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Foreword
By Slade Shaw

Dear Reader,
This mini-ebook has been written by my good friend Paul Rush. I dont necessarily
agree 100% with everything he has to say, but I do agree with a lot of it, and when it
comes to dating and women, its important for you to learn from as many men who
are experts with women as you can.
Paul is not just a theoretical expert. Ive seen him in action and hes utterly amazing
at attracting and seducing women. I hope you listen to what he has to say and
enjoy!
Your Friend,

Slade Shaw
MeetYourSweet.com

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Tactical Teasing
How to Thrill Women into Chasing You!
Im going to start off this whole Making Women Want You deal by making an
assumption: that you could do with a few more dates.
Or maybe youre getting plenty of dates, but somewhere in between the entree and
the dessert they just seem to ...fizzle.
But whatever. I dont care about the finer details at this point; theyre not whats
important here. My take on you and your situation at the moment is that, on your
quest to becoming a fully-fledged, qualified and card-carrying Lothario, you could
maybe do with a little help along the way.
Excellent!
Now that weve got your aim in seeking advice (and my aim, in telling you about it)
sorted out and above ground, we can cut the crap and get down to the real meat.
Im going to tell you how to do two things just two, but will they ever shake up
your world (and social life and sex life!)
In this mini-ebook on Tactical Teasing How to Thrill Women into Chasing You, Im
going to divulge to you some of my favorite and most closely-guarded secrets on the
topic of women, which Ive spent a lot of effort and a lot of time in acquiring with a
little help from my friends, of course (weve got over sixty years of combined dating
experience between the five of us. Thats gotta count for something.)
I didnt used to be successful with women. I never had too much of a problem
getting dates, but I was never the man that all the women wanted I always had to
do all the work, and it always felt like an uphill battle. Things rarely just clicked, or
fell into place for me.
It took me (and my friends) a good few years to figure out what the deal was.
The thing was, we genuinely felt like we were doing everything right: we were
chivalrous, we didnt stand women up, we tried not to play games, we complimented
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the women we were with, we paid for dinners, we didnt interrupt them, we didnt
tell them when we thought they were in the wrong, we actively pursued them and
tried to ignore their bitchy little girl-games (too tired tonight, changed my mind, can
you do this for me, dont feel like it any more) etc etc etc.
We all put in a lot of effort, for what felt like very little reward (and no, not just
sexual reward - jeez!)
The thing is here (and this is something that, before I figured out what the hell was
going on, used to really get my goat) is that men always seem to do all the work.
When it comes to women, most men automatically assume the mantle of the White
Knight: that is, they do all the work for her.
Heres the usual recipe: find a hot woman. Initiate eye contact. Get up the nerve
to walk over there. Think of something to say on the way over. Start a conversation.
Avoid the minefield of the first conversation (I mean, come on. When youre talking
to an attractive woman, it IS a minefield - the really hot ones get approached all the
time.)
Theyre used to all sorts of fumbling approaches from random men, and a lot of
them get their ego-jollies from shooting us down in amusing, giggle-inducing ways.
Usually with their friends looking on.) ... we compliment them, make them feel
beautiful, maybe buy them a drink or two. Ask for their phone number, call them
up, arrange for a date, pay for the date, pay for the taxi, even move in for the first
kiss .... its always up to US!
Pursue, pursue, pursue.
Thats what men feel compelled to do (well, most of us anyway), and its what women
certainly expect.
Now, theres always an exception to the rule, a minority to the majority: some men
just have to snap their fingers and hordes of hot women seem to come crawling out
of the woodwork.
In the same vein, some super-liberated women make no bones out of regularly
asking men out on dates.
But Im talking about majorities here, and the truth of the matter is that, conventionally
speaking, men generally tend to be the pursuer/initiator when it comes to women.
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Now, this would all be well and good wonderful, in fact! - if this was a recipe that
actually worked. I dont know of any guy that would complain about ponying up for
drinks, flowers, or movie tickets if they were guaranteed a mutually satisfying date
(or relationship) out of it.
Heres the catch: putting in all the effort doesnt guarantee ANYTHING. Not a thing!
The cold, hard, ugly truth is that women are programmed to expect these things, but
that they dont necessarily think any better of you for doing them.
In fact, a lot of the time, theyll think worse of you. When you think about it, its not
a great way to earn respect, is it? Its like saying, Look! This is how much I like you!
Im willing to do all this stuff for you, pay for all these things, put all this effort in,
just to make sure you like me!
A little pathetic, on second thought, isnt it?
And Im not just talking about buying stuff. Im talking about all the things that
men do to make women like them which subtly alters the balance of power in the
womans favor (for your reference, this is all the stuff that I talked about just before striking up a conversation, making all the phone calls, asking for dates, etc.)
Handing over that kind of power to somebody right from the get-go is a bad idea.
All this may sound pretty subtle; you may be rolling your eyes and thinking, The
guys reading waaaay too much into this.
But think about it! If some girl came up to you in a bar and started a conversation,
bought you a drink, maybe paid you a compliment or two, asked for your phone
number, called you up a couple days later and asked you out to dinner, arranged
the restaurant and table, paid for the meal, took you home in a taxi, paid for the taxi
youd probably think, Well, this girls gonna be good for sex, but you probably
wouldnt respect her that much would you?
And you probably wouldnt care that much about making an effort to see her again,
would you?
No! Shes already set the precedent. Shes already made it perfectly clear that shes
prepared to do all the work. Shes sent an unmistakable message that shes prepared
to make all the effort to keep things going between the two of you so why should
you bother?
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Im willing to bet that youd probably even think she was kind of desperate, and
wonder why she was making all this effort and sending all these loud-and-clear
signals to somebody shed only just met.
None of this is good news for that girl shes maybe got herself a one- or two-nightstand, but not much potential in terms of mutual respect and affection.
Well, newsflash! More and more women are starting to feel this exact same way
when men act to them like that hypothetical girl from my example acted to the
hypothetical you!
Of course, things frequently arent as clear-cut as they were in that example, either.
I was really laying it on before to make it crystal-clear just what my point was
but things are frequently much more subtle than that. A lot of the time, the people
involved dont realize how their opinions of the other person are being shaped but
that doesnt change the fact that, subconsciously or not, those opinions are being
formed regardless.
And dont even try to protest that my example doesnt work because men and women
see each other differently, therefore an example thats based on how you (a man)
feel about a woman in a certain situation isnt relevant to how women would feel
about you in that same situation, positions reversed.
That aint gonna work with me (and it aint gonna work in the real world, either).
If you dont feel comfortable with the prospect of not actively pursuing a woman,
think of it this way: we are all genetically pre-programmed to try our damndest to
not concede defeat to whatever it is thats pursuing us.
Yeah, I know this all originated in the physical world (if a saber-tooth tigers running
after you, try to get away from it ... etc etc) but its still just as true of our modern-day
psychological and emotional states. And it definitely applies to dating: if someones
chasing after you, it makes instinctive sense to make things difficult for them. Its fun,
interesting, prolongs the drama, and most importantly! - its a real power-trip.
Of course, some women will probably still fall for you if you do everything that Ive
just been trashing: put in all the effort, pay for everything, make your intentions
perfectly clear, etc etc.
But the ones worth pursuing the interesting, independent, super-smart, super-hot
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ones dont fall for any of that schmaltzy traditional man-pursues-women, genderinequality crap.
These days, women are way too liberated for all that.
If you doubt the truth of this, pick up a Cosmo or a Glamor magazine and flick
through it.
Youll be stunned stunned! - at whats inside: its all Do it for yourself! and Men
are fun. But we dont need them! and If you cant buy your own drinks, youre not
a Cosmo girl and 50 reasons why a vibrator is more rewarding than a boyfriend!
(no, Im not kidding about that last one).
And this is the stuff thats being marketed as mainstream - ie, to appeal to the
majority of women.
To put it another way: enough of the worlds women subscribe to this viewpoint to
make it worth the while of those magazine giants to actively, publicly support that
very same viewpoint which publicizes the viewpoint more, so more women know
about it, so it becomes more firmly entrenched ... and so the cycle goes.
Scary stuff.
So to sum it up for you: my point here is that the widespread opinion of most
women on themselves in relation to men is rapidly approaching what I call critical
independence levels.
Its pretty uncool these days to be seen by other women as the kind of girl who gets
off on traditional male attention that is, to spend a lot of time with the kind
of man wholl take you out to dinner, buy you a dozen red roses, and offer you
a diamond solitaire ring inside of six months (incidentally, there was an article in
Cosmo about women who buy their own engagement rings when theyre not even
engaged yet. If thats not a sign of a female society that doesnt need men for all the
things weve traditionally been needed for, I dont know what is!).
Women are now thinking of themselves, and expecting to be seen by as others,
as independent, savvy, agile-minded, street-smart chicks able to provide amply for
themselves.
This means that to be seen to be taken care of by a man (especially in the beginning
stages of any type of relationship) is damned uncool.
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Im not saying that women havent been trained, if you will, to expect a man to put
in all the effort - because most of them have. Theyll expect it of you. But when you
fulfill their expectations, theyre not pleased theyre contemptuous. And probably
a little disappointed: youve just proved that youre the same as everyone else. Just
another guy, straight out of the factory mold. Sighhhh. Onto the next one: maybe
hell be different.
Dating is a game. And in any good game, theres some give-and-take: both players
should be playing that game.
This is something that many men have forgotten. They just instantaneously hand
all the power over to the woman. And Im not talking about the keys to the car, the
signature on the mortgage document, or custody of the children Im talking about
the kind of basic emotional power that exists even at the very beginning of any
potential relationship.
Im talking about the power of letting someone know how much you like them
(especially when they havent let you know how they feel about you in return!)
This is something that a lot of men make the mistake of doing.
Its demeaning for the man, and no fun at all for the woman. Make no mistake,
youre not doing her any favors by laying your cards on the table straight away
what youre actually doing is taking all the fun out of things!
Ever heard of the phrase, the thrill of the chase? Well, women like the chase just
as much as you do. And it doesnt mean they like to be on the receiving end of it all
the time (although consciously, they may think that they do).
No, what they really want and what will allow their attraction to you to really
ripen - is to have the opportunity to wonder: how much does he like me? Is he going
to call me back? I hope I see him this weekend. I hope I didnt make an ass out
myself just then. Does he think Im pretty? Does he think Im funny?
All that kind of stuff is exactly what fans the embers of a budding romance, relationship,
purely sexual relationship or whatever it is youre after into a screaming bonfire:
because EVERYONE WANTS WHAT THEY CANT HAVE. Women included.
If a woman is seeing someone and she doesnt know quite how he feels about her,
thats adding a little stress, a little anxiety, to the situation and if shes a beautiful
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woman, this will be something shes not used to experiencing. Her natural reaction
is to wonder Is it me? and to start spending time trying to figure that guy out.
Im not trying to say that you cant be nice, or that you cant show a girl youre
interested in her you definitely can (and should!) and well get to the details on
how to do this without giving the game away pretty soon. But if you want a woman
to like you, respect you, and pursue you, then you CANNOT LET HER KNOW
WHAT YOU THINK OF HER WITH TOO MUCH CERTAINTY.
Think of it this way: if shes absolutely, 100% sure that you like her and will do
anything for her, that you want to see her again, that you think shes completely
gorgeous, etc etc, then she knows everything about you and your angle on whatever
sort of relationship it is youre having.
And to her thats just boring. Its much more fun, and a hell of a lot sexier, to leave
a little something to the imagination!
So: lets cut to the chase.
Im going to tell you how to save your social and sex life by learning to attract
gorgeous, smart, sexy women.
And how youre going to do this? Quite simple. By confusing the hell out of them,
and never giving them what they want.
Sounds like a recipe for disaster, doesnt it? Well, suspend your disbelief for now,
because I promise it makes sense.
As I think Ive already said, dating is a game. Your role, as someone whos active in
the dating scene, is to learn to enjoy that game and to really become a proficient,
adept game-player.
Tip: the emphasis here is on the phrase game-player: as a game-player, youre going
to start toying more with the people you want to date ... and theyre going to like
it.
Specifically, Im talking about teasing them.
The essence of being a good tease is forcing her to double-guess some of what you
do and say.

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Being unpredictable is HOT: its exciting and enjoyable, and it keeps her on her toes
(about as far away from contempt and complacency as she can be, which is exactly
where you want to keep her!).
The absolute basics of teasing: DONT LET HER SEE HOW INTERESTED YOU
ARE.
Now, obviously, you dont want to act too distant here, because otherwise shes
really not going to have a clue whats going on and will get frustrated.
What you want to do is hint at how interested you are: show her youre interested
at first, and then cool your jets. Keep her guessing. Call her up, arrange to see her,
be as affectionate as you want and then just when things are going really well and
shes starting to open up, change tactics. Dont call for a few days and when you
do call, keep the phone call short. Make sure youre the one who ends the call.
This is a great move, and one that can be employed in just about all sorts of
circumstances making sure that youre the one who ends a date or meeting is a
fantastic way to keep the other persons fire burning verrrrry brightly!
Its especially good to cut short a date just when things are really getting interesting.
Say youre on the couch and things are getting physical before it gets TOO heated,
pull away, smile at her, and say youve had a great time but you really have to be
somewhere else now.
Nothing is more frustrating in a good way, for you! - for a woman whos really
enjoying herself than to have it cut short by somebody else.
If shes any good at game-playing herself, shell be forced to go along with it without
showing too much reluctance (otherwise shed be handing the power over to you
.... ahhhh this is great stuff! Once you know the game, its so easy and so fun to
play!) which is even better for you: it creates internal conflict for her, which only
emphasizes in her own head and heart the fact that shes interested. So, dont be
surprised if she acts cool about it the first couple times it happens.
A tip: dont do this every time. You never want to overplay your hand; you never
want her to be able to predict what youre going to do next. If shes expecting you to
leave before things really come to a head, youve overdone it because shes got a
handle on how youre going to react or behave.
Another reason not to overdo this tactic: she might start to think youre not interested,
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or that youre a game player.

I love this phrase, because everyone in the dating game is a game player. We all know
it. There are definite (unspoken or not) rules to dating; people just like to pretend
that there arent, because it allows them to keep their self-respect and feel more
comfortable with their own behavior. Nobody likes to admit that they manipulate
other people in order to enhance their own chances of success.
But that is EXACTLY what happens ALL THE TIME!
Nonetheless, you dont want her to think of you as a game player, so make sure you
keep things believably varied.
Other techniques: keep your attitude itself variable. Sometimes be as affectionate
and sweet as she could ever want; other times (for no apparent reason) be distracted
and distant.
Sometimes offer to give her a foot or shoulder massage, and be physically very
touchy and huggy; other times stay at your own end of the couch/taxi seat/dining
table and make no effort to touch her at all.
When the two of you first meet up for a date is an excellent time to shake it up:
sometimes you should go in for a big hug, kiss her on the cheek and tell her she
looks beautiful; other times give her a relaxed hello but make no attempt to get
close to her.
This will drive her crazy, which is exactly what you want. The more unpredictable
you are, the more intrigued shell be and the more time shell spend thinking about
you (Does he really like me? Should I initiate a kiss? Why hasnt he tried to hold
my hand or hug me yet? The other day he told me I was gorgeous but he hasnt
mentioned it again since then whats going on?) .. and the more shell convince
herself without you even having to do anything that she really, really wants
you.
Excellent!
Something else thats really important when it comes to women is humor. The ability
to make people laugh especially women! - isnt necessarily a God-given ability;
its simply seeing an opportunity to push the boundaries, and taking it.
Its kind of a confidence thing, and its impossible to overstate how important (and
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incredibly beneficial it is to your social and sex life!) being able to make women
laugh is.
If you can make a woman laugh, shes instantly attracted to you. Laughter is like a
drug (this is a real no-brainer.)
When you make someone laugh, youre essentially forcing them to have a good
time: if you can make a woman laugh, youre giving her no choice but to like you.
When women are polled about the qualities that theyre most attracted to in a man,
humor tops the list every single time.
Its humor that women find most attractive. Not a fat pocketbook; not a four-foot
shoulder span; not a flashy car or a great suit or a high-ranking position at work or
a full head of shiny hair or anything like that.
If you can make a woman laugh, youve just multiplied your chances of getting to
know her better by a factor of about ten thousand.
Example: my friend Ivan and I were out on the town once, trying to pick up some
women (yeah, I know I could have said having a couple of drinks or playing
pool or whatever, but the truth is that we were, in fact, out trying to find some
intelligent, hot female company otherwise known as picking up women).
Now, Ivan is Russian. He speaks perfect English, and hes a pretty OK looking guy,
but he does have more than a trace of a Russian accent. Hes perfectly intelligible
and all, but still: there it is. An accent. Hes always been a bit nervous about
conversation with new people because of it, I think.(Some men will really work the
whole European/foreign thing to the best possible advantage, but Ivans never really
been one to do that.)
Something else about Ivan: hes very chivalrous. I dont know if its the whole
European thing again, but hes always very polite to women, he never interrupts
them, he always tries to agree with them and support what theyre saying, hes just
a very .... nice guy.
Hes never had a lot of luck with the ladies.
Anyway, so there we were. There were a couple of beautiful women over the other
side of the room. They hadnt noticed us yet.

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Ivan turned to me and whispered conspiratorially over his beer, I think I need to
change my style a little bit when it comes to women. (This was directly after a series
of pretty disappointing knockbacks on the dating scene for Ivan.)
Unlike myself, who had no trouble actually picking women up my troubles at the
time stemmed from maintaining their interest in me Ivan found it hard to actually
initiate up a conversation with some unknown women; and the more beautiful they
were, the harder it was for him.
He was just too shy and too well, nice.
The thing about Ivan is that hes actually a very funny guy. Sarcastic as hell. But
around women, he was just too uptight. It was like he was on his best behavior
he came across like he was having afternoon tea at his grandparents house or
something.
So before we went over there, I advised him to first of all knock back a shot of the
strongest liquor he could handle (to loosen his tongue a little bit); and, in terms of
attitude, to act uninterested, to tease them, and to just be his normal sarcastic self.
So anyway. Ivan looked at me and quirked an eyebrow; then ordered a shot of
vodka, downed it, and over we went.
During the course of the ensuing conversation, I spent more time looking at Ivan
than I did at either of the women!
Hed obviously taken to heart what Id said he was making a pretty good effort, all in
all. He was leaned back casually against the wall (instead of leaning eagerly forwards
with elbows on the table), he was allowing the conversation to have breathing space
(instead of nervously filling the emptiness with whatever meaningless conversational
nugget came to mind), and most importantly! - he was actually making fun of the
women.
Not in a mean way, or anything like that but when one of them (with curly hair
which was, although very beautiful and shiny of course, obviously permed) ran a
hand through her hair and told us how lucky she was to have naturally curly hair,
Ivan busted her down straight away.
He said, Come on! What? Youre trying to tell me that thats not a pseudo-natural
curl -?!

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She just looked at him with her mouth a little bit open; and after a slight pause,
her friend roared laughter and told us that she (the other chick) was always telling
people she had naturally curly hair, when in fact she was a hairdresser and that
curling her own hair was how she liked to relax at the end of the day and after
a few seconds when the situation could have gone either way, we all busted out
laughing (including Miss Natural Curl).
Ivan ended up getting the phone number of that girl. A few days later, he called her
up and got a date hooked up. And I know it was because he loosened up enough to
be able to give those women some crap make fun of them, tease them a little, let
them know that we knew they were full of it.
And they liked it!
When Ivan gave it right back to them, it was a surprise and they found it attractive,
because he came across as confident and different.
Can you see what Im talking about now?
Its not the details of Ivans conversation that matters; Im trying to get across the idea
of taking a woman down a notch in a friendly, confident, and above all funny way
that lets her know that you arent going to let her walk all over you.
Being funny isnt that hard to do. You dont need to have a series of humorous
anecdotes memorized; you dont need to study textbooks on How to Be Funny; and
you DEFINITELY dont have to have funny pick-up lines memorized (take it from
me, even the funniest pick-up line is never actually funny. Stay away from canned
pick-up lines if you value the company of hot women!).
If you want a pick up line, as for a female opinion on a topic that will get a conversation
going (dont aim for a laugh, aim for a conversation starter). Such as Hey my friends
and I were just discussing something and want a female opinion, were organizing
a party and are considering making it a Mexican theme or a Hollywood celebrity
theme, what do you think is going to be more fun?
Anyway, getting back to humor Being funny in a way that will attract beautiful,
smart, sexy women is more about seizing the moment.
You dont need to have a huge vocabulary, and you dont need to be able to construct
elaborate wordplays or anything like that. You just need to be able to use mockery
and sarcasm - and everyone knows that theyre the two lowest forms of wit!
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But funnily enough, when it comes to women, they work. Its the combination of
confidence (youve got enough balls to make fun of a beautiful woman to her face),
slightly negative humor (youre gently but surely mocking something she said or
did), and spontaneity (when youre basing your humor on something that somebody
has just said or done, you look like youve got a brain that can move quicker than
most peoples).
Well, that about sums it up from me for now. I hope this has all been helpful.
A couple of things to remember before I go:
Beautiful women are used to having everyone fawning all over them. If you refrain
from doing so, youll make her sit up and take notice.
Dont make a lot of obvious effort. Act disinterested and laid-back when talking to a
hot woman. Keep your posture relaxed and a bit distant: shoulders back but down,
lean back against the wall or chair-back, dont seem too eager.
Keep her guessing! Tease her and keep things unpredictable. Shell spend time
trying to figure out what your deal is, and there you go! Youre already in her head.
If shes not quite sure of how you feel about her if she thinks you like her, but
cant quite be certain - she will be a lot more interested than if she knows without
a shred of uncertainty that youre head over heels, tongue-dragging-on-the-floor
crazy about her. Dont make it obvious how you feel.
When it comes to humor, be as confident as you can. Be friendly and be overfamiliar dont insult her or anything, but equally, dont be intimidated into being
nice by her beauty. Be sharp and dont let her get away with anything. Shell be
intrigued.
I hope that youve enjoyed what Ive had to say about Tactical Teasing and How to
Get Women to Chase YOU.
Thats it from me. Till next time, remember
Have fun, and keep those women guessing!

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