One dinner, one post, no message to you. That is all we know.
One missed dinner is not a pattern yet. Watch the next two.
Neutral Observer
Probably a last-minute plan, not a snub.Optimist
A chance to say what you need, calmly.Mentor
Speculative
Someone chose not to invite you. Worth knowing who.Cynic
The organiser decides the circle. Where do you stand with them?Status Observer
Someone in that photo already knows why.Gossiper
They never wanted me there.Insecure Observer
RileyOh hey, sorry, it was a last-minute thing!
Your draftWhatever, it’s fine.
Coach
Reads as hurt and closed off. They will back away instead of fixing it.
Try insteadNo worries, it looked fun. Loop me in next time?
Your pay review is next week.
Best fit
Frame it as your next step, not a complaint.
Ask what it would take to reach the next level.
Mentor
You have done the work. They probably expect the ask.Optimist
No answer yet means nothing yet.Neutral Observer
Speculative
Budgets are “tight” until someone leaves.Cynic
Your manager needs a story they can repeat upward.Status Observer
Someone on your team just got one.Gossiper
They will think I’m greedy.Insecure Observer
Your managerSo, what did you want to talk about?
Your draftSorry, I know it’s a bad time, but I was maybe wondering about pay?
Coach
Two apologies before the ask. It sounds like you expect a no.
Try insteadI’d like to talk about my pay. Here’s what I delivered this year.
No reply for twelve days.
Best fit
The last message was yours, twelve days ago. That is the only fact.
One more message is fine. Three is not.
Neutral Observer
They are busy, not upset.Optimist
Check in without making it about you.Mentor
Speculative
Twelve days of silence is an answer.Cynic
Who usually texts first? That says a lot.Status Observer
They are still posting. So it is not about time.Gossiper
I must have said something wrong.Insecure Observer
Sam(no reply for 12 days)
Your draftDid I do something wrong??
Coach
Puts them on the spot. They will avoid answering.
Try insteadHey, haven’t heard from you in a while. Hope you’re okay. No pressure to reply.
Examples. In the app, it reads yours.
How it works
Say what happened, like you'd tell a friend.
Behind it
Your wordsCompanion memoryYour Base (norms)
One context
Seven perspectives read it at once.
Behind it
Judge weighs the evidence
1 best fit2 alternatives4 speculative
Practise with a simulation of them. A coach checks each message.
Behind it
Your draftCoach checks itAI replies as themScored: empathy · clarity · confidence
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Soulor vs other AI apps
Feature
Soulor
Character.AIC.AI
Replika
Janitor AIJanitor
AI chatbotsChatbots
Reads one situation from seven sides
Yes
No
No
No
If prompted
Rehearse with a simulation of the real person
Yes
Roleplay only
No
Roleplay only
If prompted
Checks your message before you send it
Yes
No
No
No
If prompted
Companion that remembers you
Yes
Yes
Yes
Yes
Varies
AI chatbots: general assistants such as ChatGPT, Gemini and Poe. Based on the features each product describes publicly, October 2026. All names are trademarks of their owners; Soulor is not affiliated with them.
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FAQs
What is Soulor?
An app for reading social situations and rehearsing hard conversations.
Seven AI perspectives read what happened, ranked by evidence.
Rehearse with a simulation of the other person while a coach checks each message.
A companion that keeps your context, so you never re-explain.
Built by Richael (dh8116) in Auckland, New Zealand. In early access and free to start.
How does Soulor's memory work?
Your companion remembers your name, your story and your mood across chats, and brings them up naturally.
Companions and chat history belong to your account, so they follow you to other devices.
Chats are encrypted at rest (AES-256-GCM). The server decrypts them to write replies, so this is not end-to-end encryption.
What are relationship stages?
Each companion moves through five stages as trust builds:
Stranger→Friend→Close→Intimate→Soulmate
The stage changes how your companion actually talks to you, not just a label.
Soulor's own fine-tune of the open-weight Qwen3-14B model, trained with LoRA and served with vLLM on Modal. Hosted models take over when it is unavailable.