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My Sex Life... or How I Got Into an Argument

Original title: Comment je me suis disputé... (ma vie sexuelle)
  • 1996
  • 2h 58m
IMDb RATING
6.7/10
1.8K
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My Sex Life... or How I Got Into an Argument (1996)
Paul Dedalus is at a crossroads in his life. He has to make several decisions; should he complete his doctorate, does he want to become a full professor, does he really love his long-standing girlfriend, or should he re-start with one of his other lovers? Is he avoiding the despairing life his father can't escape from?
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Paul faces major life choices about his academic career, relationship with his girlfriend, potential affairs, and whether he's running from a fate like his father's.Paul faces major life choices about his academic career, relationship with his girlfriend, potential affairs, and whether he's running from a fate like his father's.Paul faces major life choices about his academic career, relationship with his girlfriend, potential affairs, and whether he's running from a fate like his father's.

  • Director
    • Arnaud Desplechin
  • Writers
    • Emmanuel Bourdieu
    • Arnaud Desplechin
  • Stars
    • Mathieu Amalric
    • Emmanuelle Devos
    • Emmanuel Salinger
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  • IMDb RATING
    6.7/10
    1.8K
    YOUR RATING
    • Director
      • Arnaud Desplechin
    • Writers
      • Emmanuel Bourdieu
      • Arnaud Desplechin
    • Stars
      • Mathieu Amalric
      • Emmanuelle Devos
      • Emmanuel Salinger
    • 15User reviews
    • 16Critic reviews
    • 76Metascore
  • See production info at IMDbPro
    • Awards
      • 1 win & 4 nominations total

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    Mathieu Amalric
    Mathieu Amalric
    • Paul Dedalus
    Emmanuelle Devos
    Emmanuelle Devos
    • Esther
    Emmanuel Salinger
    • Nathan
    Marianne Denicourt
    Marianne Denicourt
    • Sylvia
    Thibault de Montalembert
    • Bob
    Chiara Mastroianni
    Chiara Mastroianni
    • Patricia
    Denis Podalydès
    Denis Podalydès
    • Jean-Jacques
    Jeanne Balibar
    Jeanne Balibar
    • Valérie
    Fabrice Desplechin
    • Ivan
    Hélène Lapiower
    • Le Mérou
    Michel Vuillermoz
    • Frédéric Rabier
    Roland Amstutz
    Roland Amstutz
    • Chernov
    Marion Cotillard
    Marion Cotillard
    • Student
    Solenn Jarniou
    • Pascale
    Philippe Duclos
    Philippe Duclos
    • Spiritual Accompanist
    Elisabeth Maby
    • Tatie
    Paule Annen
    • Mrs. Chernov
    Anne-Katerine Normant
    • Esther's Friend
    • Director
      • Arnaud Desplechin
    • Writers
      • Emmanuel Bourdieu
      • Arnaud Desplechin
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    johdousha

    Paul's hair is the best part

    This movie was very, very boring. I can't really say it should have been edited down to two hours and then it would be better, because there isn't two hours worth of good movie material there. The actor who played Paul was good. Actually, all the actors and actresses seemed very realistic, but that's just not enough to make the movie interesting. If someone wants to make a movie, they ought to have a story to tell first. In Ma Vie Sexuelle, there was no story. Anyway, the atmosphere and the camera work was good. But the movie still stinks. I'd only recommend it to someone in prison who's watched every other movie in the world first. Or to someone I wanted to show what cool hair looks like...
    10BigCombo

    The best French film of the decade

    It's the best French film of the decade and perhaps one of the greatest investigations into young love ever made. Mathieu Amalric is a revelation and demonstrates he's one of the finest young actors in the entire world. I love this film, and it makes me so happy to know it exists.
    dan-120

    An amazing film that discusses philosophical issues of mating rituals.

    A fascinating look at a group of post-grad friends as they drink, fight and fall in love. Very philosophical men, very beautiful women (or is it vice versa?) ponder what it means to be in a relationship and approaching 30.
    6writers_reign

    How I Got Sidetracked

    It's fair to say that had I not found Rois et Reine so rich, complex and ultimately enjoyable I may not have taken the trouble (to say nothing of the three hours needed) to watch this earlier work by Arnaud Desplechin toplining the same two very fine actors (Manu Devos and Mathieu Almaric). The fact that this time around the duo were supported by the likes of Jeanne Balibar, Denis Podalydes, Marion Cotillard and Chiara Mastroianni merely sweetened the pot but it has to be said that Desplechin doesn't make it easy. Almaric plays a University lecturer named Paul Dedaulus, a name surely not chosen at random. Daedalus, in Greek mythology was the father of Icarus, who flew too near the sun, but apart from that Daedalus was on straight commission from King Minos of Crete for whom he created among other things, the maze and the Minotaur in the centre of it. I'm betting twelve to seven that Desplechin had that very same maze in mind when he dreamed up this labyrinthine storyline of a man who is constantly taking wrong turnings in his attempt to move forward in his life. As a vacillator this guy can leave Hamlet dead in the water; should he stay with Devos - with whom he has been in an on/off relationship for ten years - or should he attempt to make and/or get a firm commitment from one of the three other girls with whom he is involved. At the end of three hours your guess is as good as mine but it is also fair to say that along the way we have been treated to some very fine acting indeed though whether it has any point is moot. Those, like me, who enjoy watching French actors - without question some of the finest in the world - in their early careers will find this enthralling for that reason alone. Those will little or no interest in French actors, fine or otherwise, may well be bemused, bored or both.
    8El_Fireos

    A funny, intelligent film full of weird looking attractive french people...

    I can understand why a lot of people will find this film boring. It's one of the most dialogue heavy films you'll ever see and the sporadic voice-over gives us so many complex and philosophical insights into the characters that it is quite hard to digest.

    Having said that, I think this a fantastic film. It is very insightful, drole and poignant- for those who've ever been in any kind of relationship (or better yet, several, simultaneously). The narrative has a funny way of leaping around at times, but generally returns to Paul- whose daily struggles with his relationships to his friends, students and fellow academics cause him a lot of grief and awkward situations. The whole film is beautifully acted, and at times the dialogue soars from scene to scene with studied eloquence. The music is also used to dramatic effect, rendering the small interior changes and developments in the characters into the life changing moments of which they are worthy. I say get this film, some cigarettes, a couple of bottles of wine and a comfy seat. You're in for a treat.

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    • Trivia
      Director Arnaud Desplechin originally wanted to name the movie "Comment je me suis disputé avec Éric Barbier" (How I Got Into An Argument With Eric Barbier), as a dig at former colleague Eric Barbier, also the basis for movie character Frédéric Rabier. A justice decision prevented him from using the full title, hence the ellipsis and the added subtitle.
    • Connections
      Followed by My Golden Days (2015)
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      Daphnis et Chloé
      Composed by Maurice Ravel

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    • Release date
      • September 17, 1997 (United States)
    • Country of origin
      • France
    • Official site
      • Why Not Productions (France)
    • Language
      • French
    • Also known as
      • Ma vie sexuelle
    • Filming locations
      • France
    • Production companies
      • Why Not Productions
      • La Sept Cinéma
      • France 2 Cinéma
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    • Runtime
      • 2h 58m(178 min)
    • Color
      • Color
    • Sound mix
      • Dolby
    • Aspect ratio
      • 1.66 : 1

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