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The Imperfects

Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

  1. A little more...Ryan's Fear of an Average Life

    2 DAYS AGO · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    A little more...Ryan's Fear of an Average Life

    If you guys are seeing this episode, it’s an absolute miracle. And so, we ask you, how many people does it take to figure out which button is record? Producer Bridge is filling in for a sick Josh, and to get to know her a little better, we play a rapid fire (and grammatically incorrect) question game of ‘who am you?’ Then, we’re straight into an Ad for Jazz, before Ryan answers his journal question, and we delve into his fear of having an average life. Ciao, 🩷Other A Little More Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode - ALMI: Dr Emily! Inner Critic! Dr Emily! Happiness! - http://bit.ly/3L8tZ9q 📺Things to watch - The Lion King - http://bit.ly/4nrL3nX - Moana - http://bit.ly/4oHe9B5 - We Can Be Heroes - http://bit.ly/4oHa9Aw 🎟️Things to do - Buy The Imperfects: Together Again Live Show Tickets - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

    33 min
  2. Hugo Toovey - The Reality of Surviving Cancer. Twice.

    4 DAYS AGO

    Hugo Toovey - The Reality of Surviving Cancer. Twice.

    Hugo Toovey has beaten cancer, twice. But this is far from the whole story. 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep In this special bonus episode, Hugo joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk about health; how to know when to go to a doctor, how to wrangle with the emotions of being cancer free and how to be vulnerable with the people who love you most. Extraordinarily open in the hope that it will help someone else, Hugo discusses his fertility and decision to have kids, how being a parent has effected his outlook on life, and how exhausting it was acting like everything was okay. Hugo, you’re a lifesaver. If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/00RG9jPCGXs 🩺Things to do (for your health): Order a Bowel Cancer Screening Kit - http://bit.ly/47A6cYt Check out Hugo’s charity 25 Stay Alive - https://www.25stayalive.com 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 14m
  3. Melanie Bracewell - Untangling a Toxic Relationship

    19 OCT

    Melanie Bracewell - Untangling a Toxic Relationship

    Have you ever dated someone you knew, logically, was a bad idea? A puppeteer twenty years your senior, perhaps? 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep Melanie Bracewell has, and she joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question, ‘who do you go to advice for? Why?’ (spoiler: it’s not her puppeteer ex-boyfriend). Unpacking the disarming realisation that all of our parents were once our age, Mel talks to the guys about making useful mistakes in your twenties, finding a litmus for what loves looks and feels like, and how to make friends with people as an adult (who aren’t already on your netball team). Mel bonds with Hugh about the realities of an ADHD brain and the fallacy of thinking you are super organised for something, and most importantly, the burst of self-compassion that can come from a diagnosis. Mel, we’ll be your side-by-side friend. If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/NDKke1ATdLE 🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy - http://bit.ly/4q5LW8f Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken but Not Broken - http://bit.ly/4qcCHDy Campbell ‘Struthless’ Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing - http://bit.ly/4q8MHgO 📺Things to watch Cheap Seats - http://bit.ly/3KNoEnA Mel’s YouTube Special ‘Forget Me Not’ - http://bit.ly/4hbCQ63 💻Things to check out Meladoodle (Mel’s Tumblr blog) - http://bit.ly/4mXO1AF 🎟️Things to buy tickets for Mel’s Live Tour ‘A Little Treat’ - http://bit.ly/46ZoZuU 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 17m
  4. A little more...Dr Emily! Inner Critic! Dr Emily! Happiness!

    13 OCT · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    A little more...Dr Emily! Inner Critic! Dr Emily! Happiness!

    oh my god oh my god oh my god. it’s finally happening. our wildest dreams are coming true. Dr Emily has entered the *A Little More Imperfects* studio. We repeat, DR EMILY HAS ENTERED THE A LITTLE MORE IMPERFECTS STUDIO. If that doesn’t get you to listen, I don’t know what will. Oh, maybe this; Dr Em takes us through reflection activity AFTER reading out one of YOUR reflections from the reflection pond. Talk about reflection inception. Or maybe this; Josh gives us a juicy exclusive into what he’s been doing in therapy. what a time to be alive (and an ALMI subscriber). 🩷Other A Little More Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode - ALMI: Tiramisusan, or Tiramisu For Short - http://bit.ly/4pUUHCf - ALMI: The first ‘A Little More Imperfect’ where we peek inside Hugh’s imperfect brain - http://bit.ly/4pXum6n - ALMI: Hugh Pretty Much Definitely Has ADHD - http://bit.ly/3KyJNBT 🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode - Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? - http://bit.ly/4gT9OrE - James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks - http://bit.ly/4n9SEaZ - Hugh’s ADHD…brief - http://bit.ly/4hgkvVD - What’s Your ATAR? - http://bit.ly/46P0Rek 📺 Things to watch - Good Will Hunting - http://bit.ly/4nYFPkm - The Rehearsal - http://bit.ly/4mOjhle - Rick Hanson - Velcro for the Bad, Teflon for the Good - http://bit.ly/4mWgkiN 💻Things to do - Rick Hanson - Positive Neuroplasticity Training - http://bit.ly/4pWSbvc - Sign up to the *my imperfect email* newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

    56 min
  5. Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals

    12 OCT

    Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals

    Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you. 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour. In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing. Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action. AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds). Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w  🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Chrissie Swan - Honesty - http://bit.ly/3IQd6zq Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement - http://bit.ly/4h5RI5V Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life - http://bit.ly/3IZGQtE Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4mZwvvI Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You’re Lost - http://bit.ly/4q2UFIw Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - http://bit.ly/470shxZ Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted - http://bit.ly/4mRxLkt 📖 Things to read Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/4o8JFay Rick Hanson, The Inner Caring Committee - http://bit.ly/4h7USGq Katy Milkman, Fresh Start Effect - http://bit.ly/3J2sKrq 🎧Things to listen to River Deep Mountain High by Celine Dion - http://bit.ly/48Wuk8J 💻Things to do VIA Character Strength Ranker - http://bit.ly/4h2KYFJ 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 16m
  6. Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost

    5 OCT

    Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost

    If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using? 🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way). Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life. Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values. In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team. If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? - http://bit.ly/4nWgRCf Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent Parents - http://bit.ly/4gVbQYu Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology - http://bit.ly/4q3NLCW Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success - http://bit.ly/473cJuv 📖Things to read Grounded Success, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4mOWw0J Power, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nTsZnn The Gift of Asking, by Kemi Nekvapil - http://bit.ly/4nvKgU8 Dare to Lead, by Brene Brown - http://bit.ly/46GMMzC 💻Things to check out Kemi’s Website - https://www.keminekvapil.com 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    1h 16m
  7. A little more...and all that Jazz

    3 OCT · BONUS • SUBSCRIBERS ONLY

    A little more...and all that Jazz

    You like jazz? We didn’t plan to talk about it, but here with are, instructions and convenient costumes included. If we have time in and around the jazz talk, we’ll give an update on Hugh’s ghost journey. An exciting announcement, Ryan is dabbling in the visual arts and putting on his very own exhibition! If you’re in Melbourne, and feeling like being inundated with Ryan’s sense of humour in a physical space, go and check it out (and it’s free, unlike this episode). Ryan (gently) yanks a reflection out of the pond, Hugh ad-libs an interlude (get it, ad-libs), and we discuss whether ghosts come through portals or portholes. Thanks Hugh, Love you all 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode - Karissa Lewis - We’re Not Better Off Without You - http://bit.ly/4pOjo37 - Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift - http://bit.ly/3KpXTWe - Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - http://bit.ly/4n0B9d7 🎟️Fun activities to do - Visit Ryan’s Exhibition ‘All This Work, Just For This’ - http://bit.ly/487PDE1 💻Things to check out - Standby Support - [https://standbysupport.com.au](https://standbysupport.com.au/) 💌Things to subscribe to / buy - My Imperfect Email - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy - My Imperfect Life: A Novel Journal - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP 🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide, please call 000 in an emergency, or contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    37 min
  8. Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted

    2 OCT · BONUS

    Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted

    The mid-life update we've all been waiting for.  🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn.  Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life. Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset. Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK. If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ 🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout - http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid Life - https://bit.ly/4nNzmIP Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/3Kr9KTP Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4nHTc8s Dr Emily - Other People Matter - https://bit.ly/46SBaL0 Rick Davies - Living with OCD - https://bit.ly/4ndG2Ae 📖 Things to read Hitch-22, by Christopher Hitchens - https://bit.ly/4gC4yZk 📺 Things to watch Homer Simpson’s Spice Rack - https://bit.ly/46PCzlD 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz 💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy 🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5 The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

    23 min
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We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives.

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  • Creator
    Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Years Active
    2019 - 2025
  • Episodes
    275
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
  • Show Website
    The Imperfects
  • Provider
    The Imperfects Podcast Pty Ltd

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