Controlling friendships

Love this !! So many would rather try to control others and that's not how friendships work!

You don't lose real friends, real opportunities, or real relationships when you start standing up for yourself and setting dear boundaries. You lose abusers, manipulators, narcissists, control freaks, attention seekers, and mental-health destroying leeches.

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Learn how to spot the five controlling behaviors so you can prevent yourself from being taken advantage of or, worse, left emotionally injured.

"When we hold space for other people, we open our hearts, offer unconditional support, and let go of judgement and control." #HoldSpace #HoldingSpace #NoJudgement #Counseling #Therapy #MentalHealth #Friendship #Support #Compassion #Care #YouMatter #MentalHealthMatters

Not everyone has the same heart as you. Not everyone will be as kind and loving as you. Never blame yourself for something other people lack. It's not you it's them! The faster you learn this the more heartaches and disappointments you'll avoid. In this lifetime the only thing you can truly focus on is the love and happiness you feel inside. Never let anyone take that away from you just because they don't know how to fully express what's in their heart. A lot of people have been hurt and…

I can’t control the fact that you crossed the line/our boundaries, and that you are now gaslighting/being manipulative, but I sure as hell can control not putting up with that any longer.

You may not readily see the signs you're in a codependent friendship, even if they've been there a while. Here's how to recognize when your friendship is imbalanced and how you can get things back on track and healthy again.