Ed Copeland goes deep as we explore how we cracked an infinite sum relating to black holes.

Lots of great techniques.

Ed Copeland continues from the main video

Lots of great techniques.

Not really sure where this video came from, I came downstairs in the morning and it was already fully uploaded. Dan doesn’t know anything about it either. Doesn’t seem like it’ll get me in trouble though so F it, we’ll let it rock. Weirdly enough it sounds like he’s listening to Shoegazer Watched The Stars from NMH2 for most of the video. With a brief appearance by 1811 from Lost Judgement.

Absolutely hilarious.

Apparently a classic in certain circles.

The main issue is that, by the time you get to the frontiers of math, the words to describe the concepts don’t really exist yet. Communicating these ideas is a bit like trying to explain a vacuum cleaner to someone who has never seen one, except you’re only allowed to use words that are four letters long or shorter.

Merging the Trump and CHH personas together: How would I talk about my Substack if I were Trump? / This 15-minute, one-take improvised Trump impression brought to you by mental illness.

This has no right to be this good.

The 2010s messaging that women never wanted men to talk to them was driven by a minority of extreme introverts. Modern-day singles are paying the price.

It’s not that I’m afraid of rejection — it’s that I assume it. That’s what I was really mad about as a kid. Why do I have to be the screw-up? Why do I have to be all of these things that I wouldn’t want, either? Emotionally fragile, socially shut-in, in equal parts sexually perverse and timid — and worst of all, self-loathing. That self-loathing has fed avoidance, which has led to a failure to express my needs and desires, which has led to dysfunction in my relationships, which resets the cycle.

On the terrible system dynamics of dating and sensitive young man syndrome. Beautiful cycle depicted.

Or; “Diptych, Panel I: The Mote in His Eye.”

A nice discussion of het dating norms and a useful script for treating people.

The worst thing for people with OCD is other people who don’t know they have OCD

see: https://archive.is/20260105115224/https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2026/01/12/the-boyosphere

Looks very useful.

If it seems like someone would have to know the right answer to be this wrong, that’s because they do. And they posted it anyway, which means you are entering an interaction they engineered for a purpose. You are entering a shooting gallery from the wrong end.

via: https://nottoby.substack.com/p/the-internet-is-training-boys-and

But I think there’s a more radical slipperiness in that “our sense of right and wrong” and “the social reaction of others” are not as separable as we like to think. Elsewhere, the article tries to get past the fear of accidental harm by encouraging the reader to make use of the “common-sense understanding of offensiveness that you have developed as a minimally functional adult living in a society.” The issue, I think, is that one’s common-sense understanding of what makes people feel uncomfortable or unsafe is built by receiving or observing social consequences.

I’m still haunted by the sense that my attraction to women is in some way inherently, almost psychically, harmful. I just don’t have the practice in more representative circles to have worked through it on an instinctual level.

Oh my God. Such beautiful application of contemporary philosophy to the pains of social life.

it’s not good advice, but it’s all there is

This is unfortunately what I must do, too. “Dating in the Bay Area” returns.

The comic in this piece is very cool.

see: https://archive.org/details/hup-04-1992_202302/Hup%2001%2C%201987/page/n15/mode/2up

Wynn’s video makes use of the idea that the psychological “point” of kink can be to enable oneself to enjoy sexuality. This is how a lot of folks understand fantasies of submission and dominance — if you deal with a lot of shame or other baggage around your desires or the act of sex, having these things forced on you is pretty convenient! And if that’s the case, for most of us, playing the dominant would be directly counterproductive, giving us more reasons to worry! She draws an analogy to the way in which Anastasia of Fifty Shades is repeatedly given extravagant gifts against her will, enabling a fantasy of wealth without violating deeply-held boundaries around humility and propriety.

Fire post.

via: https://www.cartoonshateher.com/p/sex-with-your-husband-isnt-labor

Another day, another article attempting to intellectualize what is essentially the straight woman version of “ugh, my bitch wife.”

Crazy premise. In strong tension with Doyle, “Wife Guy.”

Most social norms just won’t be violated very often. Being the first person to do anything is too risky, even if the only downside is just embarrassment. But generally, all it takes is two people to agree that a social norm is silly, and something amazing can happen.

Strong connections to Wagner, “Bringing Sexy Back.”

When it’s “punching up” to pretend the other gender’s loneliness crisis is self-imposed