What if the version of you that’s struggling right now, with perfectionism, exhaustion, or that endless loop of “I should be better,” isn’t broken, but wired for survival? In this week’s episode, I sit down with Dr. Ashleigh Moreland, neuroscientist and founder of the Re-Mind Institute, for a conversation that might just change how you see yourself, your mind, and even your parenting. Together, they explore what it truly means to unbecome who you had to be in order to survive, and why real healing often looks less like “self-improvement” and more like returning to who you were before you learned to hide your feelings. Dr. Moreland unpacks the difference between the brain and the mind, explaining why understanding this distinction changes how we experience emotion, addiction, burnout, and even our relationships. Through her work on neuroplasticity, she shows how every human being can rewire their nervous system, moving from a pattern of protection to one of connection. This episode will speak to anyone who’s ever felt “stuck” in old reactions: the parents who lose patience, the partners who feel disconnected, the perfectionists who can’t rest. It’s not about fixing yourself. It’s about finally feeling safe enough to stop performing. Today we explore: The difference between the brain and the mind — and why it matters. How your nervous system wiring affects your emotions, relationships, and sense of self. Why unbecoming (who your mask is) can be more powerful than becoming (your ideal self). How to create emotional safety in your family so your kids inherit healing, not trauma. Dr. Moreland and I bring warmth, humor, and clarity to the science of human transformation as a reminder that change is not about effort, but about safety. 🎧 Tune in to discover how understanding your wiring can help you stop fighting yourself and start leading with compassion. 👇 For 1 insight, 1 exclusive tool, & one 3-minute reset, Get on The Sunday Reconnect — ABOUT DR. MORELAND Dr Ashleigh Moreland is a neurophysiologist, therapist, and founder of Re-MIND Institute. She specialises in trauma-aware, nervous-system-informed approaches to parenting, relationships, and personal growth. Drawing on her expertise in neuroscience and human behaviour, Ash helps people break cycles of stress and disconnection to create safer, more connected relationships at home and beyond. See how you can get in touch and her work HERE. –- 🔔 Subscribe for more parenting insights 📩 Join my [FREE] newsletter for extra support 📢 Share this with a parent who needs to hear it! --- Full Transcript HERE. — Want to take our relationship to the next level? 👉Here are my top Resources 👉 Link to my Newsletter 👉 Join the Reconnect with Your Partner Challenge 📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: info@markellakaplani.com) 🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! --- Markella Kaplani, M.A. Clinical-Counseling Psychologist Parenthood & Relationship Coach www.markellakaplani.com