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The Anxious
Generation
How the Great Rewiring of Childhood Caused
an Epidemic of Mental Illness

by Jonathan Haidt 2024 385 pages

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Key Takeaways

1. The Great Rewiring: How

smartphones transformed childhood
 Gen Z became the first generation in history to go through
puberty with a portal in their pockets that called them away
from the people nearby and into an alternative universe that
was exciting, addictive, unstable, and—as I will show—
unsuitable for children and adolescents.

Unprecedented shift. Between 2010 and 2015, a radical transformation

occurred in how children and adolescents spent their time and attention.
This period, dubbed "The Great Rewiring," marked the transition from a
play-based childhood to a phone-based one. As smartphones became
ubiquitous, young people's social lives, entertainment, and even identity
formation moved increasingly online.

Global mental health crisis. This shift coincided with a sharp rise in anxiety,
depression, and other mental health issues among adolescents, particularly
girls, across many developed nations. The timing and widespread nature of
this crisis point to the adoption of smartphones and social media as a
primary cause, rather than local factors like politics or economics.

Sensitive period disrupted. The Great Rewiring occurred during a critical

developmental stage for many adolescents. This timing may have amplified
its negative effects, as the brain during puberty is especially plastic and
vulnerable to environmental influences.
2. Foundational harms: Social
deprivation, sleep loss, attention
fragmentation, and addiction

When we gave children and adolescents smartphones in the

early 2010s, we gave companies the ability to apply
variable-ratio reinforcement schedules all day long, training
them like rats during their most sensitive years of brain
rewiring.

Social deprivation. Despite being more "connected" than ever, young

people report feeling increasingly lonely and isolated. Face-to-face
interactions, crucial for developing social skills and emotional intelligence,
have significantly decreased.

Sleep disruption. The 24/7 accessibility of smartphones has led to:

Delayed bedtimes

Reduced sleep quality

Increased daytime fatigue

Negative impacts on mental health and academic performance

Attention fragmentation. Constant notifications and the allure of endless
content have trained young minds to expect and seek constant stimulation,
making sustained focus increasingly difficult.

Reduced ability to engage in deep work or reading

Increased anxiety and FOMO (fear of missing out)

Potential long-term impacts on cognitive development

Addiction by design. Many popular apps and platforms use psychological

techniques to maximize "engagement," often at the cost of users' wellbeing.
Features like infinite scroll, autoplay, and gamified social interactions exploit
vulnerabilities in human psychology, making it difficult for users, especially
young ones, to regulate their usage.

3. Girls' vulnerability: Visual

comparison and relational aggression
online

Instagram is particularly bad for girls: "Teens blame

Instagram for increases in the rate of anxiety and
depression. . . . This reaction was unprompted and
consistent across all groups." The researchers also noted that
"social comparison is worse" on Instagram than on rival
apps.
Amplified social comparison. Visual platforms like Instagram create an
environment of constant comparison, particularly harmful to developing
adolescents:

Unrealistic beauty standards through filters and editing

Pressure to present a perfect life

Quantified popularity through likes and follower counts

Relational aggression. Social media provides new avenues for bullying and
social exclusion, which tend to affect girls more severely:

Cyberbullying and public shaming

Exclusionary group chats or events

Pressure to maintain online presence and relationships

Emotional contagion. The hyperconnected nature of social media can

amplify negative emotions:

Rapid spread of anxiety and depressive content

Echo chambers reinforcing unhealthy thought patterns

Difficulty in escaping toxic social dynamics

4. Boys' disengagement: Retreat into

virtual worlds and pornography
 Boys have followed a different path through the Great
Rewiring from girls, on average. Girls have long had higher
rates of internalizing disorders than boys, and as I showed
in chapter 1, that gap increased when adolescent life moved
onto smartphones and social media.

Video game immersion. Many boys have found refuge in online gaming
worlds:

Provides sense of achievement and social connection

Can lead to problematic use or addiction in some cases

May interfere with real-world skill development and relationships

Pornography exposure. Easy access to online pornography is reshaping

boys' understanding of sexuality and relationships:

Unrealistic expectations about sex and bodies

Potential for addiction and desensitization

May interfere with motivation to pursue real romantic relationships

Declining real-world engagement. As boys invest more time in virtual

pursuits, many are showing decreased interest in:

Academic achievement

Career preparation
 Face-to-face social interactions

Physical activities and risk-taking

5. Overprotection in real life,

underprotection online: The parenting
paradox

We decided that the real world was so full of dangers that

children should not be allowed to explore it without adult
supervision, even though the risks to children from crime,
violence, drunk drivers, and most other sources have
dropped steeply since the 1990s.

Safetyism in real life. Since the 1980s, there's been a trend toward
increasing supervision and risk aversion in childrearing:

Reduced independent play and exploration

Fewer opportunities for children to develop resilience and problem-

solving skills

Potential contribution to increased anxiety in children

Digital wild west. In contrast to real-world overprotection, many parents
have been unprepared or unable to adequately supervise their children's
online activities:

Exposure to age-inappropriate content

Vulnerability to online predators and cyberbullying

Difficulty in monitoring rapidly changing digital landscapes

Misaligned protection. This paradox has created a situation where children

are sheltered from manageable real-world risks while being exposed to
potentially more serious online dangers.

6. Antifragility: Why children need risky

play for healthy development

Children express their desires to play, to attune with others,

and to learn socially in different ways throughout the long
cultural apprenticeship of their slow-growth childhood and
their fast-growth puberty. Healthy brain development
depends on getting the right experiences at the right age and
in the right order.
Concept of antifragility. Just as bones and muscles grow stronger through
stress, children's psychological resilience develops through facing and
overcoming challenges:

Minor setbacks and failures build problem-solving skills

Controlled risk-taking develops confidence and risk assessment

abilities

Social conflicts teach conflict resolution and empathy

Types of beneficial risky play:

Heights (climbing trees, playground structures)

Speed (running, biking, sledding)

Tools (using hammers, knives under supervision)

Elements (playing with fire, water)

Rough-and-tumble play (wrestling, play fighting)

"Getting lost" (exploring independently)

Consequences of play deprivation. The shift away from free, risky play
may contribute to:

Increased anxiety and fear of the world

Reduced ability to assess and manage risks

Decreased physical coordination and confidence

7. Spiritual degradation: How constant
connectivity erodes meaning and
community

A phone-based life generally pulls people downward. It

changes the way we think, feel, judge, and relate to others. It
is incompatible with many of the behaviors that religious
and spiritual communities practice, some of which have
been shown to improve happiness, well-being, trust, and
group cohesion.

Loss of sacred space and time. The always-on nature of digital life erodes
traditional boundaries:

Difficulty in creating uninterrupted time for reflection or connection

Blurring of work/life balance

Reduced engagement in communal rituals and practices

Fragmentation of attention and relationships. Constant connectivity can

lead to:

Shallow, transactional interactions replacing deep connections

Difficulty in being fully present in any moment or relationship

 Reduced capacity for empathy and deep listening

Erosion of meaning-making. The flood of information and opinions can

overwhelm personal reflection:

Challenge in developing coherent personal narratives or beliefs

Increased vulnerability to external validation and influence

Difficulty in finding stillness and engaging in contemplative practices

8. Four key reforms: Delaying

smartphones, social media, and
restoring independence

There are four main ways that governments and tech

companies could improve the virtual world for adolescents.

Delay smartphone adoption. Recommend waiting until high school (around

age 14) before giving children smartphones:

Reduces early exposure to addictive design and content

Allows more time for real-world social skill development

Preserves childhood independence and play

Postpone social media use. Set a minimum age of 16 for social media
accounts:

Protects younger teens during sensitive developmental periods

Allows for greater emotional maturity before navigating online social
dynamics

Reduces exposure to harmful comparison and validation-seeking

behaviors

Create phone-free schools. Implement policies to keep smartphones out of

classrooms and potentially school grounds:

Improves focus and academic performance

Encourages face-to-face social interaction

Reduces cyberbullying and social media drama during school hours

Increase real-world independence. Encourage parents and communities to

allow children more unsupervised time and autonomy:

Supports development of problem-solving skills and confidence

Provides opportunities for healthy risk-taking and play

Counteracts the trend of overprotection and safetyism

9. Collective action: How parents,

schools, and policymakers can create
change

If we can understand the nature of collective action

problems, we can push for legislation that is targeted at
breaking traps and changing incentives. If we act
collectively, we can roll back the phone-based childhood and
restore, to some degree, a healthier play-based childhood.

Parental coordination. Parents can work together to implement healthier

technology norms:

Form agreements with other families about phone and social media use

Create tech-free social opportunities for children

Share strategies for managing screen time and online safety

School policies. Educational institutions can take a leading role:

Implement phone-free policies during school hours

Increase opportunities for free play and physical activity

Educate students and parents about healthy technology use

Legislative action. Policymakers can create frameworks to protect children

online:
 Implement and enforce age verification for social media and other
platforms

Regulate addictive design practices in apps marketed to children

Update neglect laws to allow for more childhood independence

Cultural shift. Broader societal changes can support healthier childhood:

Normalize and celebrate offline activities and achievements

Create more opportunities for community engagement and

volunteerism

Foster intergenerational connections and mentorship

Last updated: February 4, 2025

FAQ

What's The Anxious Generation about?

Focus on Gen Z: The book examines the impact of transitioning from a

play-based to a phone-based childhood on Gen Z, those born after
1995.

Technological Influence: It highlights how smartphones and social

media contribute to anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues
 among adolescents.

Call to Action: Jonathan Haidt urges parents, schools, and tech

companies to take collective action to mitigate the negative effects of
this "Great Rewiring" of childhood.

Why should I read The Anxious

Generation?

Understanding Modern Childhood: The book provides insights into the

unique challenges faced by today's youth, crucial for parents,
educators, and policymakers.

Research-Based Evidence: Haidt supports his arguments with

extensive research, making it a credible source for those interested in
child development and psychology.

Practical Solutions: It offers actionable advice for creating healthier

environments for children and adolescents.

What are the key takeaways of The

Anxious Generation?

Impact of Technology: The rise of smartphones and social media has

led to increased rates of anxiety and depression among adolescents.
 Need for Free Play: Haidt emphasizes the importance of unsupervised,
risky play for developing social skills and resilience.

Collective Responsibility: The author calls for a collective effort to

address these issues, suggesting reforms to restore a healthier
childhood experience.

What is the "Great Rewiring" mentioned

in The Anxious Generation?

Concept of Great Rewiring: It refers to the significant changes in

childhood experiences due to the rise of smartphones and social media
between 2010 and 2015.

Impact on Development: This rewiring has altered how children

develop socially and emotionally, leading to increased anxiety and
depression.

Historical Context: The roots of this change trace back to the late
1980s and 1990s, with shifts in parenting styles towards
overprotection.

How does The Anxious Generation define

a "phone-based childhood"?
 Definition of Phone-Based Childhood: Children spend most of their
time engaged with internet-connected devices, leading to a decline in
physical play and real-world interactions.

Comparison to Play-Based Childhood: This contrasts with a play-

based childhood, which emphasizes outdoor play and social
interaction.

Consequences: The shift has profound implications for mental health,

as children miss out on critical developmental experiences.

What are the foundational harms

discussed in The Anxious Generation?

Social Deprivation: Less face-to-face interaction among peers, crucial

for social development, is a significant harm.

Sleep Deprivation: Smartphone use, especially at night, disrupts sleep

patterns, affecting mental health and cognitive function.

Attention Fragmentation: Constant notifications hinder adolescents'

ability to focus, impacting academic performance and emotional well-
being.

Addiction: Social media and gaming can create addictive behaviors,

drawing children away from real-life experiences.
How does The Anxious Generation
address the issue of overprotective
parenting?

Shift in Parenting Styles: Parenting became more fearful in the late

20th century, leading to a decline in children's autonomy and
opportunities for free play.

Consequences of Overprotection: Overprotective parenting deprives

children of experiences needed to develop resilience and social skills,
increasing anxiety.

Call for Balance: Haidt advocates for a balanced approach that allows
children to explore and take risks in safe environments.

What specific methods does The

Anxious Generation recommend for
parents?

Delay Smartphone Use: Parents should delay giving smartphones to

children until high school to reduce exposure to harmful online content.

Encourage Free Play: Facilitate more opportunities for children to play

freely and independently, essential for development.
 Implement Digital Sabbaths: Set aside specific times for families to
disconnect from screens, fostering deeper connections.

How does The Anxious Generation

suggest schools can improve student
well-being?

Implement Phone-Free Policies: Schools should ban phones during the

school day to reduce distractions and promote social interaction.

Increase Opportunities for Free Play: Longer recess periods and play
clubs can enhance social skills and emotional well-being.

Encourage Outdoor Activities: Incorporate more outdoor and nature-

based activities into curricula to improve mental health.

How does The Anxious Generation

explain the differences in social media's
impact on girls versus boys?

Greater Vulnerability for Girls: Girls are more affected by social media
due to higher engagement with visually oriented platforms like
Instagram.
 Different Usage Patterns: Boys gravitate towards gaming, while girls
experience more negative mental health outcomes from social media.

Cultural Pressures: Societal expectations around beauty and social

validation disproportionately impact girls, leading to higher anxiety and
depression.

What role do parents play in addressing

the issues raised in The Anxious
Generation?

Model Healthy Behavior: Parents should model healthy technology use

for their children, setting a positive example.

Create a Supportive Environment: Foster an environment that

prioritizes real-world interactions and play to build resilience and social
skills.

Engage in Open Conversations: Discuss the risks of social media and

technology with children to help them navigate the digital landscape
safely.

What are the best quotes from The

Anxious Generation and what do they
mean?
 "Let children grow up on Earth first, before sending them to Mars.":
Emphasizes the need for real-world experiences before digital
immersion.

"Children are antifragile.": Highlights that children grow stronger

through challenges, underscoring the need for risk-taking
opportunities.

"The Great Rewiring is not just about changes in technology.":

Underscores that societal changes, including parenting styles, have
significantly impacted childhood development.

Review Summary

4.39 out of 5
Average of 81k+ ratings from Goodreads and Amazon.

The Anxious Generation receives mostly positive reviews, with

readers praising its research on the impact of smartphones and
social media on youth mental health. Many find it eye-opening and
essential for parents and educators. Haidt's proposed solutions,
including delaying smartphone access and increasing free play,
resonate with readers. Some criticize the book's gendered approach
and potential oversimplification of complex issues. Despite these
concerns, most reviewers consider it an important contribution to
understanding modern childhood challenges.
About the Author

Jonathan Haidt is a social psychologist and professor at New York

University's Stern School of Business. He earned his PhD from the
University of Pennsylvania and previously taught at the University of
Virginia. Haidt's research focuses on moral and political psychology,
explored in his book "The Righteous Mind." His latest work, "The
Anxious Generation," builds on themes from "The Coddling of the
American Mind," co-authored with Greg Lukianoff. Haidt examines
the impact of technology and social media on youth mental health,
proposing solutions to address these challenges. He is known for his
interdisciplinary approach and ability to engage with complex social
issues through accessible writing and public discourse.