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Very nice, easy-going and consistently charming. And still ,looking back, I find it hard to find that something special to remember from the movie. There is simply not very much to make it stand out from every other `romantic comedy' except the fact that the story is about two men! The performances are nicely turned and Ruccolo is charming in his part, as is Doris Roberts, who ultimately makes the biggest impression even though she is only on-screen for about 15 minutes. For a gay-themed movie, there is quite a large budget at work here (at least it looks that way) and that certainly is a nice change from all the grainy, blown-up indy-movies that is too common when the subject is homosexuality. And it has a script that is witty and sympathetic towards its characters, gay or straight, with some hilarious comedy from Eli's psychologist parents as portrayed by Martin and Abatemarco. But nothing new is on display here. Eli, as portrayed by Dan Bucatinsky, comes over as somewhat annoying, even though he should be the most sympathetic of the two main protagonists, mainly because he is unnatural in his wittisisms and one-liners. These lines are penned by Bucatinsky himself, by the way, and while they often are very funny, sometimes they come over as too contrived. And I couldn't escape a certain feeling of shallowness. The movie constantly touches on an interesting issue or storyline, but chickens out before anything goes too far away from the mainstream (as in the story about Tom's parents and his sister, alcoholism). And the biggest damage is done from the fact that nothing very special happens. The plot must have been written on the back of a stamp because basically Tom meet Eli, walks out of Eli, comes back to Eli and so on. But what am I complaining of? It still is nice to see a movie with gay characters acting as normal people. It is sweet, good-natured and watchable. Just not very memorable.

Eli (Dan Bucatinsky) and Tom (beautiful Richard Ruccolo) are both gay and attracted to each other but while Eli wants a firm commitment, Tom is afraid. The movie chronicles their on-again, off-again relationship and the effects on their family and friends. There's nothing new or ground-breaking here--just a very pleasant, occasionally hilarious story. The leads are attractive, there's a very strong supporting cast (Doris Roberts, Sasha Alexander, Christina Ricci and Lisa Kudrow in a great cameo) and it's all well-done. Sometimes the characters get a little whiny (Eli especially) and do real stupid things (Eli again) but the film works regardless. There's also a straight couple thrown in for the straight people in the audience. So, nothing great, but pleasant.

This movie at least really doesn't play around with the gay stereotypes too much. I have seen some films that have went over the top with the stereotyping i.e. "Kiss Me, Guido". I know how the mannerisms are inside the Gay/Lesbian culture, but still a film can be funny and not go over the top.

"All Over The Guy" does just this and gives you a healthy dose of laughter. This film reminds me of the movie, "The Opposite of Sex". I give "All Over The Guy" two thumbs up for showing gays in a positive light. I recommend both movies to anyone gay or straight.

I thought about doing this review long ago (and actually started it at one point), but, well, you know how it is... but I just happened to catch the first hour when I went home at lunch, so here goes.

All Over the Guy is, ultimately, a classic boy meets boy, boy falls in love with boy, boy loses boy, boy gets boy back. In short, the kind of movie I wished for most of my younger life. It is -- yes, let's just say it and get it over with -- sweet. And that's nothing to be ashamed of.

First, a disclaimer -- I have worked with both Rich Ruccolo and Don Roos (I haven't seen either in years)... but that makes my love of this film all the more amazing. I find it difficult to watch films of actors I have worked with because it's hard to separate the character from the person I know. Rich succeeded in making me forget the actor and concentrate on the character of Tom. Tom is at once vulnerable and supremely sexy; you're not sure whether you want to hug him like a teddy bear or throw him down and get wild with him.

Dan Bucatinsky's Eli is perhaps not the polar opposite of Tom he appears to be. Tom almost physically runs from relationships while Eli backs away apologizing the whole time. They both embody the whole kaleidoscope of feelings that most of us have when we meet someone who interests us -- mostly, of course, fear. Fear of falling in love, or of not falling in love. Fear our feelings won't be returned, or that they will.

Personally, I see an enormous amount of chemistry between Tom and Eli. Look at the scene in the flea market, the interaction of their eyes, the body language... here are two guys who are fighting what they're feeling every step of the way (oh, and by the way, Eli is much more forgiving that I would be about the smoking).

The rest of the cast is superb as well, including some great cameo roles. Most of all, the characters of Brett and Jackie are very funny in a superb role reversal -- instead of the ubiquitous second-banana gay best friends, we have second-banana straight best friends.

The only problem I have with the film is the same problem I have with straight versions of this kind of story. How likely is it that people who appear to have such different interests and such volatile emotions will stay together... not to mention Tom's penchant for alcoholism. But then in "Pretty Woman" I just couldn't shake the feeling that this rich guy wouldn't stay with a prostitute long whether she looked like Julia Roberts or not.

Gay cinema has, thankfully, branched out from the early "Oh my God I'm gay I hate myself I can't let anyone find out" films like "Doing Time On Maple Drive." There is a place for gay cinema in every genre. And this film is in a definite class by itself in its genre.

Enjoy!

I have seen what has been written before (that terrible review...), and I feel the need to say that All Over the Guy is not a terrible movie. It's actually very sweet and gentle in portraying two gay characters with issues. Not that it's a wonderful film but I didn't find it disturbing, and I found it somehow pleasant to watch; of course it's a bit to light-headed sometimes but there's nothing bad about it. And yes, I think it is witty sometimes (and mind you, I read the English authors, I have a doctorate in English literature!!!) For those who wish to watch something better Id recommend: Suddenly, last summer; Paragraph 175; Oranges are not the only fruit. GREAT SOUNDTRACK: ESPECIALLY David GRAY'S _PLEASE FORGIVE ME_.

I've been expressing my distaste of so many gay-themed films to so many friends about how the films portray the men as stereotypical, young, pretty, and FABulous. And worse yet, always throwing in the obligatory drag queen. With the current trend of fantasy lesbianism, the gals are hot and act like everyday people but the gay males are kept in a lower level of being effeminate and weak. This of course is because heterosexual males only feel safe if the gay men aren't portrayed as masculine (that's why so many of the straight guys are terrified of Cruising, seeking comfort in the delusions of The Man Show and Howard Stern).

All Over The Guy is a film that breaks the barriers and focuses on issues of intimacy and finding ways to communicate -- and it's a big shame it didn't get the major distribution it deserves as it is right on the mark and so much more enjoyable than the endless line of circuit boy romances being released. Yes, there is a LOT of bickering and arguing going on between all the characters in this film, and that may become tiresome and turn some viewers off. But when you really listen to what they say, understand their backgrounds, and realize that this is the kind of thing that really does occur between friends everyday, it makes for fascinating entertainment. The dialogue is sharp and quick and not in the campy way, but in the way that friends who know each other can convey in codes and gestures without a lot of extra narration. This film is chock full of HONEST dialogue. I know some will compare this to an R-rated type of Will & Grace, but the big difference here is the characters in All Over The Guy are very real and have much more dimension than the sitcom offers. It doesn't dwell on stereotypes for laughs, and even in a speach by Richard Ruccolo about the film In & Out was one the TRUEST things I've ever heard about Hollywood and how mainstream "gay" films are so horrible. His character Tom is actually a bit rough around the edges and is refreshing because he's not portrayed as a youth obsessed club type. Dan Bucatinsky's character of Eli may be well groomed, but he isn't snapping his fingers and saying "girlfriend" ...these guys are just regular men, and it is comforting to know that someone out there knows the truth that many gay men are just as average as most people. Besides, Eli loved Planet Of The Apes memorabilia and that's a nice change from the usual cliched obsessions . I have always thought Adam Goldberg was a cool actor, and his involvement as Jackie's love interest was wonderful, as was Sasha Alexander as Jackie -- I sure wish I had her as a friend! Good moments from Christina Ricci, and Doris Roberts was perfect (wow, can she cuss too!). I just wish Lisa Kudrow was given a little more to do! Joana Kerns was a nice surprise and as always, I WORSHIP the ground Andrea Martin walks on, she's one of the funniest women around.

It's one of the only films I've seen that touches on issues that I've been trying to get so many people to understand: how so many assume gay men are only looking for quick sex and that when you get two guys together, it is assumed that one certain type of sexual act will occur. All Over The Guy discusses definitions of sex and the importance of intimacy and it's refreshing to see it handled in a manner that doesn't come across as preaching.

For me, I was extremely impressed by the choice of music. Instead of diva tunes from Cher and others like that (gawd, we don't all listen to Streisand or the latest flavor of the month "Destiny's Child" type group), there are very good rock songs by David Gray, The Jayhawks, Matthew Sweet and others that help keep the story grounded in reality. Even the club-type "Future Love" tune during one scene was more akin to a B-52's song than the fluff that saturates Queer As Folk's soundtrack.

It gives me great hope when I see a breakthrough film like All Over The Guy. It's for everyone, as this is not exclusively a "gay" film. I just hope that other film makers will see this one and learn that you don't have to make a flamboyant dragfest or youth worship type of film in order to involve a gay element. This is impressive filmmaking and funny, funny stuff!

And don't forget about Joan Van Ark in "Not Without My Nosejob" (wink wink)!

Acting, production values and script are all good enough, but the storyline is quite unbelievable. We are supposed to believe that when two people meet on a blind date, and clash from the beginning, that they are going to end up as mates regardless. Chances of this happening are zilch to none. Won't even be a second date, much less a relationship. But not only do these two gay fellows go on a second outing and start clashing yet again, but they end up in bed. Movie is based on this false premise that immediate impressions don't matter in the end. Other than that, the leads are attractive enough to hold the eye and they know how to act.

I don't think I have ever seen a lovelier film than this. It is a complex and wonderful story of 4 friends, and it includes a seldom-seen-in-films friendship between a straight man and a gay man which was very real and very wonderful to see.

The romance between the straight characters is less interesting than that of the two gay men, however, because the two gay men come from such different worlds: one is an alcoholic WASP with alcoholic parents and the other is the son of hyper-analytical Jewish psychiatrists. The road to romance for the men is more difficult, but ultimately more rewarding and beautiful to see.

All of the characters are likeable and interesting people. It is a great date movie... a terrific feel-good movie. Everyone leaves the theatre feeling good at the end of this one. My thanks to all involved in making this lovely film. We need more like it.

This is a fairly pleasant film. It's not shockingly bad, but it's not fantastic either - it's middle of the road. There are some funny one-liners, but overall the film is instantly forgettable. Some of the characters are not overly convincing, and some of the cameos (esp Lisa Kudrow) seem to be a bit forced & unnecessary. Watch it only if you have nothing else to do - but, remember that this is not one of the best films of it's kind - it's just really average.

I thought this was a truly awful film--I found myself actually yelling at my tv a couple times. One or both of the gay male leads was miscast; there was absolutely no chemistry between them and Richard Ruccolo looked like he'd rather be kissing a dog. The movie covers their long and tortured courtship, highlighting each break-up and make-up, but not developing the reasons in-between in any detail. These reasons would make for some interesting characters, not the fight or the make-up scene in bed (lame even if you liked the movie).

Andrea Martin and Adam Goldberg shine as their characters, but it doesn't make the film worth renting. Save your money.

I saw this film last evening at its premier in Boston at our Museum of Fine Arts. It is a well told story, set in a gay context. It is entertaining and has guts to it. It is a good addition to a growing genre of films, which deal with human issues about relationships in a gay/lesbian/bisexual context. The film's writer/leading actor, Dan Bucatinsky, was at the screening. He explained that the film is actually a screenplay version of his own play, which was produced in Los Angeles. The original play was not written in a gay context. The translation works and, as Bucatinsky shared at the screening, it actually expands his work in ways that he found quite fulfilling as a writer/actor. The film's pallet is much lighter than the recent "Urbania", but its themes are just as powerfully portrayed. It is not as goofy as "The Opposite of Sex" (written by this film's Executive Producer, Don Roos), but it has a lot of great laughs. The acting is evenly engaging, with cameo appearances by well known actors. I have intentionally omitted a plot summary. This is a project of love on a small budget. I think anyone who reads this comment can be guaranteed a good film and should go an see it to experience its warmth, humor and intelligence about people in love.

All Over the Guy is a better movie for what it isn't than for what it is. What it is is a fairly standard romantic comedy. The dialogue is sometimes brilliant, but the plot lacks structure. There are at least three pointless montages backed with music far more poignant and less cliched than the actual images, and one can't help but conclude that they were concocted to fill out the script.

On the other hand, the handling of the central gay relationship in the movie is refreshingly free of gay stereotypes. Oh, there are plenty of romantic comedy stereotypes, but I can hardly overemphasize how important this was to me as a gay man in viewing the film. Finally, a movie about a gay relationship that doesn't include any disco music, not a single gay bar scene, no quirky nelly "girlfriend," and where blatant emotional disregard for one's sexual partners is actually seen as a problem rather than an ambivalently accepted community standard. Of course, the cynic in me says that it's just because the gay relationship was adapted from a straight relationship in the play, but at the risk of horrifying my peers, I'd say maybe more screenwriters should use that technique when writing gay relationships. All's I know is that the result was that the romance felt closer to my own experience, and consequently more sympathetic and more true than 99% of the tarted up, histrionically dramatic gay relationships in popular media.

Are you kidding me? I've read the external reviews as well as the user comments and I'm truly shocked. Seeing words like "brilliant", "breakthrough", and "intelligent" used to describe this movie is as discouraging as realizing that Pauline Kael is no longer around to provide us with a delicious rant against trash like this. Now I like my trash as much as the next guy, but trash that takes itself seriously is insulting and deserving of criticism. For the record, I whooped when some poor soul actually wrote that this film "breaks barriers". Now, this movie isn't offensive,low class trash like One Night at McCool's but it comes close in it's own way. After a string of neutered, mall-friendly, mainstream coddling movies like this, Broken Hearts Club, Kiss Me Guido, Billy's Hollywood Screen Kiss, etc.(Note: I did not mention In&Out but more on that later) I ask how much more are we supposed to take? Accepting that these films are (God help us) positive, politically correct representations lowers the bar and makes one no better than those who made Jackass number one at the box office and keep the Star Wars series alive and thriving. The plot and characters have been discussed at length in other reviews and there's nothing new I could add. Except this: Adam Goldberg was not the most annoying thing about it. His mumbling, neurotic mannerisms are always his own and never his characters and I would like to add that Woody Allen has been doing this act for over 40 years but Mr. Goldberg was not the worst thing. I'm not sure what was really. The montages in which the filmmaker's attempted to capture the characters melancolia while elevator music played was a hoot. By the time the infamous Fuzzy Wuzzy argument hit the screen, I wanted to as well. Come to think of it, there's nothing in this movie that hasn't been said a million times before, only with more intelligence and wit. Which brings me to the In&Out slam. Paul Rudnick is a gifted, funny writer, a sort of David Sedaris without the bitter edge and even though his Jeffrey is dated and In&Out is innocuous (like Romy & Michelle, Trick, or 9 to 5) his style, humor, and intelligence far surpass Dan Bucatinsky's sitcom observations and setups. If this is based on his life, good for him. He turned his pain into a movie and got it made. Cheers! However, it's a bad movie. Bland characters, jaw droppingly bad dialogue, pointless cameos, actors who chose the wrong profession, it's all here and waiting to be rented. One reviewer commented on the music saying it was refreshing not to hear Cher or music like "those mainstream gay movies". I would like to point out that while it's true the musical selection doesn't necessarily play that game, it does something worse. It caters to mainstream America not just it's gay culture. These songs try to give off a universal feeling and all that crap. Oh how I long for the good 'ol days when we were portrayed as serial killers and flamboyant queens.

If it's wit you're looking for then read Oscar Wilde or The Rise and Fall of Gay Culture. If you want to rent something, check out Tales from the City, Parting Glances, or Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf? and pretend all four leads are men. If you want to see what true love really is then get a copy of The Brink of Summer's End-if no one knows about Paul Monette, you should. If the thought of leaving your house is inconceivable, get cable and start watching Six Feet Under. A Reminder: this was just my opinion. Have a Happy Thanksgiving.

Well, I wonder: if it had been about two male/female couples (as the play it was based on was), would "All Over the Guy" have gotten such a critical reception? More likely it would've been seen as an honorable, at times sparkling, addition to the screen tradition of romantic comedies -- which is what I think it is. Sure, the characters are wildly neurotic and frequently annoying; so are people in real life, especially when they're in love. Is it distracting that Richard Ruccolo (who does indeed give an exquisitely tuned performance) is so good-looking? Actually, I thought it was necessary; Tom is so screwed up that we need the physical beauty to help relate to him. Do the women steal the movie? Well, with the likes of Andrea Martin, Lisa Kudrow, Christina Ricci and Doris Roberts in support, what do you think -- and how can you lose, especially since Dan Bucatinsky's script is so frequently sharp?

Forget the nay-sayers and see this one. It's a very good romantic comedy, at times maybe even a great one.

The characters are so full of life that in the end of the movie we have that urge to know what happened in the day after. That's how embracing this movie is. People will always be people when the subject is relationship. No matter each ones' preferences are. This movie definitely should become a sitcom. A good one, by the way. The dialogs and scenes edition are so full of rhythm that we barely blink an eye. Chemistry is the best word to define the exuberance of acting that the actors and actresses provided to us. A fun movie. Total entertainment with no aggression to the intelligence of people with good sense. Can a movie be more like LIFE itself than this one? Still waiting.

I was moved to comment on this unusually poignant story. The main characters are so well and naturally drawn and so well played, I felt as if I knew them personally by the end of the movie. From the very beginning, the dialogue is clever, but there is more than cleverness - there is real talent in the writing and an authenticity I found haunting. There was also real plausibility within the comedy's plot; even the more unlikely twists and turns are believable. It's the writing of Dan Bucantinsky (not just his on-screen character) that made me want to see more of his work. This is a really good, heart-warming effort, with wonderful acting from each of the four main characters.

There should be a law passed that says the United States can't make gay films. Leave that task to Great Britain and the rest of Europe. While this film wasn't the worst film ever made-I didn't turn it off-it's really lackluster. I'm surprised at the number of glowing reviews here but it seems like most of reviewers liked it for political reasons, like they appreciate this kind of film was made and support that idea. The central problem for me was i didn't believe for a second the 2 gay leads would be together, specifically that Ruccolo would give Bucatinski the time of day. The only realistic scene in the film is the disastrous 1st date between the 2. The rest of the film where they fight, reconcile, argue, make up, fight and fall in love, only made sense when I discovered that Bucatinski wrote it. He would have you believe Ruccolo's choices were limited strictly to abusive losers or himself. I just didn't care.

Richard Ruccolo is remarkable- hot and engaging and intelligent and brittle attractive and unlikable and totally human and recognizable in this film. And that pretty much describes the film as well. It takes something special to get me to watch any movie more than once. I've watched this one, in parts or in total, a half dozen times. I start because I really like watching Ruccolo and then stay because the supporting cast is as good as you'll find in any major studio "romantic comedy" (including a hoot-out-loud cameo by Lisa Kudrow) and the script is much, much smarter than most. Actually, I'm watching the movie as I write this and I have to stop and pay more attention because it's better than I remembered.

If I had written a review for this when I first saw it 23 years ago, this review would have been a little more enthusiastic. Nevertheless, this is still a fun lightweight comedy about the potential love affairs between two couples, one of both sexes and the other both male. The straight couple fixes up the gay couple & silly romantic problems ensue. The principle problem with this is not huge, but Dan Bucatinsky who plays half the gay male interest, and also wrote this, has made the secondary characters, the straight couple, a lot more fun than his primary focus, the gay one. Bucatinsky gives a good enough performance in the film's most annoying role, but his "other half", so to speak, is played not very convincingly by Richard Ruccolo who seems to no longer be in the business of acting. It's not that he's really bad, but he seems inauthentic as a gay man. Geez, they have an affair, they're seen in bed, but it is not until the end of this that we actually see them unconvincingly lip lock. The straight half of this is played by Adam Goldberg and Sasha Alexander and they are both delightful. It's bit dated, but it's still pretty enjoyable.

Very disappointing movie. Character development is almost non-existent, making it difficult for a viewer to care about any of them. In addition, the characters don't evolve, making their random behavior changes quite baffling: the two gay characters meet and dislike each other. Then, they like each other. Later, they hate each other. Later still, they really like each other again. Sure, lots of relationships go through those phases, but, in order to make it interesting, the characters have to evolve in at least some way to justify such radical changes in their feelings. In this movie, sadly, they do not. On top of this, most of the acting is quite stilted and the screenplay is full of unrealistic lines and dialogues, some of which make it seem more like a theatrical play captured (poorly) on film.

How did this movie get maid and released? It has character

development, no car crashes, dinosaurs or Aliens to bring in the

big bucks. Wonderful movie about normal people who, straight and gay, their

friendships, relationships and their lives. This has been a really bad Summer for movies and the good

movies worth watching are far and few between. I liked the characters, I liked the witty dialoge and the Actors were

very enjoyable. Lisa Kudrow shows up in a bit part, Doris Roberts

and Andrea Martin (one of my favorites) and Christina Ricci. They

are all supporting to the main characters.

Check this one out. A good movie to help wash out the taste of all

those empty Blockbusters of the Summer.

While I'm not saying this movie is realistic (I don't think most movies are) I will say I found it emotionally honest. This movie is rare in another sense. It involves people who know how to use wit. Very few movies show people who are consciously funny and even fewer pull it off. ALL OVER THE GUY surprised me. I was expecting a feel-good film with some slapstick, but what I got was a comedy with some thought. It is closer to a feel-good film than high drama, but it's not a lie, which most feel-good films are. The acting would lift any script, but the script is really good anyway. The DVD I saw had a commentary track with the director, the writer/star and the editor and, as with the movie itself, the commentary track gave me a chance to listen to people who know how to make a point.

Easily the worst gay movie ever - totally off putting characters that you don't want to spend ten minutes with let alone two hours. Zero chemistry & lots of really bad dialogue. Human beings do not talk about Fuzzy Wuzzy and grown people do not spend their time looking for dolls to play with. Well OK they do but then they are not really grown up - are they?