Closure Quotes

“But one must do something about the past. It doesn’t just cease to be. It goes on existing and affecting the present, and in new and different ways, as if in some other dimension it too were growing.”
― Iris Murdoch, The Nice and the Good

“Daddy never believed in closure. He said it was a false psychological concept. Something invented by therapists to assuage white Western guilt. In all his years of study and practice, he’d never heard a patient of color talk of needing “closure.” They needed revenge. They needed distance. Forgiveness and a good lawyer maybe, but never closure. He said people mistake suicide, murder, lap band surgery, interracial marriage, and overtipping for closure, when in reality what they’ve achieved is erasure.”
― Paul Beatty, The Sellout

“No whim of fate, no Freudian trauma, no loss of a loved one will be as devastating to the human spirit as some prolonged ambivalent relationship that leaves us forever unable to say goodbye.”
― George E. Vaillant, Adaptation to Life

“i tried to find it
but there was no answer
at the end of the last conversation
- closure”
― Rupi Kaur, The Sun and Her Flowers

“When you love yourself you will never need closure from any man. That doesn't mean you didn't love him, it simply means you love yourself enough to realize God has a better plan for you that doesn't involve one more conversation that will remind you of that person's lack of respect for you.”
― Shannon L. Alder

“The universe - fate - is cruel and random. Things happen for many reasons. Things happen for no reason. To shoulder the burden of the universe's caprice is too much for anyone. And it's not fair to you.”
― Jeff Zentner, Goodbye Days

“Closure, for me, would mean accepting my circumstances rather than trying to alter them to serve me best.”
― Samra Habib, We Have Always Been Here: A Queer Muslim Memoir

“There will be a sea of tears,
You'll gasp for your breath at times,
You'll drag your heavy heart
And drown your soul in the sea.

But sooner or later,
The sea will dry up,
There won't be any savior ship
But you'll learn to embrace
The wet sand revealed.”
― Sanhita Baruah

“Closure is when raw memory blurs to become the folklore of life.”
― Stewart Stafford

“Sometimes when I'm writing a superhero story I wonder if they really have to punch each other in the face. Is that really going to solve anything? I feel the same way sometimes when I watch episodes of Law & Order. I'm like, "Yeah, right. You found the sex offender and now everything is fine." TV is big on closure, but I think closure is horseshit in real life. I'm still haunted by stuff I did in my teen years when I think about it too much.”
― Ed Brubaker

“I think it is in grief that we need some reminder of our humanity--and sometimes, someone to say it for us. Poetry steps in at those moments when ordinary words fail: poetry as ceremony, as closure to what cannot be closed.”
― Kevin Young, The Art of Losing: Poems of Grief and Healing

“The man himself lay in the bed.

For a long while we just stood there, looking down at the profound and fleshless grin. The body had apparently once lain in the attitude of an embrace, but now the long sleep that outlasts love, that conquers even the grimace of love, had cuckolded him.”
― William Faulkner , A Rose for Emily

“Never cared for what they say
Never cared for games they play
Never cared for what they do
Never cared for what they know”
― Metallica

“The imitation lives we see on TV and in the movies whisper the idea that human existence consists of revelations and abrupt changes of heart; by the time we’ve reached full adulthood, I think, this is an idea we have on some level come to accept. Such things may happen from time to time, but I think that for the most part it’s a lie. Life’s changes come slowly…the whole idea of curious cats attaining satisfaction seemed slightly absurd. The world rarely finishes its conversations.”
― Stephen King, From a Buick 8

“When you love someone, they're a poignant daily part of your life. When you lose them, you are separated from that relationship. Moving forward doesn't mean you leave that person behind; it means weaving them into the narrative of your life.”
― Christina Zampitella

“Closure is an American lie used to justify revenge. Healing is getting used to the pain, learning to be damaged.”
― Tim Morrison, QueerBashing

“I once found a phoenix
charred in its own ashes. I
brought it home with
me, wept through the night,
and then tossed it to
the wind--its brittle body
dispersing all about.

This thing without
a name and deep within
me--how it truly believes
that if something is meant
to take flight, then it
must one way or another.”
― J. Andrew Schrecker, Insomniacs, We

“From love's absolutism to love's absolution? No: I don't believe in the cosy narratives of life some find necessary, just as I choke on comforting words like redemption and closure. Death is the only closure I believe in; and the wound will stay open until that final shutting of the doors. As for redemption, it's far too neat, a movie-maker's bromide; and beyond that, it feels like something grand, which human beings are too imperfect to deserve, much less bestow upon themselves.”
― Julian Barnes, The Only Story

“Mrs. Munt did not see, and indeed Margaret was making a most questionable statement—that any emotion, any interest once vividly aroused, can wholly die.”
― E.M. Forster, Howards End

“The only cure here was death. They were both gone out of my life.”
― Iris Murdoch, The Sea, the Sea

“Closure. This was a word that humans used a lot. They told themselves there had to be some sort of ritualistic ending in order to close the chapter and move on, but I wondered if chapters ever really closed, because each one was dependent on the one before.”
― Jacqueline Simon Gunn, The Cat Who Ate His Tail

“Closure, if it exists at all, is either for the afterlife or for those who stay behind. Ultimately, it is the living who'll close the ledger of my life, not I. We pass along our shadow selves and entrust what we've learned, lived, and known to afterpeople. What else can we give those we've loved after we die than pictures of who we were when we were children and had yet to become the fathers they grew up to know. I want those who outlive me to extend my life, not just to remember it.”
― André Aciman, Find Me

“A beautiful night with a beautiful woman is supposed to end that night; you’re not supposed to go work for her afterwards.”
― Lance Charnes, The Collection

“That’s the hope, isn’t it? To see your family in your time of dying.”
― Saim .A. Cheeda

“You don't wake up in the morning with a thought of "Suicide"... it happens when less closure happens between humans, you don't have exit points... and you create your own loop hole.”
― Deyth Banger, Brain on Porn

“Some chapters just have to close without closure. You cant lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken.”
― Nitya Prakash

“She's an unfinished fairytale that never got any closure on pages.”
― Nitya Prakash

“Life has to go on even when you don't want it to or when you feel unable to participate. The world doesn't stop turning for anyone.”
― Stewart Stafford

“You
Are
All
You
Need
And
You
Know
It”
― Ord Florian, Farm Ramblings

“The governments blatant denial of my disability benefits caused me to pursue the closure of the toxic USA companies involved with damaging my health.”
― Steven Magee