Drawing a one-to-one correspondence between media consumption and behavior is always dicey—and never more so than when a high percentage of the audience is consuming a very different text than the one that is there. And it’s important to take a step back and check for alternate interpretations of the media we’re criticizing. All too often, feminist critiques of heterosexual porn wind up saying more about our views of women and sex than they do about the porn itself.

Maybe the problem truly is with capitalism in that the nature of consensual sex relies on a supply-demand dynamic.

Something I’e had come up a couple of times.

To me there’s nothing powerful or subversive about this lexicon: it smacks more of a (literally) infantile fixation. Which makes it difficult to see why women would want to reclaim it.

just existing as a fem presenting person sucks so bad 😭 irl or online, my physical body or my fursona, it literally doesnt matter. i want to be more than just a piece of meat to people

Trying to pick a pathway through forty years of the ugliest conflict in feminism.