How to Save a Marriage and Ruin Your Life

This is a very well written movie. I missed the very beginning. I wasn't prepared for the articulate war of the sexes theme. Some people might consider it too talky. At times it sounded like a George Bernard Shaw play. Sometimes it seemed that Dino was sleepwalking and this much wordplay was a little too much for him. Perhaps the interesting dimensions owe something to the participation of Wallach his wife. Movies from this period project a particular mise en scene of imperial America at its zenith of hubris and naivitee. The characters Martin and Wallach play are unselfconsciously "upper class" and enjoy the life of extreme privilege without any consideration if they deserve their good fortune. The US was up to its neck in Vietnam at the time and modern consumer society was being born. A nice old chestnut from a time we can remember fondly but not aspire to emulate.

A delicious comedy - that's how HOW TO SAVE A MARRIAGE AND RUIN YOUR LIFE must be classified. When HOW TO SAVE A MARRIAGE was released in 1968, I was only a teenager. Today, I regret I had not the opportunity to watch this film by that time, because I always loved that kind of comedy - not necessary to mention Doris Day's ones. Unfortunately, I only had the chance to see it in the late 1970's, firstly at TV broadcasting and afterwards, at my video-cassette home. It might seem strange to some persons, to affirm that all stars on this film have a nice performance - in special the gallant Dean Martin, the sweet Stella Stevens and the versatile Elli Wallach. On the other hand, the critics are generally very rigorous with this kind of comedy because they always expect more sensuality (or more obscenity) on scenes, however, this comedy is very funny just because the absence of malice and the presence of ingredients like a sweet sensuality - a kind of purity which we cannot see neither on today's films nor at real life. The situations are very hilariant - in special that one on which the mother-in-law's grave of a certain man is changed by asking of Carol Corman's (Stella Stevens) to the sunny side of the cemetery, as she believed on that grave was the body of David's wife, and her decision creates a lot of confusion. Stella Stevens is also very fun when she discovers David was never married, and just because of that, she practices to launch darts against David's shirt as if she was launched them over him - her beautiful face express an ingenious and hilarious hate against David, not only because of her beauty but also because of her incredible charm and, of course, her great talent as a comedian. Because of the absolute absence of obscenity at scenes, I think this film deserves to be released on DVD - as this comedy takes some of us for the good times. Special feature to Michel Legrand and to his beautiful song titled "Winds Of Change", and the superb performance by The Ray Conniff Singers at overture and final credits.

Despite being a 30 year old dyed-in-the-wool film buff when this was released I don't remember hearing about it.That despite being a huge fan of Dean Martin and his "playboy" sensibility at the time. (Still am.) This was approximately the period when the country's sense of humor slowly began to change to that of irony and sarcasm.In less than 10 years it would be David Letterman, the Smothers Brothers, and Saturday Night Live.The humor extant in this film would be relegated to dreary TV sitcoms. Dean holds his own with Eli Wallach (no easy feat) and he really seems to be working a little harder than usual to get the laughs.While I'm not familiar with Stella Stevens' body of work (no pun intended)if this is representative then she bears closer examination(again no pun intended). The best way to put it? This is 1968's version of those great screwball comedies that dominated the 30's and early 40's and it doesn't do too badly by comparison.

Frothy comedy of multiple misunderstandings. An artifact of a different time but performed with zest by a capable cast. Stella Stevens is delightful radiating enough charm to fuel several movies, how she didn't become a bigger star is a mystery. It seems the kind of films in which she excelled were fading from popularity just as she was reaching the point in her career where she would have been the choice to lead them, a pity and a waste of an excellent talent. Even though the subject of the film is marital infidelity it is viewed with an innocent outlook which makes it similar to several of the other big hits of the sixties such as Move Over, Darling and That Touch of Mink. Aside from Stella the rest of the cast from Dino down give light enjoyable performances never taking the proceedings too seriously. If the viewer doesn't either they will find this a pleasant diversion.

May I give a bit of advice to millenials and anyone under 50? Please stop watching films that were made before you were a twinkle in your father's eye. No, really. I am serious. It's good advice.

This film was made 50 years ago. That's half a century ago. In that amount of time things have changed so much you'd think two centuries have passed, not half. Trust me. I went through that change.

Unless you were born ten years before this film was made you could not possibly understand the mentality of the time, much less enjoy the humor.

Unless you are really open-minded andand can therefore make allowances for how things were half a century ago, just stick to films that were made no earlier than the year 2000.

So next time you watch an old film, try to take it in stride, instead of insisting on telling everybody how dated/sexist/un-PC it is.

Of course it is, Dr. Obvious. It was made half a century ago.