Love
Yes, Taking a Break Can Make a Relationship Stronger—But Only Sometimes
Exploring what it's like to not be together (without fully splitting up) can have surprising benefits.
By Jenna Ryu
5 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Back With Your Ex
Let’s make sure your Relationship 2.0 is an upgrade, not a rerun.
By Jenna Ryu
50 Non-Awkward Questions for a First Date That’ll Actually Spark a Connection
So you can skip surface-level small talk about the weather or your job—and cut to the good stuff instead.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Sext With Confidence and Have a Hotter Relationship Because of It
Expert tips for coming up with ideas and keeping the convo rolling.
By Erica Sloan
How Much Should Politics Really Matter in Relationships?
Ben and Sara seem to be hitting it off on this season of ‘Love Is Blind’—that is, until one reveals they didn’t vote in the last election.
By Jenna Ryu
16 Sex Pillows to Help You Hit All the Right Angles
According to experts and very pleased shoppers.NaN slidesBy Jessica Kasparian and Gabrielle KasselWe Asked 10 Experts: Which Wand Vibrators Are Truly Worth the Hype?
Their answers may surprise you.By Gabrielle Kassel3 Sex Toys to Snag ASAP for a Spicy Valentine’s Day, According to Sex Therapists
Save the sweets and flowers for later.By Jessica KasparianVibrators 101: Everything You Need to Know (and the Expert-Approved Ones to Try)
We found beginner-friendly wands, bullets, and more.42 slidesBy Kate Sloan, Sara Coughlin, and Gabrielle KasselThe Best Rabbit Vibrator Is Actually a Snail
After weeks of testing, I can confirm: The hype is real.By Gabrielle KasselYou’re Gonna Want to Say Yes, Yes, YES to These Clitoral Vibrators
These suction, finger, and wand vibes are ready to show you a good time.27 slidesBy Malia Griggs and Kristin CanningHere’s How to Shop for the Right Strap-On
Sex therapists and other experts share their top picks for beginners and experienced users.16 slidesBy Malia Griggs, Sara Coughlin, and Gabrielle Kassel34 Expert-Approved Sex Toys for All Experience Levels
Including beginner-friendly rabbits, remote-controlled vibes, and more.By Malia Griggs, Sara Coughlin, and Gabrielle KasselThe Best Sex Furniture You Never Knew You Needed (Until Now)
We found 37 functional options to help you spice things up.By Sarah Madaus, Gabrielle Kassel, and Kristin CanningThese Are the 13 Anal Lubes Sex Experts Swear By
With options for beginners, sensitive skin, and more.16 slidesBy Sarah Madaus and Kristin Canning
4 Signs of Love Bombing in Friendships You Should Never Ignore
Moving too fast isn’t just a romantic red flag.
By Jenna Ryu
Age-Gap Relationships Get a Bad Rap—But These 5 Tricks Make Them Work
“Babygirl” and “The White Lotus” are flipping the script…and real-life couples are too.
By Jenna Ryu
Great Lubes for Menopause, From Someone Who’s Tried More Than 100
Because dryness can be a real pain.
By Gabrielle Kassel and Sarah Felbin
Can We Please Stop Giving Flirting Hacks Like ‘Sticky Eyes’ Too Much Credit?
There’s no magic formula to dating—no matter how many TikToks promise otherwise.
By Jenna Ryu
‘Love Is Blind’ Has Us Wondering, Is It Shallow to Care About Height in a Relationship?
We asked experts when a “preference” turns into a problem.
By Jenna Ryu
Why, After 6 Years of Celebrating, My Partner and I Are Boycotting Valentine’s Day
The most romantic way to celebrate? Doing absolutely nothing—let me convince you why.
By Jenna Ryu
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6 People Who Found Love Without Dating Apps Share How They Did It
A little inspiration for anyone who is so sick of swiping.
By Julia Ries
5 Signs You’ve Outgrown Your Therapist
Yep, it’s normal to graduate from your sessions together—here’s how to tell when you’re ready.
By Jenna Ryu
Sure, Opposites Attract. But Do They Actually Stay Together?
There’s a difference between what’s exciting in the moment…and what has potential to go the distance.
By Jenna Ryu
My Partner and I Never Fight. Is That a Red Flag?
Here’s how to know when your seemingly “peaceful” dynamic is more of a problem than a perk.
By Jenna Ryu
10 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Deciding to Stay Just Friends With Your Ex
It’s not easy to go from romantic to platonic—but these prompts can help you figure out if it’s even possible.
By Jenna Ryu
What Is ‘Retroactive Jealousy’—And How Do I Stop It From Ruining My Relationship?
It’s okay to be a little preoccupied with your partner’s ex. But how you manage those insecurities makes all the difference.
By Jenna Ryu
The Best Clitoral Vibrators, Whether You’re With a Partner or Flying Solo
The more, the merrier.
By Kristin Canning and Gabrielle Kassel
The Best Lubes for Smooth Sailing Alone or With a Partner
Loved by both experts and shoppers.
14 slides
By Sarah Felbin and Kristin Canning
5 Subtle Signs You Might Actually Be in a Codependent Relationship
And how to regain your independence without having to drift apart.
By Jenna Ryu
You Really Can’t ‘Fix’ Other People—Here’s How to Make Peace With That
Past trauma and hurt are valid, but those aren’t excuses for treating you like crap.
By Jenna Ryu
Is Giving a Marriage Ultimatum in a Relationship Ever a Good Idea?
We asked a couples counselor for their honest thoughts.
By Jenna Ryu
7 Communication Skills Every Couple Should Master, According to Therapists
These techniques can turn a potential blowup into a moment that brings you closer.
By Jenna Ryu
How to Use Temperature Play to Ignite Your Sex Life
Adding hot and cold sensations to the mix can go a long way.
By Erica Sloan