough to make him feel validated again
he will fall into line as beta in relation to AMOG: Hey girls whats up (or whatever)
you. I blow out rich men in power outfits, top PUA: Hey dude dude (putting hands up like
ranking professors in schools, 300lb bouncers, you give up).. I will pay you a HUNDRED
police officers and gangers ALL THE TIME. dollars right now, to take these girls away
This shit works - if you do it right they will from me.
work VERY HARD to be your friend. (Girls will go “no no no... we love you PUA..
noooooo” and giggle and crawl on you..
Ultra quick and effective AMOG destroyer Again, immediately deflating to the guy)
This is just like the JAP Busting stuff, where
you say “you’re cool”, as a way of tricking AMOG: Hey girls what’s up (or whatever)
him to qualify himself to you. PUA: Dude, OMG that shirt is AWESOME.. I
He’s stuck, because if he DOES do well, he’s had one just like it in highschool, it fucking
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man.. It’s awesome huh? Dude you’re like the man... dude, there’s club-gay-whatever over
coolest guy I met all night.. (patting him on there man.. hands off the merchandise buddy
the shoulder).. (girls laugh at him, then he starts qualifying
himself to you that he’s not gay)
AMOG: (showing signs that he wants to
fight) AMOG: (gets in your face)
PUA: hahah, dude, are you like trying to PUA: (don’t answer.. just SIT there quiet..
pick a fight with me? hahahha.. ok ok the more he says stuff to you, the more he’s
hold up hold up.. wait a sec, we’ll do even TRYING.. talking too long without an answer
better.. first... we’ll have an armwrestling is QUALIFYING yourself.. so if he keeps trying
competition.. then second.. we’ll do one to out-alpha you, and you don’t answer,
armed pushups.. and last..... POSE-DOWN!! eventually he looks beta because he tried too
(then you start flexing and go “ladies?”, and hard to get your attention.. another trick is
they start saying how you’re so strong, and to make “let’s get out of here” girlcode with
the AMOG looks like a tool.. you’re tooling your eyes to the girls (mimmick what they
him, by making him seem like he’s trying too do to eachother when you do a bad set), and
hard to impress the girls by showing them they’ll leave with you)
superiority).
AMOG: (gets in your face)
AMOG: Hey man.. keep talking.. no no, let’s PUA: dude, you’re an alphamale..
hear your pitch man.. pick these girls up man, AMOG: what’s that..
you’re doing awesome. PUA: you know, like the leader of the pack..
PUA: Hey, you know I’ve gotta try to you call the shots.. you can put your hands
impress you COOL (x-city, x-dressed, x- on guys you don’t know, cause you’re alpha..
whateverquality) guys.. You guys fucking (fucks up his whole ‘look cool’ game, because
ROCK. you’ve characterized all his manneurisms, so
anything he does to look alpha makes him
(cut him down on whatever limited amount appear to be qualifying himself too you..
of knowledge you have of him, even if its not if he continues, just say “see... alphamale..
relevant whatsoever, he’ll feel uncomfortable whoa tiger, I can’t mess”)
and his bodylanguage will show it)
PUA: dude, you’re like Bart Simpson all
AMOG: (starts touching you to show grown up.. (for guys who pull the college-
dominance) guy type out alpha on you)
PUA: hahhaha, DUUUUDE, I’m not into guys PUA: dude, you’re like the Joan Rivers of the

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club.. I love all the little comments and shit.. I’M INTO CHICKS.. I can’t get into this
(to imply like he does nothing but sits on the experimental kinky shit with you right now, I
sidelines making comments but doesn’t take have my hands full.. (misinterpreting that he
action, so use this on guys who have that was trying to sleep with you, not fight you)
characteristic in the club venue)
AMOG: blah blah..
PUA: That was really good man, you’re like a PUA: dude, that shirt rocks.. Tommy Hilfiger..
comedian. awesome.. man, back in highschool I used to
have the one with like all these cool stripes
OR, if the dude is out-alpha’ing you, keep on it.. it was awesome..
going until he’s TOO into it, and then let him
do a bunch of condescending shit on you in AMOG: fight blah blah..
a row. Look at the girls like you’re bored or PUA: guy man, these chicks just told me that
sad, and because he’s talking TOO MUCH they dig you like so bad.. you don’t have to
he’s therefore qualifying himself to you and fight to prove yourself to them.. they think
losing. Then say to the girls “he’s playing you’re an alphamale dude.. you don’t need
the condescention game.. I already won so I to try so HARD man.. just BE REAL..
stopped now.. who do you guys think won,
me or him?” (key is that you looked SAD so Once you get the guy to qualify himself to
the girls start going “awww, he’s so sweet”, you in any way (like he tries to make friends),
so they’ll say you won because they love you rather than being nice, IMMEDIATELY cut
now) him out of the circle. Just cut him out. You’ll
notice trying to SHUT YOUR GAME DOWN
For super aggressive AMOGs by bombarding you with logical questions.
who try to pick fights They’ll start pummeling you with logical
AMOG: blah blah.. stuff, so that you have to answer him the
PUA: Dude, are you pissed that you’re rolling girls fall out of state. For me I found the
with all guys? solution was just to say “hey man, don’t get
AMOG: blah blah all scientific on me.. we’re here to have fun..”
PUA: dude, your all guy crew is so slick man.. and then immediately start gaming the girls
where are your girls dude, what happened again. btw, if I’m out with any of my GFs at a
tonight? club, and another guy hits on them, I use the
same tactics on AMOGS to stop them.
AMOG: let’s go outside.. When you cut him out of the circle, he’ll
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grab your shoulder and say something like Then I say “Hey I want to meet your friend
“don’t turn your back on me”. From there, so much, but that touchy grabby lean in
the girls think he’s creepy, so you say “hey guy is all over her.. is she just being nice, or
guys, this dude is creepy.. are you friends does she really like guys who lean in and
with this guy?? did YOU bring this guy touch and do all the ‘whats your name’ fake
here?” The girls will say “no no no, we don’t ungenuine stuff?”
know him”, and you say “OK, let’s get out
of here”, and put out your arms for them to The UGs are invariably like “no no, we hate
grab. guys like that.. that’s why we love you so
much blah blah”, and then you get the
Then walk away with the girls on your arms, FRIENDS to literally REMOVE the hottie
and if you want (I do this alot) turn around that you want from the AMOG who is
and have them both kiss you on the cheek conveniently heating her up for you and
and wave the AMOG goodbye. saving you the hassle.

Also, you can USE the AMOG’s WORK for Most of the time, the AMOG feels
yourself. Like he lines ‘em up, you knock immediately beta after such a line!
‘em down. This is something I do alot. I let
a guy pick a girl up and increase her buying Hey AMOG, what’s up? Are u ill today? You
temperature, then I go in and outalpha him, look sick!
say he’s creepy to the girls, and then remove
them from him. Hey AMOG, you look/talk/act strange, do you
take drugs?
The girls are already aroused, so they are still
in state based on what the AMOG did. I can Hey AMOG, your clothes are really strange!
do this like maybe on 90% of sets I approach
where a natural AMOG has gotten far with Hey AMOG, i talked to some people here...
a girl. I think a dude I know “Stephane” They don’t like you, because you seem
recently posted about this on Cliff’s List strange!
regarding a sarge we did.
Hey you seem tired!
Basically, I just make the friends of the girl
who is getting gamed on by the AMOG
like me. Like, they want me, but they know
they’re not qualified but their friend is.

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Social Robots
By Neil Strauss AKA Style

Have you ever noticed that there’s Here’s another thing Social Robots do: They
something strange about a lot of treat Women completely differently than
sargers? It’s as if you look at a guy, they treat Men. If they are around women,
and you can just TELL that something even at a lunch for work, they feel a stange
is missing. shot of adrenaline and feel as if they have
to sarge. Interactions with women are no
And some of these guys even do longer normal; they become special occasions
amazing in the field. They get great reactions to feel a sense of self-worth. Your self-esteem
most of the time, and sometimes even #s and is contantly at the mercy of the reactions of
!s. But, at the same time, they NEVER seem to women.
have a girlfriend.
Social robots also stop seeing value in things
Most of the guys I know are like this. And that are non-PU related, such as books and
there are a few reasons why: First, it goes movies and even friends that they can’t learn
back to one of my cardinal rules: The best about PU from.
way to sarge is to have something BETTER
to do than to sarge. Some guys give up So, what I’m trying to say in short is that ASF
everything -- school, work, even GFs -- to and the PU lifestyle can give you SO much -- I
learn to sarge better. But all these things know it’s given me so much -- but it can take
ALLOW you to sarge better, because they away a lot too. You can end up becoming
make you a more COMPLETE person. just a one-dimensional person, a social robot.

A problem I’ve noticed amongst some of The solution is to put your life back into
the most dedicated posters here, especially balance; spend just an hour a day reading
those who got into ASF in their teens or early ASF/PU-related material; spend just three
20s,, is that they have INVENTED themselves nights or afternoons a week sarging or
through this theory. They are, to some hanging out with PUAs. Alternate PUA
degree, SOCIAL ROBOTS. And, after a great reading with good literature. Make it a
20 minute set, it begins to show through to HOBBY. And focus a greater share of your
an HB that you don’t have anything MORE efforts on the job/achievements/success you
going for you. The other problem with being want in life. If you can make something of
a social robot is that you start to thing that yourself, the HBs will come and what you’ve
everyone else around you is one too, and learned here will prepare you to deal with
begin to read TOO MUCH into their actions. them.

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There’s a book on cold-reading that basically

breaks down all problems to Health, Wealth
and Relationships. And each have an Internal
and External component. (This btw is the
book where Mystery got his theory on this
from.) And you need to start DIVIDING
your attention between ALL of these to be
successful in any single one.

A lot of guys always ask how I got good so

quickly. And I think that in addition to all the
awesome things (like Mystery’s workshop)
that changed my life, I was well-rounded
and interested in people to start with. So
when I ran out of routines, I could still be
INTERESTING and INTERESTED. Those two
words in caps right there are, I think, the
special sauce that can prevent a lot of flaking
that guys here seem to get.

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Attraction Switches
By Neil Strauss AKA Style

My concern lately has been the bigger you or grow with you, that you have a sense
picture in a PU. That, I think, is what of adventure or creativity or spirituality.
should be focussed on once you can get So switch #3 is showing her that you HAVE
rid of the training wheels of constantly SOMETHING TO OFFER, even if you don’t give
scripted sarges and learning to be it to her in the moment. This is where DHVs
cool/charming/attractive. are useful.

For a while, I’ve been discussing with 4) You must be the PRIZE of the room. She
my colleagues the SWITCHES that must be wants a guy others will envy her for, that she
flipped in a woman in order for her to feel can brag about to her friends. This is where
attraction. We put together a really long list. social proof comes in, where story-telling
From it, I boiled it down to just a few main comes in. It’s also where alpha qualities
switches. There is no order to them. They come in, cocky/funny, and not supplicating.
should just be consciously flipped at some So switch #4 is demonstrating all of the
point. So I’ve narrowed this down, and would many qualities of CONFIDENCE, LEADERSHIP,
love to hear thoughts and contributions: AUTHORITY, and POPULARITY

1) You must show her that you’re safe. Trust 5) It’s a big world and we all feel alone
is an important issue for most women. This in it, so if you can demonstrate that you
must be demonstrated. So switch #1: in order UNDERSTAND her and where she comes
to proceed, you need SAFETY and TRUST. from, she will feel chemistry. This can largely
be done through demonstrating either
2) You must show her that you have either cultural, mental, emotional, world view,
ambition, motivation, or job/financial humor, or life/background commonalities.
security. In other words, you must have a life The more obscure and rare a trait that
and goals. So switch #2 is demonstrating to you connect on, the more chemistry you
her that you have STABILITY and AMBITION. create. So Switch #5 is demonstrating
You don’t have to be successful, you just have COMMONALITIES in order to trigger
to show the potential to be successful (unless CHEMISTRY.
you’re in your 30s, at which point you should
have achieved something). 6) You need an aura of depth and mystery.
You must maybe show a vulnerable or
3) You must show her that you’re different wounded side of yourself, you must not
than the other guys, that you are not generic give away everything for free, you must be
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even have a wound she can heal. Switch #6

then is hooking her with your DEPTH and
MYSTERY.

7) You must show her that you are NOT

horny, but sexual. This is where social
proof comes in too, also demonstrating an
understanding of her world (liking her for
who SHE is). So switch #7 is demonstrating
your own LACK OF DESPERATION while
showing her that you RECOGNIZE
SOMETHING SPECIAL IN HER THAT ATTRACTS
YOU TO HER. This is where QUALIFYING is
useful, in other words demonstrating that
you like her for who she is--even if you are a
player.

So I think these are the main switches. I’m

open to corrections and additions. Now,
if you can FLIP these, she’s really going to
be into you. It’s solid game. I’d love to see
another list: of the switches to flip for a
ONS -- the switches that over-ride the social
programming and make her crave that
adventure and abandon.

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