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”Be yourself beautiful and you will find the world full of beauty”

On this day, Morrie says that he has an exercise for us to try. We are to stand, facing away from our classmates, and fall backward, relying on another student to catch us. Most of us are uncomfortable with this, and we cannot let go for more than a few inches before stopping ourselves. We laugh in embarrassment.

Finally, one student, a thin, quiet, dark-haired girl whom I notice almost always wears bulky, white fisherman sweaters, crosses her arms over her chest, closes her eyes, leans back, and does not flinch, like one of those Lipton tea commercials where the model splashes into the pool..

For a moment, I am sure she is going to thump on the floor. At the last instant, her assigned partner grabs her head and shoulders and yanks her up harshly.

“Whoa!” several students yell. Some clap. Morrie finally smiles. “You see”, he says to the girl, “you closed your eyes, That was the difference. Sometimes you cannot believe what you see, you have to believe what you feel. And if you are ever going to have other people trust you, you must feel that you can trust them too – even when you’re in the dark. Even when you’re falling”.

Source: “Tuesdays With Morrie” by Mitch Albom

“O ye who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance & prayer : for Allah is with those who patiently persevere !” (2:153)

“Trials are blessings we don’t understand yet…”

Happiness is an imaginary condition, formerly attributed by the living to the dead, now usually attributed by adults to children, and by children to adults. — Thomas Szasz

The little wave

The story is abut a little wave, bobbing along in the ocean, having a grand old time. He’s enjoying the wind and the fresh air – until he notices the other waves in front of him, crashing against the shore. “My God, this terrible”,the wave says. “Look what’s going to happen to me!”

Then along comes another wave. It sees the first wave, looking grim, and it says to him: “Why do you look so sad?” The first wave says: “You don’t understand! We’re all going to crash! All of us waves are going to be nothing! Isn’t it terrible?”

The second wave says: “No, you don’t understand. You’re not a wave, you’re part of the ocean.”

Source: “Tuesdays With Morrie” by Mitch Albom

Face difficulties positively

This parable is told of a farmer who owned an old mule. The mule fell into the farmer’s well. The farmer heard the mule praying or whatever mules do when they fall into wells. After carefully assessing the situation, the farmer sympathized with the mule, but decided that neither the mule nor the well was worth the trouble of saving. Instead, he called his neighbors together, told them what had happened, and enlisted them to help haul dirt to bury the old mule in the well and put him out of his misery.

Initially the old mule was hysterical! But as the farmer and his neighbors continued shoveling and the dirt hit his back, a thought struck him. It suddenly dawned on him that every time a shovel load of dirt landed on his back, HE WOULD SHAKE IT OFF AND STEP UP!

This he did, blow after blow. “Shake it off and step up…shake it off and step up…shake it off and step up!” He repeated to encourage himself. No matter how painful the blows, or how distressing the situation seemed, the old mule fought panic and just kept right on SHAKING IT OFF AND STEPPING UP!

It wasn’t long before the old mule, battered and exhausted, stepped triumphantly over the wall of that well! What seemed like it would bury him actually helped him . . . all because of the manner in which he handled his adversity.

THAT’S LIFE! If we face our problems and respond to them positively, and refuse to give in to panic, bitterness, or self-pity.

Source; http://academictips.org/blogs/face-difficulties-positively/

Terdapat sebuah cerita menarik yang dikisahkan ramai. Kisah seorang lelaki pemarah. Lelaki itu tidak dapat mengawal kemarahannya walaupun dalam situasi kecil sahaja. Marahnya sukar dibendung.

Satu ketika, bapanya menghadiahkan seguni paku. Lantas dengan hairan lelaki itu bertanya kepada ayahnya, “Apa gunanya paku-paku ini ayah?”

Ayahnya dengan tenang menjelaskan, “Setiap kali kamu marah, paku tembok batu dihadapan rumah kita dengan paku itu bagi melepaskan kemarahan kamu.”

Pemuda itu mengikut pesanan ayahnya. Hari pertama sahaja pemuda itu sudah memaku sebanyak 37 batang paku di tembok batu tersebut. Selepas beberapa minggu, dia dapat mengurangkan rasa marah. Jumlah paku yang digunakan semakin hari semakin berkurang. Akhirnya, dia mendapati, lebih mudah mengawal marah daripada memukul paku yang menembusi tembok batu tersebut.
Akhirnya pemuda tersebut langsung tidak marah walaupun sekali. Dia lantas dengan rasa gembira memaklumkan kepada bapanya. Bapanya terus mengucapkan tahniah dan meminta dia mencabut kembali paku itu satu persatu setiap hari. Hari berganti hari dia berjaya mencabut semua paku di tembok tersebut.

Selesai tugasannya, dia memaklumkan hal itu kepada ayahnya dengan rasa bangga. Bapanya lantas memimpin tangan lelaki itu menuju ke tembok tersebut dan berkata, “Kau melakukannya dengan baik anakku, namun lihatlah kesan lubang di tembok batu tersebut. Tembok itu tidak akan kelihatan sama lagi seperti sebelum ini.

Apabila kamu menyatakan sesuatu atau melakukan sesuatu ketika marah, pasti akan meninggalkan kesan parut dan luka sama seperti di tembok ini. Kamu boleh menikam seseorang dengan pisau dan membunuhnya. Namun luka itu masih tetap ada. Luka di hati lebih pedih daripada luka fizikal. Insan di sekeliling kita adalah permata yang sukar ditemui.

Mereka membuatkan kita ketawa dan mendorong kejayaan kita. Sahabat juga mampu menjadi seorang pendengar, berkongsi suka dan duka dan sentiasa membuka hatinya kepada kita.

Sabda Nabi dalam hadis yang lain: “Jauhilah kemarahan kerana marah adalah bara api yang menyala dalam hati anak adam”. Lihatlah bagaimana jika seseorang berada dalam keadaan marah. Pasti mukanya tegang. Rasulullah menerangkan: “Kemarahan itu daripada syaitan. Sesungguhnya syaitan itu dijadikan daripada api. Api hanya dapat dipadamkan dengan air. Apabila marah dengan seseorang maka ambillah wuduk”.

Sumber; http://www.iluvislam.com/inspirasi/sinar-hidayah/4191-memaku-dinding-hati.html

Trust yourself. You know what you want and need.

Put yourself first. You can’t be anything for anybody else unless you take care of yourself.

Let your feelings be known. They are important.Express your opinions. It’s good to hear yourself talk.

Value your thinking. You do it well. Take the time and space you need. Even if other people are wanting something from you.

When you need something, don’t talk yourself out of it. Even if you can’t have it, it’s ok to need.When you are scared, let someone know. Isolating yourself when you’re scared makes it worse.

When you feel like running away, let yourself feel the scare. Think about what you fear will happen and decide what you need to do. When you’re angry, let yourself feel the anger.

Decide what you want to do. Just feel it, express it, or take some action. When you’re sad, think about what would be comforting.

When you’re hurt, tell the person who hurt you. Keeping it inside makes it grow. When you have work to do and you don’t want to do it, decide what really needs to be done and what can wait.

When you want something from someone else, ask. You’ll be okay if they say no. Asking is being true to yourself. When you need help, ask. Trust people to say no if they don’t want to give.

When people turn you down, it usually has to do with them, and not with you. Ask someone else for what you need. When you feel alone, know there are people who want to be with you. Fantasize what it would be like to be with each of them. Decide if you want to make that happen.

 When you feel anxious, let yourself know that in your head. You’ve moved into the future to something scaryand your body has gotten up the energy for it. Come back to the present. When you want to say something loving to someone, go ahead. Expressing your feeling is not a commitment

 When someone yells at you, physically support yourself by relaxing into your chair or putting your feet firmly on the floor. Remember to breathe. Think about the message they are trying to get across to you.

 When you’re harassing yourself, stop. You do it when you need something. Figure out what you need and get it. When everything seems wrong, you are overwhelmed and need some comforting. Ask for it. Afterwards, you can think about what you need to do.

Source; http://www.iluvislam.com/inspirasi/motivasi/3990-be-good-to-yourself.html