One that actually brings men and women together.

Featuring Louise Perry.

I was surprised to find myself nodding along with pretty much everything the host and guest said. They were both cooking. So many good quotes to chew on in here.

One criticism I have of the more individualistic feminist position is that if you think that rape is a product of propaganda, shall we say, consent workshops are no match for pornography. Just think of the hundreds of hours that a typical teenage boy might be exposed to pornography, compared with 30 minutes of a consent workshop. I mean, there’s no match. / Just on that basis, we’re at a disadvantage, and Dworkin and MacKinnon’s position on banning pornography makes a lot more sense.

It’s perfectly normal and natural for people to have mostly homosocial kinds of friendships and to say vulgar or unkind things in private. But now, of course, the internet blasts this out into the public domain. I think that is part of the problem.

Should religion be able to answer the problem at the heart of the second wave?

What feminists have to ask is, are we responding to this threat in the direction of greater meaning and deeper human flourishing for everyone? Or are we shutting down the articulation of meaning out of fear that we might be excluded from it? The right way to respond to this situation is to rediscover our ability to advocate positively for our own complex human nature, our own search for meaning, our own need for purpose in life.

via: https://thingofthings.substack.com/p/linkpost-for-may-3ac

What cancel culture reveals and conceals about redemption

Man, the Internet social justice movement really fucked up my life and many others. And for what? Sigh…

via: https://lydialaurenson.substack.com/p/social-contracts-moral-order-weaving

A friend who works on transformative justice once remarked to me that the purpose of the practice is not so much to fix the problems, as to “let the story in.” Sometimes one of the most profound things you can do for a badly hurt person is listen, even when it hurts you to listen, as it generally will if they have been deeply hurt and haven’t been able to process it. I fail at this all the time. But when I succeed, I see the transformation. / If there’s no capacity for listening, then sometimes showing up for a person who needs it can just mean being there logistically, showing care even if one can’t bring oneself to hear the full story or can’t agree on their interpretation. These things may seem tiny, but I’ve come to believe that these small attempts at relating are one of the surest personal crucibles we have.

Entire post is mad facts. Definitely adopting SL-Op as a framework.

via: https://thingofthings.substack.com/p/linkpost-for-march-ac9

As [per] usual with gender issues, this can be best explained through a story from ancient Chinese military history.

What I propose is not for feminism to stop advocating against sexism towards women. I propose for feminists to look for ways to do so that don’t needlessly cause lasting sexual repression or guilt in a subset of men most sympathetic to feminist concerns. However, this would require considering men’s interests, perspectives, and experiences, not just women’s.

see: https://web.archive.org/web/20200217134031/http://home.earthlink.net/~ahunter/Same_Closet_Diff_Door/hpsissy.html

via: https://nottoby.substack.com/p/the-internet-is-training-boys-and/comment/149005099

Apparently a classic in certain circles.

In this sharp manifesto, veteran author and activist, Jude Doyle, reunites feminist and trans politics through a common belief: that all people deserve to have the final say about who they are…

An excellent book on transfeminism from the transmasc POV. A terrifyingly easy read: I zoomed through its 200 pages in about a day.

The sentiment behind this project is good, but parts of it seem insane:

Avoid using idioms and jargons. These can exclude people who don’t have particular specialized knowledge, and many idioms don’t translate from country to country. Additionally, these sometimes have origins in negative stereotypes.

Jargon is a crucial part of technical communication. Yes, jargon can cause friction when a person is getting inducted into a field, but our goal should not be to remove all friction from our work. And no idioms whatsoever? That’s just nonsense. But perhaps I’m just over-reacting to “my words being taken away.”