ANGER ISSUES
By
Oun Al Qatarneh
Introduction
■ Anger is a fundamental emotion that everyone experiences from
time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express anger
by copying the angry behavior they see modeled around them, and
by expressing angry behavior and seeing what they can get away
with. As many cultures have an uneasy relationship with anger
expression, many people are brought up to think that it is
inappropriate to express anger directly; that it must not be tolerated;
that it is always dangerous. Such people learn to distrust anger, to
bottle it up and ignore it, to express it only in indirect ways or to
use it as a weapon.
ANGER in general
■ Most often, anger thoughts
are the result of feeling like
you can't cope when you're
faced with what seems to be
an overwhelming life
situation. If you don't have
hope for the future, you may
mistakenly think anger is a
solution. You may experience
a sort of tunnel vision, where
in the middle of a crisis you
believe anger is the only way
out.
Children and teenagers
Anger in children and teenagers can follow stressful life events. What a young person sees as serious and
insurmountable may seem minor to an adult — such as problems in school or the loss of a friendship. In
some cases, a child or teen may feel anger due to certain life circumstances that he or she may not want to
talk about, such as:
■ Having a psychiatric disorder, including depression
■ Loss or conflict with close friends or family members
■ Problems with alcohol or drugs
■ Physical or medical issues, for example, becoming pregnant or having a sexually transmitted infection
■ Being the victim of bullying
■ Reading or hearing an account of suicide or knowing a peer who died by suicide
Prevention
To help keep yourself from feeling ANGRY:
■ Get the treatment you need. If you don't treat the
underlying cause, your anger thoughts are likely to return.
You may feel embarrassed to seek treatment for mental
health problems, but getting the right treatment for
depression, substance misuse or another underlying
problem will make you feel better about life — and help
keep you safe.
■ Establish your support network. It may be hard to talk
about anger feelings, and your friends and family may not
fully understand why you feel the way you do. Reach out
anyway, and make sure the people who care about you
know what's going on and are there when you need them.
You may also want to get help from your place of worship,
support groups or other community resources. Feeling
connected and supported can help reduce suicide risk.
Causes
The causes of anger are a lot including: ▪ for children, having disciplinary, social or school
■ family history of mental health issues problems
■ a family history of substance abuse ▪ having a problem with substance abuse
▪ having a psychiatric disorder or mental illness
■ a family history of violence
▪ having attempted suicide before
■ a family history of suicide ▪ being prone to reckless or impulsive behavior
■ a feeling of hopelessness ▪ possessing a gun
■ a feeling of seclusion or loneliness ▪ sleep deprivation
▪ knowing, identifying, or being associated with
■ being gay with no family or home support
someone who has committed suicide
■ being in trouble with the law
■ being under the influence of alcohol or drugs
Effects
■ Some of the common effects Anger survivors note include:
■ Anger.
■ Shock.
■ Grief.
■ Denial.
■ Helplessness.
■ Guilt.
■ Self-blame.
■ Feeling responsible for not preventing the suicide.
Citation
■ https://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control
■ https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/anger
■ https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434
■ https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/anger-management.htm
■ https://www.psychguides.com/anger-management/
■ https://www.skillsyouneed.com/ps/anger.html