The Art Of Letting Go
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Rania Naim
“If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”
By Rania Naim
Updated 5 months ago, November 19, 2024
Letting go is really hard, especially when you have to let go of something you really want,
whether it’s a great opportunity, someone you really liked or loved or even any
expectations you had about something. I don’t think anyone knows how to completely let
go or not fall back from time to time if they do, but there are definitely ways to make it
easier for you to let go when you relentlessly don’t want to let go.
1.
“What is destined will reach you, even if it be underneath two mountains. What is not destined, will
not reach you, even if it be between your two lips”
—Proverb
Anything that feels forced or harder than it should be or causes you pain and distress is not meant
for you. Having this mentality or faith will help you overcome the reluctance that comes with
making a decision of whether or not you should let go. Things that are meant for you have a way of
flowing smoothly into your life. The more you fight for something that is not meant for you, the
more it will fight you. You may get what you want in the end, but it may not last and you may not feel
at ease with it. The beauty of things that are meant for you is that they just happen; against all odds.
We are just programmed to complicate life sometimes.
3.
“If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.”
—Paulo Coelho
This outlook really helps you move on and let go faster. Same notion that when one door closes
another opens. Life opens new doors for you all the time; imagine you are a key to multiple doors
and you just think you can only open one door. We have so much potential, so many talents, so
many kind things to give back to the world. We have so many keys to open so many doors. When
you leave one door behind and lock that door, you will be surprised by the number of doors that
were waiting to be opened by you and only you. Some endings are not bad; sometimes they are not
even endings — just bridges to new beginnings.
4.
“I think part of the reason we hold on to something so tight is because we fear something so great won’t
happen twice.”
—Anonymous
Here’s another reason why we hold on to things or people longer than we should. We convince ourselves
that good things won’t happen twice; we will not be able to find someone who is that great again or who
makes us feel this way again. Or we won’t be able to find a job like that again, or something we are that
passionate about again. The truth is, you will always find something or someone that makes you feel this
way again, new passions will emerge and good things will happen twice and as many times as they want,
and will probably be a better and more convenient fit for you. If you look back on your life, you will find
yourself laughing at certain situations when you thought you would never move on from someone, or
how you held on to something so tightly only to realize later that it was wrong for you. Great things
happen to us all the time in different shapes or forms; we just like to focus on the things that are not so
great. Holding on to something out of fear that it will never happen again, is the definition of fear. We
have to be fearless in letting go.
5.
“See it for what is, not what you want it to be.”
The truth is if you reach a point where letting go is the only option, it usually means that this thing
or someone already let you go. You are trying to stay in a place where you are not welcome
anymore. The mind has a funny of way of tricking us into believing certain things to make it less
painful for us, or put it in a way that doesn’t really hurt our pride or break our heart, but we have to
look at it the way it is, the way it is being portrayed to us, not the way we want to see it. This is not an
optical illusion, this is reality, and in reality what you see is what you get. If an opportunity passed
you by, it didn’t really want to stop at your station, if someone let you go, they didn’t really want to
stay, if someone else got what you were praying for, this blessing was not written for you to begin
with and you will be blessed in another way. As you keep learning the art of letting go, let go of your
fear, of your past, of your mistakes, of your insecurities, of your failures, of your self-doubt. Forgive
yourself enough to let go of the parts of you that dim your light.
Thank - You
