You have to balance the risk of accidentally sexually harassing someone against the benefits of asking people out—to you and to the people that you’re asking out. Most of the time, the benefits are larger.

Equal parts hilarious and quite serious. Applicable even for me, an aroallo. Will save this for grad school.

The modeling of polycule dynamics is an open question, but it can be best approximated from the Erdős–Rényi model of the random graph.

sometimes i wish i wasnt aroace but not because i actually want to date anyone its just because the structure of society makes it rly hard to be single😭

Great video on amatonormativity and the loneliness of masculinity.

By peddling the illusion that romance can be made queer, heteronormative capitalism forces queer people to try solve their problems of undesirability and unhappiness privately by finding the “right” partner, rather than directing their anger towards public action.

via: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8zomXm7O3Os

what universal human experiences are you missing?

[…] people’s [dating] advice and complaints primarily reflect, not great truths about love and dating and gender relations, but their own idiosyncratic way of moving through the world. So even in the best cases, where no one is making up emotionally satisfying daydreams, dating discourse winds up consisting of people lobbing anecdotes back and forth at each other, each person accurately representing their own lives.

Very straightforward post. I think everything here is reflective of all “chosen” human relationships, especially friendships.